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Latest post on 13 March 2017 - 09:29
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Latest post on 04 February 2017 - 16:02
Thanks ladies.
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Latest post on 13 October 2015 - 23:17
Hi Miss Duppie - If you are looking for someone top quality and excellent service who know their job call E-movers and ask for Joshi, tell him Audrey referred you and ask for a good deal. He will put you on to someone. If you are okay with an average job, ok service but cheaper I would recommend Safa movers.
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Latest post on 13 October 2015 - 23:14
I spoke to my usual moving company today about moving 10 boxes for me to Florida and they threw a rough estimate of AED1200 incl clearance. That sounds very cheap to me...Will take about 60days+ You may want to check with moving companies.
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Latest post on 13 October 2015 - 23:08
Completely normal. When you say higher end salary, what is it you are referring to? I know one maid who won't do such stuff and she is on 5.5K+ and their family driver is on 7.5K+ for the record. Terminate her and you will likely go through the same over and over. Again just for the record - as I run a business and earlier been involved with building teams - this is the norm for people who are not motivated or been raised that way.... I get close to tearing my hair out with how dumb office staff can behave after years.
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Latest post on 04 December 2014 - 14:55
I would think new extra special sheets, comfortable pillow, a digital photo frame with photos saved in them, a bracelet with special meaning trinkets could work
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Latest post on 24 March 2014 - 13:05
Its the second time you have caught him, its probably happened loads of times. Even sadder is the lady didn't know he was married. Another devastated life there. He only cares for himself, he obviously plans stories, weaves a web of lies and looks forward to his next rendezvous. He wants you to be in his life again for himself only. To me even a one night stand is not forgivable and the relationship dents forever, whoever is at fault that relationship is better off ended. BUT what he has done is not getting carried away in the moment (which I am thinking even that your would not do). He knew exactly what he was doing, he took time away from the family, made up stories, lied, knew exactly what was happening when he was driving to meet her. Carefully, concealing details from the other woman too. Emirates Mum keep your dignity, it becomes worse as the kids grow up to break the family, its easier now...take it from someone who has made the mistake and observed 10's of similar situations. A leopard as they say will not change his spots, try not to give your life to the leopard.
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Latest post on 24 March 2014 - 12:21
Killing is fine, I think OP wants a humane way to kill....the glue options for example makes them die a long drawn out painful death. There are options at Ace Hardware that are instant death ones.
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Latest post on 24 March 2014 - 12:12
Hi. Sorry if this is too basic....but likely the maid takes ages to get to church and back because its far away as you said, but also because she is using public transport. I would find a carlift (reliable) to pick her up and drop her off at a certain time. She would save travelling time and can easily then save 2 hours. Given the carlift has been sorted her timings will be fixed too. Worse sitaution pay for taxi and get the bills. The bills will also have timings on it, so even more assurance she will stick to timings and not get carried away. PS - Its what I typically do if I need my maid back earlier...pay for taxi. <em>edited by summerdream on 24/03/2014</em>
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Latest post on 25 February 2014 - 22:40
Out of desperation I had tried a video on you tube and recollected some things. That's when I posted on here. When I didn't get a reply, I went on to purchase something from an online download site with good reviews. I can't believe how powerful it was, hence sharing on here. I have little recollection for small things in general but the entire 3 days when I handled the documents came back to me including the minutest of detail and I realized my driver left it somewhere. Unfortunately, the documents are not there anymore as its been 20 days since they were left there. Now that I remember the smallest of details, I will try and ask the place to check CCTV.
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Latest post on 25 February 2014 - 10:16
I have misplaced a full set of very very important documents. Replacing would take 2-3 months, money and the worst will mean I loose a few things more because of this. Such as not being able to sponsor the maid I finally found after 3 years of looking for a good one. That my new business will not have more staff for 3 months, that I can't apply for phones and more. These are not stolen for sure. I have obviously looked and looked everywhere. Traced my steps on the day I had them checked with every person I now. My last hope is hypnosis. I suffer from severe ADHD and do tend to misplace things...but with documents and important things like that I tend to pick up others papers even and take them, so I don't risk loosing mine (okay am exaggerating slightly) but I check every paper I see at a counter for instance and ask if the counter person is sure its not mine! Anyone know of a hypnotist who can help?
