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Latest post on 04 February 2012 - 21:36
if only kinokinuya were not in the Dubai Mall... seriously. That place is just too big and too confusing and wherever I park is completely wrong for wherever I want to be.... and if I want to go to two different places they are as far apart as it is possible to be.... and generally I just don't go there. Will miss Magrudys DFC.
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Latest post on 04 February 2012 - 20:37
while the odd website is saying Feb 20, I think that is from last year - it runs until 5 Feb according to the signs outside (which I have been driving past every day thinking 'must go in there at some point' - tomorrow is the last day, had better get my act together.
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Latest post on 04 February 2012 - 20:34
gosh EW is really tame compared to MN!! MN is far more entertaining - but not always in the same way; that thread was in 'AIBU' which is, umm, fierce!
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Latest post on 04 February 2012 - 18:52
Oh my! Towels should be washed daily....yukkers. This is the attitude that makes Dubai the disaster that it is.. While I know what you're saying.... this attitude is not exclusive to Dubai - 633 post bunfight at: http://www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/1350992-to-only-wash-bath-towels-once-a-month
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Latest post on 03 February 2012 - 16:00
It's definitely 'gardyloo' in Scotland; can't see that it would be a new word in scrabble (of any nationality) - and FB scrabble lets you use Scottish slang, Aussie abbreviations ('arvo' etc) as well as americanisms, so it obviously has a fairly international dictionary
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Latest post on 03 February 2012 - 09:15
I know not everyone has the 'long' version, and that I managed to 'shed' a lot of sugar in my urine in both pregancies so had to have it both times - perhaps you have a short one if no cause for suspicion. The long version - Fast, take drink, have blood taken. Have more blood taken after 1 hour, then after 2 hours, then after 3 (during which time you can't eat/drink anything). Yuk.
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Latest post on 02 February 2012 - 23:00
glucose tolerance test. you only get it if your urine shows high sugar at one of your check ups. The actual drink is not so bad; the four needles that follow over the next three hours are vile [am a wimp'>
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Latest post on 02 February 2012 - 00:49
S it is the one that has a 3 month validity. I have no idea what the validity of any of them is, have never actually booked either a Cat 99 or a Cat C WE..... entirely theoretical knowledge on both fronts!
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Latest post on 02 February 2012 - 00:19
Irooni, it is cat C wider eligibility not cat 99 surely? (and there are never any available.....)
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Latest post on 01 February 2012 - 10:36
ballooning in general is very very safe. I certainly never intended to suggest that BA don't cancel for heavy winds - just that their threshhold for flying sometimes seems to have been relatively high. Yes the people on the crash flights were statistically very unlucky - but there are other long term operators without any such incidents, let alone two (in rather less than 25 years). If Amigos Balloons are still around (or anyone else that I don't know about) I would seriously consider them as an alternative.
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Latest post on 01 February 2012 - 00:00
OK thanks everyone, could be a bit difficult then. IF she had a partner who was wanting to move over... Could they get married under Sharia Law (I'm useless, I guess if you don't go through it, you don't know) Are they muslim? why would they get married under Sharia Law if they weren't? The law doesn't apply to Muslimsonly . Cohabitating isn't allowed here, you have to go to the court to get married if you want to legally be able to be sponsored by a male partner. In that case, the child of the mother would be able to have her husband sponsor her child. edited by Marroosh on 31/01/2012 Maroosh, I think you may have misunderstood. The question wasn't why would they get married; it was why would they get married under Sharia law - the answer to which is almost certainly that as non-Muslims, they wouldn't. They could get married their own way; it would be just as valid. It also wouldn't really help in the sponsorship of the child position in that the biological father's consent would still be needed unless the new stepfather were to adopt the child - which would almost certainly itself require bio father consent, making the point moot.
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Latest post on 31 January 2012 - 17:10
Sorry to jump on board but I heard that new borns didn't use the sleeping bag and just slept in a baby grow and / or blanket..is that not the case? I think there is a minimum age or size or something, but they hit it pretty quickly (or mine did). I did swaddle to start off with; that was what the hospital did and both kids seemed to like it.
