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Latest post on 18 May 2016 - 21:40
Hi everyone, has anyone else been watching Land Girls on ITV Choice. Has it finished? It wasn't on yesterday
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Latest post on 16 March 2016 - 21:17
That there are many ways of achieving the same thing, and that my way is not necessarily the best way.
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Latest post on 14 February 2016 - 20:22
Your life in U.K. would partly depend on whether you already have savings to enable you to put down a deposit on a home. You would need around 10% of the cost. Another factor to consider is the cost of child care. Nursery care or child minding cots during holidays can mount up significantly. A full time nursery place is in the region of 1000 pounds/ month In U.K. life is good if you earn enough to live comfortably, and you have strong friendships.Most of the cities and towns are very multicultural. But be prepared to work very hard to set yourselves up. Good luck with whatever you choose.
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Latest post on 03 February 2016 - 17:38
The BBC First channel is on the T.V. but it has said not included in our subscription.
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Latest post on 03 February 2016 - 17:36
We have e-life subscription
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Latest post on 25 November 2015 - 16:52
Hi, there was an alarm which rang for a long time this morning around Al Sufouh road near The Westin. Does anyone know what that was all about?
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Latest post on 23 June 2015 - 21:41
I wonder how can a Doctor decide whether it is viral or not? I had the same symptoms a few weeks ago, and was given an antibiotic injection, and 7 days of antibiotic tabs and mouthwash.
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Latest post on 23 June 2015 - 21:36
Cool drinks, maybe easier through a straw. Pure cotton bed linen love and attention
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Latest post on 23 June 2015 - 20:14
Thank you all for your replys and advice. A part of me too feels that we should let it go as we can do without the stress but at the same time we bith agreed that we will bring her back and she will come back. Everything about her is perfect except this boyfriend issue. I have to admit im a sucker for a sob story too, I can't help but feel bad for anyone that is going through something awful. Just yesterday my daughter came back with no shoes from nursery so i complained that it was now the 2nd pair of shoes ruined/lost in one month and they can expect the amount being deducted from their nursery fees. (Felt like i had to put my foot down as it was happening too often). They then called me back that afternoon informing me that the staff that was responsible for my daughter will have it deducted from her salary. When i went to collect my daughter i knew there was noway i would deduct it from her salary and when i told the staff member that its fine but just please be careful in the future she broke down in tears, grateful that i let it go. Am i just a push over? Really questioning myself now...i find it so hard to turn a blind eye even if i know im never going to see that person again. How can a nursery school lose childrens shoes???
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Latest post on 21 June 2015 - 20:49
Has anyone had a wonderful afternoon tea in London that they would recommend?
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Latest post on 18 June 2015 - 18:10
I am a little bit confused with your post. How did you not know what the fridge and cupboards looked like while your Maid was still with you? Is this exclusively her area??
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Latest post on 13 June 2015 - 16:44
I would confront her for sure. To be honest, if she has children herself, then she knows how hurtful it is for you, knowing that your children can read this on FB. And who knows what she might be saying directly to your children about you. Thls woman has no morals or manners. What a pity that you need her so badly. But do you??? It must be difficult for your children too.
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Latest post on 13 June 2015 - 16:25
Wow, I think that there is a lot of negativity that has been expressed here.t You see it also depends if you are going to work to live or live to work.and what will be expected of you if you do not work. If your husband can support you financially, then you will be in a very good position to look for work that maybe doesn't pay too well. but will be rewarding in other ways. There is more to life than work, or there should be Had you never discussed the possibility of moving abroad before it became a real possibility?
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Latest post on 12 June 2015 - 23:55
I think it's just a case of not renewing when that time comes, don't stop her from using the Internet(that's abuse). We all had our moments calling our employers inappropriate names, she is one that vents it on FB that isn't very wise. Tell her you know about it and it has to stop or it will have consciences. I don't understand why it is abuse to stop someone from using the internet! Surely this is a benefit that can be wihdrawn
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Latest post on 12 June 2015 - 22:20
Before I can answer your question, I need a bit more information. How long have you been married? How long does your husband want to stay in Dubai? Can he earn enough to support you both in the lifestyle that you want?
