Ahhhh, well good for you. I would not have said a thing to MIL, though she makes jabs here and there at me. And good for your DH that he supported you and let you confront her the way you wanted to. :)
THANK YOU all for your words of wisdom as otherwise else I would have sat n cried my eyes out or stabbed someone (no prizes for who would be the pin cushion ;) )
I was on my best behaviour made sure that I didn't leave any stone unturned in order to make their trip comfortable and enjoyable.Not for their sake but rather as I dint want to let myself down or on my conscious that I was at fault.
@ airport MIL and FIL declare that they thought I was the best thing that could have happened to their son and their stay was impeccable.Also all my friends n family had been so loving - Now I could have let them go just like that but then I became like a woman obsessed !
I made my likkle Oscar speech short n sweet which was something on the lines of my acquaintances where nice bec I had presented my in-laws in a positive manner had i bitched about them to all those people they would have treated them accordingly.
MIL was like 100% I agree so then I said it - I told her next time you want to gossip about me do it in your own house where am not present.This is my house and irrelevant off the circumstances its unacceptable to behave in that manner towards anyone .I also informed her that the lady u gossiped to also called me (which she did as we had invited her for brunch) and said that your MIL tells everyone ur hospitable ,loving,caring,respectful and has lovely face but then she spoils it all by saying 'shes a little fat but what can we do u cant get everything'.
MIL was shocked n stunned left speechless for once. I told her forget it we all make mistakes and we should learn by it and move on .
DH said Lets not repeat the mistakes either !
On our way back home DH was like u did good and I agree
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Let it be and move on ..not only 'getting back' at your mother in law won't solve the issue but it will escalate it. Chances then are that you and everybody else will get even more hurt in the process.
1. I read countless of times, in this very forum, how 'insensitive' people from specific countries are with regard to weight. It seems to me that weight issue is a western problem and people from said countries don't seem to understand it. Is your mother in law from any of those countries?
2. Your mother in laws said many nice things about you: "very nice personality , very respectful n hospitable", Wow, think about that instead. She seems to be very pleased with you.
and btw, were you eavesdropping?
cross my heart wasnt eavesdropping -she said it in a loud whisper I was supposed to hear I think !