Amongst other books I got 'New baby care' by Miriam Stoppard. It shows you the very basics about the every day routines (changing nappies, positions for breastfeeding etc) without going into too much troubleshooting. It's good for first-time mums I guess but you will need to complement with the more advanced books like The Baby Whisperer etc although I agree with HAK in that not every baby will respond to that - mine luckily does! :)
Mums are always right at the end of the day, aren't they?
One thing to hold on to though is that regardless of the methods you choose to follow (or not), you own child-rearing philosophy, what activities you may or may not do with them, by the time they're 3, every single child is pretty much the same in habits, routines, development and the rest. Out of my 7 antenatal mates (not including all the other friends I've made since), we've got breastfed, mixed fed, formula fed, baby-led weaned, traditionally weaned, early weaned, late weaned, potty training started at 2 or at 3, baby massaged/signed/gym/swimming or not, single mums, married couples, cohabiting parents, GF routines, CIO methods, co-sleeping... at they're now all 4 and you can't tell who did what. None of them have Bad Habits and they're all healthy, well-balanced individuals.
I love this, so very true!
Mums are always right at the end of the day, aren't they?
You've got it in one!
Even when we're wrong, we're right... even when we haven't a clue, we're right!
I was once having a nice cuppa and cake with one of the friends I made through my antenatal classes and she was saying how, as a small child, she always looked up to her mum and thought that she was so big, so clever, never wrong, so in control... then, once we had kids, she realised that her mum and respective friends probably were winging it just as much as we were and hadn't got any more of a clue as to what they were meant to be doing than we had. Funny really... and certainly true!
One thing to hold on to though is that regardless of the methods you choose to follow (or not), you own child-rearing philosophy, what activities you may or may not do with them, by the time they're 3, every single child is pretty much the same in habits, routines, development and the rest. Out of my 7 antenatal mates (not including all the other friends I've made since), we've got breastfed, mixed fed, formula fed, baby-led weaned, traditionally weaned, early weaned, late weaned, potty training started at 2 or at 3, baby massaged/signed/gym/swimming or not, single mums, married couples, cohabiting parents, GF routines, CIO methods, co-sleeping... at they're now all 4 and you can't tell who did what. None of them have Bad Habits and they're all healthy, well-balanced individuals.
alternatively you can hire a postnatal doula, or even get a friend with kids to show u what to do :)
:)
Which is what I am going to do, but since so far I've been more familiar with dogs and cats than children, and I do not fully trust my mum when she tells me that children and pets are the same, I think I need some basic education and I can use this last two months reading.
Thanks everybody for the suggestions!
Seriously, they are! Actually, no - there's one big difference... pets don't answer back (but then again, nor do babies...)... oh, and they don't wear nappies... and can move by themselves.
If you're used to the kind of care a pet needs, then you'll find the same bases need to be touched with a child. Is it safe, is it fed, is it content, is it healthy... Then, of course, disciplining a small child is soooooo similar to dog training, it's cringeful - instant reward/praise for good behaviour, or instant serious face/lowering tone/ consequences when there's undesirable behaviour. Newborn and small babies needs are virtually the same as pets' - food, safety and company, the latter meaning that they will get food and safety, meaning they will survive!
Mums are always right at the end of the day, aren't they?
alternatively you can hire a postnatal doula, or even get a friend with kids to show u what to do :)
:)
Which is what I am going to do, but since so far I've been more familiar with dogs and cats than children, and I do not fully trust my mum when she tells me that children and pets are the same, I think I need some basic education and I can use this last two months reading.
Thanks everybody for the suggestions!
Seriously, they are! Actually, no - there's one big difference... pets don't answer back (but then again, nor do babies...)... oh, and they don't wear nappies... and can move by themselves.
If you're used to the kind of care a pet needs, then you'll find the same bases need to be touched with a child. Is it safe, is it fed, is it content, is it healthy... Then, of course, disciplining a small child is soooooo similar to dog training, it's cringeful - instant reward/praise for good behaviour, or instant serious face/lowering tone/ consequences when there's undesirable behaviour. Newborn and small babies needs are virtually the same as pets' - food, safety and company, the latter meaning that they will get food and safety, meaning they will survive!
alternatively you can hire a postnatal doula, or even get a friend with kids to show u what to do :)
:)
Which is what I am going to do, but since so far I've been more familiar with dogs and cats than children, and I do not fully trust my mum when she tells me that children and pets are the same, I think I need some basic education and I can use this last two months reading.
