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Latest post on 18 February 2016 - 10:45
The UK GCSE's are undergoing huge changes at the moment. The exam format is being altered and coursework is being phased out in most subjects. I know that my son, who is going to sit his GCSE's this year, is following a totally different system from his sibling, who is two years behind. The year group in between is in transition, with some subjects following the old system and some the new. You would need to be careful that your son would transition into the same system/exam board in each subject. He would need to to have the correct coursework in place as catching up in a single year would be tough. Starting from scratch could be a solution, but again, my youngest has already begun the science, english and maths curricula in year nine. I guess that it would be possible. Maybe approach schools individually to find out.
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Latest post on 11 February 2016 - 10:27
I know that our British non-profit school made some concessions for existing pupils during the last economic downturn. Certainly worth speaking to the school, though I doubt that there are any official policies or formal methods of approach.
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Latest post on 11 February 2016 - 10:20
"He knew immediately that I would go ballistic " I think that you just answered your own question.
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Latest post on 01 February 2016 - 12:15
I don't know of a regular woodwind band, but you could check out the Arabian Youth Orchestra which has a decent woodwind section. Unfortunately, they only run over the Easter holidays. It might be possible for your teenager to get together with a few like-minded musicians in school and set up their own band. I'm sure that a music teacher would be happy to lend a room and some support. There may also be opportunities to play in ensembles for specific instruments (sax, clarinet, flute etc). Would they be of interest?
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Latest post on 27 January 2016 - 09:55
My mother was a teacher and sports coach. She saw so many injuries with earings (yes, studs covered with plaster too) that she would ever let me get my ears pierced.
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Latest post on 06 October 2015 - 10:07
Just one parent card plus the child's id card were needed at our school. Remember your mobile phone though, they send you a confirmation code which you need to complete the registration.
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Latest post on 31 August 2015 - 10:11
I totally agree with you both. In my case, we also have a lot of stress regarding the stability of my husband's job. At home, if he lost his job, it would be difficult, but we would keep our house, friends, schools and there would still be my income to fall back on. Here, we would have to leave the country and start again. With the approach of children's exams over the next few years, the effects would be terrible. A few years ago I was desperate to leave, but again we were reliant on my husbands job. It is the lack of control that really frustrates me. Our entire way of life is in his hands. Actually, worse than that, it is the hands of an ever changing management team based overseas.
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Latest post on 10 June 2015 - 14:00
Please take this decision away from your daughter and tell the school immediately. It needs to be dealt with professionally so that the girls can be taught how to behave in a civilised manner. This kind of situation can't be dealt with by the victim alone and most schools are very good at giving discrete support. Your daughter may not want to face the problem but I'm sure that she will feel much better once it has been aired. I had a similar episode with DD a few years ago. She tried to hide it from me, lied, and did everything she could to avoid me taking action. But this kind of thing eats away at them, alters their view on the world and she was not the same happy child that we knew and loved. Once we got to the bottom of it, I did tell the school, speak to parents etc and it was dealt with pretty quickly. The relief was incredible and, though it took some time, DD returned to normal. I have no doubt that intervention was the correct thing to do.
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Latest post on 07 June 2015 - 16:31
If anyone can answer the sweets question I would love to see it :) The teachers at DS's school have been strangely quiet on this so far. I would've thought that they would be able to go through the paper with the kids by now.
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Latest post on 07 June 2015 - 16:15
I was actually reading this year's GCSE higher paper maths for a student with extra provisions. The first paper had some really hard questions but then there were also a number of questions that required just required logic and structured thinking. They were okay to answer (I could still remember how to do it, even though I haven't done any maths for the last 25 years :lol:) But my DS who sat his maths a year early, and is very capable at maths, did find the first paper hard as some of the questions were really complicated and took a lot of time for the students to answer. I know the teachers actually thought the first paper to be really hard as well. The second paper, which they did last Thursday, was easier, according to him. The higher paper they did at DS' school (Edexel) didn't have the question about the sweets, so it might have been the foundation paper. The higher tier paper did have a probability question like this one, but I think it was quite do-able. You're worrying me now. The second paper for the higher level Edexel maths is tomorrrow, not a week ago. Please tell me that's true! Also, the Hannah's sweets question was from the higher paper, not foundation.
