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Boozing Teens at AR..... and everywhere else it seems

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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 17 February 2011 - 11:22

There is another thread about this, will not take everyones attention (topic title) . this might.

as one lady said, it has everyone talking for a few days, then dies down. I for one have posted on here about this before, and same thing. Plenty people will say, well think about what we did at their age, but we did not have the same potential consequences. How do we do something about it? I am not a parent with my head in the sand, but short of permanently grounding my kids, am struggling to come up with a solution.

http://gulfnews.com/news/gulf/uae/general/parents-panic-over-milkman-1.7...
<em>edited by Delighted on 17/02/2011</em>

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EW GURU
Latest post on 17 February 2011 - 20:04
LOL they are well grounded but also GROUNDED, but that is no punishment, they know no different! I wish I had grounded my two teens when I got here, rows, rebellion and sleepless nights ! I have 2 boys 9 and 11 will start "grounding" them now....... well at least an intro to it...
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EW MASTER
Latest post on 17 February 2011 - 18:12
SW they cannot and will not I am sure of that....he he he Yes of course all our children are complete angels when kept in a dark cellar chained to the walls! LOL I think you mean, in the servants' quarters.
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EW EXPERT
Latest post on 17 February 2011 - 17:43
SW they cannot and will not I am sure of that....he he he Yes of course all our children are complete angels when kept in a dark cellar chained to the walls! LOL
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 17 February 2011 - 17:41
SW they cannot and will not I am sure of that....he he he
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EW EXPERT
Latest post on 17 February 2011 - 17:40
You can't lock your kids up - well, you can obviously but what is this teaching them about life? What will happen to them once the leash is off? It is your duty to teach them how to SURVIVE in this world and you do this by talk, talk, talk and by supervising closely but discretely what they are up to. This is NOT impossible to do - I have done it and many of my friends have done so. How YOU behave as well is important so if you are downing a bottle of wine every night then they will learn from your example - mind you, I have known of the odd teen or two who are so repulsed by their parent's behaviour that they do not drink or smoke! My kids are learning about life. But they are not going out with the hooligans from school....I only know one mother who bothers like I do, so blurghhhhhhhhhhh.....anyway, SM, our life is slightly different, and i can never see the leash being off....not for a long long while, so nothing to worry about. Bla Ess your kids will revolt just like their mother, just you wait!! LOL
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EW EXPERT
Latest post on 17 February 2011 - 17:40
sticky... you are absolutely right ! I always say its my job to be your parent, not your friend. Send the little tike to military boarding school for a year, he'll soon value his parents! edited by Sticky Wicket on 17/02/2011 Missed your point Shaikachez.
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 17 February 2011 - 17:20
You can't lock your kids up - well, you can obviously but what is this teaching them about life? What will happen to them once the leash is off? It is your duty to teach them how to SURVIVE in this world and you do this by talk, talk, talk and by supervising closely but discretely what they are up to. This is NOT impossible to do - I have done it and many of my friends have done so. How YOU behave as well is important so if you are downing a bottle of wine every night then they will learn from your example - mind you, I have known of the odd teen or two who are so repulsed by their parent's behaviour that they do not drink or smoke! My kids are learning about life. But they are not going out with the hooligans from school....I only know one mother who bothers like I do, so blurghhhhhhhhhhh.....anyway, SM, our life is slightly different, and i can never see the leash being off....not for a long long while, so nothing to worry about.
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 17 February 2011 - 17:07
sticky... you are absolutely right ! I always say its my job to be your parent, not your friend. Send the little tike to military boarding school for a year, he'll soon value his parents! edited by Sticky Wicket on 17/02/2011
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 17 February 2011 - 17:06
sticky... you are absolutely right ! I always say its my job to be your parent, not your friend. Send the little tike to military boarding school for a year, he'll soon value his parents! edited by Sticky Wicket on 17/02/2011
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EW EXPERT
Latest post on 17 February 2011 - 15:15
sticky... you are absolutely right ! I always say its my job to be your parent, not your friend. Send the little tike to military boarding school for a year, he'll soon value his parents! <em>edited by Sticky Wicket on 17/02/2011</em>
