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Latest post on 12 April 2015 - 18:24
can anyone please tell me what the going rate for a filipino live in house maid is these days? Are others really paying 2500 and more? am i being cheap at 2000 plus benefits, and the normal visa, ticket home yearly, weekly off etc..
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Latest post on 10 November 2014 - 15:12
Hi Emmy Lou, are you able to email me with your details and i'll pass them on to her. my email is steth 81at g mail. many thanks
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Latest post on 10 November 2014 - 15:10
thanks Singarosa, just spent the last 20min thinking there was something wrong with me :confused:
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Latest post on 06 November 2014 - 21:55
hi ladies, a friend of mine is looking to meet some mums with young children (under 5) so that she and her son can socialise with others. any suggestions where she can go to meet people. she's quite shy so preferably somewhere thats not too overwhelming. she's had a bit of a hard time of it of late and needs a social outlet. thanks for any advice that you can give. xx
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Latest post on 15 June 2014 - 21:24
any recommendations for hot pot restaurants?
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Latest post on 15 June 2014 - 21:24
any recommendations for hot pot restaurants?
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Latest post on 13 June 2014 - 20:46
I may be completely wrong as have never had to deal with divorce, but if I'm not mistaken, once you start the process here, you are subjected to local Islamic laws. I believe that this also applies to expats who are not muslim. I was told by my embassy many years ago when i arrived (not that i have any intentions on leaving my husband as we are happily married), as a cautionary piece of advice that, if i was to ever want to go down such a path i should begin the process in a western society, and in addition if children where involved to have their visas in my countries passport as opposed to my husbands. Again (as i said earlier) i'm not sure, i may be completely incorrect but was also told, in islamic law, husbands get priority to children when it comes to divorce. i think they can stay with the mother till a certain age but then the mother losses her rights to the child/children. May be something to look into if your not from this region/religion before you start the process. understand that you may just want to get out of an unhappy and frustrated marriage, but know the rules first. For those of you who know better, please don't jump down my throat if i am incorrect! This is what i had been told. i don't wish to start an argument! wish you all the best
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Latest post on 05 June 2014 - 20:35
it certainly can't hurt to try. it doesn't happen over night but if you stick to it, it should work after a period of time. it's also benifical for so many other things. id give it a try. good luck.
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Latest post on 05 June 2014 - 20:20
do you have any idea how pool maintanence works? do they need to be cleaned weekly, monthly and if so can i do that myself or would i need a pool person?
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Latest post on 26 May 2014 - 18:02
consider spending up to dhs 350,000, or there a bouts (i hate the idea of spending so much money on rent!). we're looking for a minimum of a four bedroom plus maids room (ideally a five bedroom) and as mentioned a large yard. would love a space for a home office also but if the rooms are large enough happy to turn the master bedroom into an office space also. as for areas we like: jumeira, umm sequim, safa park area etc…. (would also consider the palm, but don't think we'd want to go further than that) areas we don't want are mirdiff, motor city, jumeria villa triangle, or anything else too far out. never thought i'd consider a four bedroom house to be not enough, but i look at it as follows: the boys share a room, baby needs a room, plus master and we need a guest room (we seem to have people staying with us constantly be it family or DH work people) then include home office and maids room. saying all that though, if someone thinks they have a villa worth looking at i still would. many thanks xx
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Latest post on 25 May 2014 - 22:29
thank you ladies for all the advice, sorry didn't reply earlier, unfortunately DH came home from a work trip last week with strep throat and passed it on to all of us. have taken on all the advice you ladies have given, and am slowly getting somewhere with the routine. i now start my babies routine around 5.30ish - 6pm which allows me to feed the boys in the kitchen whilst i bath her in the baby bath. my only problem is all my children wake up early, by 5am the day starts. my youngest wakes for a feed around midnight and then again around 3am, from there it goes down hill as she suffers congestions so i end up holding her most of the morning. my eldest on the other hand has always been an early waker ( 6.30 is a considered a sleep in!) refuses to stay in bed though. and my middle child seems to be going through something so don't even now what to say about his sleep at the moment, be happy if he sleep past 4am! does anybody have any advice how to keep them in bed past 5am??? TIA
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Latest post on 25 March 2014 - 14:57
could see where you could think that, but nestlet gave me a number that supply the 500ml water bottles to stores, but there not picking up.
