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Latest post on 18 December 2011 - 23:29
GA, surely the issue with motorbikes (and any sort of bike really) isn't the way they are ridden, it is the vulnerable position the rider is in with regard to other road users. If a car and a motorbike have a 'dispute', the bike (rider) loses - hence the donorcycle tag. A friend who used to be both a nurse and a biker would flinch when she saw people on motorbikes in jeans, at home. I hate to think what she would make of some of the outfits used here.....
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Latest post on 17 December 2011 - 14:31
I used to get one of the office boys from work to drive my car to the airport and then bring it back to pick us up - don't always bother now they are a bit bigger and we are not far from the airport, though I feel slightly guilty as the cash made quite a difference to him. I realise your DH probably won't have contact with such people - but if there is anyone you know who drives and might like a bit extra, could be worth trying. Or saferdriver sounds like a good idea.
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Latest post on 16 December 2011 - 22:03
ok, why all the LOLs (that is 2); obviously I am missing something; sorry I have not been on here much recently. I'm glad to be entertaining you both though :)
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Latest post on 16 December 2011 - 22:01
oh, and, maybe Pomgranate meant that people might prefer to come here and work than to stay in their home country and not have work, not that she (or the people in question) don't approve of hand outs per se - just that, like many, they would rather support themselves? Although I am putting words into her mouth, and probably shouldn't.
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Latest post on 16 December 2011 - 21:58
edna, I am far from thinking this place is perfect, and I really don't live in an 'expat bubble' - I'm a full time working single mother, that isn't a whole lot of bubble no matter what country you do it in. However your posts sound so angry about the place - there are good things here too; and it can't be good for your spirit to be living somewhere you feel like that about. How long have you been here (because in the relatively early days pretty much everyone seems to go through a bad patch) - if it isn't that, are you doing anything about either moving on or learning to love at least some of your life here?
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Latest post on 16 December 2011 - 18:30
I have no choice about where I live, nor where my kids go to school. that must be tough (not particularly in the context of petrol)
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Latest post on 16 December 2011 - 17:41
THE cars thermometer? You know thats a little man under the hood randomly picking temps, right :) Ah, now that explains a lot....!
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Latest post on 16 December 2011 - 17:32
I was going to say what Appletiser said. Have had wooden sticks from there, though I think they were in a set with some other bits and pieces. They may well have had them on their own as well.
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Latest post on 16 December 2011 - 15:18
the option for most of those doing the 'soul destroying job' isn't actually a government hand out anyway, it is a standard of living which isn't comparable to anything in the UK. Edna, you don't really enjoy living here, do you?
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Latest post on 16 December 2011 - 11:20
Not sure how given it is (how many people try to take pics of my kids without asking!) and it just sounded from the description as though the pictures he may want to take are a bit different from the ones the groups take. I hope the caution was unnecessary but wanted to say it anyway just in case :)
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Latest post on 16 December 2011 - 11:02
I would be careful about just showing up, even to an organised 'event' and taking pictures. Whereas in an ideal world this wouldn't be a problem for anyone, we don't live in an ideal world, and in the case of an organised event it isn't only himself and his project he would be putting at risk.
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Latest post on 15 December 2011 - 23:01
you can walk through on the airside bit, but that wouldn't help (one of them would end up in the wrong baggage hall) - can you walk through landside too? haven't ever been to the very end of either terminal that I can think of, but I didn't think you could. shuttle bus sounds like best option (or metro for 1 stop if the arrival times are when the metro is running)
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Latest post on 15 December 2011 - 21:26
School is a 30 min drive I have to do 3 trips a day (there and back) food shopping and the usual errands. I drive a Range Rover here and in the UK. I could walk to the shops, park and school in the UK so therefore used less petrol. Also my RR here is petrol/ diesel in UK, diesel is much more economical than petrol well yes, but those things are specific to you aren't they? you choose to live 30 mins from the school or whatever - my school run is about 3 minutes, and it's on the way to work (which itself is geographically as close or closer than work was where I lived last in the UK). I can walk to Spinneys, occasionally drive further for a big shop in a bigger supermarket. - and you presumably chose the cars you drive, there and here. Your statement was far more general, as though everyone used more petrol here - they don't.
