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Latest post on 13 July 2012 - 23:20

Thanks for everyone reply. She has already had hearing, eye and even blood test and everything is clear. The speech therapist told me that my DD has sensory issues and if she doesn't have OT than her speech will not improve. I have been told that 10 hours is the min hour for ABA therapy, but I have request to reduce the hours to 8 hours which they haven't reply me and it had been 2 weeks already. Therefore now I am considering changing the centre. Hi :), you wouldnt see an OT for help with sensory issues, you'd see an OT who has an additional qualification as a sensory integrationist.therapist. The two are different and before sensory integration was carried out a sensory profile would have to be done. There are lots of sharks in the water here when it comes to special needs, just make sure that before you part with your cash - you know why you are parting with it. Please dont be panicked into lining up one therapy after another for your child because quite often the best thing for them is the love, patience, and common sense of their family. MY son is 21 and severly autistic, he also has tourettes and additional mental health problems - he's never been to school and the only therapy he had was sensory stuff when I took him to the UK for 3 months to a private clinic - they showed me what to do with him as part of his sensory diet. Its not the end of the world if a child doesnt have therapies because quite often the therapies are just professionals doing what most parents have the common sense to work our for themselves. <em>edited by DesertRose1958 on 13/07/2012</em>

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Latest post on 11 July 2012 - 20:37

Saks bridal dpt is no longer here - at least thats what I was told when I called Saks. <em>edited by DesertRose1958 on 11/07/2012</em>

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Latest post on 11 July 2012 - 20:03

There's The Bridal Room The Wedding Shop both in Jumeirah. Just do a google search, they're very close to each other. We recently visited them and couldnt fault the service in either shop and we ended up with a dress from The Wedding Shop. We had expected a 4 month wait for the dress but as it turned out it was hanging in our wardrobe just 4 weeks after it was bought. There's also Pronovias in Dubai Mall but I wouldnt advise anyone to go near the place. The staff were awful, just awful, they were in fact vile. hth :)

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Latest post on 11 July 2012 - 12:28

Perhaps its the showing off - but probably not in a conceited sense. More like she just wants people to see she's good at what she does. I dont know if its arrogance either. I keep on thinking of her giving out the presents and I can liken her to one of mine doing that - and it would be plain happy daft caused by excitement. Dont send her back to Dubai. Keep her with you. The lady who previously travelled with me wouldnt always come out with us. Sometimes she just liked being in the house on her own watching TV, or she'd go across to my dads and play with the dogs. She would even go out at times on her own into town on the bus - we live in a small market town. She would come back and say she's seen mrs so and so on the bus and they'd had a natter. I think she felt really independent going on the bus into town and she'd come back and say to her friends that she knew her way around london (lol) and that she'd go out alone. We live 150 miles from London. :) She was there when I needed her and it suited us fine. eta - just make sure your children arent picking up in your disatisfaction just now and taking it as a chance to have a go at the maid. Yes your chastising them for it but some kids will take the telling off and be happy they were able to flex their muscles a bit. I speak from experience :) <em>edited by DesertRose1958 on 11/07/2012</em>

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Latest post on 11 July 2012 - 07:58

I've been thinking about this and I still think this girl was just being happy daft because she was travelling.

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Latest post on 10 July 2012 - 13:45

I've not personally gone through this, but have seen a few children with it, even babies refusing bottles. It is a sensory integration disorder and needs to be handled sensitively. Do not try to force him to eat, respect his issues with the new foods. If you force the issue, it will only make the problem far worse and distressing for both of you. You would need to consult an occupational therapist for a proper assessment and further guidance. Here is quite an interesting article, I'm sure you have done heaps on research yourself anyway. http://www.carolinapeds.com/articles/sensory-defensiveness-feeding.php I'm sure it is terribly frustrating and worrying for you, but try to remember that he is not doing it to upset you. Kity :) I think you're venturing into the world of additional needs with talk of sensory issues, and it would be an occupational therapist with a speciality in sensory issues a person would see.

