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Latest post on 12 January 2012 - 22:05
Oh (&^%$. that will be expensive then. (although I fully accept that I have had years to get round to this). PS Irooni do I know you? <em>edited by sandfly on 12/01/2012</em>
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Latest post on 12 January 2012 - 18:44
the Dubai rules are not particularly relevant (though I think they would generally assume a child takes his/her father's nationality as that is the most common position world wide). What is relevant for you is the Irish and SA rules, and your own specific situation. If you are British born and bred, for example, you can pass on your nationality to a child, wherever born, whether you are the mother or the father - however, just holding a British passport is not necessarily enough to allow you to do that; if you are third generation expat for example your child may not be entitled to take your nationality unless there are other grounds (the rules are complicated, but hope you get the idea). So best to speak to the two embassies involved - and if they both allow dual nationality, why not get both?
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Latest post on 12 January 2012 - 14:14
I know lots of people who have Phillapino helpers and they do not pay them 1470 per month. Less in fact. I know of a family who pay 700 and this is now her 3rd year with the family ! I think people are [u'>encouraged[/u'> to pay the 1470 as its deemed fair by the Phillapine government. If you look at any industry sector here in the UAE, there is no minimum wage. Staff are paying according to the market rate and how much the company can afford. I know of IT support staff in huge comopanies here getting paid less than 5 k per month. Mushypeas, make your mind up - earlier you said: &lt;&lt; Sorry to seem so blunt but I have yet to come across a lady from the Phillapines who is willing to work NOW for 1472 . It seems that they have raised the minimum wage to 2000 aed internally. &gt;&gt;
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Latest post on 12 January 2012 - 14:13
I have to agree with Dina.. Some of you dont realise that by giving the exorbitant wage that you do, it not only makes it difficult for families who cant afford to give such , but also spoils them rotten. Dh800 is a fotune for them back home, please dont compare the salary with what you would give them in your own home country ..its not the same, Some of the maids (the ones who get paid 1000+) are making more money than the educated lot in their countries, (eg the teachers, accountants, etc,..and maybe even doctors). By being paid this amount, what do you they infer from this.. that it is better to be a housemaid in a European/English/White (or whatever other term they have) than be educated. what message do you think they relay back home? Dont study... just catch hold of such ppl who feel guilty to pay Dh800 or less.. take advantage of these ppl, play on their emotions---and thats exactly what they do ! seriously think about it! You are RIGHT. It really is Econ 101. I feel like my expats moms are being taken advantage of. I caught our maid lying from the start. I dont cook, I dont make coffee or tea. She also can take a afternoon nap in the previous madames home? WHAT? Anyway, just be smart about it. Think about it. Why do maids make a minium wage in the West? there is not much too it. Yes, they babysit. But how hard is it to watch kids when they sleep? Sorry, not worth 2000 per month plus food? Mine eats at least 5-600 per month? Your maid was taking advantage of you, clearly. It doesn't mean other people's maids are not worth what they are paid.
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Latest post on 12 January 2012 - 14:12
They are not just embassy recommended salaries; the UAE government has agreed to them (and agreed to enforce them) too. Whether they actually enforce them is a different matter. There are plenty of things which are illegal here but happen all the time (the latest one I discovered, it is apparently illegal to import toys in the shape of dinosaurs... err, Barney, bye bye??). Disappointing, in this case, though. And the paperwork on the Phillipines side (whcih they need; it isn't as easy to become an expat as it is here) is still somehow going to be filled in wrongly
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Latest post on 12 January 2012 - 11:55
(illegal, incidentally - there is a specified minimum for maids from the Philippines; or don't you think that applies to you??) Sorry, you are mistaken. This is from the Philippines Authorities, not UAE. That was my question. So its not actually illegal to pay less than the minimum? when you apply for your maid's visa, you have to supply her contract. And the salary has to be at least the minimum.
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Latest post on 12 January 2012 - 11:54
(illegal, incidentally - there is a specified minimum for maids from the Philippines; or don't you think that applies to you??) Sorry, you are mistaken. This is from the Philippines Authorities, not UAE. It is nevertheless the law; and has been agreed by the UAE authorities, who have to approve your official contract. If you obtain your maid's visa by fraud (saying you are paying a salary you are not) you are in breach of UAE law. If your maid gets her papers from the Philippines by saying she is accepting a salary higher than the real one, she is in breach of Philippines law.
