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Struggling to adjust to having a maid

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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 26 October 2014 - 09:46

I'm finding it really hard adjusting to life with a live-in maid. I don't like the loss of privacy and having someone in my home. Is it something you adjust to eventually? She's an excellent worker but I just find it hard having someone in my home.

Anyone experienced something similar?

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EW EXPLORER
Latest post on 27 January 2015 - 04:25
It took me a while. Considering the value she brings, I made my decision and keep a live-in maid. With my younger one at 5, who keeps goofing around the house, she is huge help. It does take a little while I agree. We came to think of ours, who is very lovely, as grandma, which helped me come to terms with the relationship in my own mind. We did have one or two minor arguments, too strong a word, over things like which draw the knives and forks went into at first and I felt odd about even having it debated but now It doesn't bother me because she does such a lot of good. I do sometimes feel dreadful when I hear how some maids are treated and wonder about the ladies I see in uniform looking very glum.
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EW EXPLORER
Latest post on 18 January 2015 - 11:00
It took me a while. Considering the value she brings, I made my decision and keep a live-in maid. With my younger one at 5, who keeps goofing around the house, she is huge help.
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EW EXPERT
Latest post on 08 November 2014 - 14:15
I never got used to it Ohman. I never liked having someone else living in my home. I loved and appreciated the luxury of having clean floors and a spotless kitchen each time I came home from school runs. I was always very conscious of how very fortunate I was to have help at home. The two ladies who worked in my home over our five years there were lovely...one a little easier to live with than the other...but I did always feel uncomfortable about having them live there. I do love that I am still in contact with one of those ladies...Facebook is a wonderful thing sometimes...and now I consider her genuinely a friend. I miss her, but not having her live in my house. ;)
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 29 October 2014 - 07:55
I really dont like not having my own personal space in my home and I always find it difficult to nearly impossible to adapt to having a live-in maid. However, I have got older now and I am not too great health-wise and I can't cope with all the work without one. You do adjust in time, you get used to it, but for me there is always the dream day of having my house back to myself. Its a bit like husbands: they are difficult to live with and difficult to live without. Most people I talk to find it a bit difficult and would prefer to live without, but their lifestyles are that bit more difficult to be without them. People say after a few months they are like family: hopefully yours will be like that too.
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EW EXPERT
Latest post on 28 October 2014 - 10:24
Alternatively, if you don't get used to it, you may have to find a live-out maid. That's what I'm doing since the thought alone of having to share my house with a stranger is putting me off. Good luck though, I hope you manage to get used to her.
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EW MASTER
Latest post on 26 October 2014 - 10:08
Yes, you will eventually get used to it.
 
 

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