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DS is 5 months and just found out I'm pregnant again!

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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 05 October 2013 - 11:17

I don't know how I feel right now. I feel guilty that I'm not as happy after finding out I'm pregnant again. I feel guilty that my DS will have to share the attention at a very young age. And I'm scared as I had a really hard labor (2 days in active labor in the hospital) I'm on mini pill as I'm breastfeeding so I don't know how this happened. DH is in shock as well.

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EW OLDHAND
Latest post on 09 October 2013 - 13:33
What I would like to know is how you find the energy to engage in S** when you have a newborn :D Seriously though, having them close together can be a good thing. Their bond will be stronger and you're kind of getting over the stages quickly as opposed to having them further apart. I have twins and this is something I appreciate about it amongst all the things I whinged about! Congrats.
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 06 October 2013 - 15:27
TDB, Daza and mich25. Thank you ladies. I still can't believe I'm pregnant again. I didn't see my dr yet but I've used 5 different home pregnancy test and all came out positive. I don't know how far along I am as I had irregular period. I guess I have to start looking at double strollers now. Reading all your advice made me a bit excited actually. I'm worried about what our family and friends would say though. Hopefully they will be supportive as well. Again, thank you ladies. I really appreciate all the kind, encouraging words. X <em>edited by pinkbutterfly on 06/10/2013</em>
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 05 October 2013 - 20:14
I have 16 months between my DDs and it really wasn't/isn't so bad. You are used to broken sleep, nappies, prams etc. The anxiety you had with the first isn't so prominent with the second. Do you have help? I put my eldest into nursery in the mornings before the new baby arrived. A double buggy is great, especially if your car seat fits. You can get out to the park etc. We have a city select baby jogger. My DDs are now 33months and 18months and they play and laugh together and my DH and I smile. Yes they fight and sometimes you feel like a day will never end but I wouldn't change things for the world. We have no 3 on the way in Jan which is scaring me but we'll cope :-)
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EW MASTER
Latest post on 05 October 2013 - 19:09
Congratulations pinkbutterfly! Don't feel guilty about not feeling as happy, it's totally understandable that you have mixed feelings about an unplanned pregnancy, especially if your first one was planned. I think regardless of the age of your older child it's common to feel worried about how they will cope with sharing your attention. The great thing about such a small gap is that very quickly your older child won't remember any different. Everyone I know with a small gap says it's great having children so close in age and it makes it's easier for activities etc when they get a bit older. No two labours are the same so having a hard labour first time around doesn't necessarily mean it will happen again unless your doctor has told you it was for a specific reason that is likely to repeat. Generally labours get quicker the more children you have. If you are really struggling emotionally with the thought of it would an elective c-section be an option? I hope you are feeling better about things soon.
 
 

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