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Latest post on 09 November 2014 - 21:35
I would really object to a dog swimming in a pool. I would complain to whoever is in charge, and take it further if nothing was done about it.
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Latest post on 09 November 2014 - 21:01
I am reading this thread with great interest. Is it really possible to get a licence to practise therapy privately in Dubai?
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Latest post on 05 November 2014 - 16:47
I am feeling sad because you are scared, and most of us would feel scared as well. But please remember the power of your mind to help you to overcome problems in your physical body.Try to think about times in your life when you were a your happiest, and tell yourself that no matter what, you can work through it. Unfortunately my sister had bad news, but with everything that she went through she has now has a different approach to life and is actually happier as a person.
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Latest post on 04 November 2014 - 21:31
I am happy that you realised my response was meant in a kind way. I have spent time away from my husband, and people did warn me that sometimes, one can become used to doing so many things apart and in different ways without really needing/relying on each other, that it can be easy to drift apart. I wish you the best of luck with whatever you decide to do.
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Latest post on 04 November 2014 - 18:58
Not exactly answering your question, but unless you have big problems in your family life, I would not think that splitting your family up- even for a wonderful salary, is a good way forward.
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Latest post on 02 November 2014 - 21:46
Sadly I find that the larger blocks of C.D.M. fruit and nut (Carrefour M.O.E.) taste every bit as good as back home. No complaints. However I know that Cadburys is not up to everyones taste. I guess it depends what you were brought up on!
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Latest post on 21 October 2014 - 17:48
This feels like a real dilemma now, but I am afraid that this is only the beginning of difficult questions, demands and moral dilemmas for you. Having daughters is difficult no matter where you live when they reach this age .It is hard to make decisions aganst their wishes as you want to believe that they will always do the right thing', but you are constantly worrying for them because they are under so many pressures. My father was very strict and I really didn't understand why at the time. So I would say always explain why you are saying no. Some of your reasons will be things hat the young ones will not have even thought about themselves. My husband was very strict with our 2 daughters- stricter than I would have been actually, and my daughters were at times very miserable but I think he was a little bit older and wiser than me! And of course it is all forgotten now .Looking back, they have not had to suffer the heartbreaks that some of their friends went through.
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Latest post on 20 October 2014 - 19:07
I agree so much about the challenge we face to walk around MOE unobstructed! Every time I go, I think to myself 'am not going to move for them, let them move for me'. But they don't move, and if I didn't, then we would surely crash. I think it is partly because people get used to looking down at their mobiles rather than up at people around them. They seem oblivious, and of course it entirely matches how people drive here: If I am here, then it is my right of way!!
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Latest post on 16 October 2014 - 20:47
That's tomorrow, I can hear him practising now!
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Latest post on 15 October 2014 - 20:33
How long do the meetings go on for?
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Latest post on 15 October 2014 - 20:31
I think Marroush makes a very thoughtful statement when she says that in her opinion people should state their wishes up front (i.e. before getting married), but of course peoples wishes, beliefs and sometimes religion can change with circumstances and age. This is life!
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Latest post on 15 October 2014 - 20:02
Greater Manchester, on the south side, close to the motorway links. Easy access to all parts of the U.K. via motorways and regular trains. Good for shopping, close to the beautiful Peak District.
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Latest post on 15 October 2014 - 19:51
Thanks Marroush for this straight forward answer. I had never realised that Muslims are in fact unable to join in with celebrations of any other religious faith. This certainly makes mixed marriages very difficult, when a wife has not converted to Islam.
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Latest post on 15 October 2014 - 19:22
I have 2 serious questions for Marroush: Why is it 'not allowed' for a Muslim to celebrate Christmas? Why is it okay for a Non-Muslim to celebrate Eid?
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Latest post on 25 September 2014 - 19:12
How long do schools get off for Eid?
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Latest post on 06 September 2014 - 19:05
Is this going to be a regular event or just a one-off?
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Latest post on 31 May 2014 - 22:30
I was engaged after 18 months of knowing someone, and married six months later. I honestly think that marriage is like a lucky dip! Ideally of course people marry for love, because they are in love with each other. Love can grow, even from nothing, as all love grew from nothing. However, love changes, as does patience with each other, compatibility, opinions, level of activity, ideas, views, etc. Staying married often depends on personalities, tolerance, ambitions, and effort. Sometimes, love, similar views, same background, same culture or similar ideals is still not enough to sustain a marriage happily.
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Latest post on 31 May 2014 - 22:11
My weakness at the moment is clothes. I don't go out enough to justify the amount of clothes that I buy, but for some reason, I find it difficult not to buy. Before I go shopping I tell myself that I don't need any more, but when I see the lovely fabrics it is hard not to buy.