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Latest post on 28 December 2013 - 21:53
I have a general trade license and could be your agent on the ground. Cost of set-up of a business is about 100k for the first year in Dubai with a very small office. Hence license share makes sense for where the business is small. let me know if interested.
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Latest post on 20 December 2013 - 10:17
Celesti - May I just suggest, you look at phone bills, internet history, credit card bills BEFORE you confront him. Once you have confronted him, you will minimize your chances of ever finding out. He will do what most men in this circumstances do. From what I have seen and what I know, reading of the situation, highly likely this has happened before just not in the circle you would know...perhaps at work. You need to know now, rather than later.
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Latest post on 17 December 2013 - 18:43
Thank you all for responding. I had my tests and am good and all my lumps are nothing to worry about. Its a huge relief. Two doctors have seen my DD and both say its nothing, I feel its grown in the past two weeks, I did not get a referral for ultrasound for her even though I requested over and over - we are paying cash anyway and I am going to go back now and insist. They feel its nothing which is great, but I think I would only be relieved once an ultrasound is done and the lump assessed. My all clear was such a relief only for this beginning to really worry me. Please someone tell me that they have had something like this at puberty (she's a skinny girl) and doctor has confirmed its not hair follicle related.
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Latest post on 17 December 2013 - 18:18
Groupons and the like for blow drys are quite safe and you'll perhaps get it much cheaper than your budget even. I pay about AED40 per blowdry when I pay for bulk blow-dries, but my places are in old Dubai.
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Latest post on 17 December 2013 - 18:16
Sad :( Prices will be very high now. I have an apartment that I am leasing out the rooms separately as we moved out before the contract is over and I have lost a lot of money on this as landlord refused refund. If the family have to manage finances, I am open to giving them the available room and just pay for the basics, if they don't mind being in a shared apartment - the room will be only theirs of course. No frills as such, but very clean. I'll keep an eye on this post, just write to me on here. The place is not a walk to city hospital but @ Bur Juman its not far. If finances are not an issue then the options mentioned below by others are good.
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Latest post on 27 November 2013 - 16:29
Thanks for that. What sort of cost are we talking about?
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Latest post on 27 November 2013 - 16:27
Try not to panic...most lumps found are benign and your daughter is so very young. You are right to go and get checked though...even just for peace of mind. With regards to the male radiologst, just think, he does this every day and has seen everything...we are all the same and there is nothing to by shy or embarrassed about. I felt as though i had lost all dignity when i fell pregnant 8 months ago...ive been poked and prodded by male and female doctors and radiologists and not to mention they've all seen my lady bits! Now i just think, I will leave my dignity at the door of the clinic/hospital and pick it up and my way out. Dont be afraid...hugs x Aah well the one I had an appointment with was shady looking!!! Perhaps another male radiologist :p
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Latest post on 27 November 2013 - 16:25
Sunmerdream - you better believe it! I was at work til 7pm on my last day before maternity leave (at 38 weeks I might add). No card, gift or anything, and my boss was on the phone to me as I was driving home that evening for a further 1hr phone call. I had daily calls from my boss and while I was away my team were trying to steal my clients and take credit for my work! I had my laptop at all times and my first few weeks back (at 11 weeks PP) I was working til 8 or 9pm. I begged and pleaded for 3 months - which comprised the 6 weeks, holiday, plus 1 months unpaid leave. There was no question of me working from home or providing any other "solutions". Thankfully they are quite flexible etc but I also had to stop breastfeeding as there was nowhere to pump. We are not protected by any laws here, so I would advise the OP to think carefully about asking for extra leave if she is reliant on her job as many employers will use it as a smokescreen for termination - sorry. I guess I loved my work so much that my boss knew if I could come I would. I worked just like you and he said take whatever leave you want - he knew I would be back! I once started sadly miscarrying and then realised it would take 2-3 days further possibly, went back into work and finished a handover till I knew I was ready to go to hospital. At another job I had another sad loss - ectopic and went back after two weeks, the leave granted was four... These are MNCs, maybe I was just lucky - but most jobs my arrangement was clear that I would work till it was win-win. My understand ing in my own head was clear that when it didn't work I would leave and this is coming from a single mother with no other income. When I didn't have a room for pumping with my second one I used the washroom - yes there are ways of doing it very carefully. Don't stress your pregnancy and enjoy your moments. When I went on bed rest with my second one, I didn't know if I could afford the delivery and the hospital bills - but I didn't let it bother me and I resigned from the job I was in, even before they thought about it. I am sure you have a hubby around and things will find its way. Its not worth the stress...