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Latest post on 01 June 2015 - 20:08
I think that unless we are 'locals', then none of us are actually living a 'real' life here.We have all arrived here because of different wishes or desires, and we are all here on a temporary basis lets not forget. So that gives us a very different view about life. It makes us feel as if we have more choices, and that can often I think make life harder.In fact we have to constantly make more choices here .Which school to choose for the children as they wont go to the allocated one, which hospital to use, which doctor to use, where to deliver, where to rent, whether to move rental paces, which is an easier thing to do than selling and buying as we would probably need to do back home,which continent to holiday on.........But lets not forget that we chose it,sometime we only have ourselves to blame, and its also about taking the rough with the smooth!!
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Latest post on 17 May 2015 - 19:31
Butterfingers I think that she has gone far beyond what is acceptable behavior. How young are your children, and how is her work in the home? I am asking this, because unless she is really fabulous, then why put up with this? If you keep her, I wold deny her any wifi, and hold her phone for a little while.I would prevent her from going out alone unless it is absolutely necessary, and I would treat her very much as a paid help rather than as a member of the family. Of course you would then have to be prepared for retaliation, which is why I ask the ages of your children.
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Latest post on 17 May 2015 - 16:31
Well I think it is just plain disgusting to sample food in a supermarket unless someone is standing there asking you to do it. It is even worse to replace food that has been part eaten, obviously due to the hygiene issues. However it really doesn't surprise me that you have seen it here. I am constantly amazed at what people class as 'normal behavior' here.I don't know whether it is lack of education, bad manners or just plain rudeness.Sometimes I long to be living in a quaint little village where everyone is' wholesome'
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Latest post on 22 March 2015 - 19:09
I am wondering Smartee, what it is about parenting hat you find so daunting. I think that the nature of life enables parents to automatically be able to look after their children.Okay so some have post natal depression, and others need a great of help from family and friends,but it is a kind of inborn reaction to care for a child as well as possible. I have watched my own daughter change from a quite self-centred individual to an adoring mother.
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Latest post on 16 March 2015 - 18:39
No wanting to cause a dispute, but I must say that the Carrefour Expess is more expensive than the big Carrefour I find that almost everything is a few Dhs. dearer, and so I try not to use it.
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Latest post on 07 March 2015 - 18:50
I am not a teacher but just curious. Surely you would need a teaching qualification and 2 years experience before teaching here. How will you get that experience?
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Latest post on 27 February 2015 - 18:52
Try posh paws the animal sanctuary. They have a website.
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Latest post on 13 February 2015 - 16:15
No problem if you live in an area where you can exercise the dogs responsibly. It is lovely to hear from women who have dogs that live in areas that can support them well. I live in the Marina area,where most people are living in apartments, and am saddened by the number of dogs who are 'walked' around outside the Carrefour and who are allowed to move about on a lead on the sandy verges that are being prepared as flower beds, whilst their owners or caretakers are on their phones pretending not to notice that their dogs are fouling the area. This behaviour is totally wrong, as is allowing dogs on a long lead into lifts and allowing them to 'sniff' other occupants. I am a dog lover, but it is difficult to defend this behaviour.
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Latest post on 08 February 2015 - 21:52
I had a Maid when my children were young and I worked full time. It was such a novelty, and meant that I could continue to work full time, but not have to ever worry about child minding.It was a win-win situation. She was happy, able to send all of her earnings back home- built a house in Sri Lanka, and our children loved her.She cleaned, made beds, did the bed linen ironing, and took the children to and from the school buses. I did the food shopping, cooked. and did some ironing.It worked like a dream. It definitely makes life a lot easier, and why not??? edited by Pink Lily on 08/02/2015 edited by Pink Lily on 08/02/2015 <em>edited by Pink Lily on 08/02/2015</em>
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Latest post on 07 February 2015 - 17:05
I think it is wonderful that your Grandmother, at this age wants to visit, and it is surely worth 'going the extra mile for her'. However, safety would be my real concern here.How long would she be here?Who will she travel with? Will they be able to help with her this end? <em>edited by Pink Lily on 07/02/2015</em>
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Latest post on 26 January 2015 - 22:22
Thanks ShellAR, and do you know whether the person with the Investor visa needs a UAE income to sponser his wife?