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Latest post on 28 May 2015 - 13:40
My friend took her nanny of 8 years to the UK on holiday. The nanny got on a train to go to the shops and was never seen again. Well, not quite, they have station CCTV footage which showed her meeting a man and getting into his car. Clearly pre-arranged.
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Latest post on 27 May 2015 - 09:55
Pottery Barn has a sale on just now, most of the beds have about 30 percent off. There was a poster bed but I didn't check if it was in the sale.
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Latest post on 10 May 2015 - 10:41
Yup, not problem for a 4 hour flight and the new airport was a dream. Felt as though it had been built and staffed just for us.
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Latest post on 05 May 2015 - 10:18
Dangerous driving seems to be on the increase again and I cannot understand why when a driver makes an error they don't signal an apology by mouthing it or waving their hand The window tinting situation is very irritating. There is a surprising at amount of communication between drivers in other countries involving nods, shrugs, smiles, waves (and worse). It diffuses tension and improves your understanding of someones intentions. I sometimes feel as if one of my senses has been removed when I am dealing with a blacked out vehicle.
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Latest post on 05 May 2015 - 10:06
I guess that any form of communication only works if both parties speak the same "language". That said, people always tell me that you need to be very direct and rude to get things done here. I've always found that politeness works perfectly well in almost every situation. Maybe my face says more than my words.
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Latest post on 03 May 2015 - 12:56
Oh dear, I think that parents all around the world can relate to your problem. Unfortunately, I think that it only gets worse as they get older. At 10 years old it was relatively straightforward; I didn't buy any devices. We had one family computer in a communal area and one family ipad locked in a drawer. It became impractical at secondary school because so much of the homework was done on computers and their social lives also revolved around Skype etc. Teachers even complain if pupils don't pick up their emails often enough, so we had to accommodate. I then had a running battle with my son for a few years. How can you discriminate between time spent gaming and time spent on homework? They can flick between tabs so quickly and soon learn to clear a browsing history. Then, a breakthrough, my son decided a couple of months ago that computer games were consuming too much of his life. He handed me his ipad and deleted the games on his desktop. I am delighted to say that he joined us is the pool this weekend, has started running again and seems to be on top of his school work at last. I think that computers are extremely addictive. This has been recognised in some countries; parents can now be prosecuted in China for not controlling access. I understand that the pressure is immense, but keep them away from temptation for as long as you possibly can.
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Latest post on 28 April 2015 - 12:17
I don't have any recent experience but one of the reasons we came to Dubai 10 years ago was because we couldn't confirm school places with the education authorities in the UK until the kids were actually living there! Chicken and egg...... sorry I can't be more helpful but I still remember the nightmare experience. We planned to move back a few years ago, but they had just changed the rules to block applications from overseas. We had to have our kids in a local primary school from the Oct before application if we wanted to go through the normal process for secondary school admissions. Our chances of getting a place in the local schools was close to zero. The nearest (failing) school with places, was in a town around 40 minutes drive away and we would not be in a position to refuse. We ended up staying in Dubai. The whole thing was very stressful It is very dependent on where you want to live. I have had friends return to more rural areas with no problem at all, but London catchment is not easy :( Good luck!
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Latest post on 15 April 2015 - 09:47
We went to the Polyclinic at Mirdif to see our regular doctor there when we needed a form filled in and stamped to swim at the Hamdan pool. Didn't cost us anything. Added to say that was 18 months ago. edited by Geordie expat on 15/04/2015 Thanks for that. We also needed the Hamdan stamp, but a friend who is a nurse did it for me. Unfortunately, she is not in Dubai anymore.