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Latest post on 12 January 2012 - 10:45
Oh, there are those who would do minimum, especially if you go through an agency and get a newbie. If you have experience and good references in your job would you not try for a higher salary than you would get fresh off the boat (plane)? And see Slobber Knocker's post below. There is no unofficial 2K minimum out there.
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Latest post on 11 January 2012 - 23:28
&lt;&lt;Philippines labour authorities have urged agents and employers of Filipina housemaids to stick with the minimum wage of $400 (Dh1,472) a month set by the government.&gt;&gt; http://www.emirates247.com/news/400-a-month-minimum-pay-set-for-filipina-maids-2011-07-13-1.407400 Minimum, note, not 'maximum', or 'don't pay more than this or people will get spoiled' or other such gems.
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Latest post on 11 January 2012 - 23:25
I don't disbelieve it; I just don't see it as any justification for not paying a fair rate for the job being done. You could live on next to nothing here and send it all home - but I bet you don't. And if you would rather give someone 'handouts', gifts to take home, etc like Lady Bountiful than pay a fair salary, that is your decision too. If someone can earn more as an expat housemaid than a qualified professional at home, then I am not surprised that they would choose that route, no. Money into the economy (through remittances) will ultimately benefit the professionals as well; they can't get paid if noone can afford to pay them.
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Latest post on 11 January 2012 - 22:25
Oh please, listen to yourself. They aren't at home; they are here, and if that makes them more money than working as a teacher at home, so be it. My housemaid is in her 50s, and has a college degree. She also happens to be very good, and to make it possible for me to handle a (more than) full time job along with being a single mother to two young children. If I were to insist on paying the (illegal, incidentally - there is a specified minimum for maids from the Philippines; or don't you think that applies to you??) salary you talk about, it would not reflect her value to me, or the responsibilities she takes on. If I wanted to employ a young girl fresh from wherever, I wouldn't pay half as much - but nor would I be able to leave dealing with service providers to her, or feel comfortable leaving the children with her overnight if I have to travel, or any of the rest of it.... You try living *in Dubai* on 1000 dhs a month, sending the lion's share back home to your family, and see if you feel 'spoiled rotten'. And go on, do tell how you think supply and demand is going to suddenly operate so differently that maids who don't have jobs at all aren't going to accept jobs paying the basic minimum, just because those maids who have shown that they are worth it get paid more? (or those who have found a soft touch - but if they aren't worth it, they won't tend to keep those jobs.)
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Latest post on 10 January 2012 - 22:21
three pin last time I flew
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Latest post on 10 January 2012 - 22:19
with regard to Mirdif and airport noise, it depends on the bit of Mirdif you are in.... my visitor this week has kept commenting on how quiet it is here, and I have just sat here for five minutes trying to hear a plane and failing (have heard a car or two, I admit) And there isn't a sheikh who owns Emirates, it is owned by the Dubai government. Do you mean the Emirates chairman?
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Latest post on 08 January 2012 - 22:43
Hi there, I have been taking my ds to Dr Habash since he was 2yrs old, he is now 3.5, he has the same problem that you desscribe your child as having, I find him excellent, and yes I also think its great that he advised a patient to get a second opinion, good luck, it might take about a month for you to get an appointment with him though. probably longer for Moorfields (and yes, I think it was great that he gave us that advice as well) - sorry I am not sure if it is clear but I do think he was very good and if another problem arose I would be completely happy going to him with it... (now worrying about how long our next follow up at Moorfields is going to take; starsouthern that sounds horrible)
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Latest post on 08 January 2012 - 22:36
Err, did you look at my links? it has nothing to do with not having him in my heart..... No I haven't followed his diets; as you say the principles of sensible eating are widely available, and frankly I would not want to put money in the pocket of someone who preys on the sick and vulnerable.
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Latest post on 08 January 2012 - 22:28
ballooning one of the safest forms of air transport there is... *however* Balloon Adventures Emirates (and their New Zealand associated operation) are possibly the only balloon operators [u'>ever[/u'> to have been involved in two fatal incidents (one here, one in NZ). It isn't necessarily the piloting, it could be pressure from the 'bosses' to fly in inappropriate weather conditions (such as heavy gusts of wind - the conditions when the UAE incident occurred).
