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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 16 April 2013 - 16:37

I am arriving in Abu Dhabi in June with my husband and 2 children (2 and 5 months)and I will be working Sun - Thurs 8am to 6pm which are slightly longer hours than I currently work.

I was wondering if any other mothers with similar working patterns could advise me on how they deal with childcare, nurseries and transportation of children between nursery and home during the day, whilst they are at work.

I will have my Mum with me to help in the first month but if she is not keen to stay I need to have a plan for keeping my children safe and happy whilst I am at work.

Many thanks

With kind regards

Maria

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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 18 April 2013 - 01:47
Thanks everyone for this wealth of information. I am going to speak with my new employer about getting my profession as lawyer on my visa as it certainly appears to help with sponsorship issues. Also, it is nice to hear that other women work full-time with families and cope, albeit with good organisation, as you advise. Both my children are still babies, so I will have to speak with the nursery about the arrangements for transportation or look into booking a regular taxi or driver for my Mum to collect them unless I can locate accommodation within walking distance. Thanks again Maria
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EW MASTER
Latest post on 17 April 2013 - 17:39
A woman can sponsor a maid and her husband and children as long as her salary is above a designated amount (not sure how much). Immigration will help you when you go to typing to complete the documentation. I, in fact, sponsor my daughter as I get more benefits from my employer (my husband runs his own business). I also sponsor my housemaid on my visa. Also, your mother can come on a visit visa from most countries and stay for 3 months. This would enough time for you to settle, organize school transport, and train live in help. You need to organize yourself quickly and efficiently - that is the only way I survive here with both my husband and I working long hours in our careers. salary has to be certain amount usually around 10k i think but it also goes down to the company and your title destination too.
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EW MASTER
Latest post on 17 April 2013 - 09:58
There are bad drivers everywhere in the world. I think school bus drivers have a very difficult job - a bus full of noisy, often badly behaved school children jumping around, yelling, playing, fighting - I think they do a good job driving and controlling the children all at once. I wouldn't want that job!!!! It would be nearly impossible to control a group of teenage boys should they decide to have a disagreement half way round a roundabout! Bus monitors. We were petrified of ours at home :-)
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 17 April 2013 - 09:57
There are bad drivers everywhere in the world. I think school bus drivers have a very difficult job - a bus full of noisy, often badly behaved school children jumping around, yelling, playing, fighting - I think they do a good job driving and controlling the children all at once. I wouldn't want that job!!!! It would be nearly impossible to control a group of teenage boys should they decide to have a disagreement half way round a roundabout!
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EW EXPERT
Latest post on 17 April 2013 - 09:46
I could not manage without my full time live maid. She does everything in the house: cooking cleaning washing ironing, supervising my DD aged 8. DD travels to and from school in the school bus. Even if my maid did have a drivers license, I would not allow her to drive my DD. Driving here can be very dangerous and I have more faith in the school bus drivers than I do in maids' driving. Generally they have been driving for a lot longer, are males and more than likely to law down the law with the children. Certainly the driver in my DDs school is. He is very quick to telephone parents telling them that their DS or DD is behaving badly on the bus or is endangering themselves on the bus. There are plenty of female bus drivers in the US and they are considered as good if not better than the men. I never really get your posts... you are so old-fashioned in your thinking. I am not from the USA so don't know about your bus drivers but assume they are Americans. My point is most maids who have licenses to drive here have been given them from previous employers here and more than likely would not have a lot experience as drivers. School bus drivers here are highly experienced drivers and are usually men. BTW, I am proud to be old fashioned as you call it - I would prefer to call myself a conservative muslim woman, who drives, by the way. Half the school buses i see here daily are bouncing across the roads, cutting into traffic and speeding! scary to see Agree with you 100% Sarahlou. The school buses here are dangerous beyind belief! Not really sure how 3/4's of the drivers got their license!
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EW MASTER
Latest post on 17 April 2013 - 09:26