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Latest post on 26 January 2015 - 22:18
I have just Googled i and it comes up as 'one of the best areas for expats to live. World class healthcare and facilities!' What makes it so bad for you, is there a lot of construction going on, or is it not well organised/ You say that it is clean...........!
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Latest post on 26 January 2015 - 21:56
Which area is your apartment in?
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Latest post on 20 January 2015 - 15:20
Does this apply to a Dubai resident or only a visitor ? And if a resident, does she need an alcohol licence?
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Latest post on 17 January 2015 - 17:52
Good luck from me Bonbon, you have done the best thing in my opinion to get advice from people who are totally unbiased. I agree with all who have told you not to enter any further into this relationship until you are more sure. However,everyone makes some mistakes along the path of life, and 'divorced with children', although not an enviable state to be in,does not have to be worse than single,or married with or without children, if that is what life has in store for you. Remember none of us know what is around the corner do we? , It's all about doing the best we can with what we have along the way.
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Latest post on 12 January 2015 - 17:33
Hi everyone, this will sound like a very stupid question for some, but are there any tax implications if an Expat Britiish person transfers money from their bank account in Dubai into their U.K. bank account or into a relatives british bank account? <em>edited by Pink Lily on 12/01/2015</em>
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Latest post on 11 January 2015 - 18:38
I flew with them 3 years ago and vowed I never would again, but due to the costs of their competition I did,last Easter and this Christmas.I found them to be good enough. The attendants were pleasant, and they held the connecting flight over for us as we were late leaving Dubai.Iwould ot hesitate to fly with them again if I miss the Emirates deals. <em>edited by Pink Lily on 11/01/2015</em>
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Latest post on 03 January 2015 - 21:13
Thanks ShellAR and Alismum.
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Latest post on 10 December 2014 - 22:12
I would arrange a meeting with her i a public place, and tell her face to face that I didn't want to have anything to do with her.
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Latest post on 10 December 2014 - 22:10
I would not pay this much for a trip for a 15 year old unless it was linked directly with their school studies. I wold pay this possibly for a child of 18, when it would be the last trip for her group of friends before going on to university.
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Latest post on 25 November 2014 - 21:46
Puddle 31, what do you mean, 'from the dark side?
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Latest post on 25 November 2014 - 21:44
Thanks all I looked in daiso in ibn batuta mall and wasn't blown away, haven't been to craft land yet but was sure there would be more choice Ina place this size! Oh well looks like hubby will be dragged to craft land, crochet keeps me sane :-) if anyone knows of any crochet groups or even knitters who will accept someone from the dark side I would be really interested :biggrin:
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Latest post on 25 November 2014 - 15:43
Hmmm I feel this won't go down well, but I will say it anyway. You husband is the one out working his bo**ocks off to keep you happy and in the style that you may have become accustomed to. While you are not working, I feel you should not be out at the beauty salon every week, or out lunching twice a week or having coffee mornings twice a week. There is no need for a trip to the hair dressers every week. Unless you are desperately trying to fit in to the Jumeirah Jane lifestyle. Yes marriage is a partnership but at the moment you are not contributing to that partnership. I would not have felt comfortable asking my husband to support me when I first came here. He worked hard for his money, as do I, so it just wouldn't have been an issue. I'm not saying 1000aed is enough, however maybe look at what you are spending it on and what and why you need more money. Sorry if this offends anyone.
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Latest post on 25 November 2014 - 15:43
Hmmm I feel this won't go down well, but I will say it anyway. You husband is the one out working his bo**ocks off to keep you happy and in the style that you may have become accustomed to. While you are not working, I feel you should not be out at the beauty salon every week, or out lunching twice a week or having coffee mornings twice a week. There is no need for a trip to the hair dressers every week. Unless you are desperately trying to fit in to the Jumeirah Jane lifestyle. Yes marriage is a partnership but at the moment you are not contributing to that partnership. I would not have felt comfortable asking my husband to support me when I first came here. He worked hard for his money, as do I, so it just wouldn't have been an issue. I'm not saying 1000aed is enough, however maybe look at what you are spending it on and what and why you need more money. Sorry if this offends anyone.
