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Latest post on 15 May 2013 - 16:48
Thank you for all your support and kind words, they really do help and my only regret is not knowing you in person while living in Dubai, you sound such caring helpful ladies.... Clairehdp....Ikea, now we are talking.... I was only there last week...! my details are nippy35 at googlemail dot com Madaboutpink, I am so sorry to hear that you are going through all this too, all I can say take each day at a time, I tried to plan and do too many things at once, and it really weighed me down, and now I am trying to undo some of my rash decisions! Please email me and if I can help or offer support to you, I will. Big hugs, you are strong and it sounds the whole family are behind you and you will have the strength from them and the great Expat Woman Ladies who offer so much support and advice, or just sending there kind words, means so much, more than they probably know, but those words really do mean so much.... Expat Woman will never be forgotten the name will always be spoken in a way of helpfulness and kindness and what great people with their kind support...
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Latest post on 14 May 2013 - 00:23
Thank you so much for all your kind words and encouragement. I would like to think in time, I will be able to post more on a happier note for you all :) Thank you all again... Nippy35 x
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Latest post on 11 May 2013 - 11:56
Thank you all for your kind words, again to me... I've had to go through so many interviews here to get the benefits, each one makes me have sleepless nights leading up to them! I still keep getting calls asking me when I am going out to work etc... I feel like I'm being rushed by them, I know for sure the preschool where my little one goes to they are full on the other days... I don't want to move him again so soon... They make me feel that if I don't go out then I won't be entitled to the benefits. My days are filled being a Mum and a Dad and some days I'm so exhausted, you don't realise the little jobs take me all day... I ordered a bench for the garden it came flat pack, they didn't supply all the bits to put it together, it took me all day, no nails, cuts and scratches all over my hand, but I got there in the end...putting a swing together, was another task, the seat is wonky and it leans to one side but it works! Some days doing a simple task do frustrate me, I don’t always have the strength to move a bag of stone or push the loft ladders back in the attic and I’m left with them dangling and I’m trying not to scream and shout at the damn thing, my older son comes out of his room looking at me so worried, then I see his little face, I walk away and then I go back and give it another go and it goes back up! I can’t go to some of the school things for my older son as I need a babysitter, I don’t have one or at least know someone to ask, so I miss out on a few things to do with his school too... I went to Ikea the other day as I needed some curtains, picked up the packs I wanted, I went to the counter and said, can I have them lined and taken up and they said, sorry we don’t do that here…!! What the one in Dubai does…. Just a few little things but to me each one mounts up and some days, I just feel I have the world on my shoulders… I’m sure it will all become easier and I know I am lucky compared to other people. After going through all what I have, it has made me become more aware of other situations or people and has made me more humble and grateful of the smallest of things in life… Take care to you all and thank you all again for all your kind wishes…. Enjoy the rest of your weekend… Nippy35 (soon to be 39!) <em>edited by nippy35 on 11/05/2013</em>
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Latest post on 28 January 2013 - 00:26
Hello, Thank you all for your kind words and wishes again... I tried to post the other week, but I could not log on but the lovely Admin team have put me back on, here is an update for you all. We are all well apart from the endless coughs / colds that we are getting. My little DS loved the snow for the first time, my older boy has settled into school now. Christmas was a very difficult time for me, it was just a blur, but the children had a lovely time. We have been living here, there and everywhere, all of us in a bed, or on a floor or on sofa's it's been very unsettling especially for my 3 year old. I made a bold decision to move away from my home town and family to somewhere new, to start a fresh life for us all. We are not far from the New Forest and there are plenty of parks and near to the sea for the children to have lots of fun. To cut another long story short! My Mother took a great dislike to this idea and aired her views on New Years Eve afternoon in a verbal attacking swearing way in front of the children, and by 5pm on NYE our bags were packed and my sister came and collected us, so within 2 weeks, we had been made homeless, one by my husband and the other by my mother! It was not a great NYE to say the least and very upsetting again for my children to see there Grandmother to behave in such a way. ( I must add, that my Mother has not been the most loving caring person to say the least, which proved it on what she did to us on NYE) I found out that my husband came back to the UK for a weeks holiday just after Christmas, he tried to see his other three children, but was refused access by his ex wife. He tried to see a solicitor here, but was turned away and was informed to carry on with the one he was using in Abu Dhabi. (Maybe they just didn't want to get involved!) While he was here, he did not attempt to see his son. In fact communications have been very little, he had his first skype with him on Friday and it is upsetting to say, that our 3 year old son, didn't recognise him and was upset trying to be forced to speak with him. I have a solicitor here now and they were still saying the court case was still going through, when we asked to see the court papers / case numbers it comes to light that there was no court case, the meeting was actually the first step of getting a divorce, it was to see a marriage counsellor in Abu Dhabi. This information