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Latest post on 23 March 2015 - 14:26
I have to pass through that chaos every morning too. The best one that I have seen is a car swinging onto the zebra crossing and using it get across both lanes of traffic (including the central reservation), then bumping up onto the curb, driving along the pavement and into the car park area.Genius idea!
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Latest post on 22 March 2015 - 12:54
My 15 year old DS is taking a compulsory GCSE in french next year and I am trying to find a way to boost his chances of getting a decent grade. I had thought that a summer camp would be a good idea. Does anybody have any experience of these? Do they actually work? I have had a look around, but many of them seem very "social". DS would, without a doubt, find an english speaker to hang around with and slope away from any real attempts to learn french. I think that a more formal academic approach would suit better, but I'm struggling to find a school that does this. Any recommendations?
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Latest post on 23 February 2015 - 11:17
If you live in Dubai you've made it in every imaginable way .......... !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! That you live in Dubai because you can't make it anywhere else.
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Latest post on 18 February 2015 - 10:18
There is not generally an age limit on these things, our children have been. I guess it depends on whether the child can behave for the duration and not spoil the experience for others. You are the best judge of that.
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Latest post on 15 February 2015 - 12:28
DH wears his quite frequently for work functions and it has always been received really well. He is always amazed by how many locals have connections with Scotland; gives people a great excuse to come over and chat.
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Latest post on 12 February 2015 - 12:30
To be honest I think the biggest gap in the market for that age group is reliable babysitting services/drop in day care. I think for families who do not have maids it is daunting and scary finding reliable care that I can trust and sometimes I just want to have someone pop in/drop them off for a few hours to get something done and it is impossible. I agree. Playgroups at home were free, but involved a fair amount of input from the parents. I wouldn't pay much for that service because I could just invite a few mums (and kids) round for a coffee instead. The socialisation would be my priority, not fancy equipment and facilities. I would, however, pay dearly for a few hours of time to myself once in a while, if I could leave the children with someone who was qualified and trustworthy.
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Latest post on 09 February 2015 - 15:54
Just out of interest, I tried to find out the A level results for 2014 from the websites of the schools I mentioned. JC - couldn't find them on their website EC - couldn't find them on their website DESC - couldn't get onto their website DBS - really clear and easy to find on their website JC - http://www.gemsjc.com/contents.php?pageid=864 EC - (only 2013) http://www.englishcollegesecondary.ac.ae/academic/exam-information/examination-results-2012 DESC - http://www.descdubai.com/curriculum/examinations/examinations-results-dates/
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Latest post on 08 February 2015 - 17:26
Generally, guitars need to be tuned every time you play them and when you change the strings. Is there another issue such as worn frets or a distorted neck that needs to be looked at? If not, then it would be a good idea to learn to do it yourself. It's part of the musical experience. :)
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Latest post on 05 February 2015 - 11:06
I don't think that there is any benefit to applying early for secondary schools. They don't generally keep long waiting lists in the way that the primary schools do. JC gives priority to GEMS primary schools, so JPS children have an easy entry (basic test to make sure that they have reached the minimum level). It is very hard to get in from a non-feeder school; places are limited. DC is strictly done on entrance exam (though they will look at other aspects of the child, extracurricular activities etc). No priority given to any primary school. DESC - sorry not up to speed, but it used to be fairly inclusive.
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Latest post on 01 February 2015 - 15:28
Take a look at Which School Advisor :) I didn't know this existed! Just had a look and unfortunately its not up to date and there are quite a few inaccuracies/important info omitted about quite a few schools! Pity as could be a really useful resource. Just checked our school, doesn't look as though it has been updated since 2013.
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Latest post on 21 January 2015 - 11:27
Thanks Vic....these school entrances call for intense preparation...do parents start prepping up with tutoring etc. from year 5 onwards or just at the start of year 6...I'm getting a little concerned here....are school teachers providing extra tutoring or you need outside help. edited by Champs1 on 20/01/2015 In my opinion, no, you don't need to do any tutoring and if a child needs to be tutored from year 5 onwards, then it might not be the best school to go for. I have friends who took this approach and saw their child, who came from the top sets at primary school, relegated to set 7 at DC. They are still paying their son (now in year 11) to see a tutor several times a week and are not happy. DC provides great opportunities for bright and talented pupils, but I don't believe that they are particularly nurturing if a child is struggling.
