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Latest post on 16 April 2013 - 22:27
Dafodil, you're right no one gives you a book on how to live your married life at the start but sadly its the early days of marriage that can quite often set the tone for the rest of it unless a person sees whats wrong and either changes things from within or they get out of the marriage. I think abuse comes in many forms and thats its a mistake to console ones self with it could be worse because he or she could be an alcoholic or use me as a punch bag. I really hope you get things sorted. :)
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Latest post on 16 April 2013 - 22:05
Dafodil, this link will lead you to a website and forum packed full of good advice on money matters. A lot of the stuff will lead you back to the likes of the national debtline mentioned by Ruth. http://www.moneysavingexpert.com/ You may also want to google the Uk citizens advice bureau. Again its a wealth of information regarding money/debt matters. Re that cards taken out by your husband in your name - this is a criminal offence and having seen a friend in the same situation you really have to decide whether to let it go or have him prosecuted in order to be able to even think about getting your name cleared. Are you sure you know the extent of the debts because in order to try and have a repayment plan put in place you really do have to know just what is owed. I hope you see some light at the end of the tunnel soon.
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Latest post on 16 April 2013 - 06:34
i was happy too to have helped this woman who has her fam back home, educated people she says, yet she is here cleaning people's houses. Yes here she is. A woman from a family of educated people, cleaning people's houses. Im currently employing a new maid. Amongst the cv's I have are three very well educated women. One has a BS in Criminology, one has a degree in maths and computer science, the third has a B.Ed and 15 years experience in nursery teaching. In fact the latter has the same educational background as one of my sons British carers except the carer changed direction a few years into her career and ended up as the manager of a care home for youngsters with additional needs - now she works for us. Im going to employ the latter applicant as part of the care team in a support role and do in house training with her. If I couldnt do this she'd end up as a maid either with us or someone else. This is just an example of how it can be perfectly feasible to even have educated women from educated families working as a maid. Its called turning your hand to anything to make a living. <em>edited by DesertRose1958 on 16/04/2013</em>
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Latest post on 18 March 2013 - 07:06
Encore Ive come back to this because my response to someone else who mentioned the 'teenager who cleans' has been bothering me. When I read the comment I was astounded that fully grown women could have an employee they described as a teenager who cleans - it conjured up a picture of women behaving like teenagers instead of an employer. I know this explanation doesnt help at all in conveything the picture that was in my head, and perhaps its just as well truth be told, :) but it was a funny one and not malicious. You werent to know that tho, and I certainly didnt make it clear. For me the bottom line is that you have someone working in your home who you feel cant be there alone over the summer. It shouldnt be like that because if you ever had a situation where this absolutely had to happen, what would you do then? Have a nice day, and once again my apologies for not getting my thoughts across well yesterday. eta - am well aware this post have made the original one seem all the worse. Ah well :) <em>edited by DesertRose1958 on 18/03/2013</em>
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Latest post on 17 March 2013 - 15:40
DR- if I allowed my maid to stay in our home alone, for two months with the " understanding" that she is not to work for others, exactly what should I expect her to do for 2 months? Stare at the wall and not leave the house?? I am not a "teenager". But perhaps I am newer to this whole experience than you are. Maybe you had all of the answers at the very beginning, and covered every possible scenario, but others like myself, maybe missed a few things. So, we look to others, like yourself, for advice. No need to cut anyone down... I wasnt cutting you down but I accept its the way my contribution came across. My apologies. :) I do however stand by what Ive said.
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Latest post on 17 March 2013 - 13:56
DR, I think that you are wrong. It has become a habit for many maids to expats to take their vacation when they like then get more when their employee goes away. The maid knows that her one year is up in August anyway. Its ok :) I understand that. I just think if it wasnt made clear at the start of things then there is room for a bit of give and take. That would be the least of my concerns tho - having a maid who I didnt want to stay home alone would be the biggie. <em>edited by DesertRose1958 on 17/03/2013</em>
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Latest post on 17 March 2013 - 13:48
I swear, sometimes I wonder why we even bothered with this whole maid thing. I feel like I have another child...! This is exactly how I describe the arrangement to others. Albeit, I say a "teenager who cleans". [i'>Maybe it could even be stretched to a teenager employing another teenager to clean. If a person is in a situation where they look upon their help, or have to treat their help like a teenager, then something is far wrong when it comes to their role as an employer. edited by DesertRose1958 on 17/03/2013[/i'>
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Latest post on 17 March 2013 - 13:39
Employee and Employer .. Thats the relationship you should have lolol. I know. But one of my lot has been with me a few years now and on Thursday night when I was going out she looked at me and said - where you going, what time you be back. I did laugh as did everyone else who heard because she reminded me of my mum asking me when I was a young girl. I love her, I really do, and come the day she decides to go home I'll really miss her. Without a doubt she is half daft, and I really do mean that, but its a huge part of her charm and appeal.