really upset me, as I was being so bullied by him about his lies regarding the divorce and how scared I was and what I went through, even now I still have no reasons as to why. Which is really hard for me, to get my head sorted, I keep thinking about the things we did and said right up until that day. I try to understand it, but I'm finding it very difficult. I'm still going through the daunting task of claiming benefits, it made me feel so bad and little having to do these things. I've always worked and made my way through life before I met my husband and now I have nothing to show for my life, and being made to survive and my only way is to claim, this is not a life I wanted or to give my children. As I've been out of the country for over 5 years, I'm also being investigated. On a good note....I have managed to sort us out a little house, which I've got the keys for but we haven't moved in, as I've had to wait for our shipping container to arrive, which is due tomorrow. It has been a long 6 weeks, just living out of 3 suitcases. I'm so looking forward to having our things back tomorrow, but I know it will be another sad day to see the items that we bought and shared together, but I will have to get over that too. That's my story so far.... hopefully in another month or so, I will post again and hopefully I will have been able to move on a little more and have more positive things for you all. Once again, EW Ladies, thank you for thinking of me, I still sit on here on my lonely evenings, and have a catch up with your posts! I wish you all well and a safe / happy life... Nippy 35
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Latest post on 23 December 2012 - 12:12
swarovski, you are correct, your lovely daughter looked after my children when I used to live at JLT. The hardest part for me, is to try and let go, we had done so much over the last two years, and to be told, he just acted out and afterwards he still felt sad inside... How was I ever to know he was unhappy when he never told me or even looked unhappy! I was never given a chance to change or to try and make our marriage work. I just need to find away to let go and stop thinking of the things we have done. Due to the time of the year, I haven't done anything since I've returned back to the UK. I am finding it hard to cope and with Christmas only a few days away, I want to try and make it a happy one for my children. In the New Year once I've decided where we are going to live, I need to try and sort out school, job, house, everything to be honest! Then I will get a solicitor and take it from there. Thank you ladies, I wish you all a Happy Christmas and a great 2013 too.... Love, Nippy xxx
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Latest post on 22 December 2012 - 20:45
Sorry, Admin I didn't mean to put something in my other post for it to be deleted. I was just wanted to say thank you to some helpful people. Please leave my post on for others...... please..... Claire thank you for your kind words, me and my boys, who are 3 years and 11 years are living in Stratford Upon Avon at present, I will be moving to Southampton in the New Year, to start a new life, in a new place, scary but I just need to get away. I'm not sure how we will survive or what will happen but I have my boys with me which will make me carry on. My last week in Dubai, was very hard for us, my son finishing school, my little one going to nursery, it was very emotional, I must admit I spent a lot of time in tears, but with this court date looming, I just had to go as quickly as possible in the end, the worst time was saying goodbye to my dear friends... Thank you so much ladies, you are all very kind with all your nice words and support, which will always be carried with me on my new journey.... Nippy xxxx
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Latest post on 22 December 2012 - 18:30
Hi Ladies, I'm back in the UK now, I have posted my story for you... I would like to thank you so much, every kind word helped me through my days and they still do, I have a long road ahead of me, but I will take each day at a time.... Thank you.... Love, Nippy 35...xxx
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Latest post on 17 December 2012 - 23:44
I know I said I wasn't going to reply for a while, at present I am silently re reading your kind message and thoughts for me, they keep me going. I coudn't let this post go, to say thank you, you are all such kind people. I may not know you, but what you have done for me over the last few days, I will never forget you, you will all live with me for the rest of my life. I will keep you posted soon and thank you .... Nippy xxx
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Latest post on 17 December 2012 - 13:45
Thank you all for all your advice and kind words..... I will not add any further comments on here for obvious reasons... however, I will post at a later date, to tell you the outcome. It is so awful for me right now, I cannot express how I am feeling right now, so close to Christmas, I've just had to take all my decorations down, not by me but a very good friend. It's just heartbreaking... Thank you all again, I wish you all a very Happy Christmas and wish you all a very happy, safe life to you all... Nippy <em>edited by nippy35 on 17/12/2012</em>
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Latest post on 17 December 2012 - 12:00
Thanks all, I am not an active user of Expat woman, normally a reader not a poster, I have been here 3 1/2 years, so my count log speaks and mainly of my post were in the early days.... I am 99% sure my husband will not be looking on here, he doesn't know how it all works etc.... I have spoken with DECAS and they have advised me not to go to the court and go back to the UK and deal with it from there. I am just checking to see if there is a block on our passports at the moment, but endless calls at the moment, I'm not getting anywhere!!! Thank you all for everything and all your kind support, it is helping me... Nippy xx
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Latest post on 17 December 2012 - 10:34
I know what you're saying but it will take two days, I don't have two days, if you know what I mean, I need to make a head start for them.