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Latest post on 31 January 2012 - 16:23
There are single mums (plural) in Dubai; I am one, and I sponsor my children. However, their father was able to produce a no objection letter (it was very irritating that this was needed, but....) it is difficult to know what they would do about a case where no father is on the birth certificate; she would really need to ask, maybe at the embassy. I don't think getting married would change anything* unless the new husband adopted the child. Carol, is the bio father's consent a feasibility? is he on the birth certificate? Suze, yes the logistics of being a single mother are relatively easy provided that you have a decent income, and find good help. I have been very lucky on the help front; not everyone is. *in terms of the need for bio father's consent.... it would obviously change things in that he could sponsor her and child, and that they could live together (legally) <em>edited by sandfly on 31/01/2012</em>
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Latest post on 30 January 2012 - 20:12
no, a left turn with a traffic signal, can be a bit of a queue but not too bad.
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Latest post on 30 January 2012 - 19:14
that bit is usually fine. sometimes there is congestion between Mirdiff and the rest of Dubai, but getting caught up in Mirdiff itself, if you are not trying to do u turns at turns without lights, is rare.
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Latest post on 29 January 2012 - 15:58
FYI I have witnessed a similar situation in the past, where crew did NOT intervene and the child knocked out all its front teeth as it hit its face on one of the armrests running down the aisle during landing. ETA: I have ADD myself and I don't think that's any excuse. My parents taught me patience to sit down even when I didn't want to, I kicked, screamed and even used to bite people when made to sit still but they persisted. Yes every child is different but I am telling you there IS a difference between "trying" and NOT trying. I know what that looks like. Talking to/interacting with/holding/playing with a child are all things I would class as "trying". Ignoring the kids the entire flight (despite requests to do otherwise) and reading a magazine while your kid aisle surfs definitely do not fall under "trying". I might not be a parent but I have had a lot of experience with my own nephews and other kids from a young age (including flying with them on my lap) so I do know a bit about trying to control a tantrum-throwing 2 year old on a plane... edited by SkyKitty on 29/01/2012 edited by SkyKitty on 29/01/2012 Not only could they hit the armrest, they could hit another passenger if the landing is particularly difficult - I think the crew should definitely intervene; and summerdream is being highly unrealistic. If you can't keep your child safe, and prevent them from putting other people at risk, stay home.
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Latest post on 28 January 2012 - 22:33
sounds odd, bb, are you sure you mean a psychologist (who would not normally have prescribing rights) and not a psychiatrist?
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Latest post on 28 January 2012 - 21:48
may be relevant that airline tickets are a very popular purchase for credit card fraudsters....
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Latest post on 28 January 2012 - 20:47
Don't know, sorry, but wanted to suggest talking to parents elsewhere to find out what sort of support is offered - eg, UK centric site - http://www.mumsnet.com/Talk/special_needs or http://www.mumsnet.com/Talk/special_educational_needs - possibly a wider range of parental experience than you would get here.
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Latest post on 27 January 2012 - 23:34
To me, DSO is the most central point in Dubai. No, other place in dubai is literally one minute away from motorways. You live the compound and the option of al ain road, emirates road and by pass road are all under 2 minutes away. Emirates road to either direction, are accessible. Choitrams, Spinneys, costa, starbucks, a bookstore, MMI, a video rental, several groceries and laundries and 2 pharmacies, are all in the area. MCC and dubai mall are just 12 minutes, 15 minutes to festival, 20 mins to central shiekh zayed, jumeirah and deira. 15 minutes to city hospital and American, 10 minutes to AR. The furthest points are 25 minutes to MOE and half an hour to New dubai bits, like emirates living, marina and the rest. The roads are great, no construction, pretty roundabouts. All in all a fab fab fab place to live. and yet when it opened, the shrieks of horror from the pilots at the idea that anyone could be expected to actually live there, buried in the desert, half way to Al Ain...... how things change (apart from the complaining of the pilots of course....)
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Latest post on 25 January 2012 - 22:00
I had a Prado and loved it. It was reliable and really nice to drive. One thing I really really liked about a toyota over other brands (we had other brands before) is that the service is so easy. I would drop off my car early morning - go to the Oasis mall for a coffee and go back after an hour and pick up my car. It would take hours and hours with other manufacturers so my preference would be a toyota for sure as you really are not inconvenienced at all. I miss my Prado! crikey Toyota (well, Al Futtaim) must have changed over the last three years.... two of the best things about getting a BMW; no more Al Futtaim services, and 25,000 km service intervals instead of 5,000km.