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Latest post on 15 March 2014 - 21:31
try calling, Lorna Butler,she's a professional hair and make up artist. she did my wedding for both hair and makeup including my ten bridesmaids!!! she was wonderful, you can see her work on her website www.lornabutler.com or give her a call on 0503807059. she's also done lots of work on celebs!!
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Latest post on 15 March 2014 - 18:46
is this lady still available?
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Latest post on 14 March 2014 - 23:00
sadly i still offered her the job, but told her i was not willing to give her the trial day. she could either take the job or leave it. unfortunately I'm not in a position to be choosy. DH is out of town till the 22nd on a work trip, my current (and wonderful) maid is leaving for the Philippines on sunday for a two week trip and I'm due to deliver my third baby in about two weeks. i need help with my 2 and a half year old and 15month old. without family around my hands are tied. have been looking for someone for over a month, and the demands I've heard have been ridiculous. and that for the people who have actually shown up for interviews. can't even tell you how many people don't pick up there phones, or call to tell you there no longer coming. one of my favourite responses was "i'll text you if i can come to the interview'! have started to lose all faith in the filipino community!
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Latest post on 14 March 2014 - 22:30
sorry adooli, but she's already found a job. wish you all the best in looking for someone. i know how hard it is. i offered the job to a lady today only for her to turn around and say she wants a trial day(which i don't mind doing) but that she wants 35dhs an hour and she'll let me know at the end of the day. am i the only one that thinks this is crazy???
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Latest post on 11 March 2014 - 21:21
HI ladies, if your still looking for a maid i interviewed one yesterday, unfortunately she didn't meet our families needs but i'd be more than happy to recommend her. She about 36years old, filipino, and looking to start asap. She has lots of experience with children (as currently she looking after 3 children between 5months and 7years old). I'm happy to pass on her information if you like, but only if your a nice family. Unfortunately she was abused with her last family (not feeding her, physical abuse such as hair pulling and emotional abuse by being yelled at if not done to 'madams' liking) she was very sweet, with the write family thats friendly she'll be wonderful thanks
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Latest post on 06 March 2014 - 22:13
thanks for the replies ladies buddha, is Tchibo at the outlet mall in dubai? humanitarian, where is Dragon mall, or do you mean dragon mart?
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Latest post on 06 March 2014 - 20:59
does anyone know where i can get a massage table from, and how much they cost?
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Latest post on 12 February 2014 - 11:08
blimey…. is your house maid filipino? i too would be interested in chatting with either yourself or her. please get in contact with me on stet81 at gmail dot com. many thanks
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Latest post on 11 February 2014 - 18:40
would employ her in a heartbeat!!!
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Latest post on 11 February 2014 - 18:15
Mrs.P, thought i was the only one having these issue!!! Have you gotten to the point where they just don't show up for the interview?! You would think the least they could do is call to inform you that they won't be coming, i've not even been fortunate enough for that call. Getting very frustrated myself, I've also been looking for a filipino (who would need to share a room with my current maid) to join my family, but getting nowhere. And like yourself, they are asking for things we would never agree to, such as, staying out at nights. or my favourite one was having her boyfriend stay over! well, thats my rant, back to looking for a maid! all the best ladies.
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Latest post on 02 February 2014 - 22:57
Has anyone ever heard of a maid agency called "Find Your Maid"? If so are they are reputable company? what do you know of them? I'm looking to hire a maid over the next few weeks and after placing an ad on expatwoman this company called me offering me there service (for a fee of course). My question is are they legit or do they just find lades from other sites and claim them as vetted candidates. many thanks
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Latest post on 26 June 2013 - 11:00
yes, we got out housekeeper/nanny from that agency two years ago. she's still with us. we were very lucky in the fact she wasnt like some of the people you read about on these posts. i do believe though its luck of the draw as to the kind of person you get. you get an interview with the maids and then you make the decision to go ahead with the visa process. either way the company still get their money
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Latest post on 18 February 2013 - 22:20
hi, i'd be happy to recommend the sister of my house maid (who is currently staying with us). i've had my current maid for the past two years and thankfully never had any issues with her. she's also never comes to me with any of her personal problems or asking for cash advances (unlike some of the stories i read on this forum!). she'd be best in as a full time maids position, but happy to work with kids also. She would want to start as soon as possible so happy to meet for an interview at your earliest convenience. Looking for someone that will treat her well and not take advantage. If interested drop me an email at steth81 at gmail dot com, and can take it from there. Hope this helped xxx
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Latest post on 18 February 2013 - 19:49
Hi, I may be able to help, let me know if you would be interested. Currently my maids sister is visiting Dubai, but whilst her is looking for a job. Are you looking more for a maid who can help with the kids or a nanny that can do some cleaning?
