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how long to get your toddler to sleep?

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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 26 April 2013 - 21:41

hi there, DS, 2.5 has recently transitioned from cot to toddler bed relatively fuss free. however, he wont stay in his bed so while midday naps take 10 mins for him to get to sleep...evenings are taking 1 to 1.5 hrs. DH and i are starting to resent the time away from each other, sitting in the semi-dark and humming lullabies.
firstly, is this par for the course? secondly, any tips on getting him to stay in his own bed and get to sleep alone quicker. he goes down for day time nap at 12.30 for about an hour and evenings at 7.30 after a good bath, story routine.
TIA

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EW EXPERT
Latest post on 06 May 2013 - 21:33
Just an update. Gro clock has been extremely effective wish we had tried that a month ago!Have also cut the midday nap to just every other day and as a consequence bedtimes are no longer dragged out. :) I am missing his midday naps though :(
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 29 April 2013 - 21:24
night by night we've had improvements this week. a few things i think are helping. wearing him out big time before dinner (i take him for a big scooter ride). and kiwispears we picked up the groclock as well and he seems to respond well to it and understand what sleep time means. i'm also limiting the midday sleep to 2 hours when i know he'd like more. thanks for your feedback on this one!
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EW GURU
Latest post on 28 April 2013 - 14:08
I was very strict on a sleeping routine... And am terrified to change it. So thanks for the tips ladies. My LO woke up at 9.30 this morning, was back in bed at 1till 3 and will be back in bed at 7.30. It's heaven!! Im dreading the day he works out that he can wiggle his way out of that sleeping bag :)
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EW OLDHAND
Latest post on 28 April 2013 - 12:48
One thing I never did was have "official" nap times for either of my kids. If they fell asleep during the day they lay on the couch in the livingroom or sometimes in the pram (I had one of these big old fashioned Silver Cross jobs!) I didn't let them sleep longer than an hour and a half. Moving to a big bed was seen as something for big girls and boys and they loved their "grown up" beds. We changed the décor in their rooms at the same time. Bedtime was a bath, little supper, story and bed. If they go up again they were taken back, no chat and put back into bed. Lets just say that they were made very unwelcome if they appeared back down stairs after they had been put to bed. They soon got the message. I was a bad mummy too! :)
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EW GURU
Latest post on 28 April 2013 - 11:19
Toddler proof the room, remove nearly all the toys and books, put a gate up at the door, say your goodnights, turn out the lights and leave. Your toddler will quickly realize that all the drama doesn't pay off with getting more attention. You may end up with a kid sleeping on the floor once in awhile, but you can always go back in and move them to their bed once they are asleep. Yes, I'm a mean mom like that.
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EW EXPERT
Latest post on 28 April 2013 - 11:01
Yeah mine was/is too, has always been very easy to put down. I would have left him in his cot longer but we went on holiday and he figured out he could climb out of the portacot and then tried the same in his big cot, too dangerous to leave him in there. It hasn't resulted in nightwaking, mostly just getting up too early, I have just got him a gro click so will report back as to whether that helps. As far as the fighting sleep, we will probably drop his nap :( and pretty much we just have to stand outside his room telling him to get back in bed, it's faster if I do it vs daddy but I am usually putting the 6 month down at the same time so it's tricky. [i'>(edited to fix the wieird autocorrects!)[/i'> <em>edited by kiwispiers on 28/04/2013</em>
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EW GURU
Latest post on 27 April 2013 - 16:25
Oh Im waiting to hear more tips on this. Im dreading the big bed move. Our LO is such a good sleeper. Im scared to mess with it.
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EW EXPERT
Latest post on 27 April 2013 - 15:23
yeah we've had the exactly the same issue, and also with getting up early in the morning since he's moved to a bed. We put a gate on his bedroom door and are reluctantly realsing that he needs to drop his midday nap, something which I am not keen to do. The fighting bedtime began even before the switch and seems to be happening with all his friends too, I think its a combination of not being as tired, and being more aware of how to drag things out (one more story, one more drink etc) and also the beginning of nighttime fears (wanting to leave the light on, having bad dreams) that seems to happen with 3-4 year olds. Also I do nap time and DH does bedtime, I think a part of it is wanting to spend more time with daddy and also knowing that daddy is more of a soft touch. <em>edited by kiwispiers on 27/04/2013</em>
 
 

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