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Latest post on 17 December 2012 - 09:56
With my circumstances on my previous thread,..... The shipping company cannot start until tomorrow, I've asked if they can bring me some packing boxes so I can start, and still waiting on answers...... I know this is a lot, but could anyone, help me by getting some packing boxes, tape etc... to me, I live in Arabian Ranches, I know it's a lot to ask, I have a 3 year old with me, it's will be a few hours out of my day, and each minute right now, I can't afford to loose... I will pay the cost of petrol and all the things you will get for me.... Please, no nasty replies, I don't think I can handle anymore.... Just a friend request, if not, it doesn't matter..... email, nippy35 at gmail dot com Thank you xx
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Latest post on 17 December 2012 - 09:52
Thank you all.... I really don't want to go to the court, because at the end of the day, I haven't agreed to a divorce, it was only last Wednesday that he told me he was leaving a starting divorce proceedings. I didn't know that this Thursday was going to be the day to hand me my divorce papers and thats the end of my marriage, in just one week. He is so worried I skip the country too, and that I go back to the UK and scr*w him from there, sorry for the swear word! but it his words... How can I be going to court, when not one piece of paper has been sent to me, he has told me the date and time. I asked for the file case number on Thursday and he said, he doesn't have one.... I'm really scared, I am waiting to phone people but each hour is lost, sitting and waiting... But I would all like to thank you so much for all your support, it means so much, I feel pretty lonely, my family are so worried for me, being out here on my own with two children. thank you all so much, even some who are just sending hugs, everyone of them are a huge help... Thank you......xx Nippy
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Latest post on 16 December 2012 - 22:48
Yes, I have a contact here and a contact in the UK... He stopped paying the CSA as soon as we left the country we live in a country were UK laws can't touch him with CSA payments.. However, the case will still be open in the UK, he can't ever live back in the UK for this reason and the debts he did in his previous marriage, and they too haven't been paid either!
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Latest post on 16 December 2012 - 20:45
Hi have some numbers to call tomorrow. His from the UK, like myself, we were married in the UK too... I am so in shock, this phone call was nasty he was screaming and he thinks I'm going to skip the country before Thursday, which is another reason! I have had gut feelings there has been or still is another woman! The reason I am going the weekend, I do not have family here, and it's been awful since he broke the news to me over the phone on Wednesday just after I had taken our son to a Christmas Party, he was even kissing me on the Wednesday morning before I left... You can imagine what a shock!
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Latest post on 16 December 2012 - 20:11
Thank you all... Update, I've just had a phone call from my husband... The appointment on Thursday is not just to get the financial agreement rubber stamped by the judge, it's actually my DIVORCE....!!!! he was screaming and shouting down the phone and so worried that I will not show on Thursday and slammed the phone down on me...!!! sat here, scared and do I go or don't I and just go back to the UK and divorce him from there?
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Latest post on 16 December 2012 - 15:32
Thank you all, it means so much, it is awful at the moment, he told me on Wednesday and I haven't done much but cry! I'm not leaving myself much time as our tickets are booked for this weekend... The court hearing is Thursday... Will make a list of these contacts you have kindly suggested and will start calling... thank you Nippy
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Latest post on 16 December 2012 - 15:04
Hi Gym bunny, is your contact based here or the UK? Thanks Nippy
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Latest post on 16 December 2012 - 14:58
Thank you both...x
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Latest post on 16 December 2012 - 14:39
Hi. Last week my husband phoned me up and told me he has packed a bag, cancelled mine and the childrens visas and is divorcing me! To say it came to a huge shock is an understatment! He has been acting like a husband right up until the morning I left the house to take my son to school! 4 hours later I get this phone call. Without me giving you the whole story... My question is.... We have had to drawn up an agreement between ourselves, for our financials, this document has to go in front of the judge to rubber stamp it. He has told me this is to protect me... This letter of agreement, just list our financials and how much he is going to pay me, and his terms of what I can and can't do! I will be leaving Dubai next week. He tells me, that when I'm back in the UK and if he defaults on a payment I can call the courts here and have him arrested for not sticking to this agreement will be placed in prison until he pays what he owes???? However, he has also said the judge might not agree to this even though we have agreed between ourselves, if that is the case, it will still be an agreement between us! So why do I need to go the courts, because I can't see he is that caring to protect me, considering what he is doing, he already has 3 children in the UK that he doesn't pay for! The agreement has been a long battle, as each time if I don't back down, he says well I let the judge decide and you will get less, as they favor the men! He is also worried that I will not attend the court in Abu Dhabi because at first he wouldn't give me our passports back, he was going to hold them until Thursday! But I now do have them. It doesn't add up to me, why I am going to court when it can stand between ourselves, and why is he worried if I leave beforehand... I have tried speaking with the Embassy here, with no luck. My other option is to wait and speak with a UK Solicitor tomorrow, but I am also worried that they might know the full laws here. I must stress that I do not have money to throw around with lawyers, as I will be going back to the UK, with no house, no job, no car, and not enough to even buy a house, with my two lovely children to bring up... Urgent help, please..... thanks Nippy <em>edited by nippy35 on 16/12/2012</em>
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Latest post on 25 November 2012 - 14:30
I agree with you, I came from the meeting, still confused about all this. I'm hoping the supposed email later today, will shred some more light on what will happen with out little ones... I do feel though, that this so called piece of paper might not be the whole truth! As in the other breath she also mentioned she has got a plot of land in Sports City for another nursery, which won't be finished until next September. I have emailed a couple of other nurseries in the meantime, waiting on answers, but so far, know one has called me back either!
