Horrible recommendation by a KG teacher.

So I am writing here not to be bashed but would love some help, I would tell you first what kind of a parent I am. I am a very involved parent, I read, write, breathe, have activities according to my children, I had a very active role in his school, constantly in touch with parents association, participating in bake sale, participation in internation day, the first one to volunteer for chaperoning. Recently we packed our lives up and said goodbye to UAE, our home for seven years. Abudhabi was a second home, my son attended a very good prestigious school there. Past six months were very hard on us, with us selling almost everything and anything we owned there to living in a hotel for the last few months, kids room and toys packed up and left in the container. Everything was knowin to his current teacher and school, I mention this because I have never had any bad experience with any teacher, I have had few this happened or that happened at school but never have I experienced anything serious or ever received a threatening call or message from any of his teacher or school. However his new class teacher who was with him for around two months before the move was quite stern, expected students to be a certain way and gave almost every parent quite a bit of trouble, my time was ending there anyway I didn't bother changing the section despite my friends advising me to, I told them it's just a matter of few weeks and who knows she could be the best for him. I must mention his school reports have been good, he is an average student, I won't lie but he has made quite a progress in this school.
So now we have moved, still in a hotel, searched for schools in the new country we are in, and one of the schools I am so eager to get my 5 year old in, gives me a call and mentions I need to have a meeting with the headmaster to discuss if he would accept the application. So then I worry. I gave them all the permission to access any school records and willingly asked them to speak to anyone they could regarding my son, so we have a meeting. He says he had couple of recommendations from School, with mentioning how sweet, humble, over friendly and how participative my son is, to one saying how my son was a "physical threat" to others on the playground and how he took a one on one attention of the helper, who in turn couldn't help the other students in class and this is word by word read out to me, lastly it mentions how I have hindered his independence constantly and do things for him in class so he is very dependent. (I am certain this is his class teacher)
I was in shock, I was quiet I didn't know what to say, he was observing my son in the mean time and says that he appears wonderful to me but can you explain what is written here? I told him he is 5, kids do get physical on the playground and I don't know how to explain this, I was never told this by anyone I met the teacher in person couple of times, meetings after meetings, yes we were working on my son being more independent with placing his food and bottles and he goes washroom completely on his own, makes his own bed, even sloppy, changes his clothes, sometimes wears the shirt inside out, but he is 5 and he just joined KG Senior.
I don't know how to react to this, they have given my son a provisional enrollment on the assessment, I am so upset I fear they will scrutinize my son. As if moving to a new country away from Grand parents and aunt and uncles wasn't hurtful enough for him, i was already searching a good peadtrician or a child councellor because i wanted this transition to be smooth, right now he loves this country but sometimes he wants to go back to his old house, old school, old friends. I am going bonkers, this is not my son she mentions, even if there was ever any problem, why wasn't I told, why would she wait to write this to a complete stranger? This is a recommendation? His Ex teacher of KG Prep completely disagrees with this, I am furious, hurt and never ever saw this coming. What should I do? I need some advice, she has jeopardized future enrollment for my son, how is this a recommendation for a 5 year old kid?
Few of my friends have asked me to lodge a formal complaint with ADEC but the damage has been done. How does that help me?
<em>edited by Apach on 13/01/2015</em>