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Latest post on 10 July 2011 - 20:38
Thank you so much for the advice ladies. Last night I rocked her to sleep, brought her into my bed and eventually offered her a pacifier. With the pacifier I noticed she would wake slightly, suck on it and then go back down. We had two bog wake ups last night! at midnight and at 4 am. Wow. Tonight, I did the whole sleep thing again. I wont ignore for 20 mins. What I did was give her the pacifier just before I put her down and she did not cry at all, in fact, I did not even touch her. I shushed for about 20 mins and then just sat there with her. She was so quiet that I thought she was asleep twice and tried to leave, but she let me know she was up! So I sat with her (not touching her or looking straight at her) and she was out in 50 mins. To be honest, this was so much more bearable without the crying! I am going to persevere and hope she falls asleep in less time eventually. I will leave her pacifier in and wont pick her up if she wakes. Going to keep at it as long as she is not agitated. Its not worth it if we are both just upset. My whole goal for this exercise is to make sure she gets enough sleep. She is so much happier and has a better attention span when she is well rested. THanks for the encouragement.
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Latest post on 09 July 2011 - 22:36
16 months old.
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Latest post on 09 July 2011 - 21:46
What HAK said. Sound advice. My favs: Car seat: Maxi Cosi Cabriofix (I have a pebble and think the cabrio seems roomier) stroller: Love my Bugaboo Bee but its a little low to the ground and DD wont sit in it now (But she is rebelling against all restraints like her high chair and stroller - so far so good with her car seat phew). The bee has a really nice fleece insert (cant remember what it was called) and DD used to LOVE sleeping in it.
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Latest post on 08 July 2011 - 12:06
Hi Muzza1. My daughter is a 31 weeker (now 16 months corrected 14 months) she weighs almost 10 kgs. She is also quite lean but tall enough. She also slowed her weight gain quite a bit after 10 months and has barely gained anything in the last three months (owing to increased acitivity) If I remember correctly at 10 (almost 8 months corrected)months, she was eating about the same as what you are feeding your daughter. She was a three hour feeder and our schedule was BM in the morning, bfast of purees at 9 ish witha formula top up, BM again and then lunch,BM again and then dinner and then a formula bottle at night (150mL) and a breast feed at night. We did not introduce meat till she was 12 months old and she is not very fond of it anyway. She likes only fish. She seems to be doing fine. I think your schedule sounds fine too. We accelerated introducing veg and rice and lentils at about 11 months and she eats almost everything we offer her now (we still have to mash a bit as she only has 3 teeth!).
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Latest post on 06 July 2011 - 15:48
Wow, this thread got super interesting didnt it? Back to the original boring topic! Well its going OK. I spoke with Cecile and she wanted me to ignore for 20, soothe for 5, and ignore for 20. I have not done it. Why? Because DD is lying down and starts to get hysterical if I ignore. SHe is taking forever to sleep (25 to 1 hour), but what I have been doing is minimzing the patting and shushing her instead. So less touching. If she does stand up and demand my attention, I refuse to look at her or interact till she lays down. She does within 30 seconds. Its taking a while but we will get there. Now, the problem I went to Cecile for was multiple wake ups a night. Sigh. That has not gotten any better. We have 5-6 wake ups a night where she just wants to be rocked back to sleep. That is the kicker. Once I have her bed time without touching sorted, I will start with the wakes up and no picking up. Unforunately I have a horrid cough at the moment and it wakes her up so we are sort of in a tough place. I also have to take a huge dose of drowsy cough syrup at night so my poor nanny has been waking up with her. Sigh. Oh yeah. She is teething so am not being tough abt the wakings. I will NOT leave her alone to cry. Its amazing how smart she is. within 3 days she realized Mommy will not pick me up and within a week she has realized, mommy wants me to lie down and sleep. Now i am waiting for her to realize Mommy wants me to lie down and sleep asap. Hahaha! the main thing is I need her to get a good night's sleep for her own sake. Keep at it GQ. DD is slowly dropping her morning nap in favor of a longer afternoon nap. I also let her do it on her own, in that I did not try and keep her up and advance the next nap. She now takes a short 30-40 min nap in the morning and 1.5 to 2 hours in the afternoon. Bed by 7.00 (which is actually more like 8) after the turning and tossing.
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Latest post on 06 July 2011 - 15:30
A friend of mine recently did a gorgeous loft that featured in the hot 100 homes. It is so beautiful. I can refer you if you like. BTW it is NOT ME. I can barely match my clothes let alone be an interior designer.