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Latest post on 23 November 2012 - 21:22
Hi, I know what you mean, my son has just settled, he can't talk much at the moment! However, I know he likes the place, by running ahead in the morning to the door and his used to the morning routine by getting his name, putting his water bottle in the basket etc and most importantly he doesn't cry anymore! You take awhile to choose the right nursery and now this, just after two months, no notice, and now all the other nurseries are probably full, at least they could do is see it through to the end of the term. I know going to this meeting on Sunday, I will have to take my son with me and I know which door he will be heading too and it will be closed! p.s.... I'm still in shock !
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Latest post on 28 October 2012 - 16:08
Camping is still allowed, just spent two nights there with no problems. Nippy
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Latest post on 18 October 2012 - 16:58
It was really nice, and comfortable, we sat at the lounge sits, due to having a small boy, so we could be more relaxed than sitting at the dining tables... I opted to have the champagne deal as it was my birthday, and the head waiter thought he took too long bringing out my glass of champagne so he gave me another one free!! TBH... I couldn't fault the place, we were early and they asked the kitchens and they allowed us in 30 mins before the normal time.... What made it more special... Mr Rhodes himself was there in the kitchens cooking that day and he came out and went round every table and spoke to everyone.... A lovely man!
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Latest post on 18 October 2012 - 16:53
Valet is right outside the main doors, expensive, but worth it if you ask me! Nippy
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Latest post on 18 October 2012 - 16:51
Rhodes residence at the Grosvenor House, was brilliant... The staff, food was excellent, on par with Burj Al Arab but not as pricey, well worth the money... Nippy
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Latest post on 26 August 2012 - 10:41
Hi, I got mine from Hamleys at Mirdif City Centre. Nippy
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Latest post on 25 August 2012 - 20:55
Hi, Just in case, I have the exact one, got it from Hamleys in Motor City, just before Christmas, I have also seen something very similiar in the ELC shops. Nippy
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Latest post on 25 August 2012 - 20:52
Hi I use Ted Morgan in Motor City, with UK hairdressers, I've had no problems with them, been going to them since they have opened this new branch. Nippy
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Latest post on 28 June 2012 - 19:51
Thanks Paddie, just managed to get in contact with a friend who lives near me, and she has kindly offered now. But thank you.... However, I do go away again for two weeks at the end of July, 27th July until 13th August.... Any ideas who I can use for this one, as all my friends that I have I know are away at this time :-( Thanks Nippy <em>edited by nippy35 on 28/06/2012</em>
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Latest post on 28 June 2012 - 19:41
sure, nippy35 at gmail dot com
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Latest post on 28 June 2012 - 19:33
Tomorrow and we come back on Saturday 7th July, just a week. I did have something arranged earlier, but it fell through at the last minute!
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Latest post on 28 June 2012 - 19:27
Tried that, they too are going away the same time!