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Latest post on 17 March 2013 - 13:29
Tara I think if it was made clear at the start of her employment what the leave arrangements were and she was told she'd go when you go - then she just has to have her holiday. But if it wasnt mentioned when she started .................................mmhhhmmm. Is it so wrong of her to think she could have her holiday when she wanted? Is she on one ticket per year or every two years. Could she have this leave - then the christmas one if tickets allowed? I doubt she can afford to go home after being away from home for such a short period of time because of the tremendous pressure she'll be under to buy presents for every man and his dog. Also, is she going to be at any general financial disadvantage because these are the holiday arrangements you want? If so I'd be covering the financial loss. As for her wanting to be with her son at Christmas - I dont find this strange at all, and apart from that maybe the weather will be better for her then and she could do things with her son rather than sit at home during a monsoon or something. Letting her stay in your house - Im not sure how you think not letting her stay is reasonable in any way at all. You employ her, she lives with you - where else could she stay even legally. It would concern me as an employer that I had this problem so soon into a contract, and that I didnt want my maid to stay in my home alone. I would put this down to being a problem entirely of my own making. <em>edited by DesertRose1958 on 17/03/2013</em>
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Latest post on 16 March 2013 - 21:22
Ive no idea about the cravats but when 2 of mine were married recently they each had an international bit of a do on the second night. Some of the supporters were in suits, some in omani dish dasha, and some in full highland regalia. It was a sight to behold and I'll never forget my son coming to escort me into this reception all dolled up in his full highland dress. He wore a dressy affair along with my brother and other rellies, whereas two of his scottish friends wore a jacobean style shirt with their kilt. One of the friends had burnt his head in the sun so we fashioned a tartan hanky into a hat by tying a knot in the 4 corners just to hide his scabby head - the job was a good un. eta - just go with what you want, what you think looks nice - trust me that on the day no one will be saying anyone at your blessing should be on the jeremy kyle show. It all goes by in such a blur and things you thought would matter - dont. Enjoy yourself. :) edited by DesertRose1958 on 16/03/2013 <em>edited by DesertRose1958 on 16/03/2013</em>
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Latest post on 16 March 2013 - 21:01
This girl is fab at what she does and has been known to paint my face with a wee ticky lippy and the likes on more than one occasion. She will doll you up really nicely and teach you how to do it for yourself. Its not something I can do though given I'm half blind and need someone to do it for me. http://www.stylingbysusan.com/about-susan.html
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Latest post on 16 March 2013 - 20:43
You only need yellow fever vaccine if you are coming from an infected country. UAE isnt on that list,so you are safe to go and enjoy you holiday. Kenya is gorgeous and you all will love it! Spot On. Re the immigration queues - there were none when we were there a few weeks ago, and I mean none. I think we were 2nd in line and thats just cos I was the straggler in the group. We arrived on the Qatar airways flight in the afternoon and it was all very easy peasy. I asked my husband in this was unusual and he said no, and thats coming from someone who is in Kenya every few months.
