I feel rude coming back to thank you all, weeks after you all took the time to respond. Many thanks for your words of support and the feedback on the NICU - feel much more comfortable about it now but it also appears that they tend to be full, so let's see how things go...
I have found some of your stories so very touching and have had a few tears rolling down my cheeks. I hope you all have beautiful, healthy and smart babies by now!
Thank you very much, once again xxx
It is not always a given that second will also be pre-term. If you can, hire a maid or get family to help, hand over child no 1 to that help, try to trust that for a few weeks, the first child will be fine, and then put your feet up. By that I mean strict bedrest, only shuffling out of bed for toilet breaks.
Novels, internet, prayers, meditation, knitting, anything to calm down your body and mind, and God willing you will be full-term, why not, it can happen, be positive!
I wish you all the best, every little baby deserves all the time it requires to grow safely in mum's tummy.
Hi
My DD was born 26 weeks and stayed at CityNICU as back2blonde says both the consultants are amazing and are there for the rounds in the mornings. They are always willing to speak to parents and there is always a doctor on duty in NICU 24hours who can update you in terms of your child's progress. The NICU staff in general is very helpful we always asked a lot of questions and visited at all hours we were even given a room at times as my daughter was seriously ill and they weren't how she would do overnight.
They also had a lactation consultation at the hospital she is off on weekends though. I wish you the best of luck and wish you a full term pregnant having had a preemie myself I hope no child goes through the NICU experience.
I cried everyday in the NICU at feeling so helpless for my little one and the day we left I cried even more - what a relief!
The two consultant neonatologist are really amazing. They each do one week on, one week off I think. They do their rounds in the morning, so we always got there at about 8ish to be there for the rounds. The paeds are there all day so if you have any queries at any other time, they can always chat to you.
You are allowed to be there NICU (you+husband) at any time of the day but they do ask for 'quiet' time between 12.30 and 2.30 so we always went for lunch then. Otherwise we were there at all sorts of hours!!
The minute we walked up to our baby, the nurse who was caring for him would introduce the self and give us a detailed rundown of what had happened since last time we were there. They are all lovely!!
They are EXTREmELY pro breastfeeding and kangaroo care. The minute they thought he was strong enough they helped me BF. The one evening, we were doing skin to skin and at about 11pm, we decided to go home. The nurses suggested I stay as he looked so peaceful and skin to skin was so good - we went home after 2am!!
Really, your baby will be in such good care - but obviously, I hope doesn't need to go at all!!
Congratulations! I am sure you are super excited to have little bub home with you. I remember the day I managed to get DS out - the most magical day of my life!
Did you manage to talk to the neonatologist? The main issue I had at Welcare was that in five days of being at the NICU every minute of the day we were allowed to be in there (although I was recovering from a CS) I did not manage to see or talk to the neonatologist who was caring for my son. They always said that he had either already been there (outside visiting hours, so parents didn't have access to him) or would come for example at midday (which did not happen as I was there patiently waiting for his majesty), or would come in the evening outside visiting hours (?!). Until I complained to the medical director and I got a call from the neonatologist in person within five minutes :) anyway, I was not impressed with the follow up visit and we moved to a paed outside the hospital as soon as DS was discharged.
Unfortunately the team at the NICU was also unable to tell me what was being done to my son and what was the progress - kept totally in the dark with vague comments like: 'he just needs to be in here a few more days to make sure he is fine'. For any further questions I had I was always referred to the neonatologist who never showed up at the time they said he would! As you say, it felt like an eternity but even more so when you don't know and understand why your newborn is being kept away from you and you are no given an indication of how many more days or weeks it will last!
I just want to make sure there is someone on duty who can discuss with the parents in detail the condition of the newborn, treatment followed and progress.
Also, do they have breast feeding support? There was none of that at my hospital. But have read that they are very pro-kangaroo care and I suspect this could mean they also have good BF support.
Many thanks! :)
Hi Twin_butterfly.
My little one just came out of NICU at City. I only have good things to say about it. The staff were incredible to him and us. We were there for ten days (seemed like an eternity!) The paed's whi are there everyday are super and the neonatologists do daily rounds are amazing.
Happy to answer any other questions!
Am in the middle (26 weeks) of a high risk pregnancy and after a first preterm delivery, my OB/gyn is closely watching this pregnancy. Taking it very easy but chances are I might need to have number two put in NICU again. We are not in City but my doctor has agreed to do delivery there, where she has privileges, given that she does not have another delivery happening at the same time at Welcare where she is based.
After a bad experience with NICU at Welcare, I am now looking for feedback on the one at City. Have read wonderful things on the link they have on this page on preterm deliveries so my expectations are high :)