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Issues with Kitty and children

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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 28 January 2011 - 15:44

Hi,
We adopted a stray female cat about 4 months ago (she is now 6 to 7 months old). The problem that we have been having with her since been adopted is that she doesn’t get well with my small children, even though they are generally gentle with her. She keeps hissing to them when they get close to her and this morning she scratched the face of one of my daughters. I have explained to the cat that this is not right, and carry the cat and let my daughters pet her gently and she is ok, but as soon I move out and let the cat with the children she keeps hissing to them, to the extent that I have to move the cat to the terrace few days ago when children came for a play date.

The cat is fine with adults, she likes occasional to be petted, but not much to be carried.

I have been talked to friends with cats and some said that she will eventually get use to the children and others said that if she is not child friendly she will never be, Any advice?
My husband said that he won’t tolerate the behaviour of the cat one more time, and suggested that we find a new home for her or trow her to the street (he was very upset this morning when the cat scratched my daughter!). Seems to him that the cat only comes to us when she wants food!.

We live in a villa and she has access to the garden and to the house, but lately when the girls are home I am trying to keep the cat in the garden to avoid more drama.

I will appreciate your comments or advice.

Thanks

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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 29 January 2011 - 12:34
The cat is scared, with time she should learn to adapt to the family, but at the end of the day she is a feral kitten and cats do scratch. If your DH wants a cat that will rarely scratch then look at FF and adopting an older persian that has been in a family home. If he wants a cat that will never ever scratch then pop to Toy's R us and buy a cuddly toy. Second Sueb advice.
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EW EXPERT
Latest post on 29 January 2011 - 08:30
you could try a behaviourist. I think Caroline is still at Nad Al Sheba (ask to speak with Lucy, she will know, the receptionist, not so much lol) Your cat is warning the children to stay away. Children are full of energy, bouncy, loud and quick moving. This is probably what is scaring your cat and this is normal for the most part. The children can try ignoring him totally, pretend he is not there. Everyday, put him in a quiet room and have one of the children come in and sit quietly, speak quietly (hard to do lol for little ones) and maybe have a favorite toy of the cats and a cat treat if he likes them. Have each of the children do this over a couple of weeks and see how the cat reacts. I have trained quite a few feral terrified cats which took about a month before they finally accepted me. This little cat could also have just bonded with you if you do everything for him. Let the children quietly put his food down where it is quiet and leave. It will take time and patience. If after a month, things have not improved you will most likely have to rehome him.
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 28 January 2011 - 16:34
Hi, Thanks for your advice. Yes she has been fixed and had all her shots regularly. Her nails have also been clipped by the vet. I have already tried to leave her alone to see if she can find her own space but is difficult as the kids want to play with her when they come back from school in the afternoon!! How can I check a behaviour problem? I think I will try to find a new home for her without small children. Could you please give me some advice on how to know if a kitty will be child friendly? Thanks
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EW EXPERT
Latest post on 28 January 2011 - 16:17
try and find her a new home with older children. With your husband threatening to throw her on the street, finding her a new home might be a better idea. I am assuming she has been spayed/shots/registered/chipped? and it is not hormones? and she has always been like this? sounds like she is just not a people cat and is happy being around people but not pawed/pickedup etc... In the meantime i would take her and get her nails clipped short. Possibly see if she has a behavioural problem that can be fixed and let her be by herself without any attention and see what happens. But, please do not throw her on the street :(
 
 

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