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Highchair battles

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EW EXPERT
Latest post on 29 May 2011 - 07:47

DS seems to have developed an aversion to eating in his highchair, especially at breakfast. He'll happily scoff a piece of toast as he's cruising around the room but put in him the chair and try and feed him, and it ends up all over the floor with him yelling at me. Once I take him out of the chair and he's cruising again, he wants more to eat.

My 3-year-old nephew is a little ratbag who simply won't eat a meal at the table, meaning every meal we have with him is disjointed and stressful because someone has to be chasing him all the time. I really don't want DS to end up like this.

Any suggestions?

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EW OLDHAND
Latest post on 29 May 2011 - 14:06
Is a year old too small to try and get him into good habits, though? Can I ask this question for a 7.5 month old? LOL :D
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 29 May 2011 - 12:55
Sounds like the same phase DD is going through at 1.5yo. She'll stay in her highchair and eat for about 5 minutes, then starts playing with her food and wiggeling around until I let her out. I usually let her out and she'll run off and play for a while. Whenever she comes back and begs for more food, I'll stick her back in the chair and offer her meal again. It has already gotten a bit better than it was a couple of weeks ago. She seems to get the idea that she can only eat when she's sitting in her chair at the table. But like someone else said her attention span isn't long enough for her to finish her whole meal at once. Eating is just too boring when all she wants to do is run around all day long. She's not eating as much as she used too, but I'm not worried. She's quite chunky and I know she won't starve herself. I think consistency is the key. Once they learn that they won't get fed while playing and running around, it gets easier. I still do give her a snack in the afternoon (like rice cracker or apple) which she can walk around with. But the proper meals she will have in her chair and I'll sit and eat with her. Hopefully soon she'll manage to eat her whole meal in one session, until then we just split it up into 2 parts. I don't want her to associate fighting and negativity with meals, so I rather have her get up and run around inbetween instead of trying to force her to finish the meal. I won't offer more than twice though. If she won't eat up the second time around she'll have to wait till the next meal or till snacktime later on.
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EW GURU
Latest post on 29 May 2011 - 12:55
My first DS was an absolute ****** to feed and I resorted to a lot of different methods to try to get him to eat - and it was the worst mistake! It took a long time to get him out of the habits that I had formed. But it did ensure that he ate. As bad as this sounds - tv worked a treat. It would keep him amused, he'd sit down in his chair for long enough and eat well. Alternatively, if you want to try something different - the ikea highchairs (?antelope?) are fantastic and more of a "big boy" chair, or like others have mentioned, the booster at the big table are good. Perhaps he's bored with the food? Perhaps mix it up a little - rather than a wholoe piece of toast, try half a piece of toast plus a few other things to give him variety and mix it up?
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Latest post on 29 May 2011 - 12:41
Er, no, I'm not 'leaving him in there screaming' or indefinitely - sorry, I should have been clearer. He has his food and then he's out of there, but he gets bored quite quickly and wants out before he has a full tummy. I'm always with him when he eats, and don't clear up until he's out of the chair and back playing. He does communicate when he's done - by shouting at me - but as he wants to carry on eating once he's out of the chair, he's clearly not done with his meal. I don't want him to not eat enough, but equally I don't want him to learn it's OK to do this now then confuse him when he's a bit bigger by insisting he eats a full meal at the table (i.e. in his chair).
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Latest post on 29 May 2011 - 12:11
I kind of disagree with expecting a one year old have the attention span to stay in their chair indefinitely but I agree you should start instilling manners now, perhaps just a bit more gently. Meals only in the chair as a rule, fine but make sure you stay there the whole time too (and also eat) so that it is a social event, don't expect your child to stay there and focus on his food while you tidy up etc. Allow for pauses between eating, some toys to play with too etc. shorter snacks (like 5 min) more often (all in the chair) might allow you to remove any negative associations you have built if you are leaving him in there screaming. He really is too young to understand the idea of manners, so its more about building expectation/social norms (i.e when I sit in the chair I get food) rather than about discipline and power play. Allow him to communicate when he is done and he might not make it a battle from the start.
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 29 May 2011 - 11:44
Dubaicat - your DS sounds EXACTLY like mine! I am actually about to sell my high chair and just buy a booster seat for each table in the house as that seems to help a bit.... well, just a TEENSY TINY bit to be honest! Let me know if you find a solution that works! My little guy only eats a few bites in his chair, then he wants OUT and starts throwing food. If I allow him to eat while playing he eats well. Every now and then I decide to stop this and only allow him to eat when he is in his chair, and he always wins... seems to prefer an empty tummy to being captive in his boring chair. I am just not comfortable with the small amounts he eats on my terms and am always worried that I am starving him! And to be honest some days I just cannot bear the thought of the highchair drama and mess on the floor so just let him do what he wants. I figure there will be plenty of time ahead to teach proper table manners, at the moment my first priority is to get healthy food into his little tummy? Am hoping to break the habit when visiting my parents for a month during the summer as they have always been super strict about food belonging at the table etc!!!! Let us know how it goes :)
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EW GURU
Latest post on 29 May 2011 - 11:09
I ABSOLUTElY agree with you DubaiCat and no, it's not too early to instill good table habits. Stick with the same rules and he'll learn soon enough. It would be unfair to let him do what he likes now and then when he hits 2 decide that now is the time for change.
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Latest post on 29 May 2011 - 10:59
Thanks ladies :). It does really matter to me - I know everyone picks their battles but when I was small we all learned to stay at the table until we were excused and seriously, mealtimes at home with my nephew are a nightmare. He gets to pick where he sits, other people have to move if he wants to sit next to someone in particular, he just gets down and bogs off when he feels like it, then he comes back and expects to be fed a mouthful of whatever he fancies when he fancies it! This is not going to happen in my house! :D Is a year old too small to try and get him into good habits, though? Good idea re the booster chair at the table. Then we can eat together and hopefully that'll keep him entertained.
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EW GURU
Latest post on 29 May 2011 - 08:36
My DD has totally gone off her highchair but will sit on a chair so we let her do this at the kitchen table (easy to clean the floor) and in the dining room we have a booster seat. We bought the booster seat from Mothercare in MCC, worth every penny.
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EW GURU
Latest post on 29 May 2011 - 08:08
If it's an issue that matters to you (and it sounds like it is) then you need to fight the battle. Don't let him eat anything at all out of his chair and just persevere with it. He'll realise that mum mean business and stop trying it on eventually. Sorry, not great advice from me but it's one of those times when he needs to know that you're the boss even if it means he's not eating as much as you'd like for a while. You could also try one of those special booster high chairs that go on the top of a regular chair. Your objective of having him sat at the table would still be achieved but perhaps he'd be more amenable to that. win/win :) Good Luck
 
 

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