OK my maid story just got weirder

I know the cousin's employer does not want to rock the boat by putting pressure on his maid and spoil his own situation but it's worth your dh's while remembering that you paid out and have now lost all this money based on this family's recommendation of your maid. So I think he has a moral duty to you and your dh to get as much info out of his maid/the cousin as he possobly can. While we're concerned about the maid, you've also taken a hit financially and money is harder to come by these days than before the financial crisis. edited by A Rancher on 01/01/2011 <em>edited by A Rancher on 01/01/2011</em>

Ginnee ,Satwa is the place indonesians ( all runways) live in sharing old villas...

I was just going to write that Sue62 :)..great minds lol... Well then, I would just forget about her and assume she is fine, not let the police search for her or find out if she has a phone etc....as a matter of fact, I would just pack her stuff up and send it to the cousin and let her deal with it, and hope she (the cousin)is not the kind of maid who would hurt a child out of spite. Now that is very scary. It is also scary if the cousin was/is in on the deception and possibly helping plan the whole thing. Now, that would be a maid I would really want taking care of my child.

I agree, why would you have someone you think may be vindictive or hurtful watch your most precious gift?! Finer, I k iw you must be very stressed and hurt but you really need to clear this as best you can. That cousin needs to be questioned if not by her employers than the police.

Ginnee, can you check your du bill and look for calls to an unfamiliar mobile number from your landline when you're pretty sure the maid would have considered it safe to use your phone to call someone? Might give you a lead. Oh what a good idea!http://www.expatwoman.com/dubai/monthly_finance_legal_financial_services.aspx

Ginnee, can you check your du bill and look for calls to an unfamiliar mobile number from your landline when you're pretty sure the maid would have considered it safe to use your phone to call someone? Might give you a lead.

Ginnee - almost every apartment I've been to around the marina has security sitting in the entrance lobby. Have you thought of passing her picture around to the building security in JLT and the marina? I always thought our security was kind of useless until they told me what apartment I live in when I came to ask about the gas bill. More observant than I thought.... No idea if she's wandered further outside of the area, but chances are she's under your nose since that's where her support is located. Can your friend monitor his maid's phone calls without her knowing so he could get information without causing a stir? Not sure if such a thing is legal, just an idea. Best of luck to you! <em>edited by georgiagirl on 01/01/2011</em>

Ginnee, perhaps your DH could gently discuss the matter with the cousins employers. if he is a childhood friend he could surprise you by being very supportive and lean on the cousin without the need for the involvement of the police. Are they aware of what's happened?

I think Ginnee means that she was being well treated and had no real reason to leave except in the hope of earning more money. It seems too she left of her own free will, chooisng the time and what to take with her and from the CCTV she met with someone else and was under no duress. The maid may just be going to work for another family having been offered a slightly higher salary. I think Ginnee is probably exhausted by this whole episode and does not feel ready or that it's up to her to take up the cause of this maid who left her high and dry and sorely out of pocket.

There are many possibilities. If she is in danger you need to put your worries aside about your relations and contact the cousin.if she ran off to what she thinks might be greener pastures you still need to contact the cousin.

[i'>I have no concern that something has happened to her, [/i'> [i'>i sincerely hope nothings happened to her[/i'> how does a "pleasant" home life prevent a young woman being abducted for example ??

I wonder if she was lured into the s.e.x trade. <em>edited by dentro on 01/01/2011</em>

I understand your concern about the cousin but this needs to stop. I would tell the cousin that the police are involved.

why is no-one concerned that something unpleasant may have happened to her ??

Sorry if you answered this, but what did the police say? They can trace her phone Did you go in person to the Indonesian embassy?

To find a good live-in maid after around 4 unsuccessful ones, I had to ask one of my friend's maids who is filipina to recommend me one of her own relatives. I was only 2 months pregnant with my first baby when I was looking for a maid and this time I wanted a really good one because I can't trust just anyone with my baby. My husband brought her under his name without any agency or middle person, since he is UAE national. My baby is one year old now and I'm pretty much satisfied with my maid. It is always better to find nanny's/housemaids through someone you trust, at least you will have a better chance to find a good one than if you rely on agencies, which most of them lie about maids' experience.

There really are some "gems" out there. I say this as I have had my fair share of bad experiences with maids over the years and at those times always questioned my judgement in them and often felt like giving up and trying to do without. For every maid that does not work out for whatever reason, there are maids out there who do work incredibly hard, are committed to their families, are not selfish, are loving and kind and who are honest and trustworthy. I say this because I have one of them and she is wonderful. As I said, I have had my fair share of maid drama over the years so I appreciate how hard it is to find the right one. But.....do not loose sight and do not think that it is not possible to find a maid who will not give you any trouble. I really think that you have to have quite a bit of experience with the whole maid thing. Certainly going through the interviewing - sometimes ridiculous numbers of them and then the hiring, living with them and most definately your share of ups and downs to really be able to appreciate the good ones out there.You learn through mistakes and certain circumstances how to judge better and make better choices. It takes time and patience and is terribly frustrating when going through all the channels of finding that perfect fit but when you find the right one for your family it can be fantastic. It's a tough process I believe, but one which, when it does work out right is a blessing in disguise...certainly for those of us that really need the help and appreciate how much it helps make our lives easier. Yes, it is a luxury and certainly not the norm for most people but as an expat living abroad, without the comfort of family and friends helping to support us, having the added bonus of a wonderful maid is something that I have learned to appreciate ever so much over the many years of living abroad. I feel terrible for you Ginnee that this has happened, but trust me when I say MOST people have had situations happen to them....you are not alone. It's a horrible thing to have to deal with but don't be put off.....you will eventually find someone wonderful who will fit the mould perfectly. GOODLUCK to you and may 2011 be full of wonderful surprises to help ease the difficulties of 2010. SH

Piggle, there are many live-in maids that work out just fine. Ginnee, do not give up. The question is "how do you find them"? Its just so difficult and frustrating.

Piggle, there are many live-in maids that work out just fine. Ginnee, do not give up.