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Latest post on 15 December 2011 - 20:37
yummybrummy, the other thing you could do would be to get them to use your polish - it means you aren't dependent on whatever brand they stock, and you can touch up any tiny chips as required. (NB not used dial a nail so no idea what theirs is like)
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Latest post on 15 December 2011 - 14:29
I do wish it wasn't known as the British curriculum; it isn't, it is English. They have a different curriculum in Scotland. Where we are very proud of our education system.... shame they don't have Scottish schools here in Dubai, but the English spread their tentacles across the world first... Anyway, what it actually comes down to in my view is the individual school, and the teachers within it. Great IB is better than mediocre "British" and vice versa. I would rather educate my child in the school that seems best at the time than get stuck on the idea of which curriculum it should be, at least until the point when they are going to be taking public exams - and probably then only with regard to whether it should be IB Diploma or A levels (or send them back to Scotland to do Highers - I assume they still have Highers? :) ) And I think dramaqn is right about why so many foreign kids go to school in the UK - that and the fact that it gives them the chance to acquire near-native English language skills and English is still the predominant international language.
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Latest post on 15 December 2011 - 14:24
Personally I think it evens out to roughly the same I fill my car up 3 times a week here whereas in the UK I would only fill up once every two weeks. Corrolation is not causation. You can very easily compare the price of a litre, or a gallon, of petrol, and it is a lot cheaper here. What your extra need of petrol will be arising from isn't that the petrol is somehow inferior (it isn't), but (a) you are probably driving a bigger car, therefore more of a gas guzzler (lots of people are; small cars can feel a bit vulnerable among al the 4x4s) and (b) you are almost certainly driving longer distances. I don't need to drive that far here, and fill up every two or three weeks. Or there is something wrong with your car.
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Latest post on 14 December 2011 - 23:28
mine at 3 loved toy cars/trains (!), duplo, baby dolls and the things that go with them (high chair etc), toys for playing outside (spacehopper, rockets you launch by jumping on something, scooter, etc), age-appropriate jigsaws, etc. Or you could get books, can never have too many :)
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Latest post on 10 December 2011 - 21:36
public service announcement, there is nothing in the use of the drill which requires a 'Y' chromosome. However, the picture strips seem like a fantastic idea; I have the strips and I have the things to hang; really must get round to doing the hanging. They seem to be quite widely available, pretty sure carrefour has as well as spinneys for example.
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Latest post on 09 December 2011 - 02:52
Sandfly is in a lovely spacious 4 bedroom close to EBN and I think are some free on her compound. Hope she sees this.[/quote hmm, not sure if there are any free just now; it is a lovely compound and 2 minutes from EBN. Am in London until Sat am but can ask the watchman if any are coming up when I get back. The for rent sign wasn't up the last time I looked though. I found it by driving round and looking; wasn't that difficult to see inside, one or two (empty ones!) I just walked into (not sure if that is how it is supposed to work but it saved a lot of time!)
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Latest post on 09 December 2011 - 01:42
"I still hope that when I open a wardrobe door my lovely housemaid will magically appear " Claire I know maid's rooms are generally not big, but you are really not supposed to keep your housemaid in the wardrobe. Frenchy, feel for you; I used to find UK winters very difficult just because of the lack of daylight. It may not be the same for everyone but it had a big effect on my mood. Pampering yourself sounds good, whether spa-type pampering or just trying to take time for you, to do things that make you feel good, knowing that it is for a limited time, you aren't trying to adopt a decadent lifestyle for ever, just doing what you need to do to get through. It is harder to meet people in the UK than in an expat society like Dubai, and although it isn't impossible, knowing you are here for such a short time can't help. Can you do anything like volunteering - it is a good way to meet people and it gives you a focus while you are with them, which takes away from the whole 'do I like this person' pressure?
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Latest post on 13 November 2011 - 20:14
because a beautiful one seems to be attempting to take up residence, not entirely to the delight of resident mog. S/he (haven't looked yet, sorry) doesn't seem to be from the compound.... Not entirely sure what to do.
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Latest post on 25 October 2011 - 23:19
So....? any puppies?