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Latest post on 10 July 2012 - 13:43

Loranji - how is your son in general? Did he always have a restricted diet or is it something that has come about? When you put a new food down to him - how does he react to it? And if you didnt give him one of the foods he likes - would he just go hungry? I dont think its always as easy as - if a child is hungry he'll eat. Re therapies - this link might help you, and there is an clinic in Great Ormond Street Hospital for children who are 'just' fussy eaters - ie there's no underlying cause for them to be a fussy eater. They do also see children who have reasons for not eating a balanced diet.

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Latest post on 09 July 2012 - 21:24

Posts like this [b'>make me so angry[/b'> You'll be spitting feathers then?

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Latest post on 09 July 2012 - 21:16

The maid wont recognise the boundaries unless you point them out to her, so thats something you're going to have to do. But in all honestly she comes across as being all excited to be on holiday and probably has it mixed up in her head with going on holiday to the Phillipines. These ladies will only ever behave they way they are allowed to. I go to the Uk to my own house so anyone who comes with me knows they are still working ...... but when we go for a day out they come as well because it is an experience for them. If we were going to a relatives house to stay I would imagine they'd be really confused as to what they were - maid working in a different house, or guest in a house because they dont work for the family the house belongs to. Tell her she is still working. I still cant help but feel that she's just being happy daft because she's travelling. Oh and its really nice your dd was punished for talking to her they way she did. It was out of order but I can imagine she was feeling fed up. <em>edited by DesertRose1958 on 09/07/2012</em>

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Latest post on 05 July 2012 - 00:50

I would tell him because you never know he might feel the same way but has kept quiet for many a reason. Lifes too short to spend it wondering and if he says the feeling isnt mutual then you know and you can move on.

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Latest post on 04 July 2012 - 02:18

It did come across as her not sleeping being seen as some kind of victory when the reality is that the woman couldnt have a nap because there's no place for her to have one. The camping chair might just be a way around this but you husband would have to agree to not going into the kitchen when she's napping. My husband and boys would agree to it and when the baby goes down your maid could ask if Sir needs anything from the kitchen before she goes for a break. I'm not one of those ladies who doesnt have a maid and lambast others who do. I have a household staff of 6 including 2 british expats who now help me look after my son. I also have 3 domestic staff, people stay with me for many many years. Its not because I'm a soft touch, I just try to live by the standard that you do as you would be done by and if me, my children, or husband wouldnt want to be treated a certain way - we dont do it to others. I also have a rule of thumb at home thats along the lines of if its not something I've ever done as a housewife pre maid days, and if its not something my daughters would do as housewives - then my maids dont do it either. It works for us. hth :)

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Latest post on 03 July 2012 - 12:24

I do feel I have to come to Captain America's defense somewhat. I thought her post was quite rational and was the only one actually answering the OP's title question. Yes. My daughter has a friend who's such a careful driver that to go in the car with her isnt wise. When all the girls are doing Dubai trips they will not let her take her car, she must travel with others, but that would be the same wherever they were going. She talks of the accidents that others nearly cause and that she was almost in, but cant see the logic that if she see's so many around her there's a good chance she might have some kind of hand in them.

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Latest post on 03 July 2012 - 09:57

Thanks everyone, it's been interesting reading your replies. Funnily enough, since posting this a week ago when hubby walked in on her napping in the play area, the nanny hasn't napped once .... And? Is the above some kind of victory. Its as if the aim was to stop her sleeping, not provide her with a place to have a nap. Just how was she to have a nap if there's no place for her to have one? If a person is desperate for work they'll agree to harsh conditions such as a very long commute - it doesnt mean they dont find the going hard once they start the job and have to live the very long day. Is it really in your daughters best interests to be with someone who's putting in a really long day without the chance to have 40 winks a few times a week even if its a power nap. You can get camping chairs that fold up to something next to nothing, a person cant lie down on it, but they can get comfy by lying back a bit. They're available on C4. I'd get one and put it in the kitchen and just say to my husband that whilst the wee one is sleeping the maid will be having a snooze so pls dont go in their for half an hour. <em>edited by DesertRose1958 on 03/07/2012</em>

