for those who follow AP or similar

I follow the NCSS (thanks to KW) whenever i get in a pickle with sleep and naps... My DD is 12m and she feeds 3 - 4 times a night at the moment. We cosleep apart from the first sleep of the night when DD is in her cott. DD had a dummy until 9m but she was waking for it frequently and I was never really ok with her having one, so we did the byebye binky method, with no tears at all. BUT, then she started to need rocking and feeding to sleep for a while.THEN we got some jet lag and that got us into a small feed to sleep predicament just so I could get some rest, which while it was totally ok for me it wasn't for when my husband needed to put her to sleep ;-) Slowly but surely she has learnt to fall asleep without feeding and without rocking, just like she learnt not to rely on a dummy. But this is all IF I get her at the right time (which is a 15-20 minute window maximum, for naps especially). I just followed the NCSS and put her down earlier and earlier and stopped feeding once I felt she was pacifying on me. Now she will fall asleep on the bed next to me or actually try to roll out of my arms if we are cuddling, so that she can lie down in her cott but it's very important that she isn't too tired. If she is even slightly past her bedtime, she needs help to go to sleep. If DD has been up for 3 hrs, it's straight to the room for a wind down and then we read books and feed and then talk or cuddle until she rubs her eyes. She's rarely up for more than 3h20m. I don't wait until she rubs her eyes to start the routine. If you don't use one, I would recommend a comforter especially now your LO is older- DD never really seemed that attached to it, but around 9 months, even when we coslept, she used to wake up upset and start trying to crawl off (can't get far in a sleeping bag hehe) but since I started bringing her little comforter in the bed she doesn't do that anymore. It is a smelly little thing now, but it works and is a really strong sleep cue for during her nap and bedtime routine. Just lately, DD has started sleeping an occasional longer sleep at night. I have noticed that it's usually after a day of good naps. If DD takes ages to fall asleep, its because she is not tired enough or too tired from a busy day, or bad napping. So, without all the sleepy time cues you could try, making the routine longer and stronger, are you sure he's not overtired? In truth though, I think taking the dummy away has made the process longer. Without a dummy I think teaching my DD to fall asleep has been more drawn out and only now I am starting to feel like I did the right thing taking it away. So, as your DS doesn't use a dummy, expect the process to take a while as he learns how to fall asleep without help from you.

I think I have already sent you the no cry sleep solution? Things that helped for us were working really hard on figuring out the best timing of naps, bringing bedtime earliet( at one point bedtime was 5:30pm) and co sleeping when necessary. My son still fed around 3 times a night at 11 months too, he also ate a lot of solids during the day and that made no difference. By 13 months my son no longer needed night feeds and has slept through ever since, he still has his dummy though.no idea how we will get rid of that!