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Latest post on 25 October 2011 - 20:29
I pay significantly more than 2,000. I am a single parent, I work - and occasionally have to travel for work - and my maid (housekeeper, really) is a lifesaver - she is very able to deal with household things (in my previous house, when we had to arrange most of our own maintenance, she was a far better bargainer/taskmaster than I was)! The kids are at school but she is then responsible for them until I get home. She is older (50s), experienced, speaks reasonably good English, adores the kids (and they her) - I have been very very lucky, I know that, and I pay accordingly. However, at one contract renewal time when she started telling me about her friends who earn 4K or some such, I made it very clear that I was not interested in what her friends earned; I did not think it anyone else's business what she earned, that was between her and me, and I didn't think she should be going round discussing it. She knew and I knew that she was earning well over market rate; if she wasn't satisfied and wanted to look for other work I would be disappointed but would support her..... the issue has never been raised again. I think in many cases, life has been a bit of a struggle - and it is culturally normal to 'try things on' more than some of us would - so the attempts are understandable, you just have to decide to what extent you are going to enter into the debate.
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Latest post on 24 October 2011 - 21:53
vet hospital - http://www.vet-hosp.com/ - and nad al sheba- http://www.nadvethosp.com/contact.asp - vets both have emergency numbers on their websites; Safa vets refer to Nad al Sheba - http://www.safavets.com/site/view/193898_Emergencies.pml Vet hosp and NaS both have good reputations.
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Latest post on 24 October 2011 - 21:29
and yes, although I'm remembering over 20 years ago, it sounds very much what ours did! hopefully someone with more experience will be along soon.
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Latest post on 24 October 2011 - 21:28
Have a look at http://www.dog-world.com.au/dog-giving-birth.htm - or google a bit more - sounds to me like things could be starting to happen, this tells you what to expect (and when you might need to call a vet) - though can't help you on the vet bit, I can cross my fingers for you that you won't need one :)
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Latest post on 24 October 2011 - 20:58
when our (then new, rescue, no idea she was pregnant....) dog gave birth when I was young, the signals (with hindsight!) were her rushing around trying to dig nests under beds and other such places - it was 'different' enough behaviour that I am sure you would notice..... is your dog one of the breeds who has trouble giving birth? don't get the impression that vet assistance is normally required, otherwise
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Latest post on 22 October 2011 - 22:17
you could try YalaGo - new site that is supposed to help you access deals elsewhere on the web (but haven't tried it yet) - http://www.yalago.com/en
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Latest post on 11 October 2011 - 20:31
if you have had ***, and you weren't both virgins (or haven't remained entirely faithful) you can be pretty sure you have it.
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Latest post on 28 September 2011 - 22:36
Do you mean as in Emirates Airline's own clinic? If it is then I gues that must be a fairly new thing as when I worked for them (and was single) they dished out contraception like sweeties (and the depo jab as that is what I used to get), but I think they thought better that than a load of pregnant trolley dollies... If they start insisting on letters from husbands then sadly there is likely to be a few sudden leavers! It's not a new rule, it came in a couple of years ago, and it is a law thing not an Emirates Clinic thing. What could be happening is the law is actually now being enforced so people (docs and pharmacists) are having to comply. It was discussed a lot on here at the time - was seen as AUH making a statement....!
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Latest post on 26 September 2011 - 15:31
| wanted to keep DD rear facing as long as possible, but at about 20 months she started being very car sick even on fairly short trips, and decided in the end to go with moving her to face forwards which fixed the issue, much as I didn't want to.
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Latest post on 24 September 2011 - 22:33
Sorry nothing helpful to add but wanted to say how sorry I am for your loss.
