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Shocking story, but what really disturbs me is the last sentence...

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EW OLDHAND
Latest post on 15 March 2011 - 09:17

Seriously? So any of these crazy drivers who let their kids hang out the windows will walk away scott free if their kid falls out the window and the poor Jo Blo driving behind accidently runs over the kid? This place never ceases to amaze me sometimes. I know, I shouldn't be surprised, but I'm so over this type of cr@p.

http://www.7days.ae/storydetails.php?id=103410++++&page=local+news&title...

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EW GURU
Latest post on 15 March 2011 - 19:23
well I don't charge and do it all in my spare time as I'm determined no-one will make money out of such an important message!
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EW EXPERT
Latest post on 15 March 2011 - 18:58
Yes, Repton have requested a presentation - I'm happy to take details for ANY school interested, it's certainly needed in EVERY schoool just as much as the dentist visits that happen all the time! WOW, wonder if they will charge for it!
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 15 March 2011 - 18:56
I saw one that was new to me yesterday; a kid sprawled over the dashboard with the driver craning his neck to see over her. I must say, she looked very comfortable basking in the sun!:\:
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EW GURU
Latest post on 15 March 2011 - 18:56
Yes, Repton have requested a presentation - I'm happy to take details for ANY school interested, it's certainly needed in EVERY schoool just as much as the dentist visits that happen all the time! If anyone wants to email me please do so at [email protected] :)
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EW EXPERT
Latest post on 15 March 2011 - 18:53
Have Repton welcomed you in RL? Some culprits there!
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EW GURU
Latest post on 15 March 2011 - 18:51
Thanks to everyone who has mentioned my campaign on this thread. Sadly this is a common sight in Dubai and one I'm trying my damndest to change. Out of interest, it was actually 2 Western families that invited my DD on a playdate but didn't use seatbelts that finally made me get off my backside to do something. My campaign is all about educating children especially but also parents and trying to get the law introduced and enforced properly. Yes it will take time but I am positive change CAN happen. I am always amazed at how different nationalities react when I talk to them about Buckling Up - there is never any conflict merely an appreciation at being educated in some small way. I will never sit back anymore and tut about something that can be changed - the school presentations I have been doing have been an amazing success and the recent one in Rashid and Latifa Schools a prime example of what can happen. Please joing the debate here: [url=http://www.facebook.com/BuckleUpInTheBack'>link[/url'> If you really believe something needs to be done then join the campaign and stand up for making a difference!
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 15 March 2011 - 18:40
Not shocking, when you see this all the time. The buckle up in the back campaign is a bit of a kick in the teeth for the locals who have been overly encouraged to produce 6+ children by the government. Where can you place all the car seats etc etc....they don't fit in standard cars. This is seen as pushing western values. There are a lot more wearing seatbelts in the front than 10 years ago. Things are improving. Give it some time. You seem to be alluding to the fact that it is not ignorance that has caused a reluctance by local people to restrain their children BUT more the desire to put two fingers up at western values? Is the desire to protect your child a Western phenomenon? If this is the reason, we don't call that 'ignorant' in the West, we call that neglect.
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 15 March 2011 - 15:25
Getting back to the OP. Does anyone know more about this poor guy in Sharjah? This story has really stuck with me all day. It's good sometimes to get a reminder about what life is REALLY like here - it's easy to forget what is under the veneer.
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 15 March 2011 - 15:16
Getting back to the OP. Does anyone know more about this poor guy in Sharjah? This story has really stuck with me all day. It's good sometimes to get a reminder about what life is REALLY like here - it's easy to forget what is under the veneer.
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 15 March 2011 - 15:07
American Hospital is giving out free infant seats this month to every new born! Also because of Car safety Month. The hospital I gave birth at did this as well. From our room, we watched 6 proud parents leave, hand baby to Mum in front seat, put capsule on maid's lap, put capsule sideways on front seat etcetec, not one person put it in the car properly. All the skills, knowledge and guidance by doctors, midwives, nurses to get that baby from embryo to newborn, down the drain if there was a simple accident.