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Latest post on 22 January 2012 - 10:59
1) One you would go to, ie near where you live (which you haven't mentioned) 2) Depends if you would use it. No value if it sits in the drawer.... do you go out to the sort of places in (whichever book you have in mind) - the details of what is in the books are on their website (http://theentertainerme.com/) 3) Buy a paper every day for a week or two and decide which one you like. No point in subscribing to a paper that doesn't appeal to you even if hundreds of other people like it.
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Latest post on 21 January 2012 - 09:06
Oh. Did you find this thread? :( http://www.expatwoman.com/forum/messages.aspx?TopicID=151445
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Latest post on 21 January 2012 - 08:52
have you googled? every set of instructions I've needed for something second hand has been on the web somewhere. good luck :)
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Latest post on 21 January 2012 - 08:45
I think one of the aviation medicine docs told me you would be exposed to more radiation by living in Aberdeen (lots of granite) than taking a handful of long haul flights. Cosmic radiation really isn't that much - this site suggests you avoid flying more than 200 hours during your pregnancy (and that is basically cautious; the same kind of cautious which grounds flight attendants once they announce their pregnancy but doesn't really fuss about their pre-announcement exposure) http://flyingduringpregnancy.com/flying-during-pregnancy-and-cosmic-radiation/
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Latest post on 20 January 2012 - 21:45
so long as your hand luggage complies with the rules, I don't see why not. I have before (though not recently) without any difficulty (obviously doesn't actually mean it's legitimate, but don't remember ever seeing that you can't)
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Latest post on 20 January 2012 - 11:44
only know of rentacrib but if you go to the main customer service desk in any of the malls, they will let you borrow a wheelchair to use in the mall; would that help with the cabin fever at all?
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Latest post on 20 January 2012 - 11:28
where in the UK are you Claire? that isn't the story I'm getting from family in Scotland, and my current English visitors certainly don't think it's been warm at home..... Glad you are enjoying yourself but really don't believe you about the weather!
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Latest post on 19 January 2012 - 21:09
Oh Greenish, how horrible for you. I had a missed m/c at about that stage..... impossible to explain how engaged your heart can be even so early on. Thinking of you and your little one.
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Latest post on 18 January 2012 - 23:38
LOL, I rather thought that - though my ex had some language uses that really, really grated (Perfectly valid central Scotland regionalisms. But very irritating) And what do you do when it comes to class markers like 'pardon'? - (or; if you think this thread is OTT, have a look at http://www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/1192381-to-prefer-What-to-Pardon/AllOnOnePage )
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Latest post on 18 January 2012 - 23:25
Slobber, English isn't one language; what is taught as being grammatically correct in the US is not in every way the same as what is taught as being correct in the UK (can't off the top of my head remember any examples, and they are at the more obscure edges of grammar, but they exist). And there is a difference between what is taught as correct grammar and the spoken English of the classroom. An English teacher could well teach the difference between shall and will, (but if this ever happens I am sure it will be to students at a fairly advanced level) but I simply do not believe that anything close to the majority of UK or Australian primary school teachers use the formally correct word each time in spoken English. "Paining' may not be 'correct' but it is valid dialectical use I am interested in your need for grammar at a later educational stage - rather to my despair (as part of my job involves rewriting things that other people have written) hardly anybody seems to need correct grammar these days (there is one very senior manager I work with whose writing I recognise by the idiosyncratic use of apostrophes....). If you are in fact saying that you only want your children to be taught by people using correct formal English, that is to me quite distinct from saying you don't want them taught by someone who says [b'>to another adult [/b'>'park at the backside of the building' (hardly an egregious error) or talks about a tiffin box (are you suggesting that is 'incorrect'?) which was the post triggering this part of the debate. But it rules out the vast majority of teachers I have come across, however expensive the school.
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Latest post on 18 January 2012 - 18:52
Slobber, no, Indian English is a mother-tongue language for many Indians; 'Filipino English' is shorthand for the type of English spoken by Tagalog speakers who have learned English as an additional language; there is a difference. There is no issue with wanting your child to learn your variant of English; the issue is with calling Indian English 'incorrect'; it isn't, it is just different (as with American/British/Australian/South African English). And if you are native speakers at home, I just don't believe your child will be handicapped by exposure to a different form of mother-tongue English for a time at school - any more than I was handicapped by speaking Scottish English at school and 'RP' English at home; I was quite capable of using more than one register, just as children exposed to more than one language grow up able to use both of them. Only ever got confused once; I thought 'outwith' was an English English word and had it struck through in a university essay - looked it up, found out it was Scottish, never used it in formal English again, no issue. I probably wouldn't send my children to a school where all the teachers spoke Indian English, any more than I would want to send them to a school where all the teachers spoke American English; but a year here or there just doesn't seem important. If you aren't native speakers, I think the type of English spoken by a teacher becomes much more of an issue as it is then the main English input.