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Latest post on 31 May 2014 - 21:13
I just spent 85 dirhams today on a horribly cheap white T-shirt with the Frozen movie picture on it. I balked at the price but I bought it anyway because I knew that it would make my daughter happy. Is that an essential purchase? Yes, I always find it easier to justify if its money spent on someone else. However my husband often says " you don't need to buy that / they might not like it / they don't need it ", which completely takes the pleasure out of it.
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Latest post on 21 May 2014 - 16:10
I have made an appointment for my first ever Dubai haircut. However, I would like to ask people's opinions on tipping. Are you meant to do this here or do you just pay and go as in the UK? I don't want to make a faux pas here! Hairdressers in U.K. usually expect a tip! I am more inclined to tip the hair washer, as I presume they will be working for peanuts.
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Latest post on 19 May 2014 - 19:47
I reckon its a sign of education and/or class. The only people I know who still hit their kids ... No I dis agree entirely. Class has nothing to do with a measured approach to discipline. Education has nothing to do with what we are discussing here either. Maybe you could say culture and background, I would agree with this <em>edited by Pink Lily on 19/05/2014</em>
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Latest post on 19 May 2014 - 19:03
I would not have accepted anyone else to smack my children when they were growing up, but I did smack them a little myself.
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Latest post on 19 May 2014 - 19:03
I would not have accepted anyone else to smack my children when they were growing up, but I did smack them a little myself.
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Latest post on 19 May 2014 - 19:03
I would not have accepted anyone else to smack my children when they were growing up, but I did smack them a little myself.
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Latest post on 18 May 2014 - 15:42
Well I think that it really depends on whether you really feel that you could do the job alone this weekend. After all, when a man wants to do something but he is prevented from doing so, he usually turns very sulky and unhelpful. If it is physically doable, then let him go. But before he goes, make him do food shopping etc. to stock up on things that you will need. If it is not doable, then tell him so, and explain why- make him feel needed but not burdened. Whereabouts do you live?
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Latest post on 17 May 2014 - 19:31
I feel so sorry for you. You have spent 9 months of your life producing a beautiful new human being for you and your husband to cherish and you don't seem to be getting much thanks or help now the little one is here. Sadly, many men are not compassionate, and often don't really try to support their wife unless everything is spelled out for them. Don't feel at all guilty for the way you feel now. He should have supported you more and he should not be expecting to get up and go away and leave you to it. As for what he said.... he might not really mean it but doesn't realise how bad it is to say. Of course you will never forget it... we don't do we? Your best response is to keep your cool, don't worry about not talking to him. He will have more time to think and he may realise how bad he has been. You will come through this, as hard as it feels at least you have your children, your home, and I would imagine a reasonable standard of living. In the future though, you should let him know how awful he was, and how much he upset you. Take care.
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Latest post on 06 May 2014 - 18:53
Good evening ladies, with the U.K. pound being so strong at the moment, is it better to transfer savings to dollars or pounds?? <em>edited by Pink Lily on 06/05/2014</em>
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Latest post on 06 May 2014 - 15:53
Wow, so many of us have had colonoscopies!!! I have to highly recommend the Iranian Hospital, as their nursing care, cleanliness and procedural methods were excellent. The Consultant was very easy to talk to, and the Anaesthetist and Gastroenterologist were first-rate. No pain experienced whatsoever, aside from drinking that awful preparation.
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Latest post on 28 April 2014 - 22:43
Does anyone have any idea what salary a recently qualified QS with 5 years experience could expect to earn here?
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Latest post on 01 April 2014 - 22:13
I think she should speak to the women in his family. His mother if possible. She should be absolutely honest, and spell out how damaging it would be for both families.His mother will be angry, but hopefully see it from a womans point of view as well, and will apply pressure on him.
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Latest post on 30 March 2014 - 19:15
Having regularly watched teams of young boys playing football and witnessed the responses of their parents, I can say that cultural differences is not the reason, its the individual personalities of the parents. Some people unfortunately have naturally 'bullish behaviour'. They just think that they and theirs have the right to own/get/win/take/ cheat for whatever is up for grabs. You can pick them out a mile away. Sadly their kids think this is normal, and it gets perpetuated!!
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Latest post on 29 March 2014 - 10:42
3000- 3500. No other perks/ benefits.
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Latest post on 29 March 2014 - 09:33
Good Morning ladies. Does anyone know if it is straightforward to exchange euros for GBP in U.K. banks?
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Latest post on 26 March 2014 - 01:14
Mall of The Emirates
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Latest post on 23 March 2014 - 00:19
It doesn't seem to me that he will change. He has done it twice, and you have to live with the knowledge that you cannot really trust him now. It is much easier to give advice, than to be the person who needs to act upon the advice. You will be weighing up the pros and cons of any action/inaction. Change can be so scary, and it is often simpler/easier to do nothing. No-one knows what life is like for other families 'behind closed doors'. Very few can 'have everything'. So, it comes down to your priorities, and acceptance. Are you able to function whilst sharing a home with a man who lies to you? Are you prepared to shield your children from the truth about their father? Cl4early he does not deserve this, but if this 'works for you', then you could stay with him for whatever other benefits there are. However, regardless of what is best for the children or 'the family', remember that you need happiness in your personal life too.