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Latest post on 01 July 2012 - 12:55

Spongemonkey, I often used to put the children down for a nap and have a sleep at the same time. I cant say that I ever let a maid do it because I didnt have a maid in those days. When I did it the windows were locked and I used to sleep on a mattress against the bedroom door. No-one was going anywhere and I would wake up with them or before them because I was just kind of sleeping with one eye and ear closed. I really cant see anything wrong with that even if its a maid or a granny or some other kind of carer doing it. When I have my 18 month old grandchild I put her down in my room in her cot room then get on top of my bed for 40 winks. I do agree with you on not having a maid who doesnt speak english. I would never have the patience for it for a start but it also goes beyond that for me. edited by DesertRose1958 on 01/07/2012 <em>edited by DesertRose1958 on 01/07/2012</em>

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Latest post on 01 July 2012 - 11:02

I have 3 full time domestic staff, the longest serving has worked with me for about 24 year years. They all get a bonus when they go on leave. Its something I give them out of affection, its an extra thank you for having my back in a house that can be very very difficult for all of us to be in at times due to my sons autism and mental health. Right now I'm in the Uk with my grandchildren and they're running the show at home for my husband as well as my son and his 3 carers. I dont have a worry in my head. Everything will be as it should. I also add on bits to their salary at times, last month is was because we had a lot of visitors and official tea parties and the likes due to my daughters engagement. They deserved it, we all worked flat out and were done in. My daughter also gave them a wee thank you. To be honest if somone asked me for a bonus I'd find it hard to be polite in reply to them, but there's always the possibility that the woman has listened to people outside talking about their bonus (present) and she thinks everyone gets one, so polite you must be when telling her there is no bonus per se.

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Latest post on 29 June 2012 - 14:38

Khatoon, I never mastered the girly/flirty thing either. It kind of just passed me by. I'm also the strong independent and I laughed when a study came out suggesting women who have a child with autism have more testesterone than other women. There was also the other study that had us checking our ring fingers because is was said if it was longer or shorter than the one next to it, I cant remember which, that you're brain was more male than female. Add to that the amount of times I've been told in this part of the world that I'm like a man and I'm seriously inclined to believe that some of us are not wired to be flirty types of girls. I'm not sure Ive ever really felt feminine. I have felt really pretty on a day, and being a very long legged blonde I have had quite a few admiring glances in my day - but to feel feminine and flirty I cant say I have. I even feel daft trying to be flirty with my husband. I'm more of a grab him by the ankles and throw him on the floor type of woman :D I've just remembered that when I was on project manager on our last house the building contractor said I had a mans brain. I wasnt insulted. I dont really know what I'm saying here, I've breast fed 5 children and I was a stay at home earth mother type of mum - or so Im told. But that feminine/flirty type of person - no. There have been times though that I wanted to be that person. eta - And there are times now I would love to be a pole dancer! <em>edited by DesertRose1958 on 29/06/2012</em>

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Latest post on 29 June 2012 - 12:04

I think the woman is putting in a long day even without her two hour commute each way on public transport. The thought of that quite honestly makes me shudder especially the way the weather is just now. Those buses must be like ovens even with ac. You've said you compensate her for the hours but in my mind if a person is tired they're tired and money doesnt really make them feel less tired so I think the compensation is beside the point. Its not her fault that she lives so far away and I think I'd be looking to either move her closer to us, provide alternative transport, or arrange a place in your childs room for her to have a snooze when she does. I think the latter could be arranged even tho you're little one is a light sleeper. Safe proofing the room would also be possible. I doubt very much the woman has another job. I think its more than likely that having to share a room with 3 others, and commute the way she does, is really harsh living and probably why she is tired. I imagine the place she lives must go like a fair at all hours as there's probably more than her and her 3 room mates living in the apartment or whatever it is. You should either let her go, or find a way to let her have a snooze in the day.

