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Latest post on 25 November 2011 - 22:36
Yes, ask away...
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Latest post on 18 November 2011 - 00:04
To be honest I suppose it depends on your child and what their needs are. I toured both schools and met both principals in July this year, and would have chosen Wellington for a few reasons (we ended up at JC which is why we didn't go with either). The teenager (15) I was looking at the schools for needed structure and discipline, and I also wanted a diverse subject choice. At Wellington, the facilities are incredible, along with the subject range - great science labs, music, theatres, art facilities, sports, computers etc. I also took a look at examples of the kids work, and the quality and range of work being produced was incredible. They also had a very good learning support area (which we thought we might need to utilise), and very structured, so strictly adhered to dress codes, behaviour standards etc - which we needed. My concerns with Wellington is that it did feel a little like a business, the campus is huge, and student numbers are large (and were growing) - so I was concerned about just becoming another face in the crowd and getting lost. On the other hand I felt like JESS's facilities weren't as 'good' - but still very good, and the quality of work that I saw wasn't of the same calibre as with Wellington - but keeping in mind the student numbers were far, far lower. I didn't really feel like they had the structure in place to deal with any potential learning issues, as it didn't seemed to be organised in that way. But, the feel of the campus was far more welcoming, the numbers of students far smaller, giving a geniune community feel where the teachers knew everyones name. I would definitely consider JESS for my son (still very young) if he ends up suiting a more relaxed environment because of his learning style and self discipline. Two very different schools, both with pro's and con's but it really does come down to what your child needs, their learning style, and what type of environment is going to get the best of them, and where you feel comfortable. Not sure if that helps, but those were my thoughts on them.
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Latest post on 17 November 2011 - 23:23
Hmm so I can't remember exactly what the problems were (very vague recollection of gates not being secured, and not stair gates, and kids being able to gain access the kitchen). That being said, we take DS (21 months) there every weekend at a certain time (when it relatively quiet), he has DH with him the whole time running around (I am pregnant so I take the time to have a little rest!), and he absolutely loves it. I am not sure if they resolved the issues, but I 'think' the main issues where on the ground level, so it would depend on the ages of your children, clearly you can't watch 3 children at once, but if they are old enough to travel up together into the higher levels of the play area - you just have to make sure you have an eye on them when they come back down to the ground level so they don't wander into any danger areas or out onto the street looking for you. The staff don't really watch out for the kids at all, to be honest often I think they are too scared to tell kids off for bad behaviour because of the reaction from parents - I have often had to tell older kids off in the toddler area jumping off the roof of the little house and nearly jumping onto the poor little crawling kids below, which could clearly cause quite a bad injury. I have seen people ask the staff to stop it from happening, and they dont really get involved at all. Not sure if that helps at all .. the place is usually busy during the day, so I am sure others will have an opinion on how things are now.
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Latest post on 31 October 2011 - 23:15
Congratulations!!!!! That is wonderful news - makes me impatient for number two to arrive! Enjoy your lovely little lady!
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Latest post on 27 October 2011 - 21:49
Hi Ladies How is everyone doing? I haven't checked in for a while. Pingu I am so sorry to hear about the loss of one of your twins. I hope you are doing okay, and that you have a good support network around. Everything is good with me, although I appear to be putting on weight at a great rate now. I had my 20 week scan yesterday - although I am now 21+5 - and while I had a few issues at the hopsital around timing, all was very good, and finally the little monkey decided to be a little less shy so we could finally see what we were having. How is everyone else doing??
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Latest post on 27 October 2011 - 21:39
Thanks so much for everyone's responses. Last time I had DS here, I had all my scanning appointments either in the UK or NZ so never got exposed to these problems. I guess I have to just accept that these things are going to happen with the hospitals, and next time I will call ahead of time, so I have a slightly better idea. I will try and book the first appointment as well, and not the middle of the day, so I am not waiting for all the other bumped patients as well. The upside is that the Customer Services Manager (who is a Doctor??) rang and check that everything was okay today, and apologised again, so I think that is pretty good. I hadn't thought I was particularly hormonal with this pregnancy, but perhaps I am - hence me being less tolerant! Thanks again everyone
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Latest post on 22 October 2011 - 16:37
I know! Such bizarre choices! My husband and I were sitting there, and soon realised that just about everyone that was talented enough and should have gone through were being eliminated... You would think the judges would want to 'stack their decks' so they might win! Clearly Simon has such a strong category - AND now he has 5 girls to win with, and not 4 like the other judges... Will still continue to watch and enjoy it though I am sure!