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Latest post on 18 January 2012 - 08:25
It is bad/incorrect english. I do not know about Dubai, but if they went home with English like that it [i'>would[/i'> impact their school grades, it [i'>would[/i'> therefore also impact their further education opportunities, and it also would impact them in certain jobs. Perfectly normal to want your children to have a good standard of education and to learn to speak English as though its a first language when it [i'>is[/i'> in fact their first language. Especially after paying tens of thousands of dirhams each year for that education. For my son's second languages I would also only accept native speakers of those languages. So is everyone who speaks arabic as a second language offended by that? Please.. edited by SlobberKnocker on 18/01/2012 I don't actually think it is incorrect English, it is Indian English, which is a variety of its own, just as US English or Australian English is - unlike, say, the English spoken by Filipinos which is definitely English as a 'foreign' language. Yes they would temporarily be marked down but only once - I can't believe any child, particularly one who was hearing correct English at home, wouldn't be able to change those usages very quickly; any more than children who have a teacher who uses the 'we was' kind of regional error in the UK (there are such teachers....!!) are marred for life by it. However if people don't speak English as native speakers at home, and particularly if they don't plan to have their children in English medium school for their whole school career, I can understand them taking an interest in the type of English spoken by the teacher - including not wanting a teacher with a heavy regional accent and use of dialect/errors of the 'we was' variety; just as I wouldn't really want my children to learn French from someone with equivalent French.
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Latest post on 18 January 2012 - 08:13
EK is neither government nor private, really - hence their 'public holidays' not necessarily following either sector. So I don't suppose there is much they can do about EIDA classifying them as government - though it was obviously news to them.
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Latest post on 18 January 2012 - 01:22
Is it too nasty off me. Hello to u too been too long. do you mean "of"? ETA - not to be "picky" edited by SlobberKnocker on 18/01/2012 Silly iPhone can't do better at one am, btw I am one of the ones who cares the least about this stuff and often misspells......Never said otherwise. Yes darling I do mean of. Yes, that was my point exactly. You had criticized someone else's english which could have easily just been a typo - then went ahead and made the same error yourself. nutty's issues weren't all typos - I do suspect nutty isn't a native speaker (not that there is anything wrong with that) and a couple of her sentences went a bit haywire.
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Latest post on 18 January 2012 - 01:15
Slobberknocker, I think when you are criticising the English of others, as nutty basically was in her post, you make yourself fair game - as a non-native speaker, someone could feel that the judgement being made was unfair, as non-native speakers often do have a more correct use of English than us slangy natives - a lot more of them had grammar lessons! I learned old fashioned parsing at my old fashioned (state) primary school, but for my age group, that is virtually unheard of - a real shame.
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Latest post on 18 January 2012 - 00:59
My DD is just learning to talk and we choose her nursery based on amongst other things the nationality of the teachers as we didnt want her to learn in our opinion improper English. Living in this multicultural enviroment it is fair to say she will be exposed to different pronunciations and words with the same meaning but we didnt want her learning the wrong grammar/tense that are so commonly misused her. Sure enough my DD's teacher left and was replaced with another fully qualified teacher but we choose to remove her when we told to park at the "backside" of the building and told she had emptied her "tiffin box". You sure are going to have a tough time here with those standards, not to be picky but I can pick out some mistakes in your post and English is my third language. hello Frances :) It may be that nutty's concern is exactly because English isn't her first language, I don't know? anyway, nutty, there are nurseries around who take this into account - eg Emirates British Nursery in Mirdiff and Jumeirah has native English speakers as teachers (though not necessarily British English, and there are plenty of native speakers who make grammatical mistakes)
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Latest post on 17 January 2012 - 23:57
Well, I think that's fairly shocking, as a salary for those hours, in Dubai (and I also think there are probably differences in working conditions between different nurseries) However, I can't understand why you think a TA is a 'professional' position - what education does it require (not what education do those individuals have, but what education is actually needed for the post)? Many housemaids have sole care of their employers' children for at least part of the day - that is far more of a responsibility than helping to hand out paintbrushes.