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Latest post on 28 June 2012 - 21:53

Ginnee, are these ladies still going strong? If so, perhaps you could contact them and see what help they could offer you. http://www.timeoutdubai.com/community/features/21648-fairy-godmother-in-dubai I would also be willing to help you, I'm up and down the road to Dubai look a yoyo and wouldnt mind helping you out when I'm there.

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Latest post on 28 June 2012 - 20:28

I'm saddened to read the OP from you Sal because although I dont know you from Adam you always come across as a real trouper. Whatever it is thats going on in your life I hope you see some light at the end of the tunnel very soon. With best wishes DR

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Latest post on 28 June 2012 - 20:23

I'm not sure that she has any options. If the family wanted her to stay with them and she said she wanted to go on to pastures new it could be that this is their way of saying 'not on your nelly'. People can get like that with maids - they can see no reason to co-operate with them moving on so they do this. Then again there could be valid reasons that you're not aware of. I'd stay out of it because the reality is - there is nothing you can do for her anyway unless you take her on yourself.

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Latest post on 28 June 2012 - 16:46

What OP is describing can be a very difficult and demoralising situation. Its really unfair and I personally dont give a rats a** for culture if I am getting no basic human etiquette's back. To put it down to culture and carry on putting up with it is wrong and if I had a daughter I would MAKE SURE she understood growing up what is acceptable and what isnt in terms of entertaining others. I would feel VERY guilty as a mother seeing my daughter running around like a headless chicken as well as taking abuse off her 'guests' because I drilled into her that 'its culture'. Unfortunately alot of things are culture but that doesnt make them right. For example where I come from its a part of the culture to honour kill. We should really put a stop to those things we see as wrong rather than letting them continue generation after generation. edited by Hugsys on 28/06/2012 From a nasty MIL to Honour Killings. Is that wishful thinking Husgsy? ;)

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Latest post on 28 June 2012 - 16:32

Hugsy, its not about having a big family, this is about cultural norms and expectations. Its the done thing in many societies - family is family and have a home with you when they need or want it, even if is for a few days or months or years :D I think its the added burden of criticism that is really a sore point for the OP Yes, it was way below the belt but I think it was borne out of jealousy, Irooni obviously runs a good home and her MIL perhaps just couldnt take it. She played a blinder by telling Irooni's sister, because the sister was then put in a terrible situation - do I tell or do I not. I would tell my husband and leave him to deal with it - but I also wouldnt be surprised if he (or others say) why did your sister tell you.

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Latest post on 28 June 2012 - 13:54

Hugsy, its not about having a big family, this is about cultural norms and expectations. Its the done thing in many societies - family is family and have a home with you when they need or want it, even if is for a few days or months or years :D

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Latest post on 21 June 2012 - 22:28

Well to be honest, they are the 'residents' and it's us invading their territory really. The majority of snakes will just leave you alone, and only become aggressive if they feel threatened. I still recall a thread here a few years ago that concerned snakes and one lady said nothing was printed in the paper about them because the UAE couldnt stand the publicity surrounding the fact there were snakes in Dubai. I couldnt believe what I was reading because the person really did believe what she was saying. It just didnt occur to her whatsoever that people didnt perhaps feel the need to mention it in the papers because anyone with any level of common sense would know that of course there would be snakes in this part of the world and that they lived in The Ranches etc long before we did.

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Latest post on 20 June 2012 - 21:59

There really is nothing like a mum and I wish you and her a wonderful time together - even if you get on each others nerves at times. :) xxxxxxxx I dont have my mum anymore but I just spent 10 minutes telling my little brother how much I have loved him and missed him today. <em>edited by DesertRose1958 on 20/06/2012</em>

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Latest post on 20 June 2012 - 17:33

BBB what does that mean? edited by mushypeas on 20/06/2012 BAN BAN BAN, I suspect.