I could not manage without my full time live maid. She does everything in the house: cooking cleaning washing ironing, supervising my DD aged 8. DD travels to and from school in the school bus. Even if my maid did have a drivers license, I would not allow her to drive my DD. Driving here can be very dangerous and I have more faith in the school bus drivers than I do in maids' driving. Generally they have been driving for a lot longer, are males and more than likely to law down the law with the children. Certainly the driver in my DDs school is. He is very quick to telephone parents telling them that their DS or DD is behaving badly on the bus or is endangering themselves on the bus. There are plenty of female bus drivers in the US and they are considered as good if not better than the men. I never really get your posts... you are so old-fashioned in your thinking. I am not from the USA so don't know about your bus drivers but assume they are Americans. My point is most maids who have licenses to drive here have been given them from previous employers here and more than likely would not have a lot experience as drivers. School bus drivers here are highly experienced drivers and are usually men. BTW, I am proud to be old fashioned as you call it - I would prefer to call myself a conservative muslim woman, who drives, by the way. Half the school buses i see here daily are bouncing across the roads, cutting into traffic and speeding! scary to see
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 17 April 2013 - 09:10
I could not manage without my full time live maid. She does everything in the house: cooking cleaning washing ironing, supervising my DD aged 8. DD travels to and from school in the school bus. Even if my maid did have a drivers license, I would not allow her to drive my DD. Driving here can be very dangerous and I have more faith in the school bus drivers than I do in maids' driving. Generally they have been driving for a lot longer, are males and more than likely to law down the law with the children. Certainly the driver in my DDs school is. He is very quick to telephone parents telling them that their DS or DD is behaving badly on the bus or is endangering themselves on the bus. There are plenty of female bus drivers in the US and they are considered as good if not better than the men. I never really get your posts... you are so old-fashioned in your thinking. I am not from the USA so don't know about your bus drivers but assume they are Americans. My point is most maids who have licenses to drive here have been given them from previous employers here and more than likely would not have a lot experience as drivers. School bus drivers here are highly experienced drivers and are usually men. BTW, I am proud to be old fashioned as you call it - I would prefer to call myself a conservative muslim woman, who drives, by the way.
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EW EXPERT
Latest post on 17 April 2013 - 09:04
I could not manage without my full time live maid. She does everything in the house: cooking cleaning washing ironing, supervising my DD aged 8. DD travels to and from school in the school bus. Even if my maid did have a drivers license, I would not allow her to drive my DD. Driving here can be very dangerous and I have more faith in the school bus drivers than I do in maids' driving. Generally they have been driving for a lot longer, are males and more than likely to law down the law with the children. Certainly the driver in my DDs school is. He is very quick to telephone parents telling them that their DS or DD is behaving badly on the bus or is endangering themselves on the bus. There are plenty of female bus drivers in the US and they are considered as good if not better than the men. I never really get your posts... you are so old-fashioned in your thinking.
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 17 April 2013 - 09:01
A woman can sponsor a maid and her husband and children as long as her salary is above a designated amount (not sure how much). Immigration will help you when you go to typing to complete the documentation. I, in fact, sponsor my daughter as I get more benefits from my employer (my husband runs his own business). I also sponsor my housemaid on my visa. Also, your mother can come on a visit visa from most countries and stay for 3 months. This would enough time for you to settle, organize school transport, and train live in help. You need to organize yourself quickly and efficiently - that is the only way I survive here with both my husband and I working long hours in our careers.
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EW MASTER
Latest post on 17 April 2013 - 08:09