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Latest post on 24 September 2011 - 22:28
My kids went to Yellow Brick Road, which I was reasonably happy with but had those little niggles - TV watching, kids learning 2nd-language-style English, all the classes apparently producing identikit art (including random crafted items coming home, including ones you had to pay for, that had absolutely not been produced by a 2 year old), the odd sign of dottiness from management, etc - then moved, triggered by management switching from dotty to completely lunatic over a particular issue (no direct adverse affect but made me doubt ability to make rational decisions, which isn't what you need in the people responsible for your kids). Anyway, switched to Emirates British in Mirdif like Alicia and was really very happy - missed the lovely garden and the cooked meals, but can't have everything. Didn't entirely get away from the identikit art; though DS's class was not bad at this (teacher told me it was down to having a Sri Lankan TA rather than Filipinas, who knows?). Out of three classes in two years, I was very very happy with two of them, and although I was less happy with the third class/teacher, there were a lot of things completely outside her (or the nursery's) control that I am sure contributed to that - and DD was happy, which was the main thing :) If you're having doubts - you can always look around now; it isn't a once and for all decision, there are lots of options, but yes there are bound to be unpredictable niggles - and what one parent likes isn't going to be what another one wants; I queried in both nurseries why all the letter and number stuff at very young ages (under 2??!!); of the people I discussed it with, while those with experience elsewhere understood the concern, they all said there was a lot of parental pressure to cover such things.
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Latest post on 11 September 2011 - 21:31
Nigellas in Domestic goddess http://www.nigella.com/recipes/view/banana-bread-142 edited by Princess_I on 11/09/2011 ooohh.. sounds easy.. do you happen to know if the soaking in rum bit is compulsory? Being muslim i omit that bit and just soak the raisins / sultanas in hot water :) fab!! thanks!! :) haven't tried this but have often seen soaking in orange juice suggested as an alternative when raisins are meant to be soaked in rum - though warmth would probably help too. You could try anything really, it is the liquid and not the alcohol which is needed.
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Latest post on 10 September 2011 - 21:43
For DD1 (born 2008) didn't need an attested marriage certificate, for DD2 (born 2010) we did. ooh there you go; they are so random here....
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Latest post on 10 September 2011 - 21:35
Are you sure? only because I have never had my marriage cert attested, and was able to register both my kids no problem (06 and 07).
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Latest post on 08 September 2011 - 15:07
My original choice was Buddy which was my pets name but it was taken. My second choice was desert rose(which i love) which was also taken...then couldn't be bothered and just thot of barbie doll. Am concious of how I look & dress, but am nothing close to a barbie doll..lol!!! would have to be a very sophisticated barbie :)
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Latest post on 07 September 2011 - 21:13
One thing I struggle to get my head around is the fact that many British curriculum schools here pride themselves on being 1 year ahead of schools in the UK, and yet when people return there they claim that their kids are behind. How is that possible?? err, they lie?
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Latest post on 10 July 2011 - 20:03
thanks to those providing dates - very reassuring!
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Latest post on 10 July 2011 - 19:42
Very routine driven.
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Latest post on 06 July 2011 - 19:45
thanks sorry you have mail
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Latest post on 05 July 2011 - 15:59
Di sweetie, it isn't a pearl of wisdom, it is pure physics - how the thing works.
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Latest post on 05 July 2011 - 15:47
Just for the avoidance of any doubt, Didxb, I didn't call you nonsense, I said the advice you are giving is nonsense. It was in no sense intended to be taken as a personal insult; I didn't realise English isn't your first language, sorry. You were the one who raised issues of shower frequency, not me. [b'>NOT IN A PERSONAL CONTEXT TO YOU[/b'>[u'>[/u'> I wouldn't have thought that the issue of what is a more energy efficient approach is a matter of opinion, rather one of fact. Incidentally, you didn't answer my question about the kettle. OMG I did not respond on your scientific theory regarding the kettle. But FYI I do not heat my shower water in a kettle, it really would take way tooo long. well, you do; an immersion heater is effectively a large kettle.
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Latest post on 05 July 2011 - 15:35
Just for the avoidance of any doubt, Didxb, I didn't call you nonsense, I said the advice you are giving is nonsense. It was in no sense intended to be taken as a personal insult; I didn't realise English isn't your first language, sorry. You were the one who raised issues of shower frequency, not me. I wouldn't have thought that the issue of what is a more energy efficient approach is a matter of opinion, rather one of fact. Incidentally, you didn't answer my question about the kettle.
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Latest post on 05 July 2011 - 15:08
I copied and pasted the advice for you. In the body of the post. And there are several other similar sources which say the same thing - but hey if you want to believe you're right, don't let me stop you; am just concerned at you convincing other people of the same nonsense. This is a public forum and everyone is free to express and hold thier views, so perhaps you can respect that and refrain from being offensive to others simply becasue they have views you dissagree with. edited by Di@DXB on 05/07/2011 err, right, who was the one who was being offensive? If you can provide any reputable support from your views, or any actual science behind them, I'd be interested to hear them - but please note I'm not casting aspersions on how often you shower or anything else; I'm just finding it difficult to debate the issue when you are not reading what is said.