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Latest post on 08 January 2012 - 17:40
I had to register so that I can write my opinion to your discussion. Normally I just read the posts…. My maid came home last Friday asking for 40% raise!!! WHY do you ladies raise the maids salaries so much???? Five years ago all the maids were making 700-800 aed and they were happy! Emiratis are still paying 700-800 aed/month as of now. 700-800 is still a fortune in their country! Why are you paying 3 times as much?? I pay my maid 1,200, and can’t afford to pay more. I have to work and my husband has to work so that we can survive. We need a maid to help take care of the kids in the afternoon, I have no family to help me. You are putting us – employers who can’t pay 1,500-2,000+++ – out of the market. Before anyone tells me to go home if I can’t afford to live here, this IS my home, I have nowhere to return to, I grew up here, you are probably the one who is new here! You probably don’t understand how much you are hurting families who really need a maid. I am trying to understand why someone who doesn’t work even needs a maid?? You are putting us – families who are not here on big expat packages – in a big disadvantage and under a lot of pressure. Also, you are putting your maids sister or cousin or compatriots out of the market as well, since fewer families will be able to afford a a maid, and there will be much less jobs available. A few of my friends had to give up a maid, because they couldn’t keep up with the raising salaries. Now I understand why some employers don’t allow the maid to go out on their own or to even talk to other maids – they don’t want them to be influenced by some spoiled maids…. DinaB, you aren't making sense. How could anyone be putting "your maid's sister or cousin or compatriots" out of the market - if you are right and '700-800 is still a fortune in their country' they will still come and work for that much, even if their sister/cousin/friend is making 2K or more. And if you are right and Emiratis pay 700-800, there must be maids who will work for that, must there not? If you were to rephrase your post using any other job - 'you mustn't pay a teacher that much as then no schools will be able to afford teachers', or 'you mustn't pay your doctor that much' or whatever, it becomes more obvious how illogical it is. It doesn't matter to you what the top end of the market is, so long as there are people who are prepared to come and work for what you are prepared to pay.
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Latest post on 07 January 2012 - 23:21
thanks SkyKitty :)
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Latest post on 07 January 2012 - 23:07
Patrick Holford is not a doctor, nor remotely scientific in his approach (though clearly good at making money). See eg http://www.badscience.net/2007/02/money-is-not-the-only-barrier-to-aids-patients-getting-hold-of-drugs/ http://holfordwatch.info/ If the diet and the support have worked for you, that's great, good luck; but he is still a quack.
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Latest post on 07 January 2012 - 23:00
how on earth can you compare reins and a car seat?? A car seat isn't 'very worth while on many levels' - it is an essential piece of safety equipment. Reins are one way of dealing with (one aspect of) the issue of teaching your children how to behave in public spaces. It is possible to manage without. The comparison just doesn't work.
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Latest post on 07 January 2012 - 22:51
dubai cat, I bet they don't provide a restraint - it might be worth trying to get hold of a Cares harness though I am not sure that they are completely compatible with all Emirates seats, suspect depending on height of child you may end up obscuring the television screen of the seat behind.... I wouldn't like to try to keep a 19 month old in the airline seatbelt (and have absolutely no confidence that a lap belt would keep one safe in the event of something like a taxiway shunt or bad turbulence) plum, it wasn't exactly not being able to fly with 2 infants on my own I had trouble with, it is the fact you have to buy a seat for one of them (as a child, rather than an infant) which didn't quite work with the way I normally get my tickets. yes you would need to buy an extra seat you couldnt have 2 children on your lap, i know people who have twins and older children and they have real problems either another adult has to go accompany with them, and they have to have their own seat, you cannot have 2 kids on your lap. its to do with the oxygen supplies as well etc. busybee, obviously you would need to buy an extra seat; I don't think anyone on this thread has been under any illusions otherwise; my trouble (which I didn't raise, it was just what plum was referring to) was that it was very difficult to do that in my particular circumstances. What had me thinking about the oxygen earlier was the comment about traveling with 3 infants and 2 adults - surely it should warn the poor unsuspecting adults that they aren't all going to be able to sit together, or does the '1 spare mask per row' thing not apply on widebodies/more modern aircraft/something? SkyKitty?
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Latest post on 07 January 2012 - 21:21
dubai cat, I bet they don't provide a restraint - it might be worth trying to get hold of a Cares harness though I am not sure that they are completely compatible with all Emirates seats, suspect depending on height of child you may end up obscuring the television screen of the seat behind.... I wouldn't like to try to keep a 19 month old in the airline seatbelt (and have absolutely no confidence that a lap belt would keep one safe in the event of something like a taxiway shunt or bad turbulence) plum, it wasn't exactly not being able to fly with 2 infants on my own I had trouble with, it is the fact you have to buy a seat for one of them (as a child, rather than an infant) which didn't quite work with the way I normally get my tickets.