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Latest post on 06 July 2011 - 15:21
Agree that you need more concrete evidence to convict for murder. BUT how could she not report her child missing for 30 days? I would freak out if my baby was missing for like 5 mins. Disgusting mother. I see pictures of this beautiful child on TV and feel so bad that her mother obviously did not give a damn about what had happened to her and she is not even going to be punished for this. That poor little baby girl.
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Latest post on 05 July 2011 - 10:52
Anyone use this brand? Please give me your feedback. Thanks.
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Latest post on 02 July 2011 - 11:34
Thanks for all the support ladies. Its been an interesting three days. I am doing the 20 hands on/ 5 off and ignore/ 20 hands on. I cannot leave her in her crib alone to cry. First Night: Cried all 45 mins and had to be picked up to sleep Second night: lay down in the 45th minute and I put my hand on her to soothe her and she slept after an hour and fifteen mins of the routine starting Third night: Crying aplenty but lay down on her own (I refused to pat her back until she lay down). She was asleep in 30mins. More crying because DH came in and she tried to get him to take her. I am hopeful that Phase 2 (whatever it is ) will bring us the night sleep and happy baby. She was waking up every 45 mins and expecting to be rocked to sleep. I tried cosleeping. She still woke and up and wanted me to rock her to sleep. I needed to do this. I should have let her learn to self soothe but I didnt and the effects were disastrous. She was cranky ALL the time, would not sit in her chair, her car seat,refused to eat, refused to sleep long stretches, was HYPER and could not even look at a book or toy for more than 2 mins. I seriously thought she had ADD. She was crying constantly and I ended up crying my eyes out because I had lost control. DH's completely unhelpful comments about his mom raised two boys without any help and my stress was causing this behaviour (he was either channelling or quoting MIL) did not help the situation. I am doing this for her. I have no complaints about doing the night wakings honestly but the horrible sleep schedule was adversely affecting my baby, her ability to be happy and to learn. She still wakes up multiple times but 4 times out of 5 is just patted back to sleep.I hope she sleeps through the night soon. She is happier, now has a favorite book and smiles so much more. Oh and on the excellent advice of your ladies, I put her to bed now at 7.00 instead of 9.00 which has been a struggle (with DH as he does not get to see her) but she is a different baby altogether and has learnt 4-5 new things just in the last three days! <em>edited by kcinthecity on 02/07/2011</em>
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Latest post on 02 July 2011 - 10:44
Thanks ladies. Will head there today.
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Latest post on 02 July 2011 - 09:50
I need to buy three for different ppl. I found the original ones on the internet available in the UK. Does anyone know where I can get them in Dubai? Thanks!
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Latest post on 30 June 2011 - 15:13
Mine started to bf when she was 3 months old! I was pumping and feeding till then. Tell her to relax about it but ask why they have not given any colostrum yet... they wanted to feed mine some the very next day.
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Latest post on 27 June 2011 - 21:26
Really? How? Diet? I am just curious. I cant follow any diets unless someone specifically tells me what and how much to eat. How much does it cost? Did you lose the weight from being completely sedentary and not eating right or were you trying before but not seeing results (in my case enough results. I work out, eat ok but still have at least 5 kgs more to lose). TIA
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Latest post on 27 June 2011 - 20:28
Agree with you LD. Please do list some books for me to look out for. I am hopeless at this. CocoLoco, I just got a little paranoid as I am complaining about MIL and DH on one thread and the next one has my email add! Lol. Will email you.
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Latest post on 27 June 2011 - 15:42
I used the Medela sterilizing bags for microwaves. The staff were happy to let me use the microwave to sterilize my pump equipment and bottles, spoons, etc. Highly recommend them. They are available at babyshop. DD was only 6 months old when we went so she was mainly eating fruit purees which the staff were happy to either let me make or gave me bananas to feed her. She was on one solid meal a day then. My sister on the other hand had bought a bag full of jars and organic purees and cereal for her 7 month old. He also enjoyed the fruit and the bread sticks in the morning. The staff would make him fresh juice as well. Neither of he kids fell ill and we somehow managed to have a great holiday too. Enjoy your vacation!
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Latest post on 27 June 2011 - 15:26
DH is not so bad honestly. He tries but works mad hours and DD is a creature of habit so she finds it a little difficult to unwind with him (esp as when I ask him to wind her down, he just tries to play with her by whispering LOL). He does try some but they are both incredibly tempremental (DH and DD). He is pretty good with holding her and distracting her and playing with her in the morning so I can get a snooze. He just does not do nappies and bed times and to be honest DD doesnt let him either. For some reason she just wont allow him to do some of these things. My theory is that early on he was too scared with how tiny she was and she just never got used to it. Also MIL kept taking over from him (A LOT) and now she just does not see him as her primary caregiver. That is changing slowly as she becomes more and more aware of Daddy. He is also ALL THUMBS... he just is. He does try but should prob try harder. MIL: Am going to be tough this time. Determined. Esp cause I have the flu right now and am sleep deprived. Lethal combo. Ha ha.
