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Latest post on 20 March 2011 - 17:57
Same doctor (she was awesome) and had DD 9 weeks early. I cannot praise the NICU enough. They were AMAZING. I really do think my little baby learnt to feed faster than expected because of the wonderful patient NICU nurses who would take upto 45 mins to get her to take her bottle and burp her. If am still in Dubai for the second, I will go to the same doc and the same hospital.
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Latest post on 18 March 2011 - 13:54
Not to hijack, but I am pretty unhappy with the huggies pull ups and swimmers. I need a good pull up brand. Does Sanita Bambi do a pull up version? Huggies leakes and the water gets into her swimmer (I have the right size I think). TIA
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Latest post on 18 March 2011 - 11:17
and missing MJ oddly enough. He is singing "Way you make me feel". Sigh.
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Latest post on 18 March 2011 - 11:10
Sorry Lulee. I dont have any sage advice. Just sending you hugs.
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Latest post on 18 March 2011 - 11:09
Awesome. Thanks ladies. Will check out the MaxiCosi and Britax today.
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Latest post on 17 March 2011 - 16:45
Tough tough decision. I struggled with it a lot when I was working. I ended up resigning (because of a tough work situation) and am pretty happy as a SAHM (but am very new at it). It sounds like you love this new opportunity. Try it out. If it does not end up working for you, you could always be a SAHM again.
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Latest post on 17 March 2011 - 16:40
@JoannaS: Sorry you went through something like it. It was awful. But I am so much happier and realized that work was just ONE aspect of my existence. Hopefully will find something better!
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Latest post on 17 March 2011 - 15:05
Hi Ginger. I just told you what I did. I had the same problem as you where stuff was being delegated under my nose and I had NO support from senior managment. It just got too much for me at the end of the day. I did try and talk to him about this but he just kept on lying about everything. I complained to HR and his boss and they did nothing so I left. To me that was better than being set up as a bad performer which was his agenda (funnily, I was one of the best performers before he took over as my boss). My case is different, I am not at all likening it to your situation. If your benefits are better if fired, then please follow the advice these ladies have given you. All I can say is dont let it destroy your confidence. I know that my shoulders were slumped at work for a long time.
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Latest post on 17 March 2011 - 14:38
Hi Ginger. I dont know about your company, but legally I had to serve 2 months notice. Boss did not want me around so I get to sit at home and not work but be an employee for two months. So I guess I am lucky. I have not even started looking for something else. Am just taking a break at the moment because the whole politics and working for this unethical sorry excuse for a person was very stressful. Its been about a week or so and I will start looking for something at the end of the month. It is better to resign than be fired because I think legally if you get fired they do not have to pay you your dues. But I might be mistaken. Sorry about this. I know how incredibly crushing this can be for your own confidence. I wish you all the best. Dont doubt yourself.
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Latest post on 17 March 2011 - 14:18
Just been through this ginger. I went on leave and he reassigned all my project. Its such a dirty way to play politics. I eventually resigned. I am too good to work for that piece of rubbish. I am sorry you are going through this.
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Latest post on 17 March 2011 - 12:41
I also got the same things as dikane. 100% sure. I am from India but have NEVER been to those sites and this is my work computer. Relax. Just btw, am in a similar situation as you... DD is 12 months, all intimacy has flown out of the window, he works his butt off, plans almost nothing and spends more time watching the news than hanging with me. But he loves me (I think) and I dont think he is having an affair.
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Latest post on 17 March 2011 - 12:36
Only when its hot outside does she (and me too) feel hot. At home, i used to put her in and dance to her used to it. She falls asleep in it regularly but also screams to be taken out once in a while. Sometimes I wish we had a front facing one, but I believe ergonomically they are not good for the kids. I honestly have not had any probs carrying her for any period of time. She weighs 9 kgs now and I get tired with the extra weight after walking for a while, but it does not hurt my shoulders or back. The longest we kept her in the ergo was at BangKok airport from the airplane to the taxi (about 30 mins). It was a breeze.
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Latest post on 17 March 2011 - 11:40
I think I have the original (its green). I wanted the sport but to be honest, it did not seem as secure to me as the original. THank God for it as DD hates her pram and the ERGO helps A LOT.