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Latest post on 20 June 2012 - 17:27

This lady had to go but if I understand correctly - you watched the nannycam first time round and saw your sons accident. Your husband then said he thought your son had a broken collar bone, and he was correct - but you didnt go to the hospital till the next morning. The maid didnt get him timely medical attention and neither did you if I've understood your post properly. Pot, kettle, black, I think. <em>edited by DesertRose1958 on 20/06/2012</em>

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Latest post on 18 June 2012 - 15:45

JC11, you wrote - He's not married, he's divorced, plus he has just blatently toldme he does not want anymore kids and does not want to get married again. Apparently these are not part of his personal plan!!! It sounds to me as if he wants to have his cake and eat it.

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Latest post on 18 June 2012 - 08:12

I would take the Grammer School place. If its not right for your daughter you'll soon know but if you dont take the place and things go wrong here you'll be kicking yourself. Take the place and build the next couple of years around it.

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Latest post on 18 June 2012 - 08:09

My granny cooked the same meals every dinner time and tea time all of her married life. We could tell what day it was by what we were eating. It did us no harm at all, we all grew up fit and healthy, and I still look back and remember everything she made for us because it was fab. It was basic home cooking, but it tasted wonderful. I think a lot of us could do really well on the order that our grandmothers had to have in their homes in order to run them. They had so much to do they had to be regimented in many respects, not that too much reginmentation is good for us, but neither is the way we seem to have gone nowadays. We just seem to go with the flow, over shop for instance, then try to make meals with whats stacked up in the fridge rather than shop for what we need with a few extras thrown in so we have room to manouvere meals wise.

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Latest post on 15 June 2012 - 21:48

I would generally just be blunt and say I'd rather not answer that, social situation or not. But then I'm Dutch and we're famous for being blunt to the point of rudeness, certainly when compared to the ever so tactful British :) Unless you're Scots like me and can be equally blunt :D One "lady" at a party I attended poked my tummy and asked when the baby was due!! I was 55 at the time and overweight. I sweetly said that I was due in July and that her DH was the proud father! That shut her up!! Another Scot here Joyce and I still laugh at what I once said to my neice when she poked my stomach and asked what had happened to it. The background is that she'd been to Thailand for facial implants and something had gone wrong - they were solidifying. Anyway I only knew this because I had been at the Drs and the person I was seeing didnt realise I was her aunty and that I understood everything he was saying to another Dr on the phone. So there me and my neice were in the supermarket and she poked me in the stomach and said, aunty what happened? Well, before I knew it was saying to her - I swallowed a silicone implant! I still laugh about it to this day.

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Latest post on 15 June 2012 - 21:21

Belly binding after pregnancy is as old as the hills and something practiced by many cultures world wide. My mum and her aunties did it, they're Scottish, as well as my sisters in law who are Arab. Its not something I ever did but I wish I had because my two expat friends who were bound by their inlaws after pregnancy seemed to have benefited greatly from it. Now just then, but also now. Its something that seems to be making a comeback and can be done with a sheet folded in half or one of those brightly colured clothes that in this part of the world is called a Kanga or Lasoe. They're most commonly seen in East Africa but women here also wear them. <em>edited by DesertRose1958 on 15/06/2012</em>

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Latest post on 15 June 2012 - 20:28

Ive done two self builds and acted as project manager on each one. . There's nothing like going home to a comfy bed at the end of a 5 hour day on site. Knowing a bit about your family (if you are who I think you are) and the circumstances we share I would say - stay in the rental till moving in day. <em>edited by DesertRose1958 on 15/06/2012</em>

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Latest post on 14 June 2012 - 08:28

Normal summer temperatures! Been here nearly eight years, pretty standard for this time of year. It's the humidity which is the killer! the longer I'm here the more intolerant I am becoming :( Me too funnily enough. Age does funny things to a persons tolerance levels. :D Thanks DR!! Glad to know it's only my age lol!!! I"ve been back from the Uk for 4 days now and I still havent been out, and prior to going I was in the house for 9 days. Now you could be excused for thinking I'm still getting used to the heat but the fact is I've lived in the ME for 36 years. I'm not 'used to it now' the way people in the UK were saying to me last week. I was years ago but for the last 5 years I've found it tougher and tougher each summer. Its my age, and yours, and anyone else who I know thats finding the summers hard. It really is harder the older you get - or perhaps that should be the longer you're here. :) <em>edited by DesertRose1958 on 14/06/2012</em>