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Latest post on 20 October 2011 - 21:50
I think the problem is that we all have different expectations of what we want from the hospital and staff, so what I consider to be great, would be a horrible experience for someone else, and vice versa. Clearly it would depend on the actual nurses/duty doctors you get throughout your stay as well - whilst they all work at the same organisation, this doesn't mean they operate the same way! I can say, that if you clearly communicate what you want to the staff, they will do as you ask (well that was my experience) We had DS there nealy 21 months ago now, and I will be giving birth to baby number 2 there early next year. To give you some context about what I wanted, I didn't really want any assistance at all, I had recently lived with a newborn, so I felt quite comfortable with what I needed to do. I did want to leave straight after, but they do make you stay at least one night. They did check to make sure DS was feeding properly, offered to take him and look after him in the nursery while I rested, offer to give him his first bath etc - but we declined, I didn't want him leaving my sight, and wanted to do 'firsts' ourselves. DH stayed the night, the room was fine, it had its own bathroom, and no noises outside the room disturbed us. I did ring and ask for something, and they brought it straight away. The only things that I wasn't that fussed about, was that there ended up being about 5 or 6 nurses/doctors in the room, other than DH and I when I was actually giving birth, considering I was doing all the work, and was quite relaxed about it, and had no complications it seemed a bit over the top. Also they do always seem to be very busy with lots of births happening, they did say they didn't have a private room for us after we had DS, and wanted us to go on a shared ward, but I refused, as I didn't really want to stay the night anyway, I said we would just go home rather than go into another shared ward, so they kept me in a delivery room for a few hours, and then put us in a private room. Overall, my experience is that the facilities are good, the care was professional and they were there if I needed it, not much more we could ask for really, given it is a hospital! <em>edited by TanyaR on 20/10/2011</em>
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Latest post on 19 October 2011 - 21:17
Hi Sam Am happy to catch up with you - My DS turns 21 months shortly, and I am due at the beginning of March - the date keeps on shifting, but I think between 3-5 - having said that, DS came early, so we are expecting the same this time! Anyway, I have another friend who is the same - 23month old DD, and due early March, so we could have a playdate with the current toddlers and catch up about about the 2nd lot! My email addresss is brutis dot mctavish at gmail dot com- feel free to get in touch, and anyone else due in March as well (even if you don't have a toddler!). I am currently working full time, but finish up December time, but in the meantime I have to do catch ups after hours or on weekends...
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Latest post on 18 October 2011 - 22:05
DH is a bike fanatic so we got ours at Wolfies on SZR. We think it was around 150aed (can't remember exactly). But, regardless of where you buy it, I think the most important thing you need to do is to ensure that it is the corrrect fit, that it fits relatively snuggly on your DS's head. We made sure that the straps were adjustable in a number of places. This means at the back (ours has a little dial) to ensure the lining adequately cradles the base of the head. Then you need to ensure where the front and back straps on each side of the head that create a 'v' shape to join in a clip on the side of the face (I hope that makes sense!), that those clips rest just below each ear, and then obviously the front clip that ties the helmet is fully adjustable. Ours has a good amount of coverage/padding, on the pressure points (where the helmet rests on their little heads) for comfort and to ensure no irritation while they are wearing it. Second most important thing, is that it is super styley, so he looks great in photos!!! HTH
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Latest post on 18 October 2011 - 07:43
I looked at a lot of the companies that advertise here in dubai and i thought it was weird that they only stored the blood for 25 years... the american company i mentioned keeps it as long as you pay for it... there are initial fees... but the storage fee is 125 usd a year paid on the babies birthday... for as long or as little as you want to pay for it. I'm delivering at american hospital and CBR has worked with them many times even though they dont advertise here... good luck with finding a place :) It is not at all weird that companies only store between 20 and 25 years, it is because of ensuring the viability of what they are keeping for two reasons. Research is relatively 'new' in this area, they feel that after a certain period of time the quality of what they have cannot be guaranteed. To date, they have only successfully conducted research on the usage of stemcells with samples 25 years or younger, so they don't offer storage beyond this as the stemcells quality might be compromised beyond this time. They don't say it will be destroyed at this point, if research can be demonstrated that it is still useful with older samples, they would then offer to renew the storage date. It is the same with sperm and eggs egg samples they destroy these after certain periods of time due to the samples not being at their best. Plus the usage of stemcell research has mainly been focused on the treatment of children and young adult ailments (although clearly not exclusively) so this is the timeframe focused on. Can I just ask ShannonB I have never heard of the company you mention (obviously because they don't advertise here). If you are paying a yearly fee, what happens if the company ceases to exist? Could they make it your responsibility to find someone else to store your stem cells? I just ask because the other providers I looked at have a contractural obligation to store for period of time agreed, and it would be their responsibility to make alternative arrangements for storage in the event their company cease to exist, whereas undertaking to make a yearly payment plan indicates a year by year contract where the terms can change (this is just standard contract law practice - not unique to this particular company)? Also, do they guarantee a fixed yearly charge, or could their fees change over this time as well, or are they the same for 'life' if this is what they offer to keep the sample for? <em>edited by TanyaR on 18/10/2011</em>
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Latest post on 17 October 2011 - 21:40
Done :)
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Latest post on 17 October 2011 - 21:36
We used Smartcells as mentioned below after doing a bit of research and having a few friends vouch for having good experiences with their service. They had the longest banking time (25 years) - at least at the time we had DS (20 months ago) - They ship the cells anywhere in the world if needed. They gave us great service, actually came in on an EID holiday as DS decided to deliver early so they needed to send out an emergency pack to us. Really clear step by step instructions (it is quite complex what has to be done) but they make the details easy to follow. Sent the file back to us after the collection, along with the holding certificate outlining the quality of the cells retrieved etc. We are due early next year, and will be using them again.
