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Ugggggg ... venting

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Latest post on 18 May 2011 - 14:03

last night we decided to risk going out to meet some friends. we have 2 kids a 2.5 yrs and a 4 months little girl. when we get to the place, i was lucky to say hi "only that" and the little girl decided to start TEETHING - OMG!!! screams, tears, crying very loudly ... she was really heartbreaking... i took her, excused and started marching for 1 and a half hours ... trying everything i can think of "i tried the dad and friend's help too" but she just needed more mom - soothing time. that was fine until i got tired of holding her up and walking, i decided to sit for a while "still not on the table" then she started screaming again ... i said "mom please i can't do this anymore, just give me some rest... stop crying" when i hear a sound from an unknown woman showing sympathy for the bad way am dealing with my baby... UGGGGGG she went ohhh poor girl .... do i have to mention that this woman was behind me bc. her little baby has been taking care of by her maid!!! and he was calling her for 20 minutes !!! then she left with this nice impression and left her maid giving the little baby a night lesson "can you see this baby, she is crying, she is a bad baby for crying - talking about mine ... " for like 10 minutes she was explaining to the little kid what we are doing .....
I JUST HATE IT WHEN PEOPLE DO THIS !!!!! UGGGGGG as if i needed those three to kill the rest of my night ... and if you are wondering, that was the end of our family night, we said good byes a lot of "sorry" and left :D
VENT over....

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Latest post on 19 May 2011 - 13:15
just to be a bit Devil's Advocate, if I saw a really upset baby, I would probably also say" aww, poor thing" - but that wouldn't be "oh poor thing to have a mum that doesn't know how to settle her", it'd be "poor thing, something's obviously bothering her so much that not even lovely mummy cuddles can help" The number of times I've had people lean over the buggy when either of my two were crying their eyes out (as babies) and start cooing, clicking their fingers or pinching their cheeks, and then they look at me to kind of ask why I'm ignoring the crying - so they got greeted by a raised eyebrow/ blank look and "s/he's tired. S/he wants you to leave him/her alone"! What I really, really don't like though is certain people's comments that a crying baby/ child is a naughty/ bad child. It's complete rubbish, shows them to be completely ignorant and is deeply unhealthy on a psychological issue because it's essentially telling a child that they cannot use an otherwise important means of communication for fear of being branded "naughty" or "bad". Branding children gets my goat. what i really hated is that she meant that poor baby that her mom is making her suffer!!!! ... my boy is 2.5 yrs, i never use the word bad to describe him, its always a wrong thing to say, a bad word, an inappropriate act, specific notes, but never bad in total, it's unfair. can't understand how someone could refer to an infant crying out of pain with bad ..... uggggg
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Latest post on 18 May 2011 - 20:57
just to be a bit Devil's Advocate, if I saw a really upset baby, I would probably also say" aww, poor thing" - but that wouldn't be "oh poor thing to have a mum that doesn't know how to settle her", it'd be "poor thing, something's obviously bothering her so much that not even lovely mummy cuddles can help" The number of times I've had people lean over the buggy when either of my two were crying their eyes out (as babies) and start cooing, clicking their fingers or pinching their cheeks, and then they look at me to kind of ask why I'm ignoring the crying - so they got greeted by a raised eyebrow/ blank look and "s/he's tired. S/he wants you to leave him/her alone"! What I really, really don't like though is certain people's comments that a crying baby/ child is a naughty/ bad child. It's complete rubbish, shows them to be completely ignorant and is deeply unhealthy on a psychological issue because it's essentially telling a child that they cannot use an otherwise important means of communication for fear of being branded "naughty" or "bad". Branding children gets my goat.
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Latest post on 18 May 2011 - 19:16
Some people just don't get it. I've had people tutting and telling me DS 'must be hungry' because he's screaming his head off in a queue somewhere. I'm always really tempted to say, "Yeah, I expect he is. I deliberately haven't fed him today." Ask them if they a) have any helpful suggestions or b) want to take over. That should send them packing!
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Latest post on 18 May 2011 - 14:56
hi, I can really feel for you. I'm a first time Mum of a 2 month old baby (so mum-confidence is still a bit shaky) & little one screams his head off when he is tired & only falls asleep when rocked by hand or in the buggy. Sometimes I get such disapproving looks when we are out & I'm GENTLY rocking the buggy. People just assume that he is crying because of that :-( it's so disappointing .. u expect people to understand or at least leave you in peace without those unfair looks or comments .... we really dont need more trouble ....
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Latest post on 18 May 2011 - 14:48
hi, I can really feel for you. I'm a first time Mum of a 2 month old baby (so mum-confidence is still a bit shaky) & little one screams his head off when he is tired & only falls asleep when rocked by hand or in the buggy. Sometimes I get such disapproving looks when we are out & I'm GENTLY rocking the buggy. People just assume that he is crying because of that :-(
 
 

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