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Latest post on 14 June 2012 - 08:16

I totally get the difficulties you are facing as a single mum but the fact is this lady has to go. Your child was 3kms from where you thought she was - how did she get there? Was she on public transport? Was she in a car seat during the journey? These are things you need to know the answer to, and you also need to know who your daughter was with when she was away. You say who can come into your daughters life - not the maid! I dont even think this is about whether someone is a nanny or a maid - the fact is both are employees and shoud be where they have told to be and no place else. I'm usually understanding of the maids but this is just a big huge no no no and you have to find a way for her to go.

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Latest post on 13 June 2012 - 23:05

Normal summer temperatures! Been here nearly eight years, pretty standard for this time of year. It's the humidity which is the killer! the longer I'm here the more intolerant I am becoming :( Me too funnily enough. Age does funny things to a persons tolerance levels. :D

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Latest post on 13 June 2012 - 08:48

Just leave things for her that she likes and that you usually buy, put bread in the freezer, milk as well (or you could leave long life stuff) and give her money for fruit and veg. The latter wouldnt amount to much for one person so I wouldnt lose any sleep over her pocketing it because what does a few bananas, apples, oranges, tomatoes, and the likes cost for one person over 3 weeks - but you could ask for receipts and change just for your own satisfaction if you like. In my experience you have to make it very clear to the women that they are to eat as usual because for some reason they can be afraid to use whats available lest they are seen to have eaten too much or been extravagent with whats available.

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Latest post on 06 June 2012 - 20:24

I do this as a hobby, and so far I've covered my maternal grandparents back to about 1850. I could go further but I'd have to do an Irish search and I dont have time right now. Today, just because I'm in the Uk at the moment, I went to the local family history centre and for 25 pounds got paternal information back to 1850 as well. But one ancester I got back to 1811 and I then went to the burial records office next door and was told he'd been buried in a paupers grave. They did tell me where the grave was but that it would be unmarked. That was sad. Todays efforts took one hour and I was helped by a history centre employee. I did sit there tho at the end of the search and think how much it would have cost me in credits on the likes of the Scottish Records website. There's still lots for me to do on this side of the family but I just wanted a quick start and today was great. I discovered that on my paternal grandmothers side we're actually Shetlanders and I'm really proud of that. Also found out something else that was not the story passed down over the years - but I can see why things were embroidered so to speak. One of the records were signed by a great great grandma with her thumbprint because she couldnt read. My paternal side got around a lot and lived all over scotland, most were in the jute industry, but some of them were shoemakers. I liked that. What information do you have already. eta - pre circa 1850 there are no public records available so to speak, so that could be why you've hit a brick wall. A professional researcher could probably find things out for you tho. <em>edited by DesertRose1958 on 06/06/2012</em>

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Latest post on 06 June 2012 - 12:12

This is a link to a current thread on roseacea. I hope its of help to you and that great things are just around the corner. :) http://www.expatwoman.com/forum/messages.aspx?TopicID=179800

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Latest post on 03 June 2012 - 11:24

i am back in the uk and you wouldnt even know there was a jubilee on, no buntings or parties organised in my neck of the woods and its raining today - typical holiday weather!, My street in wales, even tho most of them vote Plaid, is covered in bunting, it looks gorgeous. However here in Scotland you wouldnt even know there was a Jubilee going on - mind you I did miss the 1000 pipers marching over the bridge in Perth yesterday. I would have loved that.

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Latest post on 03 June 2012 - 11:22

Hope you've got some orange squash to go with them! I would but can't find any Robinsons ;) I coldnt find any in the shops here either and I'm currently in the UK. Well that was 2 branches of tesco, one of morrisons, and one of asda.

