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Does the desire for more babies ever fade?

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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 29 March 2011 - 11:54

DS ( child # 4) is 10 weeks old & I've been clucky for weeks!
I *LOVE* babies ( strangely the first 6 weeks are my favourite)

I'm just wondering if these feelings will ever pass, or am I destined to be desiring more babies until my ovaries start to wither & die....lol

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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 30 March 2011 - 14:32
I only have 1, but definitely want more and the thought of only having one more pragnancy makes me want to cry!!!! I can see myself with 3 and maybe more! Then again I didnt have to push my first one out so this my be the decider if I do have to have a natural birth in future..... After a natural you will want more, believe me! I had my first via c section and my second was a VBAC...as scary as it was, it was THE most wonderful experience and one I'm just dying to experience all over again. Oh gosh...did i really just say that out loud? OOPS!!! Really? It absolutely terrifies me! I think because the c-sec was so quick and easy, no labour pains and I was healed in a couple of weeks, anything different to that just scares me senseless. I'm repared to give it a go though, I just don't understand how we can possible get a baby out, I guess its got to be experienced to understand :S Oh I was absolutely terrified up until D day. Every time I met with my OBS she would have to reassure me and prebooked various C section dates heading up to my Due date just incase I was going to chicken out. She knew how badly I wanted a VBAC though, so she always gave me reassurance of mine and my bodies ability to birth my baby. I also had a doula who was amazing. So I think these 2 ladies played a major part in making the birthing experience a wonderful one...but it was NO doubt an absolutely amazing feeling from start to finish. Yes, the contractions hurt like H3LL...that's what an epidural is for;-) all the fears I had went away as soon as the tightenings started and I realized I was about to meet my little boy. And when you hold that precious little baby in your arms...you know the feeling ;-) go for it. You CAN do it!!! Very reassuring that I can do it in the future. My D was breech, so much so that she couldnt be turned even through ECV. Maybe the next one will be more co-operative! Check me out planning my next birth when I'm not even pregnant yet!!
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EW EXPLORER
Latest post on 30 March 2011 - 11:56
u can have mine if u want!! ;) I just had DD 6 weeks and DS is 22months.. they r good kids, but am still struggling to set a routine cos when he shud sleep, she wants to feed, and then he wont sleep, and just want she wants a diaper change, he decides to be hungry and so on and so forth. But I still want #3 and #4 inshalla altho DH is determined not to.. lets see how he manages that! lol I am just wondering if I shud have them all at once, go mad for a few yrs and get over it, or if i shud space them out. decisions!
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 30 March 2011 - 11:08
DD is 13 months old and the thought of trying for another is slowly taking hold in my mind. I have been advised to wait until the end of this year. I really really want a full term pregnancy!!! Feel cheated that the last one ended as it did (got the most awesome kid out of it though!) My husband is not a 100% convinced he wants another (DD not sleeping through the night yet might have something to do with it) <em>edited by kcinthecity on 30/03/2011</em>
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EW GURU
Latest post on 29 March 2011 - 20:52
I only have 1, but definitely want more and the thought of only having one more pragnancy makes me want to cry!!!! I can see myself with 3 and maybe more! Then again I didnt have to push my first one out so this my be the decider if I do have to have a natural birth in future..... After a natural you will want more, believe me! I had my first via c section and my second was a VBAC...as scary as it was, it was THE most wonderful experience and one I'm just dying to experience all over again. Oh gosh...did i really just say that out loud? OOPS!!! Really? It absolutely terrifies me! I think because the c-sec was so quick and easy, no labour pains and I was healed in a couple of weeks, anything different to that just scares me senseless. I'm repared to give it a go though, I just don't understand how we can possible get a baby out, I guess its got to be experienced to understand :S Oh I was absolutely terrified up until D day. Every time I met with my OBS she would have to reassure me and prebooked various C section dates heading up to my Due date just incase I was going to chicken out. She knew how badly I wanted a VBAC though, so she always gave me reassurance of mine and my bodies ability to birth my baby. I also had a doula who was amazing. So I think these 2 ladies played a major part in making the birthing experience a wonderful one...but it was NO doubt an absolutely amazing feeling from start to finish. Yes, the contractions hurt like H3LL...that's what an epidural is for;-) all the fears I had went away as soon as the tightenings started and I realized I was about to meet my little boy. And when you hold that precious little baby in your arms...you know the feeling ;-) go for it. You CAN do it!!!
