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Therapy for a stressed person!

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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 23 January 2011 - 13:07

Hello ladies!

I need your help. Please please! I need to find help for my OH who is a completely stressed out individual and having difficulties keeping his anger under control. It has been the case pretty much since ive known him but after a huge blow up last week i decided i needed to get him to take action... I won't bore you with the details but he has agreed he needs to see somebody to try and find a way of handling things better. He has an extremely stressful job, very high presurised and he seems to find it pretty impossible keeping his temper under control. He isn't violent towards people he just gets so worked up i worry that he will have a hear attack or something!

I'm not too sure where to look or what he needs? anger management? stress management? a life coach? sorry im all new to this. I should imagine he'd prefer a man for this. He knows he has to go so it isn't a case of me persuading him. It really is that bad that he knows he needs help if he wants to hang on to his relationship!

Any advice would be fab!

Thanks all!

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EW GURU
Latest post on 23 January 2011 - 15:12
Look, I'm not in Dubai yet so I can't recommend a specific person, but what he needs is to see a [b'>Psychologist[/b'>. Particularly one with a skill in CBT - [b'>Cognitivie Behavioural Therapy[/b'>. They will let him talk, then teach him the skills to recognise when he's starting to get worked up, understand what situations drive the anger and teach him the behavioural strategies to deal with it when he does start to lose control. Hopefully someone here may be able to refer you to a professional that can help. I would not bother with a life coach, they will not have the skills or the depth of experience from a psychological viewpoint. A Psychiatrist will probably not have the counselling or CBT experience as they will mostly focus on drug therapies - which in this instance simply mask the symptoms of what is most likely a learned behavioural pattern (since you say he's been like this since you've known him). I also wanted to say that it is wonderful that he has recognised he has this issue and is willing to go see someone. Many men would not be so brave as to confront it and would rather sweep it under the carpet. Kudos to him and good luck to you both.
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 23 January 2011 - 13:41
Hi Jane30, I just heard an interview on Dubai Eye the other day with some Dr. Richard or Raymond (can't remember) and found him a very knwoledgeable professional. I think he is in or collaborates with Human Relations Institute in Knowledge Village. I called them the other day for career orientation and found them a bit expensive (for my pocket) but they have a variety of services. Check their website and do your best to help your OH as anger/stress issues should be dealt with earlier rather than later.
 
 

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