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Latest post on 03 June 2012 - 08:13

I think there are requirements in place visa wise that suggest a person is paid the minimum wage of the country they're going to. So that would be the first thing to do - if you are going to the UK for eg then pay the minimum wage whilst there. Accomodation wise - their own room whenever at all possible. Days off that are worked - compensation for them the same way I do it here. If a day off is worked for whatever reason then its classed as overtime. Clothes that are needed for a different climate - they are bought for the person travelling with me as I consider them to be work clothes. Money - I give a lump sum on top of the salary because it must be horrible to be abroad and not have money to spend. Meals - wherever the family eat. No sitting down at a nice restaurant and handing over money to the maid for a McD's. ( I have seen that done in the UK). I dont go along with not having to pay extra etc because of the experiences the women are gaining. If I coudnt afford to do any of the above I wouldnt take the maid with me, but then I do have quite strong feelings about - being able to afford a maid doesnt just mean being able to afford the visa charges. Its way way more than that. edited by DesertRose1958 on 03/06/2012 <em>edited by DesertRose1958 on 03/06/2012</em>

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Latest post on 26 May 2012 - 19:43

If she could say no she wouldnt have gotten to anywhere near this size in the first place. And its all well and good teaching people about healthy nutrition but unless someone gets to the bottom of what emotion the person is feeding or burying with food everything else thats being done is a waste of time. This is why people who have weight loss surgery quite often go on to become drinkers, gamblers. smokers - they swap one crutch for another because the real reason for them eating was never properly dealt with..

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Latest post on 26 May 2012 - 19:26

To have become this size its been calculated that the girl would have to consume 13,000 caloried daily - about 6.5 times the normal daily requirement. Two and a half kilos of caduburys daily milk per day would easily cover 13,000 calories daily and thats without any food or liquid intake at all. You wouldnt have to eat mountains of food to cover 13,000 calories daily - just eat/drink calorie dense ones. And just to add - the area in Wales where they live is poverty stricken beyond belief, and if memory serves me well the area is considered by the European Union to be an area of extreme deprivation. Not only does the EU send food handouts to the people of the area - other areas in wales also send food handouts by way of collection points in supermarkets. I doubt there's enough social workers to go round everyone that needs one. That aside, I seriously doubt that anyone who gets to the size that the girl is is healthy emotionally.

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Latest post on 23 May 2012 - 07:43

...and I have to add that the OP's thread heading "Filipin and Ethubia .. How much" and subsequent posts reads as though shopping for objects at a market place. Perhaps the way the OP asked her question is down to English not being a language she's really familiar with.

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Latest post on 16 May 2012 - 23:45

The video was also posted in 'respectable' newspapers worldwide.

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Latest post on 14 May 2012 - 23:37

I dont understand the hype surrounfing the Lime Tree cafe carrot cake - its big for sure, but that really does just equal a big slice of something thats underflavoured and really dry. In fact I think all of their cakes aren't really up to much but I do homebake so that could be why I find the lime tree over rated. I do think you'd have to go very far tho to beat their coconut ice. <em>edited by DesertRose1958 on 14/05/2012</em>

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Latest post on 14 May 2012 - 23:31

Loved the far fetchedness of it, loved the cheesiness of it, just loved it but I am sad that in the pretend world of Wisteria Lane that we know once they all moved house they never met up again.

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Latest post on 13 May 2012 - 12:40

We also get this, but not consistently, I think it is almost like rotten stagnant water! Have you had the a/c cleaned out? Yes - a few times and they will do it again tomorrow. My brother is a expert on A/C in Australia, and he told them to separate the fresh air duct from the bathroom fan vents to test to see if it was a vent problem vs a plumbing/pipe problem. So we did this for 3 days and it is definitely a plumbing issue. He said that maybe the in the trap (u shape pipes), the water is not full and therefore air still passes through bringing the odour with it when the suction of the AC kicks in?? It is driving us insane as we have 2 bedrooms linked to this AC - and we can't use them at night to sleep. Too hot now without the a/c. I was about to suggest the above and one way to remedy things is to add a piece of piping so that anything coming out of a pipe or a vent is higher than the actual pipe or vent. So you carry the odour upwards. Does that make sense?

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Latest post on 12 May 2012 - 11:34

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