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Latest post on 18 March 2014 - 20:53
Do you mean that her sponsor was not surprised at the picture of the little boy? Did he actually see that one? How did this woman react when she knew that you had seen the pictures? - or didn't you tell her?
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Latest post on 10 March 2014 - 19:29
Hello ladies, I brought this little sewing machine out with me as it was so light. But I cannot get it to sew properly. I can thread it, but the underneath thread doesn't run properly. Does anyone have any experience with one?
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Latest post on 08 March 2014 - 10:54
I saw John Mayall a couple of years ago in concert in Manchester.He is still introducing young local talent, and he still sounds incredible. Years ago, I saw him often, as he did annual concerts around the country.
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Latest post on 08 March 2014 - 10:32
Thanks for including the link. Painful to watch, but we must do whatever we can to stop cruelty to animals.
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Latest post on 08 March 2014 - 10:15
I also googled Paul Carrack, and was happy to read who he is. I read yesterday, that John Mayall will be doing concerts this year in U.K. as he is touching 80!!! What a concert that would be if Eric Clapton joined him.
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Latest post on 07 March 2014 - 20:38
I thought he was wonderful, but the end was a bit abrupt.
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Latest post on 06 March 2014 - 17:55
Don't be sad or angry that you paid her. At the end of the day you could afford to pay her, and I don't imagine that you will suffer for having paid her. Think of it as a very good deed that you have done for someone who was a part of your family, and who served you loyally for a time. That money could be doing amazing things for a family somewhere, and you and your husband have earned a whole lot of Brownie Points!!.
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Latest post on 03 March 2014 - 17:07
So is an end of service gratuity never payable unless it has appeared on the contract??
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Latest post on 14 February 2014 - 16:56
My advice to you, and please don;t think that I am being patronising, is to always remember how lucky you are. 1. You have a baby 2. You have a Nanny 3. You have family and friends who want to come. J really do believe that when children are born, it is a time for celebration, and you have to be prepared to share them a little. Enjoy the parties. At least you will not have to do all the cooking, cleaning, washihg, ironing serving. bathing yourselves.
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Latest post on 10 February 2014 - 22:22
I think that clearly, some women do not deserve the help that is given to them by MIL's. Children are very fortunate when they are born in a family where they are brought up by a 'family'. Actually, mother doesm't always know best! I don't think it's not deserve, more understand. Yes the extended family is a dying breed especially for expats. True, and maybe also a case of not appreciating what you have until you don't / can't have it any more.
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Latest post on 10 February 2014 - 22:04
I think that clearly, some women do not deserve the help that is given to them by MIL's. Children are very fortunate when they are born in a family where they are brought up by a 'family'. Actually, mother doesm't always know best!
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Latest post on 10 February 2014 - 15:18
OP, the problem with accepting "unpaid" family help is that you cannot necessarily dictate how the family is approaching the way they raise your kid. Sure, you have the right to be upset, you have explained how you want your DS to be raised. However you have to accept your MIL does it differently. All MIL's do, so will you 40 years from now. So if you have a problem with MIL hire professional help. I really think that it is a bit derogatory to call a MIL 'unpaid help'!!! For some reason in this society, money seems to play a part in everything. I see this as a case of MIL doing her best to keep a screaming child quiet in the middle of the night, so that her DIL could have a good sleep, as she is pregnant and also working. Don't you think that this was an act of kindness? Yes there are many ways to bring up children, and I know that nowadays stricter routines are the order of the day but there are also times when so-called rules may be broken with no long term damage. <em>edited by Pink Lily on 10/02/2014</em>
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Latest post on 06 February 2014 - 15:26
Well at least it is you with the bumps and bruises and not the little one. The stairs and tiled floors here are so dangerous. I often remember this horror: I was walking backwards and forwards with my 6 week old daughter over my shoulder, trying to get her to sleep. I was so tired myself, that for a split second, I fell asleep myself and lost hold of the baby. By an absolute miracle I awoke, and dived forward to the floor so the baby didn't fall on the floor but slithered down my back instead. It is so creepy, and I can still feel it like it happened yesterday. Guardian Angels.
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Latest post on 06 February 2014 - 15:17
Compared to salaries in health care here, 7-10k is a very good salary for a Nursery Nurse.
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Latest post on 04 February 2014 - 20:58
So sorry that your son is going through such a difficult time, and you as parents are so worried about him. Life is so unfair, it seems that you have had much more than your fair share of distress with your daughter. Be positive. Easy to say I know, but whatever the results, at least you will be closer to the treatment. Where is 'home'? Would you feel more comfortable/relaxed if you were going through these things there? I really hope that things become easier for all of you. Please let us know the results.
 
 
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