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Latest post on 16 March 2013 - 20:30
For me it very much depends on the service provided and in my case the best tip I ever gave was written on a napkin in lipstick. It was put in the very obvious tip jar on a counter in a coffee shop and it said, a tip from me to you - try smiling at your customers. hth :)
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Latest post on 16 March 2013 - 20:27
Tertiary education really is out of the question Im afraid, yes he's going to have to do some pretty mind numbing work, but he will gain experience, and he needs to start somewhere. He is dyslexic and really struggled through school, hence leaving after gcses, but he does at least have 8 a-cs Most of the successful business men and women I know in the UK and Dubai do not have tertiary education, so I don't see it as essential, there are other skills that can be learned, but yes, some sort of course would be good, some qualification, I just don't know what! I have one who's dyslexic and who finished school about 2/3 years behind his friends due to having to stay back a class a few times. It was the way the system worked and it was just awful for him. He was very very bright but getting things down on paper was really difficult. However, he's now in a very responsible, professional job, and is doing really well. In fact it was only when he went into further education in the UK that things were put into place for him that meant he had a fair crack of the whip and though things were still difficult - they were do-able. I couldnt believe what was put in place for him at no extra cost, it was a case of oh you're dyslexic and this is what will happen. One of his main difficulties lay with things dancing on the whiteboard if the lecturer used a black marker so they colour of the marker was changed. Then there was the different coloured paper his handouts were printed on, and the extra time he was given in his exams which were set by the Civil Aviation Authority. His course was not one of those wishy washy ones. It was very much the real McCoy and I tell you this to try and offer some encouragement by way of getting him into further education. I know people say oh they dont need further ed, and and look at so and so and how succesful he is without it, but in my mind, and we used to console ourselves with this as well at one stage - its a false consolation and one that really does have to be put to rest sooner rather than later. Yes people do manage without further ed but they are very much in the minority, and most of those who do manage without further ed have unique skills to compensate for not having the further ed. I think that unless a person shows considerable talent or skills in other areas - there is no way on earth that not having further education or a trade will ever be anything other than a hinder to them. <em>edited by DesertRose1958 on 16/03/2013</em>
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Latest post on 26 February 2013 - 08:24
Buttercup, thats a horrrible experience you've been through and I hope you can put it behind you soon. You said in one of your earlier posts you feel very badly let down by the system but the reality is that you didnt give the system a chance to work, and you probably never were going to give it a chance to work. You made a few phone calls that were frustrating and all the more-so after such a horrible goings on, you had emergency personel call you back to check if you needed an ambulance just in case, and you had a policeman come to the house to see what was what - and you sent him away. You sent him away and didnt give him a chance to try and do anything next. Your company lawyer gave your husabnd dodgy information when he/she should have been saying lets get this dealt with now, lets go to the police station. Failing that your husband should have said - lets get this dealt with now, lets go to the police station. No-one did. It wasnt the system who let you down. Please remember this when retelling your story because your version of being let down by the system could easily be what puts another victim off reporting an assault. <em>edited by DesertRose1958 on 26/02/2013</em>
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Latest post on 16 January 2013 - 16:29
Oh God, what happened. The appearance now resembles what you see on the likes of hotmail and gmail when the site hasnt loaded properly. Why would anyone chose something that looks like the way the forum now does?
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Latest post on 14 January 2013 - 20:31
It seems she's not ready for potty training even though you want her to be. Leave it for a few more months and try again.
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Latest post on 14 January 2013 - 13:56
How did she get into locked luggage? Youtube has loads of very helpful uploads on how to get into locked luggage.
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Latest post on 14 January 2013 - 13:42
I do, but my dad lives in the next street and goes in daily. It also helps thats its in a very quiet hidden away street and my neighbours are extremely discreet people who keep it their secret so to speak. I used to spend all of the summer there when the youngest two of my children were younger but now its just a few weeks in the summer and the odd week or few days throughout the year. Council Tax - I get a discount for something but I dont know what as my dad handles it all for me. I think tho its because the house isn't occupied all of the time. I have all the year round phone/internet/tv because we like to be able to just walk into the house whenever we want and get comfy. Garden - my neighbour does it for me since my dads health took a bit of a downward turn. Windows - they get cleaned often by a nice man with a ladder :) Parking - one of my neighbours who has a wife and 3 kids who all have cars keeps his car in my drive 'just in case'. I dont know if it deters anyone but it was nice of him to offer so I went along with it :D
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Latest post on 14 January 2013 - 13:42
I do, but my dad lives in the next street and goes in daily. It also helps thats its in a very quiet hidden away street and my neighbours are extremely discreet people who keep it their secret so to speak. I used to spend all of the summer there when the youngest two of my children were younger but now its just a few weeks in the summer and the odd week or few days throughout the year. Council Tax - I get a discount for something but I dont know what as my dad handles it all for me. I think tho its because the house isn't occupied all of the time. I have all the year round phone/internet/tv because we like to be able to just walk into the house whenever we want and get comfy. Garden - my neighbour does it for me since my dads health took a bit of a downward turn. Windows - they get cleaned often by a nice man with a ladder :) Parking - one of my neighbours who has a wife and 3 kids who all have cars keeps his car in my drive 'just in case'. I dont know if it deters anyone but it was nice of him to offer so I went along with it :D
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Latest post on 14 January 2013 - 06:16
I swear it was easier being a mum in the old days. I dont think I could have been trusted with all this 'knowledge' mums have nowadays. Isn't it called common sense? Your reply was very similair to one I tried to post repeatedly without success so I just gave up on it and went out. I'm glad I'm not a young mum today. All the knowledge they have about so many things which quite often isnt knowledge at all, instead its a vague idea of a supposed danger - so there they are being careful and upsetting themselves without really knowing why. So are knowledge and common sense the same thing ? No. edited by DesertRose1958 on 14/01/2013 <em>edited by DesertRose1958 on 14/01/2013</em>
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Latest post on 13 January 2013 - 22:25
I swear it was easier being a mum in the old days. I dont think I could have been trusted with all this 'knowledge' mums have nowadays.