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 17 February 2011 - 15:14
sticky... you are absolutely right ! I always say its my job to be your parent, not your friend.
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EW EXPERT
Latest post on 17 February 2011 - 15:09
I have talked and talked and talked, try to lead by example, my kids do not see their parents drinking to excess, we try to be fair, and do compromise with them when need be. However, my DS will say what he thinks I want to hear, and goes his own merry way, the friends do all come to the house, nice lads, who it has become apparent, are all up to the same shenannigans, each covering for the other, all a big joke for them. Apparently Im the only mother who wants to know where the friends live, and if I ask for a phone number for the parents ..he goes mad. But you still let your DS out, so what message have you sent him? When he breaks the boundaries you have to impose a consequence not rewarding by accepting lying.
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 17 February 2011 - 14:57
I have talked and talked and talked, try to lead by example, my kids do not see their parents drinking to excess, we try to be fair, and do compromise with them when need be. However, my DS will say what he thinks I want to hear, and goes his own merry way, the friends do all come to the house, nice lads, who it has become apparent, are all up to the same shenannigans, each covering for the other, all a big joke for them. Apparently Im the only mother who wants to know where the friends live, and if I ask for a phone number for the parents ..he goes mad.
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EW GURU
Latest post on 17 February 2011 - 14:51
well said spongemonkey. I think parents also need to teach their kids about the consequences of their actions when they are living in this country. Should you be getting rid of their privacy all together.... probably not. But we always had a rule in my house growing up that when you get home you go say hello to your parents.... kind of deters you from being drunk or high.
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EW MASTER
Latest post on 17 February 2011 - 14:42
You can't lock your kids up - well, you can obviously but what is this teaching them about life? What will happen to them once the leash is off? It is your duty to teach them how to SURVIVE in this world and you do this by talk, talk, talk and by supervising closely but discretely what they are up to. This is NOT impossible to do - I have done it and many of my friends have done so. How YOU behave as well is important so if you are downing a bottle of wine every night then they will learn from your example - mind you, I have known of the odd teen or two who are so repulsed by their parent's behaviour that they do not drink or smoke!
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 17 February 2011 - 14:34
the other thread is Suddenly now its a problem its being discussed this afternoon, so is up at the top somewhere
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EW MASTER
Latest post on 17 February 2011 - 14:02
Sophia, EssQueue, clearly I can no longer call English my mother-tongue :) Although I think I've only ever known the phrase "well grounded" in this context :)
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 17 February 2011 - 11:51
LOL they are well grounded but also GROUNDED, but that is no punishment, they know no different! I wish I had grounded my two teens when I got here, rows, rebellion and sleepless nights !
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EW GURU
Latest post on 17 February 2011 - 11:50
Dear delighted Would you please give us the link for the other thread you refer to. Thank you There is another thread about this, will not take everyones attention (topic title) . this might. as one lady said, it has everyone talking for a few days, then dies down. I for one have posted on here about this before, and same thing. Plenty people will say, well think about what we did at their age, but we did not have the same potential consequences. How do we do something about it? I am not a parent with my head in the sand, but short of permanently grounding my kids, am struggling to come up with a solution. http://gulfnews.com/news/gulf/uae/general/parents-panic-over-milkman-1.763456 edited by Delighted on 17/02/2011
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 17 February 2011 - 11:48
LOL they are well grounded but also GROUNDED, but that is no punishment, they know no different!
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EW GURU
Latest post on 17 February 2011 - 11:44
I think she means they are grounded mentaly and well emotionaly grounded- they have thier feet on the ground you have to be on top of your children out here
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EW MASTER
Latest post on 17 February 2011 - 11:41
mine are grounded....that is all there is to it. it helps to live out in the boonies too. compounds are not good places for teens...no no no... I thought grounding was a punishment? How do you deal with the inevitable rebellion?
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 17 February 2011 - 11:37
mine are grounded....that is all there is to it. it helps to live out in the boonies too. compounds are not good places for teens...no no no...
 
 

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