you could have one for ur female friends and relatives at like a spa or something... where u could do up the place as well as get a mani/pedi done...
i'm an event organiser and have done similar events at some of the salons in dubai...
mail me on abby_n_christina at yahoo dot com if u want any more ideas or help :)
and don't stress so much... i know exactly what the mother and -inlaw juggle can be like... been there done than four years back and doing it again in a couple of months... :) i'm preggers too and just crossed the 21week mark...
Do you have to have one?
Sounds like it might upset one or the other when you have it.
Why don't you go out for a meal with them when they are each here?
I personally am not keen on them and won't be having one as on a personal thought there is something about 'counting your chickens before they hatch' with it all but everyone to themselves. I can't wait to have people visit when my little bundle of joy is here God willing x