Should little girls wear a top at the pool? | ExpatWoman.com
 

Should little girls wear a top at the pool?

125
Posts
EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 12 November 2016 - 09:00

I want to hear your thoughts on this:
Should little girls wear a top at the pool?
Does it matter if the pool is in a hotel or in your building?
At what age should she start wearing one?

390
Posts
EW EXPLORER
Latest post on 20 November 2016 - 14:21
Very sad and disturbing that a grown woman and her three sons find your little daughter to be a sexual object, otherwise why complain? Not used to it in their culture? Surely not in Miami! I doubt at the age of 3 her nipples were bigger than her sons' :biggrin::biggrin::biggrin::biggrin:
394
Posts
EW EXPLORER
Latest post on 17 November 2016 - 16:36
It can be surprising what a range of people can object to a very young girl not wearing a swim top .I remember being in Miami by myself with 2 kids - 6 and 3 but my husband had code locked the suitcases and gone elsewhere - so we had no clothes! After a day or two I took the kids to a very empty beach - the 3 yr.old girl wearing only bottoms as could not get her swim suit .Near by there were 3 little boys who seemed to be acting rather strangely, laughing and staring etc. After a few minutes a woman (mother of boys) came over to me to say my child should not be on the beach like that. I told her - she is only 3 and we have no luggage but then left the beach! What really shocked me was the little boys who were all probably only 6 or under had already been taught something like that was lewd/wicked.
594
Posts
EW GURU
Latest post on 15 November 2016 - 13:31
By 3 years of age my DD was in two piece as am so very scared of paedophiles and random strangers having clicking pics...there I confessed my fear in public!
390
Posts
EW EXPLORER
Latest post on 14 November 2016 - 08:30
It does make sense, if something bothers you it just does and it's perfectly okay to think about it - in my view. I see a lot of older girls, 9 as well without tops in JBR, swimming freely, makes a lovely sight if you only look at nature and human beings in their own environments as opposed to certain men who stare at them as sexual objects. THEN it becomes an issue and for that matter I would put my little one in a full on swimming suit to protect her from the sun as well, one with a long zipper down the front and covered arms etc...plus a swimming hat too if she was to stay in the sun for long... If we were in Spain or by the ocean somewhere else I wouldn't necessarily dress her up this much (also depends on time spent in the sun though) but there are less eyes on her in those locations, if you know what I mean.
125
Posts
EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 13 November 2016 - 17:09
Thanks for your input ladies. I was at a 5* hotel pool this weekend and felt bothered that a girl who was about 6 was without a top, mostly as she was overweight and had little blossoms forming. At the same time i felt bothered that I was bothered and that a little girl should be able to do as she pleases? ... if that makes sense.
767
Posts
EW GURU
Latest post on 13 November 2016 - 08:37
Yes wear one of those swim Tshirts that protect from the sun, boys and girls should wear them.
184
Posts
EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 12 November 2016 - 14:19
Yes
858
Posts
EW GURU
Latest post on 12 November 2016 - 11:55
In my humble opinion, if it's your own pool in your own home, wear what you want but anywhere public in the UAE I would say anything older than a baby should wear a costume or two piece at least. I used to put my little girl in one of those sunsuits, but that was to protect her from the sun rather than anything else but even if it hadn't been so hot she would have worn a swimming costume. But then I'm really old fashioned... :biggrin:
 
 

ON EXPATWOMAN TODAY