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Latest post on 17 March 2011 - 11:22
The problem is that I am getting embarassed to take her out! She was a holy terror at Dubai Mall yesterday as she was screaming her head off in her pram and both my maid and I have bad backs! Carrying her 9kg body around nearly put us on bed rest. I was meeting an old friend for a cup of coffee and DD was so cranky and fidgety! Argh. I thank God my maid decided to come with us for an outing and helped out. I usually dont take her everywhere with me. <em>edited by kcinthecity on 17/03/2011</em>
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Latest post on 17 March 2011 - 11:12
Wow. This is a great discussion. I wonder if the supermarkets here have HUGE margins or goods actually cost that much considering they are shipped in from other countries? One of my friends is a local food distributors, I think I will ask him how this works (re pricing at the wholesale and retail level for supermarkets). I wonder if prices are being inflated at the retail level or/and the distributor levels.
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Latest post on 16 March 2011 - 19:52
Ashc: i dont know if its teething. God I hope it is. The thing is she stops screaming when I pick her up so I think its a little more than the teething thing. Observe on Monday! ha ha. I am trying to praise her for good behavior but there isnt much to praise these days! Lol.
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Latest post on 16 March 2011 - 13:55
Interesting comparison. Weird that it is the same in the US. Well surprising. I remember groceries being quite cheap there when I was there (eeeep that was 8 years ago... my life is flying by!)
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Latest post on 16 March 2011 - 12:16
Dr. Latha at unicare. I would not recommend her for OB but she is a good gyn.
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Latest post on 16 March 2011 - 12:12
I agree, ppl think we are lording it here. The cost of living is high and we do not live large at all. Even then we are constantly trying to get our bills lower. But my dad told me one thing, compromise on whatever else, but not on food. You need that everyday so spend money on good quality stuff within reason (he was not referring to caviar ofcourse). I guess we dont really have a choice here. Quality or not its expensive because most of the goods are imported.
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Latest post on 16 March 2011 - 11:30
I should have just gone to Lulu Hypermarket. I needed to pepperoni so thought I would go to SPinneys and finish everything. Bad idea. Shudder. AnonDubai: I know nappies are ridiculously priced here. But I rechecked the price for the same at Lulu and it was AED 4 cheaper! Sigh, my mistake I guess. 2 adults, 1 maid and 1 baby, our bills are AED 500ish a week.
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Latest post on 14 March 2011 - 14:09
Know how you feel derbend. Was there myself. In the end she did everything so much better than me and eventually completely cut me out of the friends circle. Just cut it out of your life. It obviously bothers you and it did bother me and I should have limited contract ages ago instead of investing time and effort into that particular group of friends (was lonely for a long time and still have not made a ton of friends to make up for it). Nip this 'friendship' in the bud. I know its cliched to say this, but you really dont need this in your life. Frenemy is an apt word here.
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Latest post on 14 March 2011 - 14:00
Dont have experience with him for the pregnancy, but he was the gynae on call when I went to the ER. He was so reassuring and wonderful and would have been the one to deliver DD if Dr. Elsa had not come in. He even came to the NICU to say Hi to DD.
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Latest post on 13 March 2011 - 13:05
My DD is due for hers this week. Doc says it should be no problem. I had mine. I hope I am making the best decision for her. As far as I know, individual vaccines are not available in Dubai. The shots here do not have thimerasol.
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Latest post on 13 March 2011 - 13:01
On the surface we get along, but there is an explosion coming esp since I had my baby. Annoying, clingy, obssessed with my child, passive aggressive (the most irritating of all) and attempts to control through emotional blackmail. That being said, she is not an evil person who will deliberately set out to hurt me, but takes everything I do not agree with her on way too personally. And yes, DH does love my non interfering, independent and having her own life and things to think about mother. But we all get along and family life is more or less harmonious at most times. <em>edited by kcinthecity on 13/03/2011</em>
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Latest post on 12 March 2011 - 15:50
I really like my maid. She is very responsible and so great with DD. We went through a rocky patch where I was getting some attitude from her (frankly I think it was courtesy of MIL's interfering), but she seems to have settled. I dont interfere in her routine because I trust her to do her stuff. The house is always clean, DD loves her and she has made my SAHM transition easy on me (after I had a 'chat' with her about attitude). I am going to miss her when we move back home (I still hope she changes her mind and comes with us).
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Latest post on 08 March 2011 - 17:04
@AriVW: Both DH and I worked and we really needed the maid to help with DD. We were super lucky because for the 1st six months my MIL (obsessed with DD now unfortunately) was able to help out. We spent ages looking for our maid (older lady, single, loves kids, etc), but after NOV its been just us and the maid. I had to leave DD alone with her when I went in to work for five days a week. Now, the maid is completely in love with DD around me, but I would not know if she did something behind my back. We call randomly, do spot checks. All looks good. Maybe parents dont know this is going on. If they do and they condone it or turn a blind eye, then they dont deserve their children. Btw, I do think my maid is quite civilized and it would shock me to know she was mistreating my child. That being said.... after reading this stuff I am so glad I am going to be a SAHM now. @terf: Please do something. Someone has to speak up for these kids. Dont be afraid of the maid Mafia. They cant do anything to you. <em>edited by kcinthecity on 08/03/2011</em>
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Latest post on 07 March 2011 - 22:30
@Glitzi: So sorry, DD has been a horror today. Did not have a chance to get out. Will check tomorrow. The sale on Aptamil 2 was 48 for a 900g tin. Want me to pick you up some if Aptamil 1 is on sale?