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Latest post on 27 June 2011 - 13:21
Off to Ibn B today for DD haircut and book buying expedition. Thanks for the heads up. Please email me Cocoloco at <em>edited by kcinthecity on 27/06/2011</em>
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Latest post on 27 June 2011 - 13:18
Will try and be firm with the MIL. The passive aggressive attitude just kills me. Also having been forced to live with her for a while, I do kinda just resent her interference now. But will be firm this time. HAK: I will not be a MIL like her(at least I hope not :)). I dont know how to be passive aggressive (wish I did, would probably get more of DH's support) . I always hoped we would be friends but I hate being told what to do and do not like even my own mother doing that. SIGH. I think I am too adamant. <em>edited by kcinthecity on 27/06/2011</em>
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Latest post on 27 June 2011 - 10:32
DH is useless in the MIL department. Been complaining to him for years abt her passive aggressive issues. He has outbursts a couple of times a year with her which she attributes to his temper and says I know him, he is my son and promptly ignores everything. Its a no win sitch for me. SIGH. I think this time I will say something. What will happen? Can she like me any less (probably but I guess I have to stand up for myself some time). Oh DH is a typical subcontinental male. He works so he should not do the night shift.... apparently. But I digress.... I will see Cecile and start putting what she suggests into action. I doubt I can do it before MIL comes so maybe will have to wait for another 3 weeks. I suppose if she wants to wake up with A, I should let her do it with a smile and a few stipulations. <em>edited by kcinthecity on 27/06/2011</em>
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Latest post on 27 June 2011 - 09:30
I know I cant do it with MIL in the house. SIGH. She will constantly comment on everything I do and insist the A sleeps best with her and ofcourse she does when there is someone next to her patting her every times she so much as moves. This convinces DH completely that MIL knows what she is doing. Ofcourse once she leaves then we are back to square one. If MIL had her way she would never leave.
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Latest post on 26 June 2011 - 13:51
Thanks will do that for sure. Went to book world and everything was 35 and up. Some of the more interesting stuff was at 50 and 70!
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Latest post on 26 June 2011 - 10:47
You ARE lucky. Every night I pray my 16 month old does not wake up multple times but inevitably she does! I have moved her bed time up to 7.30 which has reduced wake ups from 5-10 to 3 (but not consitently)!. Waiting till she sleeps through. SIGH. I would also go and check whether she was breathing if she gave me a long stretch. Lol.
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Latest post on 23 June 2011 - 19:04
Has not closed down, its just moved to the other end of the mall. Go one floor down and walk towards the Gap. Its there parallel to the Gap. Just saw it three days ago. Its a bigger store.
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Latest post on 23 June 2011 - 19:03
Dont worry. Mine was born 9 weeks early and it took a couple of months to go away on its own. Dont bother binding, you dont need to. It takes care of itself.
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Latest post on 22 June 2011 - 10:41
I would probably have been too stunned to do anything. Similar but not so terrible incident yesterday. I was shopping at Lulu and this lady was being so condescending to the counter staff it was cringeworthy. Agreed the lady and gentleman behind the counter did not understand English super well but I could see they were trying to help her. Initially I thought I would jump in and help her bridge the language gap (not that I speak Tagalog or Arabic but I have been able to communicate with the staff without any issues) but her tone was so condescending it was disgusting. She was speaking to them like they were morons who were out of upset her. I can understand irritation when the counter staff are not being helpful but they were trying hard. Sick the way some people feel entitled and behave with others.
