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Dreams about a man I once loved.....

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Latest post on 29 March 2011 - 16:08

I am using my friend brokenheart's account (with her permission) as I like to stay anonymous.
I am in my early 30s, happily married with 3 children for over a decade now. My husband and I are very much in love and have no marital problems.
When I was 17, I was deeply in love with someone. We were not in a relationship and my love was not reciprocated, we were just friends. But I died for him a million times a day, I really loved him very much. After we moved away from that city, we lost touch and I was not over him for the next 3-4 years. I haven't seen him in over 15 years but
I often dream of him. At least once every month or so. When I am awake he is really nothing to me, I don't even think about him. But in my dreams the feeling is so real. Its that intense feeling of yearning and aching to hug someone. And it feels like I have reached somewhere I always to be when in his embrace... I don't feel anything for him now. But I remember the dreams very well in the morning and they are beginning to disturb me. It just doesnt feel right. Sometimes in the morning I feel unfaithful to my husband, that's how real they feel.
Does anyone have any similar experiences? Can anyone make any sense out of this madness? Any words to talk about this appreciated.xx
<em>edited by brokenheart on 29/03/2011</em>

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EW GURU
Latest post on 30 March 2011 - 09:00
Many times dreams are not about the obvious. That is why I also asked about a classroom as this former love dream is usually associated with feelings of unfinished goals/ achievements in career or studies
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EW EXPERT
Latest post on 30 March 2011 - 08:47
brokenheart, why not write the dreams down. Have paper beside the bed, write them then forget it. Sometimes if we fixate we miss the message the dream is giving us ;)..by writing what you remember you might figure out the message and it most likely has nothing to do with your teenage love other than that being a symbol. I have had some wild dreams that shocked me when I woke up lol....and I figured out what they were about and was able to fix it or at least acknowledge it ;0.....happy dreaming, it also could be your subconsious getting rid of old stuff as you might not need those anymore, sort of like clearing house when you are readylol. Who knows lol
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EW EXPERT
Latest post on 29 March 2011 - 19:56
I assure you there is no lack of passion ;) are you sure about that? Broken heart quote; Its that intense feeling of yearning and aching to hug someone [i'> [/i'> Awwww!
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 29 March 2011 - 18:51
Read this and was all ready to respond to OP - 'think it's normal, youth lost etc'. And then someone mentioned the Beckham dream!!! He was only wooing me tho"!
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 29 March 2011 - 18:17
Thank you Expat ladies, I feel much better now. Nothing like talking, even if it's virtual! Cheers
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EW MASTER
Latest post on 29 March 2011 - 17:49
A man? ON EW? Perish the thought! :\:
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EW EXPERT
Latest post on 29 March 2011 - 17:48
LOL at the subtle editing there! Didn't expect that word to show up! :-P Ha Ha Ha, I can't believe it! Now of course if a man were to say the same thing on EW all **** would break lose!
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Latest post on 29 March 2011 - 17:46
LOL at the subtle editing there! Didn't expect that word to show up! :-P
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Latest post on 29 March 2011 - 17:44
It's not that guy in particular you are pining after - it is that feeling. It's youth. Forget about him - concentrate on your marriage! It's life - that's how it goes. ( besides your "first love" is bald now anyway! ;) ) And SM wins the first to who is going to post *join the club* ! LOL Of course - we have all been there! We were young, they were young, we had no children, we could do what we wanted when we wanted ;) If you ended up with Mr Wonderful he would also irritate the helll out of you by leaving the toilet seat up ! Haven't we all had a dream that we have had David Beckham at some point? If you haven't, you don't know what you missed! :D SHOCKED!!!!! David Beckham???? please......................YUCK.
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Latest post on 29 March 2011 - 17:43
It's not that guy in particular you are pining after - it is that feeling. It's youth. Forget about him - concentrate on your marriage! It's life - that's how it goes. ( besides your "first love" is bald now anyway! ;) ) And SM wins the first to who is going to post *join the club* ! LOL Of course - we have all been there! We were young, they were young, we had no children, we could do what we wanted when we wanted ;) If you ended up with Mr Wonderful he would also irritate the helll out of you by leaving the toilet seat up ! Haven't we all had a dream that we have had David Beckham at some point? If you haven't, you don't know what you missed! :D