Thanks everybody for the suggestions!
I had The Baby Whisperer...DD didn't fit in with the books' feeding pattern, but a few of the basic principles were good (like the EASY routine system - Eat -> Activity -> Sleep -> You (or "Yawn"!))
None of the books have been written with you or your baby in mind and since we're talking about individual human beings and not robots, the gross majority (if not 99%) of babies are non-conformists... so the trick is to get inspiration and tips from a variety of sources and then forge your own way. Contrary to popular belief, there's actually no Right or Wrong way to bring up a baby.
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HAK - I couldn't agree more. I always laugh when baby books start off with comments like 'You and your baby are unique' then continue to tell you throughout the book how 'every' baby should behave! Really you need to get some basics but then focus on getting to know your own LO and not stress about how he/she doesn't fit the book.
I bought the same book as you and along with a very nice paediatrician is all I used. English is not my first language either but I only struggled with a few medical terms that I looked up in the dictionary. My advice is to trust your instinct and if you need reassuring talk to the doc, it's part of their job too!
Baby Love by Robin Barker - its fab (5 stars on Amazon). Covers simple things like how to dress your baby and give them a bath and goes right through to weaning. The medical section is great too. It explains all the different rashes, lumps and bumps that babies invariably get, which ones to worry about and which ones are normal. Saved me many a frantic trip to the doctors!
I second this. It has a bit of an Australian focus but 99% of the advice is Universal. She talks in a non-patronising way about all sorts of stuff and I've used it with all three of my newborns. You'll surprise yourself when your baby comes though by just how much you now instinctively. And if you have any questions, don't ever be afraid to ask on here.
Good Luck.
Baby Love by Robin Barker - its fab (5 stars on Amazon). Covers simple things like how to dress your baby and give them a bath and goes right through to weaning. The medical section is great too. It explains all the different rashes, lumps and bumps that babies invariably get, which ones to worry about and which ones are normal. Saved me many a frantic trip to the doctors!
I had The Baby Whisperer, which I found really useful as she described what each subtly different cry meant, but then further reading gave me one of the biggest hang-ups of early motherhood, as she brands babies - according to her, DD was a Snacker, which was A Bad Habit that had to be cracked (turned out she wasn't, but the number of nights I cried because I thought I was doing something wrong was unbelievable). DD didn't fit in with the books' feeding pattern, but a few of the basic principles were good (like the EASY routine system - Eat -> Activity -> Sleep -> You (or "Yawn"!))
None of the books have been written with you or your baby in mind and since we're talking about individual human beings and not robots, the gross majority (if not 99%) of babies are non-conformists... so the trick is to get inspiration and tips from a variety of sources and then forge your own way. Contrary to popular belief, there's actually no Right or Wrong way to bring up a baby.
Anyhow, now, whenever I feel the need for some lateral thinking, I either browse books at the library, or sit in Borders and speed-read... or use sites like Babycentre.com.
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I don't know tbh, it was all a while ago when I was in UK (DD now 6!! where did the time go??!!) but you can definitely find them in Amazon....
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I liked Penelope Leach's Your Baby and Child, wished I had it from when DD was born rather than stumbling upon it in the library-it's not got much illustration though. Also Dr Yehudi 's Birth and Beyond, I thought was good. All the best. HTH.
Thanks!
CBFH (can be found here)?
I liked Penelope Leach's Your Baby and Child, wished I had it from when DD was born rather than stumbling upon it in the library-it's not got much illustration though. Also Dr Yehudi 's Birth and Beyond, I thought was good. All the best. HTH.
Yesterday I was worrying about schools and education, today I am back to a matter of more immediate concern. Can you recommend a good book about newborn childcare? I have already bought "what to expect-the first year", but I am looking for something with more illustrations, tables, diagrams, possibly written with larger characters and meant to be used in emergency situations through quick consultation. Something like an illustrated step-by-step recipe book, if you allow me the comparison!!
Pls consider that English is not my mother tongue, I do not feel very comfortable in reading it, so I would need a simple reading. Maybe it is more psychological than a real useful thing, I don't know.
Any ideas?