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Latest post on 13 January 2013 - 09:32
So sorry to hear that, OP. He also told me if it got physical, to stand up for myself, and not to take that kind of thing lol! But that was a different place, and a different time. Beebers, I recall the day my daughter came home after years of bullying and said she had something to tell us. Well, what she told us was that she'd had enough and turned on her main tormentor in such a way that the girl ran from screaming for the school cafeteria, closey followed by her 3 friends who had been her back up that particular lunch time. Sad to say they didnt run fast enough and my midget daughter grabbed her 5'10" tall tormentor in rugby tackle and the bully went down hard and fast. Her back up ran away and left her to my daughter. Of course things were stopped and my daughter came home to tell us she would probably be expelled, it was about 4 months before her IB finals, so a really big problem. Anyway my husband just said to her - do you feel better now my daughter. My daughter said yes and her dad said then we'll face what we have to face together. Now what happened next was very strange because NOTHING happened next. We werent called to the school, the girls parents didnt go to the school, teachers who had seen the rugby tackle happening didnt report it, and nor did any of the other kids. In fact the only mention of it every happening was when a male teacher squeezed my girls shoulder the next day and said - its well seen you have brothers. Everyone knew she'd had enough, her bullying had gone on for years and was exactly as described by the opening poster, but of course it got worse the older they all got and the longer their claws became. Her school life was a misery in exactly the same way the opening poster describes. Moving school was not an option. A year after she left school we had a visit one night from some of her classmates, boys, who were going for Umrah and they asked her forgiveness for their part in her torment. She told them their was nothing to forgive and wished them a good pilgrimage whilst I stood there wanting to do them an injury. A few years after that she was contacted by the one she felled who apologised for being a bully. They made peace are in each others life. Another of her tormentors, and this is the one who's family connections meant not much was done about what was going on till my husband told her dad who was a business connection of ours and a friend of a friend. Anyway this girl told my daughter I was jealous of you because your mum used to take you to school and used to come to science days and do experiments with us. I hated you for that. Her mum did nothing like that and dad was a man who didnt get to see his kids because of the mums family name. This girl once paid others in the class to tear my daughters new school bag up and trash her books. The boys did the job for her and thats why the apologised. Out of all of the class my girl is one of the few who've succeeded in life. The rest are just plain and non-descript people who now they are in the world in their own rights - they arent capable of being up to very much. It was a rotten class to begin with, a teacher told me it was a very unusual class from day one and of course joining the class in grade two just made my girl the one to pick on. Well that and the fact she was the oldest in the class, very mature, and very different from the majority of the other kids who were young, spoiled and wealthy. She got married recently and I didn't want any of them at the wedding, we even fought about it but she said mama, I'm inviting them because we're all older now and hopefully wiser. Anyway the amount who turned out for her on the night was amazing, just amazing, and I have to admit them being their seemed very genuine. I hated greeting them at the door of the hotel tho :D eta, my girl swears to this day she was propelled upward and out of her chair by an unseen ghostly hand on her bottom. She thinks tho it was the un-natural blood curdling noise she made on her way out of the chair and uptowards the girls hair that had them all running. She recalls people around her saying - oh my god she's gone crazy. edited by DesertRose1958 on 13/01/2013 <em>edited by DesertRose1958 on 13/01/2013</em>
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Latest post on 12 January 2013 - 13:53
I would head to Devon or Cornwall even tho all of the other places mentioned are fab. Not only would you have the countryside of things in Devon and Cornwall you'd also have the beaches as well. Ilfracombe is nice and you have that fantastic beach further down the road as well as the Tarka Trail. York, I love it, as well as the surrounding area. You can make a real holiday of York, then the steam trains at Pickering, then up to Whitby, then round to Scarborough. Just before Whitby when you are coming from York there's a beautiful walk that can be as long or short as you like. Its a very popular walk and there's always loads of people around. Not far from that there's Go Ape. The beach at Whitby is great. Or you can walk along the seafront at Scarborough and nearly get blown into the middle of next week. :D York is two hours on the train from London. Tenby in West Wales is another lovely area with loads and loads and loads of fun things for families to do. The lake district I have always found to be quite iffy diffy for children.