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Latest post on 24 November 2014 - 19:38
Well at lest you were able to stay at home and look after your child as you wanted. There are plenty of women who cannot do that because he family cannot survive without he two incomes. I can totally understand that you feel dependent, and some men will make a woman feel that way. Of course work is more than earning money. If you are lucky enough to enjoy the work you do, then it gives you more than money. It gives you satisfaction, and a purpose in life apart from the family. Regarding salary, many of us here work for lower salaries than we received at home, strange as it may seem, but for many it is still preferable to being a SAHM. However, if you are lucky enough to get a job, then I see no reason why you should automatically pay for the childcare from your salary- or indeed the car! This depends on your husbands salary.In my opinion if he earns way in excess of you, then he could pay for these necessities, and you could pay for luxuries. The best of luck in securing a job.
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Latest post on 24 November 2014 - 00:23
Maybe this has something to do with how money is managed when you are both working? I have always worked,and we manage our own money. and when I was without work for a short time, my husband gave me what I now realize was a very small amount for myself.I think it was because he was not used to giving me any money, and I was not used to asking for or expecting money from him as I have always been self-sufficient.
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Latest post on 21 November 2014 - 23:40
'Hi Ma'am', when the person saying it is neither looking at me nor really bothered if I am there at all, and 'Hi ma'm', when repeated by every sales assistant that I pass on my journey trough the store!
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Latest post on 21 November 2014 - 23:31
Between 18th December and Christmas day. It's a much easier job nowadays, with no-one 'helping me'. But every year I still pray that the lights will work first time! <em>edited by Pink Lily on 21/11/2014</em>
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Latest post on 15 November 2014 - 23:41
This is getting away from the original question I know, but I am intrigued to know: What if the couple is a 'mixed' couple, where the husband is Muslim and the wife is Christian, and married in Europe. Would they be divorced here under Sharia law and what would become of their children? <em>edited by Pink Lily on 15/11/2014</em>
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Latest post on 15 November 2014 - 17:16
A lot of car parks in Europe have implemented a rule of "back in, head out" parking for safety reasons. Carefully reversing into a space makes you far less likely to hit another vehicle than backing into oncoming traffic, or worse into a car park with pedestrians wondering around. Because you steer by controlling the front wheels of the car, not the back, it actually makes it easier to park the car in tight spaces going backwards. In M o E it doesn't seem to matter if the car is reversing or moving forwards, the pedestrians still suffer. But I always think to myself....'they were pedestrians too before they got into their cars' It's a very strange thought process here.
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Latest post on 14 November 2014 - 18:37
In my view, a house maid can do aa very responsible job of looking after children and doing housework, exactly like a woman would do if she did not have paid help in the home. You would be able to expect a 'professional job' from a Nanny, as she would have been trained, but surely we all realise that there is training and there is Training! Above all, it is important to trust the person who cares for your child. If you do not, then how can you possibly leave them together? A baby will not really understand who is pushing them in a pram. When he/she is old enough to realize, then it is more important to be the one who is there. Remember, a working mother cannot be there to do it all- that is the trade off. You are working to help to secure the future of the child, and you need peace of mind while you are away from the home. <em>edited by Pink Lily on 14/11/2014</em>
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Latest post on 14 November 2014 - 18:26
As you hold a senior role, can you not go o the CEO about it? There should be a line drawn between privae and professional life. Dont let it wear you down. Of course at the end of the day it shows how much they are going to miss you doesn't it?
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Latest post on 14 November 2014 - 18:21
Well at least you only have yourself to please. You can eat what you want, exactly when you want. You can choose your entertainment, and there will be no-one to contradict/change your plans. Enjoy yourself your way!
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Latest post on 14 November 2014 - 17:39
These cannot be serious questions, can they??
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Latest post on 14 November 2014 - 17:37
You are brave to be speaking out. and even braver to have taken the decision to leave. I hope that life will be easier for you when you have got away from all of this. Thank God you have a brother looking out for you. I hope that you have contacted your embassy to arrange travel for your child without a passport.