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EW GURU
Latest post on 15 March 2011 - 14:13
Not shocking, when you see this all the time. The buckle up in the back campaign is a bit of a kick in the teeth for the locals who have been overly encouraged to produce 6+ children by the government. Where can you place all the car seats etc etc....they don't fit in standard cars. This is seen as pushing western values. There are a lot more wearing seatbelts in the front than 10 years ago. Things are improving. Give it some time.
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 15 March 2011 - 14:00
When I was discussing this with a good Muslim friend of mine quite some time ago and talking about God having the ultimate decision over when it's 'your time', and basically you can do what you want because it's out of your hands if you live or die he said that yes, that was true to a certain extent, but there is also another quote that kind of says that it's in your hands too, something like (and please don't take offence and shout at me if I have misquoted or got it totally wrong) "don't deliberately step on the tail of a tiger and expect me to save you". Is that right? I understood it to mean that whilst yes, you're here on earth until God decides it's time to go back to him, but that you should also take care of yourself. (A bit like that story about the man who drowns because he thought God would save him but had actually sent him a boat...). I think that would be a better quote to live by. True!
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 15 March 2011 - 13:55
It does make me angry, mb, but certainly I agree that the message must be pushed as much as possible and that anger doesn't exactly solve the problem. When I think back to the resistance from even so-called 'educated' nations [UK, anyone?!'> to introducing compulsory seat belt legislation, perhaps I should be more accommodating to the idiosyncrasies of a 'new' nation like the UAE, but the reluctance here does sting. Coming from the nation which introduced seat belts in the first place, well before anyone else, and well before I was born [!!'>, to see such ignorance and inaction is heartbreaking. But I do take what you say on board. And I will endeavour to pass on RL's leaflets to less-observant drivers [so long as I am not endangering anyone while doing it!'>. :D I agree...I hate to say it, but if they lack the common sense, and sad as it is...its natural selection. Why should expats enforce and push their views of how things should be on a local population? Is that not what most locals are fed up with? Leave em be.
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EW GURU
Latest post on 15 March 2011 - 13:51
When I was discussing this with a good Muslim friend of mine quite some time ago and talking about God having the ultimate decision over when it's 'your time', and basically you can do what you want because it's out of your hands if you live or die he said that yes, that was true to a certain extent, but there is also another quote that kind of says that it's in your hands too, something like (and please don't take offence and shout at me if I have misquoted or got it totally wrong) "don't deliberately step on the tail of a tiger and expect me to save you". Is that right? I understood it to mean that whilst yes, you're here on earth until God decides it's time to go back to him, but that you should also take care of yourself. (A bit like that story about the man who drowns because he thought God would save him but had actually sent him a boat...). I think that would be a better quote to live by.
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EW GURU
Latest post on 15 March 2011 - 13:42
CM I think you and sing off the same hymn sheet more often than not! edited by MrsMopp on 15/03/2011 A large dose of common sense with a helping of reality eh?! ;) Agreed! And damn good looks to boot ;-) <em>edited by MrsMopp on 15/03/2011</em>
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EW GURU
Latest post on 15 March 2011 - 13:40
CM I think you and sing off the same hymn sheet more often than not! edited by MrsMopp on 15/03/2011 A large dose of common sense with a helping of reality eh?! ;)
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EW OLDHAND
Latest post on 15 March 2011 - 13:29
There is also the blind faith that "Him upstairs" determine whether a child lives or dies. Before anyone shoots me down in flames, it was a local woman who told me this when child car safety came up in conversation. She is a bit more savvy shall we say and was equally horrified by the carelessness of many parents.
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 15 March 2011 - 13:23
I didn't take offence, Snitch. Was happy to have my word omission corrected. :) I wasn't trying to be snide, honestly. I enjoy your contribution to this forum.