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Latest post on 07 March 2011 - 15:28
@pugsley: I am not a poster child for managing the maid. Believe me, I have treated mine with a lot of respect and affection and lately am getting a ridiculous amount of attitude. But I could not come down hard on her as she was alone with my DD all day while we were at work. I was afraid she would take it out on her so I know how you feel. I quit working this week and am not not taking any of her ****. Dont know how long she will stay with me, but believe me she did a complete backward somersault when I put my foot down about her behavior. The reason I kept on her is that she LOVES my child and always puts her first and does everything she can for her (to the crazy extent that when we go out to the mall together she would rather it be her carrying my kid and showing her stuff than me)- and even then I was worried she would take it out DD. BUT it sounds like your maid is already not treating your child very well. Get rid of her for your sanity and also for the sake of your child.
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Latest post on 07 March 2011 - 11:51
Thanks for the link. I have tried it all. She first stopped wanting a bf for her afternoon feed and the morning one was more of a comfort for her, but I think once the milk dropped further she just did not want it anymore. I was not ready, but I can now work out super hard and try and get back into shape. Thank you for all the encouragement, especially to Sian as she really helped me bf.
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Latest post on 07 March 2011 - 10:44
Glitzi: Will do and post. DC: they do surpise us with random acts of thoughtfulness every now and then eh?
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Latest post on 06 March 2011 - 23:08
Karama and no problem (have to go and get DD's meds). Would you like me to pick em up (and how many)?
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Latest post on 06 March 2011 - 18:10
Yes. Its diagonally opposite Safa Park.
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Latest post on 06 March 2011 - 18:09
Cant praise the Ergo enough. Did not use it when she was a newborn, but its travelled with us everywhere and been so useful when I was flying alone (using the loo!). DD is going through a clingy phase now where she wants to be held all the time and it is saving our backs (literally) when we go out. Highly recommend it.
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Latest post on 06 March 2011 - 10:49
Saw some in CHoithrams nr Safa Park. Kept with the other baby stuff.
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Latest post on 06 March 2011 - 10:43
DC Aptamil 2 is on sales as well. I bought three 900g tins at Life Pharmacy. They are being sold for AED 48. Lemme know if you want me to pick em up. There is a Life Pharmacy close to our place.
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Latest post on 16 February 2011 - 13:35
A diff point of view: Your friend was venting to you.... when I vent sometimes I get seriously overdramatic and everything is a HUGE deal and I always say I am going to do extreme things. Maybe your friend just needed to get her basest thoughts and feelings out and felt comfy enough to do that with you. I seriously hate venting to DH because he gets all sanctimonious on me and starts giving me advice. I am a pretty reasonable person, dont make hasty decisions and am not unduly harsh. But it does not sound like it when I vent. Give her some time to adjust. Life as she was expecting it to be is going to change dramatically. It takes time getting used to. I would email her and tell her that you understand what she is going through with regard to changes in her life, but this is his son and that she should calm down and speak with her husband before throwing around the leaving him card, but you are here is she needs to talk about anything and then I would leave it at that. Now here is my assumption, you seem like a reasonable person and a nice concerned friend. Your friend probably is similar (you are both friends after all), she probably just needs time to accept and process this curveball being thrown at her.
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Latest post on 16 February 2011 - 13:12
I really liked the stall from Syria. They actually had tons of interesting stuff from there.
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Latest post on 15 February 2011 - 14:22
Awww am so sorry to hear that. I also had DD at 30 w 5 days and both sets of parents came down. I really did appreciate their support as I was a basket case while DD was in the NICU. BUT.... the in laws then decided that they should never leave and my parents since then have decided that I dont really need any help. I know it does not help you feel better but spend the time bonding with your son and establishing your own routine. I would be happy to help out with ANYTHING at all. I know how crazy it is to have a preemie and even though when they are home it gets better, you sometimes just need someone to talk to and get over what you have been through.