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Latest post on 05 July 2011 - 14:01
an immersion heater works just like an electric kettle, by the way - a heating element in water (looks more like the old ones, where you can see a curly element). Do you leave your kettle on all day because it takes less energy to boil water than to keep it boiling?
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Latest post on 05 July 2011 - 13:59
I copied and pasted the advice for you. In the body of the post. And there are several other similar sources which say the same thing - but hey if you want to believe you're right, don't let me stop you; am just concerned at you convincing other people of the same nonsense.
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Latest post on 05 July 2011 - 13:55
OK, so why does the UK National Energy Foundation (for one) say that this is a myth? <<3. It's wisest to leave your immersion heater on 24 hours a day MYTH This one is easy. It is always best to place the water heating on a timer, as the energy lost from a hot water tank depends on the temperature difference between the surface of the tank and its surroundings. It's a common myth that it somehow takes more energy to keep heating up a tank than to maintain it at a high temperature. Of course, as with all the urban myths on this page, there are a few "ifs" and "buts". If the tank is highly insulated (so standing losses are very low) and there is an effective thermostat on the tank, then the losses through leaving it on can be much reduced. And some people have a need for large quantities of hot water all day long, in which case they may have no alternative to leaving the immersion heater on. But in general, it is much better to install a timer - a heavy duty one, suitable for immersion heaters, should cost less than £20 and if you can fit it yourself safely, could pay for itself in a few months: an excellent energy efficiency investment. >> http://www.bath.ac.uk/estates/energy/The%20National%20Energy%20Foundation%20-%20Energy%20Advice%20-%20Saving%20Energy%20-%20Urban%20Myths.htm I am referring to the kind of heaters I and most people usually have here in Dubai which do not have timers and are not well insulated nor energy efficient appliances. Exactly. Did you actually read the advice above? What we have here in Dubai are immersion heaters (so, as discussed) don't have timers (so you have to be the timer yourself and switch them on and off) and the tanks aren't well insulated (so the caveat that the extra energy used by having them on all day is minimised doesn't apply). I.e. it uses less energy to switch them on and off as required.
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Latest post on 05 July 2011 - 13:39
OK, so why does the UK National Energy Foundation (for one) say that this is a myth? <<3. It's wisest to leave your immersion heater on 24 hours a day MYTH This one is easy. It is always best to place the water heating on a timer, as the energy lost from a hot water tank depends on the temperature difference between the surface of the tank and its surroundings. It's a common myth that it somehow takes more energy to keep heating up a tank than to maintain it at a high temperature. Of course, as with all the urban myths on this page, there are a few "ifs" and "buts". If the tank is highly insulated (so standing losses are very low) and there is an effective thermostat on the tank, then the losses through leaving it on can be much reduced. And some people have a need for large quantities of hot water all day long, in which case they may have no alternative to leaving the immersion heater on. But in general, it is much better to install a timer - a heavy duty one, suitable for immersion heaters, should cost less than £20 and if you can fit it yourself safely, could pay for itself in a few months: an excellent energy efficiency investment. >> http://www.bath.ac.uk/estates/energy/The%20National%20Energy%20Foundation%20-%20Energy%20Advice%20-%20Saving%20Energy%20-%20Urban%20Myths.htm
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Latest post on 05 July 2011 - 13:21
Please don't switch on and off your water tanks, it makes no difference to your bills. :) Actually it does makes adifference, if you keep switching the heaters off and on it is usually more expensive to do that than to leave them on all the time. It takes a lot of electricity to heat up a tank from cold as oppossed to the heater being on and it just keeping the water up to temp with occasional boosts of power. edited by Di@DXB on 05/07/2011 If you google it, you will find many many reputable web sites dismissing this as a myth - on the same principle, you don't keep your kettle on all the time. Far better just to heat up when you need it (though why water heaters NEVER seem to come with timers here escapes me - have wondered about the possibility of putting them in!)