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Latest post on 27 November 2013 - 16:13
Anyone had less of a nightmare with clearing? and remember the procedures. Are there companies you can outsource to?
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Latest post on 27 November 2013 - 16:11
Its not painful at all and below where the hair grows. It can't be moved around :( I really want to have a proper ultrasound done, as it is bigger than when I first felt is 6 months ago. Any recommended doctors? She just turned 12 - I guess my mum's diagnosis has made me question it so much. I am worried for her and a little bit about my lumps too... PS - I had an appointment booked, but can't bring myself to go to a male radiologist, I know I am being stupidly conservative and its not against my religion or anything but... <em>edited by summerdream on 27/11/2013</em>
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Latest post on 27 November 2013 - 16:08
Hi Kelly You sure your employer won't understand? Maybe as usual I struggle to believe the human race can be so terrible. I am a business person and if my employee went on maternity leave it does affect my business etc - BUT none of us are living for ever and life is not all about business, money and power. I had an employee once call me up very hesitatingly that he needs to leave as his son was seriously sick - did he even think I would say no? Yes, he did think that. Another one had to go on long term leave (6 months) due to a child's illness - again employee was sure they would have to pay me for visa expenses, as I had just spent on visa not so long ago. When I was an employee, I just found solutions for my boss - agreed to work from home, come by when I could be available to take calls etc and we found a win win solution for my maternity leave and funnily I went back in the end much before the planned 3 months.
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Latest post on 27 November 2013 - 15:54
I have been avoiding this post for a few days, but as I can't find much information online, maybe someone can guide me better. My daughter who has just shown signs of puberty for the past few months has a lump in her armpit. A teeny one, say the size of a big pimple but on the inside. We first spotted it a few months ago and then could not find it again. My mother got diagnosed with Breast Cancer less than a month ago. I checked my daughter properly all over again and its there :( Took her to a Pediatrician who was quite nonchalant about it and is sure its nothing. I also got assured its position is not a high risk place. Now, I want to have an ultrasound done for her - any recommendations on where next? I also need an ultrasound for myself (as I have lumpy breasts and been a while since I had them checked out and they feel worse off late) and I really would prefer a lady radiologists for me.
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Latest post on 27 November 2013 - 15:45
I have researched and consulted doctors and looked at research reports. Every year after the expiry date the epipen drops in efficiency by 3%. So one year after expiry they are still good. They do not deteriorate and are safe to use for even 5 years after expiry. Let me try find links to the scientific research documents. I don't encourage it - but I keep mine for a year after expiry as extras so they can be available all over the house.
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Latest post on 19 November 2013 - 12:15
Bump
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Latest post on 18 November 2013 - 15:09
If you live in Taawun, please keep an eye out. Any reported sighting information would also be appreciated. Please help the dog is a rescue dog and now this :( Doodles is deaf and a big risk out there for him. Please help - he is really little in size.
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Latest post on 11 November 2012 - 16:25
Here's details: Rashid in case of emergency is free - but I think that changes once you have to get admitted Anyway almost all insurance companies will happily re-imburse what you spend there - as its cheaper than Private.
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Latest post on 11 November 2012 - 16:21
Pan Pacific and Fairmont - stayed recently 2 A + 2C
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Latest post on 04 November 2012 - 10:26
5% duty is applicable on any order over the value of USD 269 (currently about 988 dirhams) I order packages regularly and this is accurate information. For anybody who didn't pay duty for a package over 1000, you were just plain lucky. I have never paid duty for a package worth AED500, havng said that its up to customs to decide value of the item...not just the invoice included with the package.