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Latest post on 05 January 2012 - 23:21
Clare Roberts at Moorfields (specializes in kids with eyes which turn in or out). Very good reputation, very thorough, and every visit the child also sees the optometrist - as a result of all of the thoroughness and optometrists every visit takes about 2 hours though. Nadim Habash at the American Hospital - liked him, had heard good things, but when it got to the stage of recommending an operation he actually told me to go and get a second opinion, on the basis that it is a scary thing to put your child through and that I would feel better if I'd heard it from more than one specialist... unfortunately for him, the second opinion I chose (Moorfields) did feel like a step up (AH appointments did not take two hours, however....) so went there for the operation and follow up.
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Latest post on 04 January 2012 - 22:16
I like the National, it is a lot better written than either of the others (but of the older two, GN over KT which I find fairly unreadable)
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Latest post on 04 January 2012 - 21:48
have just been having a look, BMP; a friend recommended it a long time ago and you reminded me. It isn't clear though, do they just give you one menu for the week and that is it, or is there a choice?
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Latest post on 03 January 2012 - 23:20
but BFC the articles (well, the brief summaries in the post) *do* refer to introducing complimentary foods ("solids") at between 4 and 6 months, rather than only from 6 months as we have all been told (AAP etc seem to be on board). Ah well, by the time our children are having their children it will all be completely different again....
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Latest post on 03 January 2012 - 22:58
as far as I am aware pretty much all of the UK flights are full at the moment, presumably why the charges are astronomical. Too much demand (though I have no idea who is demanding to fly to the UK given the current weather, maybe it is all of the UK people trying to be somewhere else) Anyway sorry for your losses, October and TheMrs.
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Latest post on 03 January 2012 - 22:17
I put my Nokia in rice after a swim - wouldn't turn on at all. After being told it was unfixable just left it there; recently got it out to dispose of, tried turning it on, and it seems to be working just fine! and I can't see what harm rice could do to a phone anyway
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Latest post on 02 January 2012 - 20:58
done. if you are going to leave your email on the board (don't know if AmyAus has seen it?) you might want to put some spaces in it to avoid automatic spam collection things 'harvesting' it. Oh and yes I am a lawyer for my sins. It has its moments...!! <em>edited by sandfly on 02/01/2012</em>
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Latest post on 01 January 2012 - 11:22
Wenyu, so do you believe that is acceptable when it comes to labourers? or maids working for local families? Just because something is done, it doesn't mean it is the right thing to do.
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Latest post on 31 December 2011 - 22:30
mine asked if she could have today off as well (she doesn't work on Fridays and wanted a clear 3 days off, basically) and I agreed (though she insisted on ironing sheets today, as it is apparently not good to start a year with such things left outstanding). If I were going out tonight (rather than sitting here babysitting ex-MIL) I do think I would feel morally obliged to get up and deal with my own kids in the morning, rather than depriving someone of the pleasure of spending New Year's day with their friends - which is certainly what my maid does on public holidays. And if I wasn't able to give a full day off on a public holiday I would have discussed and agreed an alternative arrangement before now. Her reaction sounds childish, but I do think you may be being a little unfair (depending on other circumstances etc).
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Latest post on 31 December 2011 - 08:11
congratulations, lovely news!
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Latest post on 31 December 2011 - 08:08
AmyAus, the CPE is slightly different - our GDLP is called the LPC or something like that; the CPE is a 'conversion' for those who haven't done a law degree, to give you your LLB equivalent without having to take an entire degree. Plus when you have done your academic qualification, you still aren't admitted until you have done your two year training contract (as far as I remember you have something like that but post admission and the length varies by state, am I right?) Neamhai, happy Hogmanay to you too (thank you for that, not on here enough these days to figure you out!!) <em>edited by sandfly on 31/12/2011</em>
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Latest post on 31 December 2011 - 00:07
don't know anyone who has done the CPE by distance learning but have had a couple of colleagues who did the LPC or whatever it is called now; was a lot of work but they did it while working full time. I would imagine a training contract in Dubai would be difficult if not impossible to find, however; people generally are here for a 6 month stint as part of their training not the whole lot, and am not sure that any of the firms would think they could offer a rounded enough experience here. Could be wrong though; and good luck!
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Latest post on 28 December 2011 - 20:03
from what I have seen in terms of when they need to be used, they are more like a passport, the 'head of the family' (ahem) keeps the book but it is an official document. However as I don't actually have one I am quite prepared to be corrected!
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Latest post on 23 December 2011 - 23:27
as far as I recall, you have to wait until they are a couple of months old for baby nurofen - which rather supports the idea that it is not quite as innocuous as baby paracetamol. trouble with calpol is it clearly tastes too good (mine used to get very upset if the other one had some and they didn't) - just inviting enterprising children to try swigging the bottle!