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Latest post on 17 October 2011 - 21:27
Hi SueB I am happy to meet with your friend. I am 5 months too, and know a couple of others who are at the same stage or there abouts - I work full time, live close to Marina (Knowledge Village) and happen to be delivering at Medcare as well (and did with DS 20 months ago). Anyway - get her to drop me an email - happy to catch up with her (if we can both find time! tee hee) and any other mummies for that matter who can't make morning B&B coffee sessions. Tanya <em>edited by TanyaR on 18/10/2011</em>
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Latest post on 17 October 2011 - 21:21
Oh Elnino We have all been there! It is very tough in the first 6-8 weeks as both you and baby adjust to this new life. It is completely normal to be very tired, and feel like you are struggling, but really important that you ask for help if you are finding it a little bit much. Can I just say, I wouldn't be too worried at this stage if your baby likes to stay close to sleep at the moment, at that 6-8 week mark you might like to put in place a bit of a routine. But in the meantime, I remember DS use to only like to go to sleep on me, then I used to transfer him to his moses basket once he was asleep. I suppose we were lucky that he was happy being transfered and being wrapped nice and snuggly, but every baby is different, you aren't creating any bad habits at this point as it is all so new for your little man. If you are 4 weeks on and still having nipple discomfort, and dont feel like your baby (or you!) are getting proper sleep for longer than 30minutes at a time, can I suggest that perhaps you go and see someone to make sure your latch is correct, and make sure there aren't any other issues that might need addressing. Honestly, it is better to deal with these things early on to ensure both you and your baby aren't stressed. I have never used the following person before, but she has been referred on this site many times, and I have friends who have said she is fantastic, and that they wish they had seen her sooner! I intend to use her when number 2 comes along for us early next year if I have any issues post birth around feeding or sleeping patterns etc. Cecile De Scally 050 694 7938; [email protected]. I have just googled her details, so hopefully they are correct! It does get better I promise! But don't be afraid to ask for help from the people around you, here on EW - or the professionals if necessary. Good luck!
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Latest post on 16 October 2011 - 22:26
I second HFH. We went there a couple of weekends ago with our toddler, really good food, nice rooms, lots of things for the kids to do (big outside play area, mini golf - although our DS was a bit too young for this). There are 2 pools as well, one for children, and another 'adults only' pool, so the older visitors can take some quiet time by the pool if they like (along with a drink!) without all the noise of the kids.
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Latest post on 16 October 2011 - 22:16
Al Barsha park is absolutely lovely and has a cycling track around it, you can hire buggies and things as well, so is completely set up for this. Also a few play areas for the kids too - and no charge! It is absolutely lovely! Sorry, you are probably going to ask for directions, but I am hopeless with them, and just went there for the first time last night (driven by DH), but it is near the new big co-op in Al Barsha ..
