Meghan: How To Cope When Everyone Has An Opinion About Your Pregnancy
No, it’s not ok for them to say, ‘Ooh, your bump’s small!’
16 January 2019
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Challenging Your Eating, Drinking and Social Habits
Going out is still ok when you’re pregnant! (Dan Charity/PA)
‘Ooh, are you allowed fizz when you’re pregnant now then?’ – It’s likely women like Meghan heard that one over Christmas. Along with ‘Eating for two!’ when you’re about to chow down on a sausage roll. Or someone being ‘impressed’ you’re having a night out.
You’re allowed to be blunt, Bueno says: “The private/public realm is merged – there’s something about feeling entitled to say, ‘Back off, this isn’t your business’.”
Another classic is the gym: If you are exercising when pregnant, you will likely get some stares. Resist the urge to pretend you’ve gone into labour and try to enjoy the class as long as the teacher knows you’re pregnant.
“I’m sure people mean well,” says Bueno. “Some women I talk to struggle with whether they’re being unreasonable and whether they’re being over sensitive, but I’d say no you’re not, it’s your body and nobody should judge it – you’re not suddenly public property.” Working out an appropriate way of saying, ‘I’d rather not talk about it,’ will help, she adds.
Debating Your Due Date
Harry and Meghan are the only ones who truly know when her baby might arrive (Gareth Fuller/PA)
Hands up, we were excited when we heard Meghan revealed the baby is likely to arrive in April. A spring baby! How exciting! But when people start making judgements about your life and how it’ll pan out because of your due date, it’s a step too far. For example: ‘A December baby? You don’t want it on the 25th, do you?’ (Actually, you don’t mind, this baby is precious to you). Or, ‘You’re going to give birth in July? Wow, it’s going to be hot you know, don’t envy you!’
“What can really hurt one woman can not bother another. But changing the subject works – or if someone is being judgy, why not be more assertive? You’re entitled to. You might want to say, ‘I think I’m the best judge of my body’,” says Bueno. Either that or just smile, regally, a la Meghan, and don’t say a word.