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Latest post on 23 December 2011 - 23:24
oh that's cool if you can get approved rear facing seats now; as far as I could find out there weren't any in my day. Kiwispiers, next time ask them for the basis on which they are saying that (and ask them for their names etc.....), ask to speak to the purser, whatever - entirely irrational of them.
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Latest post on 23 December 2011 - 00:22
I hope so, serena. Just don't let him stress you about a little thing - he will tell you *everything* out of the ordinary that he finds, even if the chance of it meaning anything bad is tiny... before you either get stressed or get any more tests, ask your OB what the risk is. That is part of the 'art' bit; the deciding what to do next, as well as the actual bedside manner. Because it isn't just 'Ok, result A therefore do B' it is weighing things up....
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Latest post on 22 December 2011 - 23:52
What a couple of doctors here have told me is that Dr Mirza is technically excellent, truly world class. However his manner is not excellent (one put it as 'medicine is both a science and an art. He is unbeatable at the science and abysmal at the art' or words to that effect).
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Latest post on 22 December 2011 - 22:47
true, extension belts are not brilliant. just didn't want anyone else to get the wrong impression (and you may find yourself with a crew who knows their stuff one of these trips!)
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Latest post on 22 December 2011 - 22:28
Emirates allows car seats as long as they are approved. And to be honest most of the crew are clueless how to check if it is, so even if it isnt, just say it is and you fly with it all the time if you are flying with them. Ive notice alot of parents bring on car seats and they say that there children sleep much better. I strap in my Maxi cosi capsule and will do the same with a car seat when my LO outgrows it. maxi cosi capsule isn't 'approved' - but it doesn't matter, other than for take off/landing/etc.
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Latest post on 22 December 2011 - 22:27
technically, it depends on the car seat. If you have one which is FAA approved, you can use it during take off and landing. If it isn't, you can't - so eg the rear facing baby seats aren't; you can pop them on the seat and let your baby sit in it during flight, but not when the seatbelt signs are on. I don't think there are that many seats around which are FAA approved, as they need to be safe for use with just a lap belt, but they do exist, even in Dubai - babyshop certainly used to have a couple of Britax seats which were ok
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Latest post on 22 December 2011 - 18:34
People's Republic of Mirdiff. However the thread will get deleted if we actually arrange to meet on it... minor snag.
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Latest post on 21 December 2011 - 21:43
Well we would meet up with you; just the right age :)
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Latest post on 21 December 2011 - 21:17
there are more than you think - trouble is as I am sure you know between working and mothering, there isn't too much time left for grouping :) how old are your kids?
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Latest post on 20 December 2011 - 23:30
LMAO!!! Just passing comment on something I saw on the local news that's all... When it was pointed out to the Council bloke that there is a Christmas tree in the council offices one of the reasons he gave was that nobody sleeps there....not so sure about that myself though lolol :)
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Latest post on 20 December 2011 - 23:04
You're sure you can't take up the Bab Al Shams booking despite him? What a shame, it would have been nice to have met another ExpatWoman in person :) But you're right on the whole principle, if he's going to be difficult, ignore him and go somewhere else nice. Good luck in your search, and have a lovely Christmas! Complicated, but I can't. I think the camel idea is a brilliant one izzy; am just sorry his mother is going to walk into the middle of completely unnecessary tension because I am really really furious right now and she is arriving in the small hours.... and X is picking her up from the airport.
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Latest post on 20 December 2011 - 22:57
Or to be even more specific ..... Tenants of council flats in Brighton have been sent letters telling them not to put wreaths or other[b'> Christmas decorations on their front doors[/b'> Good job you’re not a journalist Sue62 if you can’t even relay a news report accurately. So which bit of "being banned from putting Christmas decorations up" isn't correct ? Well it is about as correct as saying people in Dubai have been banned from drying washing.
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Latest post on 20 December 2011 - 22:42
Thanks both. I will try those ideas.... I have no idea what he thinks he is going to do, he is just putting ridiculous conditions around going and it is not worth the hassle. He will probably sit at home in a sulk like he did last year - and convince himself it is all my fault.
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Latest post on 19 December 2011 - 12:45
if she's over a year, she can have cow's milk - have you tried that? if she still doesn't like it (apparently my mother never liked milk, even as a baby, must have been a nightmare) the main thing is to make sure she gets a balanced diet and plenty of other sources of calcium.