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Latest post on 10 October 2012 - 11:22
we went through an agency called majestic nannies, they have a long list of people that you can choose from, just let them know what exactly your looking for and they will send you a bunch of cv's of people they think will suit your needs. when we interviewed we said we wanted a full time maid (as rate started at 1400) that would assist me from time to time with my new born son, so she needed to have experience with children also.(i think nannies start at 2000dhs now) rates may have gone up in the two years since. you can however offer what you like once you like someone, its up to them if they are willing to take what you are offering, however if the lady is willing to take what you offer you still need to pay the agency the original price as they take a one time fee. our maid joined us a month before i delivered so was able to train her in the way i wanted things done, and also got to know her. once the baby arrived all she wanted to do was help with him. we were extremely fortunate that the first person we went with worked out for our family. she's a great house maid whom i trust completely looking after my son. and she doesn't bring any of her personal issues to the table. do be firm however with the salary otherwise you will find that they keep coming back to you wanting more! just be careful as they know how to work western families as they think we are soft!! be firm at the interview as to avoid issues later down the road. good luck
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Latest post on 10 October 2012 - 10:55
also was told about that recently, would be interested also but sorry dont have any info on it. maybe someone else can help?
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Latest post on 10 October 2012 - 09:57
hi just upgraded my nespresso machine last week. purchased the latest one they had which is the lattissima+ and couldn't be more happy with the machine. sarah joy: I watched the video on you tube (all 25min!) that you posted and from the look of it, i'm much happier with the one i got. Personally speaking if i need hot water for a tea or hot chocolate i rather just boil the kettle, so the water function is something i don't need. i can also live without the cup warmer (i just heat my glass from my hot/cold water dispenser or tap). Lastly it makes no difference with me where the water tank is located, but i do refill it at least once a day as we drink lots of coffee. Everything else is the exactly the same. As for the price tag 2700Dhs moose: you can get the capsules from the store. if you purchase more than ten boxes at a time, they do free delivery to your door. hope this was helpful xx
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Latest post on 30 September 2012 - 21:16
hi, can anybody recommend a safe car seat for toddlers, looking to purchase one asap. have been told by many people not to go with maxi cosi brand as there not very breathable and the child sweats a lot. can anybody tell me what they use and if it has good safety record. many thanks
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Latest post on 25 September 2012 - 23:12
dangerous blond: happy to hear that your test went well. was shocked when i was told my test went well, have been so unhealthy this time around that i was sure they were going to tell me i needed to change my diet! as for nine medical centre, thats where my doc is. felt odd going there the first time as thought it was a spa or something but know i like the fact that its not so clinical. was with Dr Amir for my first pregnancy and couldn't have been happier with him. and doctor george it wonderful, one of the best at what he does. Lonely in DxB: welcome to dubai! know this place can be tough at first but once you've made some friends it does gets easier. i've been there and to be honest i still get home sick every now and then as have no family closer than a 16hr flight away. if there is ever anything you need feel free to get in contact with me on steth81 at gmail dot com,even if its just for a chat. would be happy to meet up if you like also, but can organise that off of the forum. i to am due on the 9th of december with my second son (so most likely going through similar experience. had my first son in dubai 15months ago and was extremely impressed with the delivery team/ midwives/ nurses at city hospital. the delivery team were wonderful, was a little dissapointed with the post natal care though, but think they were over worked on the weekend i delivered as they had 17 other woman in there at the same time (which i was told was not the norm). will most likely deliver there again though as was still happy with there care. hope everyone is doing well xx
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Latest post on 24 September 2012 - 20:25
Hi ladies,congratulations to you all. hope everyone is feeling well. haven't been in this section for a while and was happy to see that there was a december group! i too am expecting to deliver dec 9th if all goes to plan. have been told that the second one often comes early, so its anybodies guess. haven't really given this pregnancy much thought as am always busy with my DS number one, but of late i've started to get excited with the thought of another baby boy. lately however have been having sharp stabbing pains on my right side. has anyone else been experiencing these pains? don't remember having them the first time around.