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Latest post on 19 June 2011 - 18:22
@Novice: The only reason I own a potty is my mother apparently had us weaned, potty trained and probably marching in line by the time we were 8 months old (I think 32 years has really impaired her memory). Then my MIL took it upon herself to teach DD to poop when seated. I described it in detail on another thread so wont rehash. She seems to have taken to it well so I just let it go. Dont despair about the apples, they are my best friend. We manage to get DD to eat her rice and daal when we mix applesauce in it. It frankly sounds disgusting to me but she eats with a gusto. DD wakes up late so she sleeps late. She is up by 9ish and in bed by 9ish with two naps which can range from 45 mins to 1.5 hours. We are trying to transition to one nap but it is a hit or a miss. I am hoping her bed time will change when we move as she will start an hour of playschool at 8.30am by September so will have to be in bed early. Unfortunately the bed time is non negotiable with my DH who works 7 days a week and only seems to be in the best of moods when DD is jumping all over him. She was unwell but seems to be back in action. The tantrums, etc started about a month ago. I thought it was that we were travelling and she was in a new place, etc, but they have not abated at all since we got back. She is on a pretty good routine which has worked well for us in the past. The thing that bothers me is that everything is now a fight. Eating, bathing, pooping, nappy changes, sleeping. So I guess she is pushing it, and I do feel like I am losing the battle as the tantrums are getting louder and longer. @ashc: Thanks for the support and offers to get me out of the house. You are right, she does need to expend more energy. I will just have to make sure she gets out more often. I also think she is frustrated at the difference in mental and physical levels. I am hoping she does the catch up by 24 months.
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Latest post on 19 June 2011 - 13:02
Thanks for the insight ladies. Really great advice. I do hope her tantrums are a communication issue. I think she just sometimes screams and shouts for absolutely no reason (woke up throwing a tantrum!). I am trying to be firm with her. I managed to get her to stop hitting. Took a couple of weeks of no, putting hand down and even walking off. She is much more responsive to No now. The sleep (or lack thereof) is killing me. I would love to move her bed time to earlier but then DH would never see her. I dont know why she is waking so often. She still naps twice a day like she used to. Am not sweating the potty stuff. She will go back to it eventually. She is pretty quick on the uptake. I do think this is her testing the limits as well. I like the idea of offering her choices. Sometimes I wonder if she understands what I am saying. She is soooo strong willed, sometimes I wonder if she is pretending she does not understand me.
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Latest post on 19 June 2011 - 11:59
AM Indian and throughout my life I have never known it to be polite to say You have put on weight. Honestly! I think it is just incredibly rude and way for the commentor to feel superior (throws you off doesn't it and wrecks your self confidence). I was at a party a few years ago when someone I barely know said "You have become so fat" and a common friend told him to stop being rude and an a hole. Both were Indian. I also had someone at work (also Indian, but a rude rude moron) tell me "You have not been going to the parlour have you" and I snapped at him and asked him whether I had ever given him the impression that he could talk to me that way... he was mortified, he knew exactly what he was doing and thought I would feel embarassed. If someone does this to you, dont take it lying down. It is a incredibly rude thing to say to deliberately shake up your confidence. If it is an accepted cultural thing to say you say "you are looking well" or your tone belies it to be a compliment. "You are so fat/ have become so fat" is rude and everyone knows that.
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Latest post on 19 June 2011 - 11:20
You know, she knew I was mad at her this moring after all the drama and so she started hugging me and making goo goo eyes at me. I think I am in very big trouble and in over my head with this kid.
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Latest post on 15 June 2011 - 13:30
I do give DD multivitamin and iron drops. I have given them to her for a while but under docs go ahead. Check with your doc. Agree with momoftwo: Parathas go down well (have added in daal and steamed veggies), idlis are a staple fav, right now she actually ate one potato (boiled and cut into chunks and then tossed in oil, rye seeds, little garlic, tumeric and salt). Dont know if you eat egg, but french toast is a big hit (substitute banana for egg if you like) and I make applesauce and carrot muffins which go down with milk! I suggest you stop the boiled only and salt less stuff. And ofcourse give him stuff he can feed himself (we just got done with eating potatoes spread out on the tray).
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Latest post on 15 June 2011 - 11:50
Yes she is getting enough fluids and seems mostly happy! She has started taking very small bites of things. I think I am just going to stop pushing and offer her whatever I am eating for now. I need a drink.
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Latest post on 15 June 2011 - 11:48
Hi Presam. Your son sounds just like my daughter who is 16 months old (only two teeth!). I added some masala to her khichdi (we had made chhole) and she ate it with obvious enjoyment. Your son probably wants some salt now and wants yummy food. As far as not eating enough, I dont have any advice.... we battle constantly.
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Latest post on 14 June 2011 - 17:57
LD you have mail.
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Latest post on 14 June 2011 - 08:51
LD.... still have your email add. Have contacted SIL and once I hear back will get you guys in touch. I love Singapore.
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Latest post on 14 June 2011 - 08:12
Been here 6.5 yrs, DH grew up here. Came here for good believe it or not! Moving to Mumbai in a month and could not be happier. Dubai was fun but its time for new challenges and I want to feel like I am home.