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Latest post on 09 October 2011 - 22:07
Hi Everyone! Loving all the updates! RE: clothes you can get lots of things here, but as you note, it is more expensive than buying where it is made - I brought a pile of things from John Lewis before I moved to Dubai (not that this is my home country, but the last place I lived before I moved here!) Often, if you buy things on sale here, you basically get it at the price you would pay at normal price overseas... I very rarely buy anything full price now, I stock up whenever I see anything I like! RE: Antenatal classes, it is completely up to you, obviously you want to feel as prepared as possible for when you bring your LO home. I didn't do them first time around because I had lived with a baby for the year before I gave birth, so was comfortable with having a baby around, and the routine etc, I also figured if I didn't know something, I would just google it! However, I think it might also be nice to do if you don't know any other Mummies due around the time you are, so you have people to discuss things with. RE: weight, the Dr's do seem quite obsessed with your weight gain during your pregnancy. I think you just need to be sensible as much as you can, I put on nearly 30kgs last time, I can advise - this is NOT the way to go, as I only had to lose it all in the months after giving birth - very difficult! I get weekly updates from the babycentre website and that sometimes gives an indication of how much approximately you should be gaining. If you are good with calorie counting, you should be eating an extra 300 calories a day, but mainly just try and have a good balanced diet. Try not to have too much sugar (this includes fruits) - I know quite a few woman who have had issues with gestational diabilities, so you have to keep an eye on this, particularly towards the end, I never had an issue with it (even with all my weight gain last time!) but still something to be aware of. Aussiepup, I can't believe you are juggling looking after your DS (particularly when he is having some sleep issues), along with all your study - it is so difficult when your DH is away as well. Fingers crossed you can get some rest - perhaps when he naps during the day? Big hugs, hope you are feeling a bit better soon! So we had our scan last week, our little monkey was hiding, had the umbilical cord tucked between his or her legs.. so we have to wait another couple of weeks to find out what we are having! Cheeky! Other than that, I have been getting migraines once or twice a week, which is a nightmare when you can't take anything! Other than that, still tired, but feeing 'okay'. Anyway, it is lovely to hear everyones updates given we are all going through the same thing! Take care!
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Latest post on 08 October 2011 - 10:54
I think a lot of people find that different nappies suit different children, so you may want to look at different kinds. I would suggest that you look at the size you are using, and make sure the weight of your LO is at the lower end of range (definitely no more than half way up the weight range, in fact, I would say just in the first 1-2 kgs of it) . DS was sleeping through (not every night) from about 6 weeks, and I never woke him, or changed his nappy while he was sleeping during the night, it never bothered him, but his nappies didn't overflow either. I have heard of some people using 2 (doubling up) - but I am not sure if it works though, or if it will be that comfy either! We user pampers premium, and have never had a issue with them at all, but as I said, different brands seem to work for different babies.. Good luck! HTH
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Latest post on 02 October 2011 - 20:29
I think there is a difference between a temperature and a fever, I think a slight elevation in temperature (under about 38ish) can be caused by teeth, but anything over this is a fever and is related to an illness where they are trying to fight something off. My paediatrician has said to me that many people think a fever can be caused by teething, but that this is not correct - which is why I have interpretted what he said to mean the above - rightly or wrongly! If it helps, my DS and a few of his friends have just had a bit of a cold and slight cough, it caused an elevated temp, which was the first thing we noticed - DS got up to about 38.6 max, but he was VERY grizzly, hardly ate anything for 2-3 days - I didn't realise he had a little cold for a day or so into it, when his nose started running, and he got a bit of a cough, so your DS 'may' have something similar (all of DS's friends had the same symptoms). Not sure that helps, but hopefully he is feeling happier soon!
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Latest post on 26 September 2011 - 22:12
I think it just depends on what you 'feel' like eating. My biggest suggestion though, is that you keep on grazing regularly, for me this is what makes the difference, I just have to have what I feel like I can stomach. My last pregnancy, I was all about stodgy things, breads, pasta, potatoes etc, this pregnancy I have been into fruit and vegetables - just completely different. Good luck!
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Latest post on 26 September 2011 - 21:01
There have been a couple of threads on this topic in the past. Dubai (Just Kidding) started stocking rear facing carseats about a year ago - I had been asking about them for quite a long time, and fortunately they arrived just in time for DS to go into one (hopefully they are still stocking them as we will need another one shortly) - otherwise we were considering shipping one, which costs around 250 gbp for the shipping alone. DS has been in it for about 8 months, he is a big kiwi boy (in the very top percentiles for height in particular - taller than his friends who are 6 months older!) for his age, but he is quite happy and comfortable being rear facing - as he doesn't know any different. I am sure he would prefer to be front facing if he knew it was an option! He hasn't started getting carsick yet, but I have always suffered really badly from it (still do) so it may become a problem at some point. The research is fairly 'new' in that I think it has only been out for 3 years or so (I think), so not incredibly well publicised - particularly not here! I think you just work with what you have, at the end of the day, having a correctly fitted and sized carseat is the main priority, rear or front facing, and you make the decision that is right for you and your child, and your circumstances.
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Latest post on 24 September 2011 - 21:32
TanyaR, good to see you back! LONG time! :) How is adorable DS? ( Sorry to Hijack OP) Sorry OP! I was literally just talking about you today, and thinking I must get in touch - will drop you a message! xxx
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Latest post on 24 September 2011 - 21:20
We are with Adnic through DH's work. I arrived in Dubai at about 29weeks pregnant, and had no standdown period, but, you might just have to double check the policy (or company policy) you are looking at. We also had to make sure that the policy we had covered any neo natal care (apparently lots don't), as DS was threatening to deliver very early - he did come early, but nothing requiring treatment - but we were covered with Adnic, so that was reassuring. HTH
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Latest post on 20 September 2011 - 18:03
I interviewed a lady once who did elocution lessons for children but I can't remember if she did adult classes as well. I'll see if I can dig out her contact details. Thank you! I will report back if I find anything else as well.
