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Husband rant

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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 03 January 2011 - 20:15

So I finally was able to sleep train little man to sleep on his own, without being rocked but being exhausted husband took over for the last 2 nights. Today, little man refuses to go to sleep, so decided to let em whimper a little bit and come down. Husband says no worries I will do it, I said dont take him out of the cot, than he says "how am i supposed to rock him to sleep without taking him out of the cot". I almost got a heart attack, I said so you have been rocking him all this time...now I understand why last 2 days he refuses to go to sleep with me. I was already wondering how come he slept so quickly with husband up there. All my training and sleepless nights for nothing, I finally was able to get him to sleep without holding or rocking and now it is BACK to square. I am so extremely ****** of right now. Before the sleep training I specifically told him we have to be consistent and asked him to come watch what I do but he just has his own opinion and doesnt believe in my theories that we have to be consistent. He says, you do what you want to do and I do what I want to do.

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EW EXPLORER
Latest post on 05 January 2011 - 11:09
DH was a bit the same in our situation but it got to the point that DS now knows what he can get away with with DH and what he can't do with me ... although he tries it on a bit. If DH goes and gets him when he is meant to be sleeping / trying to get to sleep then DH deals with putting him back to sleep - thats the rules... I do my way, DH does his. DS seems to know and has tried to put it on with me but I just leave him in cot, pat his bottom for a bit then leave him be, if he gets too upset I go back and do it again but he is no longer (after 12 weeks of doing it in the first 12 weeks) rocked to sleep by either of us anymore... but DH will hold him until he is almost fully asleep in his arms, I wont. So hopefully your little one will soon sort out as to what the rules are with you and your DH and then be easy sleeper again! Good luck!
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 05 January 2011 - 11:02
My husband did this same thing just a few minutes ago, after I've been fighting with DS for the last few days and was finally seeing some progress. Just wanted to say ... I feel your pain! Thanks nix, it is so nice to have a hands on husband but sometimes you just wish they wouldnt have an opinion of their own, lol
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 05 January 2011 - 11:01
I hear ya! What you need to try to explain to him is if you aren't consistent he will favour one over the other and therefore if your husband goes out you will have a real nightmare getting him to bed which really isn't fair. If you aren't working as a team now things will be even harder as time goes on. Good luck with it all x Solution: husband is not allowed to go out, haha
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 03 January 2011 - 20:33
My husband did this same thing just a few minutes ago, after I've been fighting with DS for the last few days and was finally seeing some progress. Just wanted to say ... I feel your pain!
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 03 January 2011 - 20:26
I hear ya! What you need to try to explain to him is if you aren't consistent he will favour one over the other and therefore if your husband goes out you will have a real nightmare getting him to bed which really isn't fair. If you aren't working as a team now things will be even harder as time goes on. Good luck with it all x
 
 

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