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Latest post on 24 October 2012 - 10:57
What a shame Vera that you decided against her, based on what's written here. Please go in to immigration and ask. Everybody is doing it and if the husband is here legally and they have legal marriage papers, you'll find there's no issue. PS - I have been here all my life, so I should know.
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Latest post on 22 October 2012 - 21:31
Yes reported her and they are looking for her and put a travel ban. DD had been very ill for a week and I have had my hands very full with work and my new business. Somehow, when I was in hospital with DD she made a runner... For me when funds are seriously short and my personal situation very difficult she's in for some terrible Karma. eta - I wish we could have a website where we could put runaway maids pictures, as long as we have a copy of our immigration complaint documents <em>edited by summerdream on 22/10/2012</em>
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Latest post on 22 October 2012 - 11:38
PS - She comes across as innocent and child like. She wouldn't go to the supermarket just below our building till she was accompanied at least a few times. Said she was scared!!! Obviously she's a con artist!
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Latest post on 20 October 2012 - 19:30
The next UAE site won't open for me at all...
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Latest post on 20 October 2012 - 18:13
....just spent hours selecting what I like only to realize I can't purchase unless I have a UK credit card. Anyone know of work arounds ... Next in Dubai has none of the things I am ordering (except one item and again no size available...
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Latest post on 17 October 2012 - 15:34
There is the Bacarat butterfly crystal.. Acrylic custom made design show item (bit crystal like) and much cheaper + can be customised Aluminim cube/picture frame where pictures can be inserted on all sides http://www.corporategiftscompany.com/executive-reactionary-corporate-gift.html Actually look at the full list http://www.corporategiftscompany.com/CorporatePartyGifts.html These are available locally too - I should know, I run a corporate gifts company :)
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Latest post on 03 October 2012 - 10:00
No, this is what happens when you pay attention to rumors from your maid, or anyone else for that matter, and make assumptions without knowing the facts. Yep. That is it. Stop gossiping about peoples 'disturbing stories' or else I will tell you a few, and then you will be shocked. OP very clearly the story is a maid's view of kids not being allowed to have junk food and snack on sugary rubbish. I can hear quite a few of our maids looking at it like that. Read what you have written with that in mind and you'll see it.
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Latest post on 02 October 2012 - 17:59
Hello OP (Sharon) Your experience, education and everything else seems good enough for you to get a job, please may I play devil's advocate and say just maybe you are not seen as having the right attitude. As many posters here have said it is the way it is. I am Indian and in my experience the gap between western expats pay and other nationalities who can do the job at the same level has narrowed over the years. It can only change slowly and it is happening. I was about to recommend some positions I know of to you - but then I thought again if you feel so strongly about what is the accepted norm - some for good reasons - some not, would you be able to fit in the normal working atmosphere without being resentful. Sharon let go of the resentment and focus on what you do best - the right job will come to you then.
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Latest post on 22 August 2012 - 15:06
Thank you for the bumps ladies...have got a kind EWer giving away her laptop. Microwaves can be bought cheap - so I'll just get a new one - am trying to avoid waste - am sick of the waste culture. I'll be back on here looking for laptops, as I know there are loads out there that are not being used or thrown away esp from offices. I used to look for someone to get such stuff off my hands while in my previous job. Am trying to get them together and give them to a children's home locally. Am organising the logistics first - will get an official letter and then post.
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Latest post on 12 August 2012 - 14:18
I just hope that in the process of the man getting his karma (say in the form of an STD) it doesn't get passed on to the wife .. :( and oh its not always just married/comitted men...there are married/comitted women in this 'fun' scene too. eta - it is deft a year round phenomena...summer just gives them much more opportunity <em>edited by summerdream on 12/08/2012</em>
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Latest post on 12 August 2012 - 14:03
...another weekend, another gathering of friends...and another time I get disgusted to see the behaviour of married men, whose wives are holidaying with the kids... Do the 'wives' have any idea? I earlier believed the wife often turned a blind eye...but have realised there are very many who had not the slightest inclination. This weekend the guy proudly spoke about his lovely three children ....and tried hitting on me. When he realised it wasn't working, he moved on to the next woman there - who was only happy to have him all over her :( I don't know the guy's wife...but everytime I see something like this, I am so pained on how this has become the norm. I don't party often, but I honestly can't remember the last time, I met a married guy without his wife behaving. At times though I am tempted to contact the wife and send them pictures of what their DH is doing - at least that way the wife is aware and can make her choice. I don't even know why I am posting - just ranting really.