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Latest post on 20 September 2011 - 17:21
http://www.dubaitoastmasters.org/ Thanks lovely, hadn't thought about that, I will see what he says, I was involved with them when I was in NZ. It isn't so much confidence - because he has quite a big team and has to speak in large meetings, and has had to deliver presentations at a few international forums (and he has been asked back - so he can't have done too badly..hehehe) He actually quite enjoys that, but I think it is more the over the phone and one-on-one when dealing with stakeholders - I have tried to give him a few tips, but I think he would prefer some professional attention.... His work haven't said anything at all, I think it is just something he finds frustrating at times.
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Latest post on 20 September 2011 - 17:14
It has been a while since we had a check in... How is everyone doing??? I am VERY tired, still feeling a bit sick, my varicose veins are popping out, and feet are swelling up - seriously already?!?!?! But otherwise all is going pretty well... Feeling a little guilty I haven't made a single purchase for this little mite yet, but have just splashed out on a pile of new toys for DS! Will have to try and get something this weekend! Anyway, how is everyone else feeling???
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Latest post on 20 September 2011 - 17:07
Hi Ladies DH wants to take some lessons for his work, he has quite a strong kiwi accent and tends to speak very softly which means sometimes at work he feels people struggle to understand him. He has asked me to pop on here :) and ask for some recommendations if anyone has any. Any suggestions????
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Latest post on 27 June 2011 - 18:22
See my previous post on this HTH http://www.expatwoman.com/forum/messages.aspx?TopicID=148324 Thank you! That didn't come up in my search, only one thread from early 2010! Thanks again!
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Latest post on 26 June 2011 - 23:13
I am afraid it is all Pajero's in the UAE. In other countries the Pajero's do have the isofix, but for some unknown reason the ones produced for here, do not. We also have a 2009 model, and were going to get a new model last year if they had started including them, but they haven't. I did some investigating at the time, and asked if they planned to include them in future models, they didn't know if, or when it would happen, so perhaps they have added them, but it has been a good 8-10 months since I last checked it out. HTH
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Latest post on 20 June 2011 - 15:32
Hi, a couple of ladies who live in my building do the same thing. Every morning I come out there are taxi's waiting from them! So I guess it is pretty easy, the number for Dubai Taxi's is:- 042080808, when I have booked before they were very helpful. HTH Thanks!!! And saved me asking for a number!
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Latest post on 12 June 2011 - 12:57
Thanks ladies - this is exactly what I said to DH before it was first submitted (pretend he is our son basically). They would actually have to have a good look at the birth certificate to see we are not his parents, I think the HR team may have over complicated it by pointing out we are not his biological parents. We have all the necessary court documents stating we are his legal guardians, so we really didn't expect a problem at all to be honest. I am pleased to hear that you have had no issues SunDevil, gives me some comfort that we might get this sorted eventually. They are trying a 2nd approach tomorrow, and then have a 3rd approach in mind using connections should it come to that... I shall keep my fingers and toes crossed. Thanks again.
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Latest post on 12 June 2011 - 10:53
Hi Ladies We have recently taken guardianship of our 14 year old nephew. All the legal contracts are in place for the arrangement, and we have been trying to have his visa processed. DH's PRO is usual AMAZING at this, and said it wouldn't be a problem (plus our nephew has our last name already and on his birth certificate, so we didn't think it would be 'too' much of an issue). Anyway, the first application has been knocked back. I 'know' that lots of people here are guardians and adopt children, so I can't imagine this is at all an unusual situation. If you have any experience with this, is there anything special you have done to get this processed? I would really appreciate any tips. I should mention this is being processed out of Abu Dhabi, but I can't imagine there is a huge difference with the process. DH's work are still trying a few other avenues, but they don't have anyone with similar circumstances, so I thought it might be worth asking on here... Thanks in advance!