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Latest post on 12 January 2013 - 13:41
I just wanted to acknowledge all thats going on for your wee girl and you right now. I dont have a clue as to what you can do about it because despite my efforts it was something I never managed to sort for one of my girls, who funnily enough is now a primary school teacher herself. I really feel for.you and your daughter. Here's hoping someone will come along soon and help you out.
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Latest post on 10 January 2013 - 22:33
Try not to think of all the ins and outs of what happened, and not just because the person who ran the cat over may not be aware of what they've done. I speak from experience, but thankfully the kitten belonged to us. I really didnt know what I'd done till I got home from the shops and saw her lying outside our house.
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Latest post on 10 January 2013 - 19:28
Hi there! The jobs section is one of the most visited on the website and a great calibre of candidates apply for the jobs with lots of positions filled well within the one month feature period... Some incredibly quickly. For the full details please email [email protected] and we'll be in touch after the weekend. Warm regards, EW Admin Will be in touch. I just have to think of what I want to say :)
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Latest post on 10 January 2013 - 19:27
Hello DesertRose I was working with a company and we needed a lot of staff of a flexible, good quality variety. We advertised on EW, dubizzle and used an agent. Loads of replies and the only ones who fitted the carefully written and explained profile were from EW. I had the pleasure of interviewing and could have easily filled 70 posts with exactly what we needed and all from EW. The other two sources were rubbish! Sadly, the contract fell through but I had such a lovely time meeting all the lovely applicants. It was a real pleasure. I don't know if we would have done so well filling a post in Oman though. Sadly, the post you have would suit me so well , but it's Oman. I would go but, the family work is based here. Good luck with getting someone for such a special job. edited by emur on 10/01/2013 thank you for this :) Its the kind of information I needed. I had my fingers burnt when I advertised in the UK 2 years ago, so much of it was a waste of time despite going through the big name recruitment companies. We eventually filled our posts through a small add in a York based newspaper. I'll give it go here, you never know, we may be lucky and get the right person for the job. Its a shame you're based in Dubai. :)
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Latest post on 10 January 2013 - 19:27
Hello DesertRose I was working with a company and we needed a lot of staff of a flexible, good quality variety. We advertised on EW, dubizzle and used an agent. Loads of replies and the only ones who fitted the carefully written and explained profile were from EW. I had the pleasure of interviewing and could have easily filled 70 posts with exactly what we needed and all from EW. The other two sources were rubbish! Sadly, the contract fell through but I had such a lovely time meeting all the lovely applicants. It was a real pleasure. I don't know if we would have done so well filling a post in Oman though. Sadly, the post you have would suit me so well , but it's Oman. I would go but, the family work is based here. Good luck with getting someone for such a special job. edited by emur on 10/01/2013 thank you for this :) Its the kind of information I needed. I had my fingers burnt when I advertised in the UK 2 years ago, so much of it was a waste of time despite going through the big name recruitment companies. We eventually filled our posts through a small add in a York based newspaper. I'll give it go here, you never know, we may be lucky and get the right person for the job. Its a shame you're based in Dubai. :)
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Latest post on 10 January 2013 - 19:27
Hello DesertRose I was working with a company and we needed a lot of staff of a flexible, good quality variety. We advertised on EW, dubizzle and used an agent. Loads of replies and the only ones who fitted the carefully written and explained profile were from EW. I had the pleasure of interviewing and could have easily filled 70 posts with exactly what we needed and all from EW. The other two sources were rubbish! Sadly, the contract fell through but I had such a lovely time meeting all the lovely applicants. It was a real pleasure. I don't know if we would have done so well filling a post in Oman though. Sadly, the post you have would suit me so well , but it's Oman. I would go but, the family work is based here. Good luck with getting someone for such a special job. edited by emur on 10/01/2013 thank you for this :) Its the kind of information I needed. I had my fingers burnt when I advertised in the UK 2 years ago, so much of it was a waste of time despite going through the big name recruitment companies. We eventually filled our posts through a small add in a York based newspaper. I'll give it go here, you never know, we may be lucky and get the right person for the job. Its a shame you're based in Dubai. :)
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Latest post on 10 January 2013 - 18:43