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Latest post on 14 January 2015 - 22:26
Newbie, I have to agree. When the head teacher pitched the secondary school to parents he said that the themed approach to teaching would continue. The example he gave was a school trip to visit an area to study the ecosystem that would involve: Science - experiments on water levels etc Maths - recording and analysing the results English - writing up the report etc For secondary school?? Sent shivers down my spine!
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Latest post on 14 January 2015 - 21:45
Hi Champs, my heart goes out to you just now, it is really stressful, trying to do the right thing for your child. I'm sorry, but my information is a bit out of date because my eldest is now in year 8. and things have undoubtedly changed a lot at Kings' since we left. By the looks of it, you have been offered places at both Kings' and JAPS. You can take comfort in the fact that they are both generally accepted to be good schools. Your decision will probably be based on the specific needs of your child. Broadly speaking, Kings' has not been the place for sporty kids. I am told that there is still some way to go on getting the teams up to the level of JAPS, DESS, JESS etc. Academically, I understand that Kings has had a bit of a push, certainly in the upper years. JAPS traditionally had more pupils, so were able to set children in various subjects. Kings', on the other hand, had a definite ceiling on the teaching level. I'm sure that current parents will correct me on this and give a more up-to-date opinion. My children also commented that they felt that they were behind on subjects such as geography, history and french when they started secondary. It was not a big problem, they caught up quite quickly, and I believe that Kings' now has more specialist teachers. On secondary schools, again, this would depend on your child. If you are aiming for DC, then I genuinely don't think that either school has the advantage. Yes, there was a high number coming from JAPS. That is because it was a bigger school with no automatic feeder. However, at the time we were going through this, Kings' also managed to get about a third of their pupils into the school. The proportions were very similar. I must add that the DC students that we have encountered come from a huge range of schools that are rarely mentioned on this forum, and I believe that the entrance procedure does its best to look beyond the teaching and tutoring that goes on at the primary level. If your children are not academic, then Kings' would have the advantage at the secondary transfer stage. I know parents who were very glad to fall back on that option two years ago. I must add, however, that they have since managed to get places at other schools and moved their children at the start of this year. Tricky. Kings' has a lot to prove, JAPS has a good track record and is well established. I hope that there are some Kings' mums online who can let you know the current state of affairs. Good luck!
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Latest post on 14 January 2015 - 16:31
I remember being told about my father when he got engaged to my mother. He kept a box which contained all of the letters that he had received over the years from his female friends. Because he traveled a lot, it was quite a big box. Anyway, when his mother heard about the engagement, she sent him to fetch the box then tipped the entire thing straight into the fire. Sounds a bit draconian in this day-and-age, but I loved the sentiment and the fact that my grandmother was already looking out for my mum. My husband also had a lot of female friends when we first met but after about a year, there were none left. I didn't have to ask him to drop them, they just didn't seem to fit with our new lives together. We were very much in love and just wanted to be with each other and I guess that the women took the hint and vanished. It was not a one way street; I had male friends too. I remember getting a phone call out-of-the-blue from an old friend (male) from Japan, who had just arrived in London and wanted to go for a drink. I asked DH if would be comfortable with that and he was silent, just long enough for me to tell my friend "no, sorry, not possible". When I honestly examined my feelings about the friendly men in my life, I realised that there had been, in almost all of the cases, some form of flirtation or attraction. None were truly platonic. Anyway, I respected the feelings of the man that I wanted to spend the rest of my life with and have never regretted it.
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Latest post on 13 January 2015 - 16:24
Seems to depend on the school. Ours has no problem with this and charges half the price for one way only. A lot of the pupils use this option.