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Latest post on 23 September 2012 - 20:22
proudmama012, could you go into any more detail? quizzme, did the lack of out door nature not bother you?
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Latest post on 22 September 2012 - 18:47
Can anyone give me advice on which is the better of the two. Kids island nursery or children's oasis. I like the curriculum of one but love the outdoor facilities of the other. Can anybody give me any advice at all?
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Latest post on 19 September 2012 - 19:54
my DH and i are celebrating our wedding anniversary next month ans was thinking of doing something similar. have decided to book us in to the One and Only on the palm. its more modern than the other branch.
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Latest post on 14 September 2012 - 20:05
thanks for the link, will look into it
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Latest post on 13 March 2012 - 21:15
hi, can anyone help? I'm looking for a professional who can give a foot massage at home for my husband. wanting to surprise him. can anyone recommend someone. many thanks
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Latest post on 13 August 2011 - 21:44
Thankyou for all the advice given. I'm still not sure how i feel about leaving my DS to cry, even though i don't have any problems listening to him (not sure if thats a good thing or bad!) i do worry about the consequences where attachment is concerned both short and long term and if it may cause any developmental problems. For now i think i'll just continue to work on sleeping cues with him and focus more on routine. I would like to say thankyou to kiwispiers for not naming the person, if it is in deed the same person i'm talking about. I cant comment in regards to the advice about 20/5/20 as i don't know what the latest updated information is on this subject, but i can say that all the other advice that i have been given has been wonderful and has work for me and my DS. She has also made me feel more comfortable with how i'm dealing at being a new mum. If i ever have any issues or concerns she has always been a phone call away, and for that i have been grateful. I would definitely recommend her to others, after all, any information and advice given should should always be questioned, no matter whom it comes from. In the end of the day parents should only do what they feel is right for them and their child. Again many thanks to everyone that replied.
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Latest post on 13 August 2011 - 11:50
ok, so made appointment with the doc, so fingers crossed she'll be able to help. will let you know how things go. thank you for all the support xxx
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Latest post on 10 August 2011 - 22:41
Thanks for all the support ladies, it might sound bad but i'm happy not to be the only one going through this. You are now my new role models! Am giving myself till three months, if i'm still having the same issues then i'll speak to my husband again about putting DS on formula (not that hes going to have a choice at that point, unless he wants to take over breast feeding, but at least he can feel as though he's had a say) To answer your question designbabe originally i was expressing all the time from my right breast whilst my nipple was bleeding (as no blood was going in the bottle so i could give that to DS) whilst feeding him from my left. Once my nipples healed i started breastfeeding day and night from both, but continued to express when i could. With the milk i was able to express i was also able to let my husband do the dream feed (however it would take me all day to get that one bottle) but i always felt better cause at least i knew he had eaten well. Because i was expressing i could see how much was coming out, i started to worry my breast were and still are not producing enough milk. For example from one breast i might be able to get out 90ml and from the other only 15ml. (which originally it was the other way round). For this reason i'm not sure if he's eating well. between feeling my breast is empty (except for the lumps caused from the blocked ducts) and not knowing if he is using the nipple shield as a dummy (which now he's also pulling my nipple through the holes, so again i'm not sure if he's getting milk from the breast!) and also stressing about all this (which they say stress reduces milk supply!) Is it any wonder i'm worried? Was told by my LC to take the alfalfa. she informed me it does not increase milk supply but enhances the quality of milk. Now i'm still feeding everyday but been trying out new ways to feed DS. For example will give expressed milk during dream feed and another bottle at next feed to see if he will sleep better cause he was constantly falling asleep on the breast. Again this way i reasured that he has eaten well and puts me at ease. I do try and remove the nipple shields during feeds to see if we can go without but i'm still not good at latching him correctly so it ends up hurting me further, so i then go back to the shields BCF / FRANCES - thank you for the information and contact details. Am already working with a LC, she was the one who spotted the tongue tie, but she said it was to slight for something to be do about it. either way will call Dr Delphine tomorrow and see what she says. maybe she can be of some help. will let you know how i get on again many thanks for the support :)
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Latest post on 09 August 2011 - 22:26