House of Colour normally have them, they do a long and a short version. https://www.facebook.com/houseofcolourdubai?fref=ts How does it work, do you just twist the material into whatever shape you want? My daughters bridesmaids wore these on the day recently and they were fab. We got the original ones, I think they're from Canada, and the quality was very good. So we had 5 girls in the same colour of dress and that was the only thing they had in common on the night. You get a booklet with different ways of doing the dress and though you dont really need pins to keep things in place, we found with some of the wraps a tiny pin just held things in place enough to make the wrap look WOW instead of wow. I was dubious about them at first but we had a trial day months before the wedding and they really do work. We also did trial hair and make up the same day so we could see if what was going on with the hair and face matched up with the way the dress was being wrapped. I love the things :)
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Latest post on 10 January 2013 - 18:30
I'm still not making sense so its a good job I know what I mean eh :)
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Latest post on 10 January 2013 - 18:29
You just did LOL I know. :D What am I like eh :D I did this thread by way of reposting something I posted earlier then deleted, and Ive gone and done the same thing again. I just dont want to waste time advertisting through the forum unless I know it would be helpful.
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Latest post on 10 January 2013 - 18:16
I have a sick baby getting disturbed all day long. I dont think its funny or anything to suck up. I dont think my request is unreasonable or maybe your one of those residents who has no care for their neighbours. With the best will in the world there will always be something with the potential to cause disturbance to those who dont need it. I think, and I do understand what with my boy, that if we have particular requirements as to how others around us should live - then its up to us to chose the correct place to live in the first instance in order to minimise disturbance. I would imagine that human nature being what it is, that an apartment wouldn't be an ideal place to live with a sick baby who needs considerations. I just re-read this and it sounds really unsympathetic when it wasnt meant to. Anything but, actually. It came on the back of another thread thats now been deleted.
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Latest post on 10 January 2013 - 18:13
I cleaned out my wardrobe today and found a bag with 3 packs of cadbury Christmas Tree decorations. 3 bars of Lindt white chocolate that were bought to make peanut blondies on Christmas Eve 1 bag of C4 Christmans Tree decorations. 1 bag of Santa Shaped wine gum things 5 large tubes of Smarties, 3 pink ones and 2 blue ones 1 box of assorted biscuits 1 Christmas Pudding bought for an emergency and a partridge in a pear tree
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Latest post on 10 January 2013 - 17:29
I didnt realise asking people to tie a knot on their rubbish bags was such an extravent request. I thought it would come as normal practice to most. Would you leave your bin bags un sealed on your front door for your rubbish bin man back home? I certainly didn't realise I should 'suck it up'. I'm not asking for me. I was requesting for my LO who really needs the extra sleep right now. You shouldnt have been told to suck it up. It wasnt nice way to say something, and I'd have been really hurt by it because a child is involved. But the reality is that you are living in apartment building and there will always be people who dont think of those who live around them and the impact their bad habits have on them. How about instead of complaining you compose a note and post it under eveyones door. Just explain the situation and see what happens next. I have a neighbour who's grown up kids left the garden gate open all the time. And what with the wind in the winter it was a nightmare, its just banged all the blooming time. I'd be lying on the couch having 40 winks and the next thing BANG!!!! I had to resort to locking all of their gates from the outside a few times and a few days of one them climbing over the wall to unlock the gates so people could go to work was all it took for them to remember to close the gate from the inside. I was too peed off to send a note. hth :) edited by DesertRose1958 on 10/01/2013 <em>edited by DesertRose1958 on 10/01/2013</em>
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Latest post on 10 January 2013 - 17:07