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 29 March 2011 - 20:35
Oh I don't know, I'm 33 weeks pregnant with my second and to be honest deep down I'm kind of feeling really sad that I won't feel this again(we planned to have 2) With my first I started to get broody again when he was 2, but somhow waited till he was 4 to 'go for it' and now I feel like I may want to be pregnant again and have more, but lets see if I will be singing that song when this little one arrives! Maybe we may just have an 'accident' if I'm still wanting another after this one is born(evil grin)
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EW OLDHAND
Latest post on 29 March 2011 - 16:02
I'm pretty much done at 4.
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 29 March 2011 - 15:59
I only have 1, but definitely want more and the thought of only having one more pragnancy makes me want to cry!!!! I can see myself with 3 and maybe more! Then again I didnt have to push my first one out so this my be the decider if I do have to have a natural birth in future..... After a natural you will want more, believe me! I had my first via c section and my second was a VBAC...as scary as it was, it was THE most wonderful experience and one I'm just dying to experience all over again. Oh gosh...did i really just say that out loud? OOPS!!! Really? It absolutely terrifies me! I think because the c-sec was so quick and easy, no labour pains and I was healed in a couple of weeks, anything different to that just scares me senseless. I'm repared to give it a go though, I just don't understand how we can possible get a baby out, I guess its got to be experienced to understand :S
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EW OLDHAND
Latest post on 29 March 2011 - 15:39
DD is only approaching 6 months and I'm already clucky again! BUT now is not the time. Re the original question... I'm hoping my desire fades after the 2nd bubba!
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EW OLDHAND
Latest post on 29 March 2011 - 15:37
I only have 1, but definitely want more and the thought of only having one more pragnancy makes me want to cry!!!! I can see myself with 3 and maybe more! Then again I didnt have to push my first one out so this my be the decider if I do have to have a natural birth in future..... After a natural you will want more, believe me! I had my first via c section and my second was a VBAC...as scary as it was, it was THE most wonderful experience and one I'm just dying to experience all over again. Oh gosh...did i really just say that out loud? OOPS!!! Ah ha! Got ya! I'm going to hold onto this comment and not let you forget it!!! :D
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 29 March 2011 - 14:26
Yes,you did say it aloud KellsBells! Glad I'm not alone- makes me feel a little better.
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EW GURU
Latest post on 29 March 2011 - 14:04
I only have 1, but definitely want more and the thought of only having one more pragnancy makes me want to cry!!!! I can see myself with 3 and maybe more! Then again I didnt have to push my first one out so this my be the decider if I do have to have a natural birth in future..... After a natural you will want more, believe me! I had my first via c section and my second was a VBAC...as scary as it was, it was THE most wonderful experience and one I'm just dying to experience all over again. Oh gosh...did i really just say that out loud? OOPS!!! ha ha ha Kellsbells.... what happened to "no desire at all" only written 10 mins prior!!! You so want another gorgeous baby W!
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EW GURU
Latest post on 29 March 2011 - 13:28
I only have 1, but definitely want more and the thought of only having one more pragnancy makes me want to cry!!!! I can see myself with 3 and maybe more! Then again I didnt have to push my first one out so this my be the decider if I do have to have a natural birth in future..... After a natural you will want more, believe me! I had my first via c section and my second was a VBAC...as scary as it was, it was THE most wonderful experience and one I'm just dying to experience all over again. Oh gosh...did i really just say that out loud? OOPS!!!
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 29 March 2011 - 13:18
I only have 1, but definitely want more and the thought of only having one more pragnancy makes me want to cry!!!! I can see myself with 3 and maybe more! Then again I didnt have to push my first one out so this my be the decider if I do have to have a natural birth in future.....
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EW GURU
Latest post on 29 March 2011 - 13:08
Oh I'm so glad i'm not alone!!!!
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EW MASTER
Latest post on 29 March 2011 - 13:01
It sure has faded in me! I have no desire whatsoever!
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EW GURU
Latest post on 29 March 2011 - 12:16
My DH wants me to charge the video camera and make a recording while I'm sleep deprived and exhausted saying that I definitely don't want more babies - he's sure down the track I'll want "just one more"!!! :)
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EW EXPERT
Latest post on 29 March 2011 - 12:15
oh, I'm wondering the same thing! My head's telling me "no more" but the rest of me is going "awww, just one more waffer thin baby!"... but I suspect it's just because I love giving birth so much, rather than actually liking children. I'm only on 2 though! 4?! Wow.
 
 

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