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How to interest my baby in walking? Tips please :)

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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 24 May 2011 - 16:01

I know I'm not meant to care when DS starts walking as even 18 months is completely normal etc etc, so wouldn't admit to anyone other than on an anonymous internet forum, that I would really LOVE to hurry things along now. DS is 13 and a half months and is an expert crawler, climber, cruiser and stander, to be honest I have thought he was on the verge of walking for the past 5 months - well he obviously wasn't! :)

More than a month ago he took his first independent steps (just a couple) to much applause. I was so excited I could hardly contain myself and tried to encourage him as much as I could. For a couple of weeks I saw him practicing daily, managing 2 or 3 steps at a time before ending on his bum (but only when he felt like it, not on demand..). My MIL who was visiting declared that he was just moments or days away from proper walking. And then.... he completely stopped trying. It is about 2 weeks since the last time I saw him trying to walk :( I feel as if I did something wrong.... did he suffer a fall that I am not aware of? was I too eager, laying on too much pressure? was I supposed to help him in some way I am not aware of and now he has given up?

He used to love "walking" around while holding onto our hands since he was, like, 7 months old but now he doesn't want to anymore... when I try to encourage him to stand or walk for me he just makes his legs floppy and bends his knees until I leave him alone. Then he goes back to pushing around his walkers / cars / the dining table chairs, chasing balls around on his knees, climbing onto the back of the sofa etc etc...

Of course I know the correct answer.... I should just let him be and wait for him to show me when he is ready to try again!! But I am starting to feel sorry for him, all his playgroup and playdate friends seem to be running around by now and he is left on the floor all by himself, unable to do anything when they take toys from him etc! I wouldn't have worried so much if it wasn't for what seems like a regression in skills / interest?

Does anyone have any thoughts or ideas? Thanks :)

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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 04 June 2011 - 16:22
Yay - he is finally practicing his walking at home. Don't know when I will learn to stop worrying about these milestones prematurely. Thanks for the input ladies!
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EW EXPLORER
Latest post on 02 June 2011 - 15:17
Is he still standing with no problem? If yes, than you have no problem and just need to give him some time. They know if their legs are strong enough to hold them. And walking requires stronger legs than standing, so…. My little destroyer just stood up one day and walked, no first steps, no trying, direct walking. If he is not standing though, than you need to consult your pediatrician as he may have pain. Don’t panic, not a problem, just some adjustments and more time for him to start walking :)
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 02 June 2011 - 15:00
just as you i was concerned as my DD is 14 months but now she has started walking....wht worked for us was that i got my DD some pretty shoes to walk in..which she adored and would insist on putting them on.. and i would only put them on when she would walk. another thing what we did was we walked her outside the house wherever possible, both me and my husband holding her hand and her being in the middle. its said that it takes out the fear. HTH
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 02 June 2011 - 09:30
My DD did this for a couple of weeks, she would only walk at my girlfriends house, with her kids around, but at home with Mum and Dad, she just wasn't interested. It only lasted a little while.
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EW GURU
Latest post on 01 June 2011 - 08:46
He's playing you like a violin Novice!!! How funny. Right, he's shown you that he can do it so nothing to worry about there. He's also shown you that he does it when he chooses to. Well that's that. Kind of his prerogative really. If he can get around as easily crawling then he's realised that the effort of walking is not really worth it. It'll come with time and can I also say, be careful what you wish for! First they walk, then they try to run and you spend half your life checking for ****** noses as they faceplant! He sounds gorgeous btw.
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 01 June 2011 - 01:20
Thanks for the reassurance ladies. I have an update: Yesterday I took my DS to his regular playgroup where a bit of a walking epidemic is going on, several babies have taken their first steps during the past 2 weeks and they were showing off, with everyone clapping and cheering for the new walkers. My DS watched from the sideline then after about an hour he suddenly got up and power walked across the room. I was stunned, have never seen him go that far!! A few minutes later he did it a second time, walked 3 or 4 metres back to the other side while everyone clapped. Yay! :) Then ....we came home. It is a day and a half later and I haven't seen him take one step again, NOT ONE! He doesn't even take 1 step to reach the coffee table from the sofa. He sits down, crawls the 1 step and pulls himself up again on the other side. Considering his performance yesterday I feel confused. It is almost as if he really doesn't WANT to walk. The other little ones seem (to me, an outsider) to be so excited by their new skill, driven to practice and perfect it, whereas my DS seems to be in complete denial! Is this normal? Anyone been there done that? Should I just carry on waiting? Be extra encouraging if he tries again, or pretend not to notice anything unusual (so as not to pile on the pressure)? I always see mums holding out their arms for their babies to practice walking into but when I hold out my arms for him he either ignores me or sits down and crawls to me - more than a month after his first independent steps :) <em>edited by Novice on 01/06/2011</em>
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EW OLDHAND
Latest post on 26 May 2011 - 13:22
The longer the crawling period the better your LO's overall co-ordination will be later in life. It has something to do with left-brain/right-brain. An Italian researcher did a huge study in the 80's (think his name was Delacatto - you can google) and it showed that kids who crawled for the longest were better at reading and writing when they got to school. Equally the study found that children who only had a very small craling period (or didn't crawl at all) struggled more with reading and writing when they reached school. Not sure how much truth there is to the above but interesting none the less....
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 26 May 2011 - 10:00
No tips, just patience and understanding. I was a bit like you, until I read if you encourage/push too much some babies can rebel and decided not walk for ages. Yes, it's a great triumph for all involved, but your LO WILL do it eventually. If he was so miserable about being left by his "friends" he'd get up and walk, he's obviously perfectly happy just the way he is. Try not to compare, your LO is perfect for you.
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EW GURU
Latest post on 24 May 2011 - 18:21
Novice, be patient and toddler will walk when ready. Its a long road ahead of you and there will be many times your child may be ahead and behind with their peers. Try not to worry.
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 24 May 2011 - 17:48
Relax. DD was 17.5 months. There was another mother in my mothers' group whose little girl wasn't walking until the same time and she was nearly hysterical about it. Even went to a paed and a physio. I did nothing and DD walks perfectly. No-one forgets to learn to walk.
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 24 May 2011 - 17:36
Novice , sorry I can't give any tips........but all I can say is that my son is also in the same boat! :( He is 14 months for months and months now, just like your son, he walks around, holding sofa, his fisher price walker toy, car anything he can get hold of. Just like you hubby and I thought any day now he will be walking independently.......NOTHING so far!!! :( On his last vaccination I did mention it to the doc, he says nothing to worry about....as he can actually walk(even if its holding on to something). I did notice though , I have friend who comes over for play date, her daughter is now 1 yrs (in the same boat, she has been walking aided since Feb), my son is more willing to try to walk when he is around her. I guess we just have to have patience and let our babies be. Some people have said that boys intend to be slow developers.......
 
 

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