I have a sick baby getting disturbed all day long. I dont think its funny or anything to suck up. I dont think my request is unreasonable or maybe your one of those residents who has no care for their neighbours. With the best will in the world there will always be something with the potential to cause disturbance to those who dont need it. I think, and I do understand what with my boy, that if we have particular requirements as to how others around us should live - then its up to us to chose the correct place to live in the first instance in order to minimise disturbance. I would imagine that human nature being what it is, that an apartment wouldn't be an ideal place to live with a sick baby who needs considerations. We moved here when I was still pregnant. so it was a case of thinking it would be ok, then finding out its not. Is there anyway you could move at the end of your lease, not just for your little ones sake but also for yours because none of this can be doing you any good either. I imagine you're trying to get him to sleep or he just went to sleep and then all **** is let loose in the shape of an open bin bag coming down the chute. Also, as MC said, others are perhaps having to live with your little ones crying which and its more than what could normally be expected I think it would get to them after a while. That isnt good for you either because you must think about it at times and I know when my son would be doing what he did best ;) I used to be a nervous wreck thinking about the neighbours. Oh no DR we had no idea of the noise before we moved in. In fact it didnt start till a good 2 months into us being here. We would have never thought it would be ok if we had heard it then. Then you really can do nothing other than complain and hope for the best. :( <em>edited by DesertRose1958 on 10/01/2013</em>
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Latest post on 10 January 2013 - 17:05
Me and my daughter have started taking the wee ones to Yelloh Camps in France. We did les mouettes last year, and this year we're going to one on a lake, but also right next to a beach, about 70kms from Bordeaux. We rent the biggest kind of chalet they have and off we go. Its kind of basic but comfy, but there's lots to do and loads of other kids for them to do it with. There's an on-site shop, restaurants, a laundrette, everything you need really. We also do a trip to Paris for a few days, self catering because we like them to have good dinners, and we have a blast. Paris in August is great, they even set up a beach and swimming pool on the banks of the Seine and there was beach volley ball competitions, loads of street theatre, and of course most of the big cultural places have tours and activeties that cater to children. I loved it, just loved it - I didnt think I would have. :D
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Latest post on 10 January 2013 - 16:51
I have a sick baby getting disturbed all day long. I dont think its funny or anything to suck up. I dont think my request is unreasonable or maybe your one of those residents who has no care for their neighbours. With the best will in the world there will always be something with the potential to cause disturbance to those who dont need it. I think, and I do understand what with my boy, that if we have particular requirements as to how others around us should live - then its up to us to chose the correct place to live in the first instance in order to minimise disturbance. I would imagine that human nature being what it is, that an apartment wouldn't be an ideal place to live with a sick baby who needs considerations. We moved here when I was still pregnant. so it was a case of thinking it would be ok, then finding out its not. Is there anyway you could move at the end of your lease, not just for your little ones sake but also for yours because none of this can be doing you any good either. I imagine you're trying to get him to sleep or he just went to sleep and then all **** is let loose in the shape of an open bin bag coming down the chute. Also, as MC said, others are perhaps having to live with your little ones crying which and its more than what could normally be expected I think it would get to them after a while. That isnt good for you either because you must think about it at times and I know when my son would be doing what he did best ;) I used to be a nervous wreck thinking about the neighbours.
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Latest post on 10 January 2013 - 16:37
I have a sick baby getting disturbed all day long. I dont think its funny or anything to suck up. I dont think my request is unreasonable or maybe your one of those residents who has no care for their neighbours. With the best will in the world there will always be something with the potential to cause disturbance to those who dont need it. I think, and I do understand what with my boy, that if we have particular requirements as to how others around us should live - then its up to us to chose the correct place to live in the first instance in order to minimise disturbance. I would imagine that human nature being what it is, that an apartment wouldn't be an ideal place to live with a sick baby who needs considerations.
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Latest post on 09 January 2013 - 18:18
I'd recommend revising that salary to 7k p/m to get a decent person. I didn't need too ;-) Great Stuff. The job sounded like a nice wee number.
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Latest post on 09 January 2013 - 16:32
I think when you state a preferred nationality in a job advertisement your stating a wish for a particular mentality or way of thinking, not a skin colour. We did this when we were hiring the staff for our son. We knew what kind of cultural background/exposure/way of thinking we wanted the person to have so we only interviewed our preferred nationality in the key roles. If a company only wants certain nationalities to apply for a job I would assume its for the same kind of reasons.
