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Frightening first pragnancy

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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 10 October 2015 - 17:11

I am newly married and just found out that I am pregnant,

I feel total panic as I hoped it wouldn't be straight away. Is it normal to be terrified instead of happy?
I am 31 and afraid that after having children I will never find a job again, that I have to give up all I have worked for in my life.

I didn't think I would be so depressed!:sick:

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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 09 November 2015 - 11:08
Hi Sarajevo84, I totally understand you! Feeling anxious and having lots of doubts about the future is the most normal thing, I believe. For me, I've been trying to conceive for a long time, had been through fertility treatments and when I finally get pregnant my mind goes like ":(:confused::cry: now whaaaat!!!???". I don't have friends with children here either so yea, everything looks complicated! I'm currently trying to find other moms to be so we feel we have some support. It'd be nice if we could chat some time. As for the insurance, governmental hospitals are always cheaper than private ones. They also offer packages. It could be a temporary solution till you get your insurance in place and see which clinics/ hospitals are covered. Hang in there!
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 26 October 2015 - 11:54
Unfortunately I don't know too many people here, and none of them had their kids here. I never actualy wanted kids, but I agreed because I think I might regret it later when I am old. It should be more natural. :thinking: Maybe it is just too many new things at once, job change, scene change, just everything, and no going back.
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EW OLDHAND
Latest post on 25 October 2015 - 17:25
Sara do you have any friends who are or have been pregnant, or can you join an ante-natal group to have some support. Much of what you are feelign will be hormonal but it's not nice to be going through it alone.
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 25 October 2015 - 12:56
Don't worry. It's so common. I had absolutely the same symptoms. It got much better after 10-12th week. Follow you body. If it requires 12 hours' sleep - then sleep! I know it's hard but think positive in some time you will feel much better!
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 25 October 2015 - 11:23
I didn't expect this to be so difficult. I am sleeping 12 houurs and even then I feel unable to move. I have no motivation and feel sik all the time. I don't even know where to start with the checkups, how everything goes with the doctors, not to mention that at this very moment I don't even have a health insurance (will come soon). :sleeping:
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 24 October 2015 - 16:56
First of all your life will really change a lot so to be scared of uncertainty is quite common and normal, I would say. And secondly it's all about hormones. Now you are facing a great chemical change in you body so the bad mood could be the result of this change. Nevertheless you must concentrate on the beauty of what is happening to you now. There is a small creature inside of you, the creature that will love you more than anybody on this earth. Just force yourself to think positive. I'm in my 25th week of pregnancy now. When I used to think about the delivery, about the isolated life of the first months about sleepless nights and so on I would always get so confused and frustrated so in the end I just stopped doing that))) You know, like Scarlett O'Hara, I just block these thought in my mind.
 
 

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