12 Ways To Stay Calm And Keep Your Temper During Spring Break
Having kids home for the holidays can be expensive, stressful and really hard work...
17 February 2019
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7. Keep An Anger Diary
Write down all the things that make you angry, and see if you can spot any patterns in what provokes you – physical mess, loud noises, lack of sleep, monotony. Then try to think of solutions. Put some time aside to work out how you’re going to address the things that bother you, and brainstorm difficult scenarios before they arise. “It doesn’t have to be only about the kids,” explains Roberts, “goodness knows there are probably other things in your life that wind you up.”
8. Read Up
While Roberts says Mumsnet users “don’t go a bundle on parenting manuals”, she admits one book that gets mentioned a lot is How To Talk So Kids Will Listen And Listen So Kids Will Talk, by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish (Templar Publishing, £12.99), which she describes as “a genius guide to changing how you communicate with everyone, from toddlers to teens”.
While an apology is often not necessary, if you know you overreacted, then saying sorry can feel really good for both of you. Knowing when to admit you’ve done something wrong and apologising is a great example to set for your child, too.
10. Talk It Over
After you’ve calmed down, Mumsnet users suggest having a cup of tea (or glass of wine) with a good friend or confidante, and letting all your angst out. But Roberts warns: “This should not be a person who’ll tell you they would have handled it all brilliantly, not least because they’re almost certainly lying.”
11. Learn From Your Reaction
Chewing things over in retrospect is fine, especially if you can think of better ways to handle the same thing next time around. However, beating yourself up about your reaction and wallowing in guilt isn’t helpful, and Roberts says: “You’re human and you stuffed up. Welcome to the wonderful world of parenting.”
12. Consider Seeking Help
If you lose your temper with the kids a lot and you think you’re really struggling, don’t be ashamed to ask for help, either from family or friends.