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Latest post on 15 February 2011 - 10:23
DH and I took DD to the doc for a possible ear infection. Adored and kissed her and then wrestled her to bed. Looked at each other at 9 pm and cancelled our dinner reservation (required us to get dolled up and go out), opened a bottle of wine and finished it. We ended up at a disgusting restaurant that we used to go to 4 years ago for dinner after remembering it fondly and talking it up to each other. Moral of the story: dont make decisions on where to go for dinner after polishing off a bottle of wine .
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Latest post on 14 February 2011 - 13:55
Am so sorry to hear this. Sending you and your DH strength vibes!
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Latest post on 13 February 2011 - 15:50
I actually agree with some of the other posters, CL should have just asked if she could take the meat and give it to her dogs. Sounds like RB has control issues, but hey, its her house so her rules. Personally I do hope if I was ever RB (and had more more than I knew what to do with ... SIGH), I would ask CL if she wanted any of the stuff before throwing it out.
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Latest post on 13 February 2011 - 15:33
Please dont quote me on this, but I heard that Choithrams imports directly from Danone UK while all other stores stock from the local distributor. I also believe the the content/ naming of the products is also country/region specific. Not sure if this is the right explanation for what you are seeing though.
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Latest post on 10 February 2011 - 13:29
Big Hugs to you. I cant imagine how difficult this must be for you. My DD is almost a year old and was a preemie. I work as well and would make it my mission in life to be with her once I got home until she went to bed. My relationship with my husband did suffer as he said not only was I neglecting him but myself as well. Leaving her to go out or spending time away from her does fill me with a lot of guilt, but I do make it a point to cook him a special meal every week and we go out together at least once a week. Just that effort to show him that he is still important to me has made him happier and as a result he himself spends more time with our DD (now to the extent that I am feeling neglected!).
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Latest post on 10 February 2011 - 12:34
We used to have a cat who was the laziest thing in the world. Barely even woke up during the day. Four years ago, I used to come home from work and be alone at home with her and all of a sudden started feeling kinda spooked between 5.30 and 7.30 pm for about 2 weeks or so. The funny thing is that between these times, the cat used to raise her head and look completely panicked at a spot in the living room and then she used to run into the balcony and not come in till about 7.30 pm. SHe did this almost every day for those two weeks. I finally said to no one in particular "Please leave this house, we live here and you are not welcome here. Go in peace!" once when she freaked out and it stopped. Was the weirdest thing and I usually dont get spooked at home ever!
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Latest post on 10 February 2011 - 12:28
Really? Argh. Cant believe I could not find it and had to ensure 10 hours in a train that was delayed by 9 hours with DD (9 months) in tow. Was so not happy about it. But what is weird was that we checked online and found nothing. Thanks for the info as it will make life a lot easier for me next time as my folks spend a lot of time in Goa and DH's folks live near Cochin.
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Latest post on 10 February 2011 - 12:25
DD was not putting on much weight (this was at 7 months and not as early as your sister's child), I was planning on NEVER giving her formula, but after my dad (who never pushes his opinion) insisted that she was hungry after feeds, I started supplementing solids and bf'w with formula. She really started doing better. I am not advocating stopping bf or anything. I still bf DD and she is almost 12 months old. But I do supplement her with formula after her solid meals and if dinner is 3 hours after her last bf of the day. It really seemed to help put her weight gain back on track. She is below the 15th pecentile cause she was a tiny preemie.
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Latest post on 10 February 2011 - 11:43
I bought my friend the full mustella range for pregnant women. She loved it.
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Latest post on 10 February 2011 - 11:39
You cannot fly direct. We really wanted to but had to take a train. All the flights go through Mumbai, Bangalore, Mangalore and Chennai. When did the direct flights start? We could not find any in Jan. Took the Rajdhani first class sleeper and got there in 10 hours. Cochin can be lovely. Make a trip to Matanjerry (sp?) to check out some antiques. I really enjoyed that.
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Latest post on 10 February 2011 - 10:09
I dont mind giving her an NOC. Although I am not going to give her time to look for a new job on my dime. I think that is what she kinda wants. She can it do on Fridays if she likes. Nothing has altered in her personal circumstances. In fact she would be much wealthier back home. Her salary would be equivalent to an entry level executive once converted. Sigh. I just need to start looking for a maid, only now I need to find one who will come here and then move back with us in a few months. Thanks ladies.
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Latest post on 09 February 2011 - 15:42
No you haven't. I have said she has right to choose and also change her mind, but clearly she was no going to tell me till the last minute. That is what is upsetting me as I have been really open with her about the move. Also back home for me is also back home for her so it is not incomprehensible that she might have been ok with it. <em>edited by kcinthecity on 09/02/2011</em>
 
 
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