Many thanks for the reply Unfortunately i have tried all of those suggestion. in the past 6 weeks i have milked my child in every hold possible including from on top (felt very much like a cow being milked!). he doesn't always manage to suck them out, even if i massage/push on/ pressure on the area during feeds I also on a daily basis: -before feedings i'm putting on a hot press, -after feeding i'm putting on a cold press -i also wash my breast with Epson salt and warm water after a feed -i clean my breast with vinegar water (due to nipple thrush......which i never knew existed) -i use daktaren cream for the thrush -on top of that i put on lanolin (?) cream to help with the cracked nipples -i also take 4 tablets of lecithin a day which is meant to help with the blocked ducts -i'm also taking 3 alfalfa tablets a day to enhance my milk (not to mention my multi vitamin and extra iron tablets) In addition to all of this i also have to use nipple shields as DS never latched properly (been told due to a tongue tie) however whilst in hospital i was never shown how to latch him properly. Every time i called the nurses to ask for help they would tell me he was latched correctly (he never was). he was only taking in the nipple, finally when the LC would come and see me, id have just finished the horror of feeding, non the less she would try to latch him after a feed which just further damaged my already cracked nipples. by the time i got home my cracked nipples turned into bleeding nipples (talk about painful and scary!) so then i started expressing. I feel as though my breast are empty all the time but for me to be getting blocked ducts must mean i'm doing something wrong. i want to be able to continue breastfeeding but at this rate it looks to be impossible. due to this reason i don't want to have any other children! before anyone suggests formual, my husband doesnt want me to give that as long as i can still breast feed!
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Latest post on 03 August 2011 - 13:19
thanks, might try calling the number they have for the priest, will hope for the best
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Latest post on 19 June 2011 - 15:20
thanks for the advice ladies, was praying i was just being to sensitive or being petty. have never been good with laying down the law! my DH been away with work for the past 10days but normally he lets me know when im being to soft with her. otherwise he gives me the strength to speak up a bit more than normal. wishing he hadn't left me alone with her so soon. will try speaking to her later today as i would rather deal with the problem sooner than later. many thanks again xxx
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Latest post on 07 June 2011 - 10:06
Try majestic nannies, they are based in Abu dhabi but have a large variety to select from. They are however mostly philippino ladies. If I'm not mistaken for nannies they charge anywhere from 2000 - 4000dhs but you can negotiate a lower price for the nanny (the agency however will not drop there finders fee) they also have house maids and they start from 1500 a month who may also have experience with children. Hope that was helpful
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Latest post on 10 May 2011 - 15:02
thanks ladies, will keep an eye out for them next time im at the supermarket
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Latest post on 09 May 2011 - 21:15
thanks for all the advice ladies, will certainly go into this cautiously! spongemonkey: thankfully she's not from the Philippines so that gives me a little more peace of mind :) will let you know how it goes many thanks
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Latest post on 09 May 2011 - 19:43
spngemonkey, what nationality is this lady you are referring to? At this point i've only had the one telephone conversation (which as i mentioned went well), will be meeting here during the week for the formal interview with my husband. Have asked here to bring here cv / references with. She's told me that her current employer is fine with her looking for another job, as their not willing to increase her pay, but will certainly speak to them before we offer her the position. This is why i think its to good to be true. Its so hard to find a good helper when you have one would you really let them go?
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Latest post on 09 May 2011 - 16:13
thanks sababy, not to sure what the process is once we have found someone, glad you mentioned that. Hope she is what she seems!
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Latest post on 09 May 2011 - 14:39
hi ladies, been advertising for the last couple of days for a maid, just got a call from someone today and seems to be to go to be true! she was friendly, flexible, met all my criteria, and willing to learn. will meet her during the week for a formal interview and will call her references when given to me? she's leaving her current employer cause their not willing to increase her salary. how do you know when your being played or just lucky?? TIA
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Latest post on 12 April 2011 - 13:17
some good ideas but unfortunately he doesnt like doing active things, could never get him to any of those places, beg him to take me to concerts but he complains they start to late! hes constantly working (blackberry worst invention ever!) so when hes home he just wants to relax (dont even go out for dinner as he's to exhuasted. as for weekend away he works those too but might be able to organise something through his PA! i hate trying to think of things for him!