Thanks Busybee2 My job title is a Senior Consultant working for a consultancy that deals with construction claims and arbitrations. I am trained as and currently work as a lawyer although I am not going to be employed as a lawyer in UAE. However, as you indicate, if my job title makes a difference to my ability to sponsor a maid's visa, I may need to ask if I can be employed as a "lawyer" - the work I am doing is providing legal services. However, my husband also intends to find a job in construction as a commercial manager, so hopefully he would be able to provide sponsorship. Is it OK for my mother to look after the children if I am not paying her and she has a valid visa (either by regular renewal or annual parent residency)? I would be glad to hear from any mothers who use the transport provided by nurseries to find out if nursery staff accompany the children on the journey home or if the children are left with the driver to be collected at the other end. Also, are children dropped off at their homes or at designated collection points? I apologise in advance if my queries seem gauche, it is just that I have not had experience of this kind of drop-off service provided by nurseries Many thanks Maria if you are an engineer, teacher, lawyer, etc then you can sponsor without any problems, if you have manager on your visa title you can usually sponsor without problems, but as a woman its different, but the above should allow but it can depend on case by case, as a woman to sponsor your mother you have to prove that nobody else can look after her while you live here, you should talk to immigration as its done case by case. job title makes a big difference here, but you need to have the correct degree etc to have the title lawyer etc. has your hubs started to look, as the majority of jobs going in construction nowadays are not in abu dhabi its in saudi or doha all the jobs my hubs gets calls about are in doha/ksa etc until a few more of the major contracts are signed here, which is taking a long time there are a lot of people locally looking too, and having local knowledge/experience is key too. your hubs if sponsored by you can be a house husband, immigration are funny about family members being employed to look after children as a maid etc, but if you were ok to sponsor then i would say it would be fine. school buses it depends on the school, most of the arabic schools drop to the house, but the likes of the british schools then usually there is a pick up/ddrop off point so not necesarilly to your house, if you were to live in a big compound and a lot of children go from there you may be lucky that will the drop off point etc.
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 17 April 2013 - 07:47
I could not manage without my full time live maid. She does everything in the house: cooking cleaning washing ironing, supervising my DD aged 8. DD travels to and from school in the school bus. Even if my maid did have a drivers license, I would not allow her to drive my DD. Driving here can be very dangerous and I have more faith in the school bus drivers than I do in maids' driving. Generally they have been driving for a lot longer, are males and more than likely to law down the law with the children. Certainly the driver in my DDs school is. He is very quick to telephone parents telling them that their DS or DD is behaving badly on the bus or is endangering themselves on the bus. You need to get a maid immediately so you can train her while your mother is here. That way, when your mother leaves, the maid can take over the home duties without any problems.
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 17 April 2013 - 02:26
Thanks Busybee2 My job title is a Senior Consultant working for a consultancy that deals with construction claims and arbitrations. I am trained as and currently work as a lawyer although I am not going to be employed as a lawyer in UAE. However, as you indicate, if my job title makes a difference to my ability to sponsor a maid's visa, I may need to ask if I can be employed as a "lawyer" - the work I am doing is providing legal services. However, my husband also intends to find a job in construction as a commercial manager, so hopefully he would be able to provide sponsorship. Is it OK for my mother to look after the children if I am not paying her and she has a valid visa (either by regular renewal or annual parent residency)? I would be glad to hear from any mothers who use the transport provided by nurseries to find out if nursery staff accompany the children on the journey home or if the children are left with the driver to be collected at the other end. Also, are children dropped off at their homes or at designated collection points? I apologise in advance if my queries seem gauche, it is just that I have not had experience of this kind of drop-off service provided by nurseries Many thanks Maria
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EW MASTER
Latest post on 16 April 2013 - 23:37
I am arriving in Abu Dhabi in June with my husband and 2 children (2 and 5 months)and I will be working Sun - Thurs 8am to 6pm which are slightly longer hours than I currently work. I was wondering if any other mothers with similar working patterns could advise me on how they deal with childcare, nurseries and transportation of children between nursery and home during the day, whilst they are at work. I will have my Mum with me to help in the first month but if she is not keen to stay I need to have a plan for keeping my children safe and happy whilst I am at work. Many thanks With kind regards Maria people sponsor a maid, and put the kids in nursery and then pay extra for bus service if there is. its very unlikely to get a maid that drives, have you looked into the cost of sponsoring a maid, its not cheap and the costs of nursery here, its very expensive. also if you are the employee you have to check whether you can sponsor a maid as a woman, it depends on your profession, which you havent said. you cannot employ your family to look after children. <em>edited by busybee2 on 16/04/2013</em>