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 29 March 2011 - 17:42
Broken heart was right you lot are good for the nerves! LoL haha
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EW EXPERT
Latest post on 29 March 2011 - 17:40
I don't think so. But who knows?¡ Have you got bedbugs?
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EW EXPERT
Latest post on 29 March 2011 - 17:40
It's not that guy in particular you are pining after - it is that feeling. It's youth. Forget about him - concentrate on your marriage! It's life - that's how it goes. ( besides your "first love" is bald now anyway! ;) ) And SM wins the first to who is going to post *join the club* ! LOL
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 29 March 2011 - 17:38
I don't think so. But who knows?¡
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 29 March 2011 - 17:36
"Ghost" :-P Now you're making it creepy! edited by spongemonkey on 29/03/2011 Why is it creepy?
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EW MASTER
Latest post on 29 March 2011 - 17:34
"Ghost" :-P Now you're making it creepy! <em>edited by spongemonkey on 29/03/2011</em>
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 29 March 2011 - 17:31
I am using my friend brokenheart's account (with her permission) as I like to stay anonymous. I am in my early 30s, happily married with 3 children for over a decade now. My husband and I are very much in love and have no marital problems. When I was 17, I was deeply in love with someone. We were not in a relationship and my love was not reciprocated, we were just friends. But I died for him a million times a day, I really loved him very much. After we moved away from that city, we lost touch and I was not over him for the next 3-4 years. I haven't seen him in over 15 years but I often dream of him. At least once every month or so. When I am awake he is really nothing to me, I don't even think about him. But in my dreams the feeling is so real. Its that intense feeling of yearning and aching to hug someone. And it feels like I have reached somewhere I always to be when in his embrace... I don't feel anything for him now. But I remember the dreams very well in the morning and they are beginning to disturb me. It just doesnt feel right. Sometimes in the morning I feel unfaithful to my husband, that's how real they feel. Does anyone have any similar experiences? Can anyone make any sense out of this madness? Any words to talk about this appreciated.xx edited by brokenheart on 29/03/2011 Is there any possibility that your ex boyfriend has passed over?
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 29 March 2011 - 17:26
Sponge monkey, you get my vote for the best answer! You made me laugh out loud, thanks! <em>edited by brokenheart on 29/03/2011</em>
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EW MASTER
Latest post on 29 March 2011 - 17:20
It's not that guy in particular you are pining after - it is that feeling. It's youth. Forget about him - concentrate on your marriage! It's life - that's how it goes. ( besides your "first love" is bald now anyway! ;) )
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 29 March 2011 - 17:16
Dreams about a man I once loved..... That would make a great book title:)
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 29 March 2011 - 17:01
You say your marriage has love; but what about passion? Phwoarrrr.....good one sophia!!!!
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 29 March 2011 - 16:47
oh this happens to me all the time. usually when i am very stressed. i think i have associated an old boyfreind with stress so whenever i am really stressed i dream about him. its exactly as you describe the intsense feelings and the weirdness the next day. and my ex was an alcoholic freakazoid! and i certainly have no feelings for him at all. i talk to DH about it though, and when im very stressed he often even asks if i have dreamt about the ex yet :) so dont worry about it, it doesnt actually mean anything at all. hth Thanks
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 29 March 2011 - 16:38
Interesting
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EW GURU
Latest post on 29 March 2011 - 16:37
Do you also have dreams about classrooms? What:\: Usually represents unfinished affairs and many tend to have both reaccuring
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 29 March 2011 - 16:37
Yeah in the dream!
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EW EXPERT
Latest post on 29 March 2011 - 16:35
I assure you there is no lack of passion ;) are you sure about that? Broken heart quote; Its that intense feeling of yearning and aching to hug someone
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EW EXPERT
Latest post on 29 March 2011 - 16:33
Do you also have dreams about classrooms? No just maids outfits!
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 29 March 2011 - 16:33
Do you also have dreams about classrooms? What:\:
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 29 March 2011 - 16:32
I assure you there is no lack of passion ;)
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EW GURU
Latest post on 29 March 2011 - 16:32
Do you also have dreams about classrooms?
 
 

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