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Latest post on 17 January 2012 - 18:58
The people who are shocked about how little maids earn here have no idea about economics. Huge salaries ruin the economies of places like the philippines, cause brain drain and aren't as helpful as people think. Some people in Dubai are paying their househelp the equivalent of CEO or Doctor's salaries in the Philippines. Why would someone stay in Manila and be a teacher or a nurse when they can come to Dubai, look after someone's kids and earn more? nice excuse. However, the remittances earned by maids help the economy, hence the interest of their government in their salary.
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Latest post on 16 January 2012 - 23:51
did you also ask for the working hours? Being a maid is not one 'job' - what your maid does, what WB's does, what mine does, will all be different. Different levels of responsibility; different working hours, different amount of initiative required, etc etc etc. If you are trying to justify your salary to yourself or a third party, or to convince yourself you were ripped off by a previous maid, or to make yourself feel generous - you will find evidence to support whatever argument you want to raise. But the salary 'cold' isn't the whole story, is it? In my job, I could almost certainly earn more - but would see my kids less; it isn't a trade off I want to make (though once they are teenagers, who knows!!). I could also earn less.... Just as with my job, being a maid is not a one size fits all affair. And in my view, my maid more than earns what I pay her. And (as I have made very clear to her in the past when she has started talking about what X person or Y person gets) it is between her and me; if we are both happy with the arrangement, nobody else's deal is relevant.
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Latest post on 15 January 2012 - 19:02
mabrouk, WB72; nice to hear.
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Latest post on 14 January 2012 - 19:06
housing fee is 5% of your rent, and is being charged gradually (not entirely sure why I am not paying it at the moment, I was in my last place, and I had to hand over my lease when I transferred my DEWA) but in last month's bill there was a notice that it was about to be charged; provide details or they would use local rent index or some such, so perhaps they are getting round to more places.
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Latest post on 14 January 2012 - 19:04
Rugby 7s were end of Nov so what, 6 weeks ago? couple of months is not out of the ordinary for Dubai, sorry - I would leave it until the end of this month to go and stamp my feet. Good luck though.
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Latest post on 14 January 2012 - 18:25
my real struggle is wanting them not to speak Filipino English (or at least my housemaid's version) - 'too much' instead of 'very much'; 'by my own' instead of 'on my own' or 'by myself'; 'let him to do that' instead of 'let him do that' - these really, really grate (from the kids, not fussed about them from her) and it is SO difficult to get them to change!
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Latest post on 14 January 2012 - 18:22
Oh lord, the day DS comes home and says it's W instead of V, we're repatriating! :D I think I do tend to correct him to Australian if I'm correcting between English accents, only so he has 'an accent', not as much a 'mixed accent', but I still let it slide when he says Tarmas (Thomas but with the US accent), shoonted and the Fut Cuntroolla (UK Thomas accent - shunted and the Fat Controller). I'm so happy to know it's not just me! I thought I was a monster raising my eyebrow at him constantly saying 'excuse me? What did you say? Nooo - that is NOT how it is said', but now I just tend to repeat the word with the correct pronunciation! I think I'd complain as much about them picking up the 'Thomas' accent as a 'foreign' one. Like others, I try to get them to talk in something at least close to their 'home' accent, and refuse to answer to 'Mama' (not sure why but I don 't like it, didn't mind so much when they were tiny) but there are some British accents which I would object to far more than a 'standard' Australian, for example! Completely irrational, I know.
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Latest post on 13 January 2012 - 01:53
LawlessLady, believe it or not you can get real Christmas trees here; I had a lovely one this year; definitely hooked and not going back to artificial!
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Latest post on 13 January 2012 - 01:01
it is not just a recommendation, it is a requirement (a) at the Philippine end, when they do the paperwork they have to do there, and (b) (supposed to be; though it appears enforcement is being neglected) at the end of the country with the agreement with the Philippines.... And if you put in your contract the lower salary and it gets approved, it is true you are not breaking a UAE law. Where you are breaking it is if you put the higher salary in the contract with a side agreement that you won't actually pay it (which also happens, though is presumably not necessary if they aren't enforcing)
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Latest post on 12 January 2012 - 22:12
Ahhhhhh (sound of penny dropping) must catch up!!