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Latest post on 13 June 2011 - 15:16
AP: I have the same prob with the face slapping. I say No and put the hand down, once when I had had enough, I handed her to my mum and just walked off. She got the msg. It has reduced drastically but happens ocassionally (mainly when she is tired). After the walking off episode, the word NO is more effective as well for just about anything. Have the same problem with the fake crying. I ignore it as much as I can and if it continues, pick her up, put her on my hip and completely ignore her. She stops shortly after.
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Latest post on 13 June 2011 - 15:12
Hi LD. Sending your loads of love right now. I cant offer any advice regarding the feeding issue BUT I have a wonderful and lovely SIL in Singapore who can help you out when you move. If you dont mind, I will talk to her and put you both in touch. They recently did an apartment hunt as well and she might have a load of info on moving, getting set up and just generally might be a good friend for you. I am making this offer in all seriousness so please do take me up on it if it will help you at all.
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Latest post on 08 May 2011 - 14:20
If you are insured and it covers NICU, I highly recommend City Hospital. There were never more than 2 babies to one NICU nurse and for that I was grateful (not sure what the ratio is at AW). I thought the level of care was fantastic!
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Latest post on 07 May 2011 - 15:15
Thanks for the advice ladies. I am going to work on altering her meal times and pushing her naps around a bit. Wish me luck.
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Latest post on 07 May 2011 - 15:13
Want to take my 14 month old to this. She does not walk yet. Is it ok to take her or is she just too young at the moment?
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Latest post on 06 May 2011 - 22:11
This one makes us drool Smoked Salmon Capers parsley (not the flat leaf variety) lemon juice Chop it all up with some Olive Oil and put into pasta. Its super super yum.
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Latest post on 06 May 2011 - 18:17
DD's first few vaccinations were a little tough. She screamed and she was so little! But all was forgotten in less than 5 mins. At her 12 months shots, she took em like a champ and aside from an indignant scream on HOW DATE YOU HOLD ME DOWN, we were back to normal within 30 seconds. Honestly, its tougher on the mums!
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Latest post on 04 May 2011 - 18:28
Hi. We put some softened up prunes in her food and that stuff came right out the other end and resolved some of her issues. Try it.
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Latest post on 04 May 2011 - 10:39
Hi meals. DD born at almost 31 weeks. I do remember thinking growth spurt AGAIN? During the first 6 months. She was and still is very much a creature of routine so those random wake ups and need for feeds would throw me off quite a bit. After 6 months I was more strict on how often I fed her at night.
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Latest post on 03 May 2011 - 15:51
The funny thing is that Emirates prices when flying from here are super high, but if you buy from somewhere else they seem more reasonable (i.e. My folks bought Mumbai Dubai London and back and it was not as exp as Dubai London and back!)
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Latest post on 02 May 2011 - 12:48
Gosh, I thought she looked so beautiful and that included her make up. She is really stunning!
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Latest post on 01 May 2011 - 16:12
I highly recommend the big thick ones from ACE. DD and nephew have played on them and fallen on them many times and are alright. The ones I got from ELC are pretty but too think to absorb the impact of a fall.
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Latest post on 01 May 2011 - 11:28
I was not on Duphaston, but I do remember that I was the world's most unattractive pregnant woman in my first tri. I was beyond bloated, my hair was stringy and my skin looked pale and yucky. Then after 12 weeks, I magically transformed into super gorgeous (in my opinion ofcourse) until DD came, then I looked (and still do) look like a fat wreck! :D
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Latest post on 01 May 2011 - 11:26
Hi Sunsa. DD just started to sleep through the night at 14 months (i.e. sleeps by 9 wakes up at 6.00 am for a bottle and goes back down till about 8.30 am however, kicks the heck out of DH and me between 3 and 5 am while still asleep). At 6 months, she was waking twice to thrice at night for a feed. She was on two solids a day (bfast and dinner). I introduced formula at 9 months (night bottle) and it did not make a bit of difference to her sleep patterns! So if you want to introduce formula to get her to sleep better, it might or might not work. Introducing formula so DH or someone else can feed her will def give you more sleep! You arent doing anything wrong. You are doing great! Dont beat yourself up about it. I too used to wonder why DD kept waking up at night when everyone else's kids were sleeping through the night at 6 weeks! All babies are different. Sorry you are exhausted. Take care of yourself and make the best decision for you and your daughter.
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Latest post on 30 April 2011 - 13:37
It took almost a week for the rash to go. I did not apply anything to the rash. I was careful that DD's bath water not be too warm after the rash showed up. Call the Welcare Ambulatory Clinic in KNowledge Village and ask if they can squeeze you in if you feel you should see a doc.