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Latest post on 08 January 2013 - 17:48
can you get some leather cleaner and try polishing them out a bit.
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Latest post on 08 January 2013 - 15:06
Yes, its worth it :) A nice and quaint hotel? There are inexpensive hotels but none that would be considered nice and quaint. However, there's a couple on the Corniche that if you put your mind to it you could pretend they're nice and quaint rather than cheap and maybe cheerful :)
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Latest post on 08 January 2013 - 14:45
I honestly think its unreasonable to ask someone to hang around in times of job insecurity. There's no guarantee she'll find a job should you have to leave and she could very well be left high and dry despite your efforts and promises. And yes, 4 children - what a handful eh :) But she has worked for me for a while now and she knows I am a good honest person that keeps my word. I would never leave her high and dry and I am certain that she knows that. Yes, 4 is a handful and I think she is probably hoping to get a family with older or no kids ;-) NOOOOO :) I'm not questioning your integrity. I meant that when the time comes for you to go there may not be a job out there for her. Whereas if she can look and find one now she'll be ok.
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Latest post on 08 January 2013 - 13:09
Ok I stand corrected. Cereal bars and cereal are the unhealthiest breakfasts. edited by AnonDubai on 08/01/2013 I'd put money on most mums making sure other meals throughout the day make up for a breakfast that might not be the greatest because of circumstances. ;) Exactly. Sometimes if they are really sleepy and not hungry I give them a choccie biscuit and a glass of milk for breakfast just so they have something in their stomachs to start with. They will then eat healthily throughout the day. Its a matter of circumstance I'm afraid. You brave woman. To admit to a chocolate biscuit for breakfast. You're supposed to lie about that kind of thing you know :D :D Lol.....why bother lying? I'm a big girl...I can take it. :D :D
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Latest post on 08 January 2013 - 13:04
I honestly think its unreasonable to ask someone to hang around in times of job insecurity. There's no guarantee she'll find a job should you have to leave and she could very well be left high and dry despite your efforts and promises. And yes, 4 children - what a handful eh :)
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Latest post on 08 January 2013 - 12:54
Ok I stand corrected. Cereal bars and cereal are the unhealthiest breakfasts. edited by AnonDubai on 08/01/2013 I'd put money on most mums making sure other meals throughout the day make up for a breakfast that might not be the greatest because of circumstances. ;) Exactly. Sometimes if they are really sleepy and not hungry I give them a choccie biscuit and a glass of milk for breakfast just so they have something in their stomachs to start with. They will then eat healthily throughout the day. Its a matter of circumstance I'm afraid. You brave woman. To admit to a chocolate biscuit for breakfast. You're supposed to lie about that kind of thing you know :D :D
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Latest post on 08 January 2013 - 12:42
Ok I stand corrected. Cereal bars and cereal are the unhealthiest breakfasts. edited by AnonDubai on 08/01/2013 I'd put money on most mums making sure other meals throughout the day make up for a breakfast that might not be the greatest because of circumstances. ;)
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Latest post on 08 January 2013 - 12:14
and if you do, do you have young children? What hours do they work, time off do they get? Trying to make sure we are being fair with our Ethiopian housemaid (who we adore)...2000 will really stretch our budget, but she's asking for it as someone (through a friend) has just offered her that much. She wishes to stay with us, but obviously wants us to match the offer. I know it could be a put on, that she may be testing the waters....but she's also never once taken advantage of us in her 18 months with us so far....but my eyes are not blinded. I just don't want to begrudge her a fair/reasonable salary, but I don't want to be fleeced either, as that amount I figured she'd get to after several years with us, not within 2 years. We do not have young kids, don't have many houseguests or dinner parties, she gets several free hours during the day as she's quite efficient at her work. We allow her to stay out on her day off (often let her off early on Thurs night if we have nothing going on, and she returns late Fri, or before 7am Saturday. We've even allowed her to have friends overnight (6 at one time once!). Anyways, I know I'll have to decide what it's worth us to keep her here and happy vs starting over with someone else...but I'm curious if this is the norm now and I just wasn't aware? Thanks in advance. When an employee starts this malarky its time to let them go. You seem like a very good employer and if she doesnt realise this then let her go to the higher salary and all that will come with it. You know if you are paying her well and if you're conscience is clear then wish her well in her new job. The new job that probably doesnt exist.
 
 
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