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Latest post on 11 June 2011 - 23:03
Yes, I got mine at travola for DS's 1st birthday - you are welcome to borrow it. I just did a quick google, and below is the image of the one I have. To be honest the grooves are not that deep, so because I was using quite a thick buttercream icing, I ended up drawing all the detail on, but at least the basic outline was right. http://en.petitchef.com/recipes/name-the-dinosaur-cake-giveaway-fid-221486 <em>edited by TanyaR on 13/06/2011</em>
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Latest post on 30 May 2011 - 23:20
Woo hoo! Congrats! I love news like this - makes me all teary! Will keep you in my thoughts - you make sure you keep us posted! xxx
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Latest post on 30 May 2011 - 21:59
I know, it is a nightmare! I believe this is a step that the Phillipino Government put in place to protect themselves, and was an agreement they made with the Dubai Govt. A while ago they had to bail a huge number of Filipino's working here illegally, and it cost them quite a bit of money. So basically, this step is in place to ensure they can be certain that the people they let leave the country to come to Dubai, are doing so legally, and also that they are earning enough (there is a minimum wage set) that must be reflected in their contract. Unfortunately, it does have to be done in person (you can just send your maid - we took ours, but they are able to do it on their own), and you obviously need the form completed (sorry I am not sure which one of the ones you are looking at), along with a copy of the contract lodged with MOL, to prove her earnings are sufficient enough. Just be thankful your maid is already here - the new rules also ensure that new maids coming to Dubai are over certain ages, and they have to undergo training now as well .. HTH
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Latest post on 29 May 2011 - 22:03
sounds daft but use hairspray. My MIL shared this with me and it works a treat. Just spray it on and then watch the mark fade. Magic. I was a little skeptical, but tried this late this afternoon - thank you! It worked on some of the marks (but not all of them) - the ones it worked on were blue, they have faded quite considerably, so I will keep on trying this approach - lets just hope he doesn't try and take up smoking or he might combust... hehehe. I might try a different hair spray next time, just in case it makes a difference as well. Thanks again, a definite improvement, and the shirts seem to be holding their shape better too ... LOL!!!
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Latest post on 29 May 2011 - 12:49
DH doesn't think there is anywhere here that you can do it - given he is a tri-nerd he is probably right, but someone may know otherwise.... BUT, he did say there is the Dubai Master swimming, but it is at set times, and it is squad training - 40aed a time - btw - the name does not reflect the skill level you have to have... HTH
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Latest post on 12 May 2011 - 18:27
I had this moment a couple of months ago when ours first started - and still do at times. DS LOVES his Nanny, and he also is very fond of the Agency maid that he has seen coming in to clean 3 hours a week his whole life. Even though the maid had NEVER touched him, or done anything for him (until this week that is) when he decided he wanted a cuddle from her, instead of both the Nanny AND I (LOL)! She looked and asked if was okay if she picked him up, I said it was fine, because she is absolutely lovely, she brought him a Christmas and Birthday presents, and he follows her around each week that she is here. It nearly broke my heart the first time I saw the Nanny and DS happily playing together without me, and then of course when he motions for her instead of me. BUT, remember, this is actually what you want, you want to know your LO is safe and HAPPY in their care without you. Seriously, whilst it is gutting to have this happen, this should give you reassurance that they are taking good care of them when you are not around. If he didn't have this reaction you would be worried. I just make sure I take him out of the house without her for particular playdates each week, so I still have my one-on-one time during the week, and then the same on weekends, I make sure they are focused on activities for him. Don't worry, very soon he will start going through the stage of separation anxiety, which means every time you leave the room, shut a door, or godforbid the house, he will burst into tears and throw a fit that he is not going with you ... nothing makes you feel more loved than that. Hugs to you. xxx
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Latest post on 10 May 2011 - 22:21
Here is one I remember replying to, sorry I am in a bit of a rush, but will check back tomorrow if you have any further questions ... http://www.expatwoman.com/forum/messages.aspx?TopicID=143277 HTH
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Latest post on 04 May 2011 - 00:44
I am pretty sure that they do have to provide her with insurance for her visa to be permitted, well, we have to for the sponsorship of ours, and I am pretty sure most of the requirements are the same regardless of whether they are working for an individual sponsor or an agency. I am assuming the maid is Filipino, if you are wanting to contact the POLO office - just double checking in case she is another nationality and you need to contact another appropriate office... To be honest, this is a really difficult one - if you contact the office, they 'should' be able to advise you of the definite requirements for her visa being issued through an agency company. BUT .. then you need to think about what will happen from there - if she goes to her agency and says she knows she has insurance and wants the surgery and won't pay for it - because she knows she must have insurance, and gets the labour office on side to support she has insurance to cover it, the agency may just say, you are not fit for work then, cancel her visa, and send her home untreated... Clearly, I am not saying this is right (or that this will happen at all), I am just pointing out that this might be a sticky situation to deal with, and usually you will find the maids are far too scared to rock the boat anyway to get what they deserve. Personally, I think often the agencies don't like their staff to get treatment because of the days off work mean reducing income to the business ... How long has she been with her agency for? Does she know of how others have been dealt with in similar situations? How long will she have to take off work? Perhaps (with the maids permission) your friend could try getting involved in some way to negotiate a suitable solution, but it will really depend on the agency, and their standard operating procedure around these types of things .... Sorry, this probably isn't any help at all!
