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When to start seeing doctors RE TTC

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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 03 December 2012 - 09:19

Hi ladies,

First time I am posting under this topic, and hoping that I can get some valuable advice. My DH and I have been trying for three months (I know that it isn't very long) with no luck. I understand that for some couples it takes years of TTC. Just wondering at what point of trying with no luck should we go and see a doctor.

TIA x

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EW EXPERT
Latest post on 04 January 2013 - 00:27
Charting is an idea but you have to remember that when your temp rises you've ovulated so trying afterwards won't help. It's not just aimed at working out the right time (although once you're in tune with your body and can read the physical signs you'll know when you should be trying beforehand). It's about getting an accurate picture of your cycle, so you can go to your doctor with a full rundown of what your body does as opposed to what an average woman's body does. There are many little bits of information charting temperatures can give you that could be invaluable if you do have any problems. One of my favourite bits about charting was having the confidence to know when I should have been getting excited :). Once you've established your luteal phase, you know when your period is really late as opposed to just thinking it is when it reality you just ovulated late, so you know when you can wee on a stick without thinking 'yet another waste of 40dhs!'. On the day I got my BFP with DS, seeing 36.99 instead of the previous day's 36.79 told me all I needed to know to get my a$$ out of bed faster than if Kevin McKidd had been waiting in my bathroom naked.
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EW OLDHAND
Latest post on 03 January 2013 - 21:55
Please bear in mind that not everyone ovulates midcycle - some are early and some are late in the cycle. I conceived both my DD's very early in my cycle (my DH was subsequently out of town so there was no ambiguity around conception date). Good luck.
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EW EXPERT
Latest post on 03 January 2013 - 21:39
I found the ovulation detecter kits useful with DS, and with DD, I was still breastfeeding and my cycles were irregular, the kits didn't show a surge but then I figured out I actually could "feel' ovulation pains and we then conceived straight away. 3 months is not at all a long time to be trying though.
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EW GURU
Latest post on 03 January 2013 - 18:12
Another fan here of Fertility Friend - I started using it to chart on DubaiCat's advice and found that I don't ovulate until day 19, hence not getting pregnant on previous cycles! Once we had that worked out, bingo!
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 03 January 2013 - 18:02
Thank you everyone for all the advice. DubaiCat- My gynae said that she couldnt see anything that would hinder us from falling pregnant and just said "keep trying". DallyDoo- thank you! I have just run a search. I didn't know that spaces counted as characters- so have just read a few more threads that I didn't know existed! Srdoucet - That is a great idea to get away and have some 'us' time around the time I ovulate!! Thank you everyone! I know that I shouldn't worry but what gets me down the most is how many of our friends fall preg by "accident" or soon after coming off the pill.
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EW GURU
Latest post on 03 January 2013 - 17:05
All three times it took us anywhere from 6-9 months to conceive. Some women just have the luck that they hit the right date. So many things come into play. Stress, especially thinking about getting pregnant, sleep, overworked both you and DH, eating habits. If you can plan a getaway even for the weekend. Get the whole massage thing done. Time it around when you ovulate and it may help your chances. Charting is an idea but you have to remember that when your temp rises you've ovulated so trying afterwards won't help.
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 03 January 2013 - 16:43
Hi B2B, If you run a word search on TTC you will find lots of threads on this topic on the forum which are really very helpful. It requires a minimum of 4 characters for the search but just use the space bar once or twice after the letters TTC and it will allow you to run the search. Good luck!
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EW EXPERT
Latest post on 02 January 2013 - 19:18
I think, from memory, DH just rocked up to the Emirates Hospital and... well, you know what! :D. I don't think we had a referral. He repeated the test at City and my doctor gave him a requisition form to take to the lab. What has your doctor said already? She'll be the best person to tell you what you should be doing and when, based on your medical history and current cycles. There are a range of tests you can have, but you really don't want to be putting yourself through unnecessary poking and prodding if there isn't any need (some of them bl00dy hurt!). What have you seen so far with your charting? Have you identified a thermal shift and worked out how long your luteal phase is?
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 02 January 2013 - 16:52
Hi ladies, Another month - with still no luck! Saw the gynae this month and she did an internal scan to look at the ovaries, which all seemed fine. What should my next step be? I started charting my temps too and will carry on with that. I would like my DH to get a test count done - should he see a doctor first or can we go to the hospital and just get one done without a referral? TIAx
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EW EXPERT
Latest post on 03 December 2012 - 22:07
There's no harm in going to see a doctor now, but just be aware that as soon as you do, there's a risk you'll tip yourself into the mindset of 'there might be something wrong'. And that is not a fun place to be! According to babycentre.com; 30 percent get pregnant the first cycle (about one month) 59 percent get pregnant within three cycles (about three months) 80 percent get pregnant within six cycles (about six months) 85 percent get pregnant within 12 cycles (about one year) 91 percent get pregnant within 36 cycles (about three years) 93 to 95 percent get pregnant within 48 cycles (about four years) If you think you have the patience, try charting your temperatures for a few months before you go see someone. That way, you'll have a stack of information you can take to an ob/gyn and they'll be able to pinpoint any potential issues far easier than you turning up as a blank slate/'average' woman. A good starting point for charting is Taking Charge of Your Fertility by Toni Weschler (try Borders or Kinokuniya) and then fertilityfriend.com.
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EW GURU
Latest post on 03 December 2012 - 13:40
For your peace of mind and be out of anxious stage go to a gynac right away..
 
 

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