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EW GURU
Latest post on 15 March 2011 - 13:06
Its difficult not to be bothered by it when their actions can cause you/your family harm if a body was thrown from their car straight into your windscreen or under you wheel. Also, its not about lack of education, they put their seatbelt on to protect themselves but do not have the sense to buckle up their children. These children are too young to know or do it themselves in the main, so don't we have responsibility to protect them too? If you could see a child too young to swim without armbands entering the pool, would you turn a blind eye then too? If the parents are with them, yes I would, why should you stick your nose in with their so-called parental decisions? I've often read on here that someone's been approached in a mall by a stranger (for example) and told they should be doing x,y,z with their own child - the poster has vented and other posters have joined in and advised to tell that person to bug off. Again, just leave everyone to do their own thing, wrong as it may be, and each to their own I say. I hear what you are saying, and I think it is sad that society has an each to their own mentality; but I do understand why. Just lamenting a loud. Also, rarely would actions in a mall lead to such severe consequences as would an unrestrained child, or cause you any danger ( letting a child scream, making the child walk etc). This I think is in a different league of interfering. :-) CM I think you and sing off the same hymn sheet more often than not! <em>edited by MrsMopp on 15/03/2011</em>
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 15 March 2011 - 13:05
Its difficult not to be bothered by it when their actions can cause you/your family harm if a body was thrown from their car straight into your windscreen or under you wheel. Also, its not about lack of education, they put their seatbelt on to protect themselves but do not have the sense to buckle up their children. These children are too young to know or do it themselves in the main, so don't we have responsibility to protect them too? If you could see a child too young to swim without armbands entering the pool, would you turn a blind eye then too? If the parents are with them, yes I would, why should you stick your nose in with their so-called parental decisions? I've often read on here that someone's been approached in a mall by a stranger (for example) and told they should be doing x,y,z with their own child - the poster has vented and other posters have joined in and advised to tell that person to bug off. Again, just leave everyone to do their own thing, wrong as it may be, and each to their own I say. And if a parent decided to punish their child by beating the sh*t out of the LO, you'd just walk past and call it freedom of parental decision? What about se*ual abuse? Maybe daddy is just trying to teach his little daughter a lesson about birds and bees..? Where do you draw the line? A child gets killed because the parents don't care about seatbelts in the back. Is it the parents right to have their child killed if they chose to? I don't think so. And btw I see a heck of a lot of clearly westerners who have theirs kids jumping around the back and front and are not restrained. I'm sure they wouldn't dare doing that in their home country.
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EW GURU
Latest post on 15 March 2011 - 12:57
Its difficult not to be bothered by it when their actions can cause you/your family harm if a body was thrown from their car straight into your windscreen or under you wheel. Also, its not about lack of education, they put their seatbelt on to protect themselves but do not have the sense to buckle up their children. These children are too young to know or do it themselves in the main, so don't we have responsibility to protect them too? That's what I was thinking as I was reading the thread! Saying we should give leeway due to lack of education is nonsense in this day and age. It's common sense. You are strapping yourself in for a reason, why on earth wouldn't you do the same for your children?! And as someone else pointed out, in Dubai it is ALL nationalities, those that should know better and those that claim they haven't been educated any better. And I bet if you spoke to any one of them they would KNOW why they and their children should wear a seatbelt, they simply don't think that they need to! They have higher powers looking over them don't they? Or in the case of those that aren't religious - "It won't happen to them, they are such careful drivers!!"... Rubbish either way in my humble opinion. It's the little ones that are seriously maimed and have to live with the consequences of their parents actions, or the innocent driver that has to relive a child going under his wheels through no fault of his own for the rest of his life and ends up in jail that I feel sorry for.
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EW GURU
Latest post on 15 March 2011 - 12:53
Its difficult not to be bothered by it when their actions can cause you/your family harm if a body was thrown from their car straight into your windscreen or under you wheel. Also, its not about lack of education, they put their seatbelt on to protect themselves but do not have the sense to buckle up their children. These children are too young to know or do it themselves in the main, so don't we have responsibility to protect them too? If you could see a child too young to swim without armbands entering the pool, would you turn a blind eye then too? If the parents are with them, yes I would, why should you stick your nose in with their so-called parental decisions? I've often read on here that someone's been approached in a mall by a stranger (for example) and told they should be doing x,y,z with their own child - the poster has vented and other posters have joined in and advised to tell that person to bug off. Again, just leave everyone to do their own thing, wrong as it may be, and each to their own I say.