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Latest post on 01 May 2011 - 13:01
My 3yr old son got stung 24hrs ago, he said by an ant but now we think it was a wasp sting. The thing is as I thought it was an ant bite I didn't remove the stinger? which all websites say remove asap. Should I try to remove it now or is it too late? He woke up 6am crying saying it was hurting, his finger tip is red & swollen around the sting & there is a small white/yellow dot where the sting went it, my be a bit of puss. Now he says it hurts but other than that seems ok. Will it heal itself with tea tree oil etc or do I have to try to remove the sting? TIA for bee stings apply ammonia for wasp stings apply vinegar Sorry, nadadanada, I hate to disagree, but I am extremely allergic to both stings (to the point of death if untreated) and these treatments are home remedies used to neutralise the venom. However, having being stung 24 hours ago, it is probably too late, and both of these treatments will now just irritate the site. Obviously, completely up to OP, but I would be using soothing, non-irritating treatments at this point. Again, sorry no offence intended in disagreeing! Good luck OP.
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Latest post on 01 May 2011 - 12:50
Quick question, can you actually see the stinger, they are usually actually pretty obvious, and ants don't leave a sting, they just bite as far as I know (someone could tell us otherwise?) The reason you remove the sting from a wasp bite, is because it continues to pulse and put the poison into the affected site, so the faster you remove the less poison your body gets. If there is a stinger in there from 24 hours ago, I am suprised it is still holding on, and it must be drying out, but,if it is there, I would take a moist facecloth or wipe, and wipe across the affected area, usually you flick the sting out to avoid squeezing more poison into the body, but by now I doubt there is much left to have this happen. Just keep the site clean, maybe consider using a insect bite relief product if he continues to be upset. If he was going to have an adverse reaction to the sting, this would have happened by now (swelling is the first sign). So it will just be the site is irritated - and yes wasp stings hurt, and itch as well... HTH
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Latest post on 01 May 2011 - 00:18
bornconfused - seriously just do what you are doing. Unfortunately, I have lost an immediate family member to suicide, so I understand what your friend is going through. It is single handedly the worst experience I have ever been through in my life, and I still to this day struggle with the circumstances surrounding that day, and I am 7 years on. Everyone is so different in how they deal with trauma, but from my experience and what I went through, I can tell you, that at this stage, it is all so very, very raw for her, she won't know what she needs, she will be in a complete whirlwind, and probably won't remember much of the first few weeks - she will be in a state of shock, so you tend focus on little tasks that seem important (for me it was planning every single detail of the funeral). If she is like me, she will be in a complete daze, reliving that day, last conversations - you get what I mean. Speak with other friends or close family members of hers and ask them to keep an eye on her, losing a child to this is devastating - particularly when you don't feel like you have seen any signs, she will be wracking her brain, and second guessing every conversation, disagreement etc wondering if it was her fault, and trying to understand it all. Something she will never get satisfactory answers to. Honestly, what I liked, was my friends and other family members just reminding me, every now and then that they were there for me, and asking if I needed anything. It is a fine line, you don't want someone constantly harassing you, but just the odd message asking how you are, can you do anything, and letting them know you are thinking of them. You will be amazed how many people can't deal with this (or deaths in general), and end up ignoring their friends and family in these situations because they are embarassed, don't know what to say, so don't say (or do) anything at all - which is worse. There is nothing you can do for her, apart from giving her support and letting her know you are there when she does need you. As I said above, I am 7 years on, and while I can talk about it now, it was a struggle for many years, and in many ways still is. It certainly isn't as 'raw' as it first was, but I certainly a gapping hole in my heart that was left by their passing in that way, that makes me feel sick everytime I think of it. I don't know if this helps at all. My heart goes out to her, she is at the beginning of a very long process, and she will need friends like you.
