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Sleep Solutions.. Ferber Method?

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Latest post on 13 March 2011 - 21:21

Has anyone tried the Ferber method for their baby and succeeded? How long did it take to stop cryings? Which month did you do the sleep training?
<em>edited by tarcin on 13/03/2011</em>

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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 14 March 2011 - 20:53
I did the Ferber method with both my kids. I started them at 6 months and after 3 nights with my first she started to sleep through. With my second I have to say I was weak, I did try it and it didnt work and one of the reasons was I didnt want him to wake up my toddler, so I kept backing down as I was so tired and the last thing I needed was an awake toddler too......eventually when he was 10 months old it was just too much so tried it again and stuck with it and it worked. Follow the book with the timings, good luck!
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Latest post on 14 March 2011 - 14:48
Tarcin - I did the Ferber method with my first DD, she was 7 mos. It took exactly 3 nights before she self soothed herself and slept through the night.I believe it was the best thing for both of us. I have intentions with doing it again with my 2nd DD maybe little bit earlier. Like LBJ mentioned, you have to have a routine and stick with it, do not change or alternate. It's all about consistency and routine and trust me it will work. Yes not all things work, but I have not heard of anyone that I know that tried the Ferber method and did not succeed. Good luck!
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Latest post on 14 March 2011 - 13:39
We did a different method which was easier for us - I personally couldn't leave DS crying and just shut the door. Instead, we sat with him and patted him and tried to soothe him without picking him up while he tried to get to sleep. The first night he cried on and off for an hour and a half, with peaceful intervals when he calmed down, and the second night barely 20 minutes. The third night he went straight to sleep. Now he goes to sleep with no fuss every night and for most daytime naps. Occasionally he fights his pre-dinner nap, but not very often. We did all this with the help of Cecile De Scally and I found it invaluable having her support. ETA: DS was 7 months when we did this. <em>edited by DubaiCat on 14/03/2011</em>
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Latest post on 14 March 2011 - 13:11
I think the Ferber method is the controlled crying it out, right? If so, we did it at 6.5 months and it has made our lives SO MUCH BETTER! We let him cry for 5 minutes, then 10, then 15 etc., and he did cry for about 1.5 hours the first night. The next night it was about 45 minutes and by the end of the week he was down to under 5 minutes, though he did scream for about an hour on night 6 just to keep things interesting :-) He's 11 months now and either goes straight to sleep without crying or gives a few halfhearted whimpers before going off to sleep. He will cry for 2-3 minutes before naps, but it's still not a big deal. The best part is that he started waking up much less in the night and taking longer naps once we'd done the sleep training. If you are going to do it I have 2 recommendations for you : 1. Start a routine that you always follow. Ours is pyjamas, milk, story and then song in our arms with the lights out and into bed awake. For naps I just sing a song with the lights out, he starts to close his eyes as soon as he hears the first lines of 'au claire de la lune,' I think it helps him to know that now it's time to sleep. 2. Look at your watch while doing it. I remember thinking that my baby had been crying for hours only to realise that it had been 7 minutes. It feels like much longer that it is. Good Luck! <em>edited by LJB2010 on 14/03/2011</em>
 
 

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