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Latest post on 13 January 2015 - 09:22
The advice is usually to start with the school, then work the accommodation around that. You can't start looking for a house until much closer to your arrival anyway, and places at the better schools can be difficult to find. There are so many schools to choose from depending on the curriculum you need and the type of education that you are looking for. You will find an enormous range of opinions around Dubai about which school is "best". Have a look at what is available (maybe use the [b'>which school advisor[/b'> website) and narrow your options a bit.
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Latest post on 08 January 2015 - 14:40
It's not actually in a coffee shop, but in a dedicated wargames/comic shop upstairs at the Jumeirah Centre (the one attached to Magrudy's). Nice atmosphere and a lot more clean and comfortable than Park n Shop. <em>edited by Chewit on 08/01/2015</em>
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Latest post on 08 January 2015 - 09:48
My cat is odd about water too. Won't touch it is it's on the floor, but will take it from the sink, the toilet (when we forget to close the lid) and loves to drink my bathwater when I'm having a soak. My cat-mad daughter informs me that cats prefer flowing water and won't drink anything that is placed next to their food. I get the logic behind the flowing water argument, but I'm not sure why they won't drink close to where they eat.
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Latest post on 07 January 2015 - 09:17
I have ordered from them several times and it seems to be a bit hit-and-miss. One of my deliveries didn't arrive for 5 weeks so I contacted them for a refund, which they gave without any argument. The book arrived a week later. When I contacted them to make the payment again, they told me to keep the book as a gift from them. Last time I ordered several books at the same time and one of them did not turn up. Obviously they all had the same delivery address, so I think that the problem may be with customs. I also bought some sheet music from an online music shop in September which never arrived. Wouldn't it be nice if they sorted out the postal system? I miss my postman!
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Latest post on 16 December 2014 - 17:18
PS, to save yourselves stress why can't he just apply after his trip on 12th Jan? Unfortunately, he would be returning after the visa expires. Just to add to the mix, our kids are both likely to be travelling soon after. We need to get the family renewal done ASAP, this can only be done after DH has done his. Just found out that it is a Tecom visa, which does complicate the issue. My concern about doing medicals, typing etc in advance is that DH's passport number will change. Will that not invalidate the documents?
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Latest post on 03 December 2014 - 11:04
It is a really difficult decision that affects the whole family. We ended up staying, which I was not happy about. Several factors influenced us: Our local secondary is very oversubscribed. They changed the rules the year we were looking and stopped any applications for students who were not already resident. Despite owning property within the catchment area, we were not allowed to apply unless our children had been enrolled at a local primary school from the preceding October. We could have managed for my youngest, but the older one would have been in trouble The nearest private schools were over an hour away, very expensive and difficult to get into. Again, one child might get in, but not the other. We considered splitting the family for a time, but nobody was happy with that idea. Both children were happy at their Dubai school. We were happy with the academic levels. So...we decided to stay and accept that DH's career would take a back seat, we would have panic attacks every time redundancies were on the table and that we were stuck for a LONG time. Unfortunately, because of the age gap between our children, there is no good time to move until the youngest completes her GCSEs. My biggest concern, from the point of view of the children, is the lack of freedom that they have in Dubai. Every activity is highly supervised simply because of transport issues. I would prefer them to make mistakes and learn from them now, while we are still here to pick up the pieces. I want them to learn to take responsibility for being on time, catching the bus, handling strangers, avoiding troublemakers in the street and all of the other scary things that are involved in growing up. Oh well, we can only do our best.
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Latest post on 23 November 2014 - 14:38
Only one for me...:(
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Latest post on 14 November 2014 - 13:11
I prefer yummy to nom nom. That one gets on my nerves, though it's probably not strictly a word. My pet hate is "literally" usually pronounced "litrally" and invariably used as a sentence stuffer eg I was so bored, I was, like, litrally climbing the walls. On a separate note, I don't think that anyone really likes moist gussets. Have I gone too far? I was going to add something about yummy men...