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Latest post on 30 April 2011 - 12:15
Hi Ladies We are bulging in the seams in our villa, with the unexpected addition of a new person to our household. So until we can get a bigger one (a couple of months at the most), we need to get a shed to store some of our things. What is safe to go into them (particularly we are going into summer).. e.g. I have some baby equipment (plastic bouncy machines) can I put those types of things in there? I was thinking of just getting one of dubizzle (given we don't need it for a long time - although I am sure I will find a use for it after...) TIA Any advice greatly appreciated. Tanya
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Latest post on 28 April 2011 - 13:23
Everyone is so, so different, and has completely different expectations of what is the right level of care. What is perfect for one person, may be another persons nightmare. So basing your decision on opinions/experiences of people on a forum where you don't know the people or their backgrounds can be a little dangerous. That said, are you pregnant or just after standard woman's services? Sorry not 100% given you have said you are looking for a 'permanent solution' and after a gynae, so not sure if this relates to being pregnant. So this might not be relevant if you are looking for something else, but I gave birth at Medcare (15 months ago now) and my experience with Medcare was absolutely fine - but to give you some context (what I was looking for) was basically someone to 'catch my baby'. As far as I was concerned I was doing all the hard work, so as long as I was confident that if any issues arose that they would be able to deal with them, I was okay. I wasnt at all expecting an overtly friendly bedside manner, because I was looking for a specialist (not a friend). But to be fair, my Dr (Shiva) was very friendly (although very busy during consult time and a bit rushed), and followed my instructions of what I wanted. I personally know 4 other friends who have had her, and I know a couple more friends who have been at medcare but under different Drs. Everyone has found Medcare to be absolutely fine, a couple of my friends 'love' Dr Shiva, and a couple of the others were like me, happy she gave professional care, and very comfortable that she knew what she was doing, and that was all we needed. For my next child - should I be so lucky :), I will be going back to Medcare, and Dr Shiva.. I hope that helps .. but, I would suggest going and having a visit of the facility. Look at the profiles of the Dr's there, and see what you think you need, and then have a consult - when you do this, outline any concerns you have and what your expectations are from the outset, so they know and work with this. Good luck!
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Latest post on 27 April 2011 - 21:59
Absolutely hilarious!
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Latest post on 27 April 2011 - 21:56
Some excellent advice on here! Just wanted to let you know, my DS was exactly the same - an angel sleeping at night, great feeder, and a grizzlepants during the day - particularly during the 'witching hour' between about 4pm and 7pm when he seemed to scream non-stop. It is so, so difficult when they are like this. Definitely don't be shy about taking up offers of help, it is so difficult when you are isolated and away from family and aren't surround by people with children the same age LO's. Add me to the list of being happy to have you around or to pop around to yours for a cup of tea/coffee.
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Latest post on 27 April 2011 - 21:38
I hope no-one has done this already... Just saw this on a friends facebook status, thought it could be a bit of a giggle... What's your royal wedding guest name? Start with either Lord or Lady (hopefully just Lady on here!). Your first name is one of your grandparents' names. Your surname is the name of your first pet, double-barrelled with the name of the street you grew up on. Mine is : Lady Mavis Mindy-Harlech
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Latest post on 27 April 2011 - 21:23
I am sorry you are going through this. These situations can be very stressful, but I suppose if there is any 'positive' to be taken from this situation, it is that it you are not being singled out, and he is bullying everyone in the office. Clearly not a positive for the office or organisation, but believe me, much better for you. I have quite a bit of experience in this area (not being the bully - hehe) but managing these situations and the outcomes (my background is HR). I take it you are working for a small office not having any HR to back you up, and I am guessing with the GM (as your boss), that he reports to the CEO (or similar) - which I suspect you have limited access to? If this is the case, it could be quite difficult to deal with, unless you do have a good communication link either with the CEO or another manager at the same seniority level of your boss. But, prior to undertaking any action at all, there are a couple of simple questions you can ask yourself before you decide if you are going to try and do anything about this, or now take the time to find alternative work. 1. Have you or anyone else tried to address his behaviour directly with him? If so, what happened (e.g. was the person fired, was he receptive for a while and then slipped back into his old ways, or everyone is too scared to say anything.) 2. Knowing his personality, if you did raise this with him in a non-confrontational way, what do you think his reaction would be? Knowing this, is this the reaction/outcome you are looking for? 3. So what is your ideal outcome is in this situation? What is going to take to make you happy again, or besides him leaving, do you not see anyway that you actually CAN be happy? Basically from the outset before embarking down any road of dealing with this type of behaviour (which is very stressful for you) you need to determine from the outset what your desired outcome is. Then you need to work out if you can actually get that outcome, and do you have enough energy to undertake that action required to get that outcome. i.e. if you can't effect the change you want, is there any point of going through the stress of the process in the first place. I am not encouraging you to give up (far from it), just wanting to make sure you are being realistic in what the likely outcomes will be versus what your DESIRED outcome is and if they match. There are things you can try and do to IF you are dealing with the 'right' personality type, basically this needs to be someone who is open to constructive criticism - and believe me, some people don't realise that their 'communication style' is offensive or bully type tactics towards staff sometimes - and are shocked (and upset when confronted with it). I am not implying this is the situation with your boss, you will know best, but it does happen. It does sound like you are stressed, and you poor husband as well wanting to protect you from this bully, which is only natural, so I think it is definitely a good time to sit down and determine if you will stay or arrange a fast departure from this organisation - assuming you are in the position where you can leave without any contractual/visa impacts? Either way, once you have made the decision of fight or flight - this should give you some peace as there will be resolution at some point. I hope this helps in some way. Good luck.
 
 
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