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EW GURU
Latest post on 15 March 2011 - 12:41
Its difficult not to be bothered by it when their actions can cause you/your family harm if a body was thrown from their car straight into your windscreen or under you wheel. Also, its not about lack of education, they put their seatbelt on to protect themselves but do not have the sense to buckle up their children. These children are too young to know or do it themselves in the main, so don't we have responsibility to protect them too? If you could see a child too young to swim without armbands entering the pool, would you turn a blind eye then too?
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 15 March 2011 - 12:32
[b'>There is some FANTASTIC work being done locally to highlight these issues, Find the links below, I also recommend watching the video I linked to at the bottom, it is done in a way that everyone should appreciate the ramifications of no seatbelts![/b'> http://www.facebook.com/BuckleUpInTheBack Created by a mum who is worried about all children not strapped in cars! This is a non-profit awareness campaign. Any supporters are greatly appreciated and will be acknowledged on the page. Follow on Twitter @BuckleUpDXB http://www.surayafoundation.com We are non-profit org located in Dubai, working to change the attitudes of reckless drivers by spreading emotionally compelling ads via mass media (radio, news etc) in hopes that it will save lives. http://www.facebook.com/SurayaFoundation?sk=wall [u'>Fantastic video off you tube which has been posted on the suaya foundation website [/u'>http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UOBuKcNJ-yg HTH
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EW EXPERT
Latest post on 15 March 2011 - 12:17
Silly me. I ought to have put 'compulsory' in my sentence. Apologies, because that is what I meant. Snidey snitch? I wasn't being snidey! I was merely pointing out that Australia did not 'introduce' seat belts before 'anyone else'. Credit where credit is due! OK!!!!!!!!! !!!!!!!!!! !!!!!!!!! LOL
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EW OLDHAND
Latest post on 15 March 2011 - 12:17
I didn't take offence, Snitch. Was happy to have my word omission corrected. :)
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 15 March 2011 - 12:16
Silly me. I ought to have put 'compulsory' in my sentence. Apologies, because that is what I meant. Snidey snitch? I wasn't being snidey! I was merely pointing out that Australia did not 'introduce' seat belts before 'anyone else'. Credit where credit is due!
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EW EXPERT
Latest post on 15 March 2011 - 12:16
The worst culprits are the flipping expats from countries where it is illegal not to do so, horse to water and all that. Don't get me started on the idiot women who drive down Springs Drive with kids, animals, musical instruments and all sorts bouncing around the back [and the front'> while Mummy is organising her mani-pedi on her mobile. Seen too much of that. And they never. bl00dy. indicate. *Angry smiley* Then you have the drivers and maids LOL
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EW EXPERT
Latest post on 15 March 2011 - 12:15
Why should expats enforce and push their views of how things should be on a local population? Is that not what most locals are fed up with? Leave em be. it's not enforcing - it is just passing information on. And it is certainly not just regarding one culture/population. Sure we've all seen every colour/nationality guilty of this at some point. The person then has the choice to read/take on board the message or not. If it is done in a kind way, it does not have to be an aggressive enforcement. But it does have to be aggresive enforcement by the UAE police for movement to take place on this topic.
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EW OLDHAND
Latest post on 15 March 2011 - 12:14
The worst culprits are the flipping expats from countries where it is illegal not to do so, horse to water and all that. Don't get me started on the idiot women who drive down Springs Drive with kids, animals, musical instruments and all sorts bouncing around the back [and the front'> while Mummy is organising her mani-pedi on her mobile. Seen too much of that. And they never. bl00dy. indicate. *Angry smiley*
 
 

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