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Latest post on 13 November 2014 - 11:31
Oh yes, I remember the trips to New York, the theatre etc. I know one mother who used to get her husband (a pilot) to take the stupid thing away with him to get good shots for the diary. You don't have to get sucked into it. I am sure that Barney would love a trip to Spinneys. And if your child draws a picture of the great outing, that should use up a good page of the book. Passive aggressive is the way to go. ;)
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Latest post on 10 November 2014 - 13:40
A lot of car parks in Europe have implemented a rule of "back in, head out" parking for safety reasons. Carefully reversing into a space makes you far less likely to hit another vehicle than backing into oncoming traffic, or worse into a car park with pedestrians wondering around. Because you steer by controlling the front wheels of the car, not the back, it actually makes it easier to park the car in tight spaces going backwards.
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Latest post on 10 November 2014 - 12:55
Loved the expression "like cumin seeds in a camel's mouth". Never heard that before.
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Latest post on 10 November 2014 - 09:58
Ladymary, I think that you have done really well to hold this off for so long. DD is 13 and already a total nightmare. She can be my best friend, chatting and helping with dinner, then suddenly switch into the "other" child. Nobody can do anything right; she bares the burden of being the only intelligent human in a family that's only aim is to make her life miserable. I was hoping that she would be through it by 17:cry:
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Latest post on 09 November 2014 - 11:37
I agree Daza, It does seem rather strange that she was stood there in front of her teenage son. I think teen boys would run a mile if they saw their mum taking her top off in front of them. Perhaps this woman was wearing a flesh coloured bikini and it looked see-through when wet. I really can't believe someone would be topless in a communal pool (even in Europe it wouldn't be acceptable), they have gotta be a bit dim, or brazen. Chewit so what did you do in the end? edited by Alismum on 08/11/2014 Daza was right, I wasn't outraged on my behalf. For one thing, I didn't even see the woman, and for another, I've done it myself in Europe (not with my teenage kids around). I won't be going round to patrol the swimming pool in case she returns so that I can give her a friendly warning. There are plenty of Muslim families in the compound who will jump all over this if it becomes a regular event. With any luck, it was a one-off.
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Latest post on 08 November 2014 - 14:47
I'm beginning to wonder if it was someone visiting Dubai. It is hard to believe that a resident would be so insensitive. It is sad if we have to resort to posters to remind people to be respectful. Do they even work?
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Latest post on 08 November 2014 - 13:24
Sounds as though you are working really hard with DD at home. It must be frustrating that she can't apply herself to the same degree in school. This ability comes with maturity. Seven is still very young and I can see that a teacher would not want to be policing her productivity to a high degree. At some point she will take responsibility for her own work when she realises how it will benefit her. Incentives can help, but only if the child is ready. We have come to view assessments as a benchmark of our kids status and, in some cases, an assessment of our own parenting. Actually, these test are supposed to highlight potential problems and allow teachers to react appropriately. A poor result would force the school to address the issues that you are worried about. Assessment is your friend...relax.
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Latest post on 08 November 2014 - 12:23
Hi Carambar, I would think that the age of the child and the subject would be helpful. A 10 year old refusing to read would concern me, but a 6 year old who hated singing wouldn't be a worry. If your child is genuinely failing to thrive in a key area of the curriculum then it might be an idea to discuss strategies with the teacher that don't involve them taking time out from teaching the rest of the class. Could you be doing anything to help at home? The teacher responded to the situation in a very defensive way. If you approach for "advice" you might find them more cooperative than if you blame or demand. Of course, maybe this is what you did and the teacher just flipped out, in which case, she shouldn't be in charge of children.
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Latest post on 04 November 2014 - 09:48
I lost weight here, I don't know about all of you, but I find food here to be almost tasteless and very sterile so I'm not a big foodie now. Plus taking the stairs helps I guess. Really ? omg... we love it !! I can't believe someone has actually said this. We have had the most amazing food here. What are we talking about here? Restaurant food? Cafes? Groceries? Local or imported produce? Surely it can't all be tarred with the same brush.