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10 week old hates lying flat

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Latest post on 05 July 2013 - 16:32

My 10 week old DS hates lying flat on his back when awake. He does tummy time for like max 10 mins then he cries. He prefers being held in an upright position or sitting. I noticed he likes looking around the house and sometimes even watches TV! (Don't get me wrong, I don't let him watch TV. I watch the news in the morning while feeding and he turns his head to watch too) He hates lying down so much that he pulls himself up (baby crunches) or rolls to his side.

So yesterday I took him to his pedia for routine check up. After seeing the dr (he said, DS is a healthy boy and he has good neck control) I was holding him in a sitting position waiting for DH in the reception then there was one nurse who came up to me. She was soooo surprised and asked me why I'm holding my baby like that! She said I'm causing damage to his spine! She said babies below 6 months shouldn't be carried like that! So now I'm worried that maybe I did some damage. I did some research online and couldn't find anything.

Is it really bad for their back to be held in an upright position before they reach 6 months?

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Latest post on 10 July 2013 - 11:01
I don't see how you can possibly " spoil" a child of any age by giving them too much physical affection, frankly it's ridiculous for your MIL to suggest so. [b'>Babies don't cry for no reason, I think it's always a good idea to listen when they show distress[/b'>. Exactly. Unlike my older children who cry if they think it might get their sibling in trouble.
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Latest post on 09 July 2013 - 23:54
I don't see how you can possibly " spoil" a child of any age by giving them too much physical affection, frankly it's ridiculous for your MIL to suggest so. Babies don't cry for no reason, I think it's always a good idea to listen when they show distress.
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Latest post on 09 July 2013 - 13:26
Ignore your MIL, she's probably just jealous that she doesn't have a gorgeous little baby of her own to carry around anymore. Giving your child physical contact is not spoiling them, how ridiculous. Carry him as much as you want and enjoy every second of it. Every baby is different, some love lying on their back, some don't. You know your baby better that anyone so do what works for you. The RIE method (mentioned in the link below) is another example of doing what works for you. One friend who followed the principles it worked perfectly for. Happy baby, mobile from young, all good. Another friend who did it had an extremely frustrated grumpy child who couldn't get herself up until she was over 1 and would just lie on the floor screaming.
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Latest post on 09 July 2013 - 09:43
My son had severe reflux and was not able to lie flat for 6 months. They can choke on their vomit if they lie flat on their backs so please be careful. Babies that young can not manipulate or be spoiled, they cry to communicate something to you. Have bubba checked out by a doctor to rule out reflux or silent reflux and dont pay to much attention to what other people say you should or shouldnt do with YOUR baby. Good luck!
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Latest post on 07 July 2013 - 23:16
Hi ladies. Thank you so much for the feedback. I did some research about reflux, my DS doesn't have the signs but I will still keep in mind to ask his pedia next visit. My MIL thinks DS is spoiled because I'm always carrying him, I said that's impossible because I read somewhere that babies under 6 months CANNOT be spoiled. So we did an experiment. I put DS down on his back and he started crying. We let him cry for a bit while trying to entertain him with toys but he just kept crying. But the second I carried him in my arms, he smiled!!! We did it several more times and we got the same result. I don't think he's spoiled he's just a clever cookie LOL.
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Latest post on 06 July 2013 - 17:50
my 11 week old girl also loves to sit up, and an old lady recently told me i was damaging her UTERUS and she wouldn't be able to have kids in future, and i'm also stunting her growth! RUBBISH! I went home and checked every baby website and all i could find was if you do allow them to 'sit up' they will only like to be seated that way and not like to lie down. I honestly hear so much garbage here about babies and in the end the people who love dishing out the most advice seem to have the most troublesome, naughty or ill children. You know what they say, opinions are like *********, everyone has one :)
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Latest post on 06 July 2013 - 11:45
So did the nurse show you how to carry the baby or explain what was in her opinion wrong? or just stress you and left? [url=http://www.freesmileys.org/smileys.php'>[img'>http://www.freesmileys.org/smileys/smiley-rolleyes007.gif[/img'>[/url'> First of all you will not cause damage in baby spine in just few weeks. But it is worth to remember that bad habits while carrying baby, bathing, feeding, sleeping, using wrong carrier etc. repeated everyday for first year , when young spine is developing will have an effect. While it is not easy sometimes not to sit up a baby, while they are very curious and want to see the world. Just try to support his back by hand, try [b'>not to sit[/b'> the baby by putting the pillows behind , while there is too much pressure on lower part. Also the muscles are still not ready to hold up the whole body. You can always carry your baby on the shoulder, like you are going to burp him. And by the end lot of tummy time. :) [url=http://www.janetlansbury.com/2012/04/sitting-babies-up-the-downside/'>check this link[/url'> <em>edited by evelyn2000 on 06/07/2013</em>
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Latest post on 05 July 2013 - 22:36
A) nurse doesn't know what she is talking about and B) get your baby checked out for reflux, could explain why he hates lying down. and C) the baby crunches and side rolling are normal, that's how they strengthen their muscles for crawling. my daughter has always hated being on her back and by 10 weeks would immediately roll over onto her stomach if put down on her back. My son was exactly the same.
 
 

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