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Latest post on 28 June 2012 - 19:25
Hi, Just wondering if there is a service out here that comes round and feed the fish and terrapins while you are away on holiday? We live in Al Reem 2, Arabian Ranches, Thanks Nippy
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Latest post on 10 May 2012 - 16:22
Hi, I don't have any but just a thought. My son just recently got a bike from Ride Bike Shop, there is one at Mirdiff City Center and Oasis Centre, the one at Oasis is bigger and more bikes. They are not badly priced, we live in AR and love our bike rides at weekends, I actually have a Gulf News voucher which is offering 20% of the total bill, it's yours if you want it? email me on nippy35 at gmail dot com. Nippy
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Latest post on 10 May 2012 - 16:17
Hi, I went there when we first got here, nearly 3 years ago. To be honest, I really didn't like my cut or highlights. The man who was doing it, spent most of the time, looking at himself and I didn't find the highlights were even, if you know what I mean. As for the cut, well he sort of just grab a bit of hair and cut it after about 6 times, that was my haircut. Needless to say I didn't go back. I have used Ted Morgan on the Palm, but I have now moved out to AR and there is another Ted Morgan branch in Motor City, both are very good and have english hairdressers and do what you ask for. This is just my experience, others may say different! Good Luck, Nippy
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Latest post on 10 May 2012 - 15:33
"Favourite Things" in Marina Mall will do it, last time I went for my son's haircut they were shaving a little girls head for the first time. Plus they will do you a nice little certificate for the baby's first hair cut. Nippy
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Latest post on 25 April 2012 - 15:29
Thanks GoodMorning, will pop out and have a look, much appreciated for the info. Nippy x
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Latest post on 23 April 2012 - 21:39
Thank you all so much for keeping a look out for our little Lilly... Nippy
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Latest post on 22 April 2012 - 19:41
Hi, Our little Lilly is still missing too.... Bump for Sophie27. Lilly is small, as she is only 6 months old, she used to wear a pink collar, but is known to keep loosing them, as this is her third one! She has a shaved belly as she was spade a few weeks ago now. Please call me and will be willing to come round, 050 338 2726 Thanks, Nippy
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Latest post on 15 April 2012 - 09:42
Thank you LoopLoo, it's very good of you. I have put the add on Dubizzle, here is the link, hope it works! http://dubai.dubizzle.com/classified/pets/lost-found-pets/cats/2012/4/15/cat-missing-from-arabian-ranches-al-reem-2-2/?back=dWFlLmR1Yml6emxlLmNvbS9jbGFzc2lmaWVkL3BldHMv The photos are not the greatest but I suppose it's better than none! She has been chipped and all up to date with jabs etc and just recently been spade, she has been out many times she even knows our front door too! Thanks for your help. Nippy
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Latest post on 14 April 2012 - 20:24
Hi, No she is still missing I'm afraid, my son keeps going out on his bike to look for her. She is still very young, nearly 7 months old, two weeks ago she was spade so her belly is still shaven. I would like to post a photo, but how do I do it? Thanks Nippy
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Latest post on 13 April 2012 - 19:57
Hi She didn't come home that night (Wednesday 11th) and still hasn't been seen since. Nippy
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Latest post on 13 April 2012 - 17:48
I'm afraid not :( Thanks Nippy
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Latest post on 12 April 2012 - 19:20
Our cat stayed out last night and hasn't been seen today, she is black and white, with a pink collar, we live in Al Reem 2, Arabian Ranches. Please contact me if you have seen her, on nippy35 at gmail dot com Thank you Nippy
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Latest post on 10 November 2011 - 15:11
Hi, We got something very similar at Toys R Us at festival city last year. It's not a Thomas the Tank, but the table and the layout is brilliant, plus in certain places it makes noises! You can still make a Thomas the Tank theme by buying the extra trains for the table, just an idea. Or I know there is a facebook group page that makes model railways, it's Model Railways UAE. Nippy
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Latest post on 13 October 2011 - 12:06
Hi, I've emailed you back! Thanks Nippy
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Latest post on 13 October 2011 - 11:52
Today I am baking lots of different sorts of cakes, for my sons 2nd Birthday Party tomorrow. Will be celebrating his birthday all weekend, with different things going on! Lets hope the weather cools down a little, then we can make all the mess outside! Enjoy your weekend everyone... Nippy
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Latest post on 13 October 2011 - 11:49
To keep you updated.... I went back to Ted Morgan last night and Rachel did such a lovely job on my hair. My colour is nearly back to how it was, couldn't do too much on the cut as it was cut too short, but she managed to put a little shape back into it. Put some nice treatment on my hair and plus a nice head massage too. All done with Free Of Charge! Would I go back, yes, but I make sure I stay away from the lady who made the dissaster in the first place. They truely made up for it in the end. Nippy
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Latest post on 13 October 2011 - 11:43
Lick out the bowl once you have mixed the cake mixture together........ I know it's not healthy but it's so yummy, slurp, wiping another piece of chocolate cake from my mouth! <em>edited by nippy35 on 13/10/2011</em>