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Latest post on 08 August 2012 - 12:43
I think I am going to do the pretend I am excited thing when the call next and if I have 5 minutes on hand...I might even tell a sob story that I was just about to take a decision of jumping of the creek - but they have given me new hope!!
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Latest post on 02 August 2012 - 18:16
Dalacin-T ... ..... Dalacin - T Really just try it and its only about 30 dirhams. I still thank the person who recommended it to me. Of course, diet, hair falling on to your face, face cloggged with make-up overnight, stress, hormonal situation and other such stuff is also relevant....
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Latest post on 18 July 2012 - 17:14
I wouldn't rely on dragon mart... are you looking just for the stone or for it to be made into a locket or something. write to me on my username here on EWfollowed by 76 at gmail I may be able to direct you to someone who does this.
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Latest post on 16 July 2012 - 15:25
Oh thanks TT! I have put myself on the wait list...but for now he is going on leave for a bit and I think I would like to see a doctor soon to start somewhere... The hospital you mention is pretty close to home for me :-) so will try Dr Prakash. Thank you for the detailed reply.
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Latest post on 16 July 2012 - 15:07
I have helped a few friends this this sort of situation before and if you like some direct personal advice write to me on my username here followed by 76 at gmail. For starters, you do need to try and get a personal loan to clear off your bills. The credit card interest rates are ridicolous. Given you admit to being a shopping addict, you will then have to cancel all or all but one credit card and always leave this at home. The only card you should use is debit, so at worst you use up what you have not more. The account that you have a debit card for you can control how much money is in there. EFT - which I can do for free may also help.
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Latest post on 16 July 2012 - 14:50
Gulf News should be able to give you full details.
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Latest post on 16 July 2012 - 13:55
Depends on circumstances, but in most situations, its not forgivable - the cheated on spouse will very likely never be able to trust again. Cheating is not like being tempted into taking a second slice of cake....even a one off requires you to think of a place for it (in Dubai at least!). the excuse 'I don't know why I did it' is sorry. Then there's serial cheaters who will really want their spouse to never leave them so they can continue their convinient lifestyle as not too many other spouses will put up with them. If its more than a one-off then unless the cheated on party was a really difficult spouse, its not forgivable (again I would usually say leave your spouse don't cheat). There's a lot of planning that goes into an affair....so the 'I didn't know what I was doing' is a very weak excuse. From what I know many cheated on partners continue the relationship/marriage for a while - realise the torment of questions in their head will never subside and then evetually leave. Very often it is found the cheated on partner does more of the very hard work of keeping the marriage intact. The victim gets punished more no fault of theirs. <em>edited by summerdream on 16/07/2012</em>
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Latest post on 16 July 2012 - 13:37
you can make a healthier cake...carrot or something if you like, but really I don't think a one off cake will throw his diet, nutritional status off! I would just put a bit in his mouth, if he likes it he'll eat or he is free to spit it out!
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Latest post on 27 June 2012 - 07:49
What line of business is it? Agree 100% with other posters, I have looked around for like minded partners for my business - passionate, innovative, flexible - believes in fair pricing and CSR. In the end I decided to do it on my own....after partners tried to rip off customers where possible, believe they need charity more than anyone else etc! Unless its someone you can really trust (and even then there's a risk of the relationship souring up because of this) you will have to sell. we can chat if our thinking matches and the line of business is appropriate for my skills.
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Latest post on 26 June 2012 - 14:18
OP - you say you have a 'brotherly' relationship with your husband. What you did is the perhaps the starting of many more 'incidents' to come. Perhaps, this problem is much more than about getting tipsy and kissing someone. Maybe, you need to address the deeper issue here.