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Poor mum in the shop

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EW GURU
Latest post on 19 March 2011 - 22:07
Oh Yes parenting is the toughest job but ignoring their children who then upset others is not fair but people are not interested in the impact they have on others with their noisy children. Parents today think they should be able to take their children everywhere, concerts, rugby, tennis, restaurants etc etc etc All mothers have to endure children misbehaving at some point in time. What really annoys me though is those parents who allow their kids to run about in restaurants unsupervised just so they can have peace and quiet to have their meal: ironically these kids always mess about at the other end of the restaurant disturbing other diners from enjoying their evening out, and the parents just come along and collect them on their way out the door as if nothing has happened. :(
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EW GURU
Latest post on 19 March 2011 - 22:03
No one has said you in particular haven't tried or you in particular are not in control. It is difficult to manage small children . No one is having a go at you. Hand straps and harnesses are practical and useful. I've tried that thank-you! A harness for toddlers, fine (I use one for my DS who is 2), but not so easy on a 4 year old. I don't care about whether it's fashionable or not. Just because I chose not to use one for my 4 year old, doesn't mean I'm not in control. Yes she has wandered off if something (usually the sweetie aisle) distracts her, but believe me she is learning!
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EW GURU
Latest post on 19 March 2011 - 22:01
Why get upset. No one is the perfect mother but certain things help and reins and hand straps do and yes I had active children even when using these . Well if your brother escaped imaging if he never had them it may have been tougher for your mother so bet she was glad to use them. I am not having a go at you but just saying why parents don't use these things as they will help. How wonderful it would be to be the perfect parent and have the perfect kids!!! I used reins with my twins. They ALWAYS went in opposite directions. To this day, still hard when I have to go shopping with them (no maid!) and their younger sibling. My Mum used reins with my older brother who is over 40 now....and he still managed to escape and nearly get run over on, what would now be considered, a quiet street.....Mum in the shop...it gets easier, you will still have to go shopping but the little ones will learn to realise they can help out. One, two, three....or more.....it is not easy to do everything. We've all been there....as many posters have said.
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EW GURU
Latest post on 19 March 2011 - 21:52
I've tried that thank-you! A harness for toddlers, fine (I use one for my DS who is 2), but not so easy on a 4 year old. I don't care about whether it's fashionable or not. Just because I chose not to use one for my 4 year old, doesn't mean I'm not in control. Yes she has wandered off if something (usually the sweetie aisle) distracts her, but believe me she is learning!
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EW GURU
Latest post on 19 March 2011 - 21:36
What's wrong with parents today, why don't they use a harness or hand strap to hold onto the children and reduce stress for themselves and everyone else. Children of days gone by did ok by them and were more in control of their parents are not racing around all over grocery store etc etc. Not fashionable now I am told ! I can totally sympathise with her. My 4 year old daughter will frequently run off in a store when I'm doing a big shop and have my younger DS in the trolley. I want to go today, but the thought of taken them really feels me with dread. I may wait until tomorrow morning and just take DS with me when the other is at nursery.
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EW MASTER
Latest post on 19 March 2011 - 19:27
FWIW, if it'd been me who'd had that experience today, I'd be touched to see someone cared enough to post a message of support. edited by DubaiCat on 19/03/2011 and maybe now the woman in question will know she is not the only one and that it doesn't make her a bad mother. :) Agreed. And by the sound of it, the mother didn't succumb to physical violence, which I used to see quite a lot of in Geneva and France. Actually, now I think about it, it's quite surprising how well-behaved the children here are when out shopping. Maybe it's something in the water..
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EW EXPERT
Latest post on 19 March 2011 - 19:23
Exactly. Hearing someone say, "Oh yeah, mine do that!" makes a huge difference.
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EW GURU
Latest post on 19 March 2011 - 19:22
FWIW, if it'd been me who'd had that experience today, I'd be touched to see someone cared enough to post a message of support. edited by DubaiCat on 19/03/2011 and maybe now the woman in question will know she is not the only one and that it doesn't make her a bad mother. :)
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EW EXPERT
Latest post on 19 March 2011 - 19:21
FWIW, if it'd been me who'd had that experience today, I'd be touched to see someone cared enough to post a message of support. <em>edited by DubaiCat on 19/03/2011</em>
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EW OLDHAND
Latest post on 19 March 2011 - 18:29
Always feel sorry for mums struggling with screaming tots. Have to say that mine didn't in public but I was just lucky I suppose. I was at a local outlet village on Thursday and stood chatting to a friend when a young mum went past us with 2 hysterical boys, 1 around 4 and the other perhaps 2. She just looked worn out and was trying her best to ignore their screams. They disappeared round the corner, I said goodbye to my friend and headed for the car park. The mum was actually parked opposite me and was trying to strap her older child in as he kicked and screamed. I was just about to offer my help when an middle aged couple approached her and the guy crouched down and spoke to the wailing 2 year old who was strapped into his buggy. The woman helped the mum to get the older child sorted out (could hear her berating the kid for giving mummy a hard time!!) In no time, the kids were in the car, mum was thanking the couple who smiled and went about their business and I was still trying to find my blinkin' car key!!! Ignore the soor faced biddies who have clearly forgotten what it's like to manage tiny children and accept any help offered where appropriate :)
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EW EXPERT
Latest post on 19 March 2011 - 17:48
oh, I think amyaus posted in the spirit of sisterhood, and surely there must be some comfort for the poor woman knowing that not everybody looks at a tantruming toddler and it's mother in distain, but rather compassion and understanding. One day lil miss was off on a big one in the MoE and i was having to physically restrain her...her shoes went flying everywhere and I felt like some kind of inept criminal. This really nice lady bought over the shoes and said, 3 huh? and i nodded yes, and it was her quiet support and wry smile that enabled me to get out of there with some small shred of dignity left. Though I did feel I right gawp giving her bottom a smack last weekend at the tri athlon and realised after that the TV helicopters doing the filming were right on top of us...ooops.
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EW GURU
Latest post on 19 March 2011 - 17:37
All mothers have to endure children misbehaving at some point in time. What really annoys me though is those parents who allow their kids to run about in restaurants unsupervised just so they can have peace and quiet to have their meal: ironically these kids always mess about at the other end of the restaurant disturbing other diners from enjoying their evening out, and the parents just come along and collect them on their way out the door as if nothing has happened. :(
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 19 March 2011 - 17:32
That's what I thought - mind you, there were a number of foul looks being shot her way when he started screaming, I heard one woman (who was there with maybe a friend/sister/relative who had a maid pushing their trolley) make comments about being a bad mother and I looked at her with a maid to push her trolley and thought 'really?' Sorry AmyAus82 - but I really didn't think it was necessary for you to write that........feeling like she was already feeling and then possibly reading this.....kind of like rubbing salt into her wounds....I just don't agree with you having to put it out there as far as what one woman said......I'm sure you didn't mean it in any harmful way but sometimes it's probably best not to repeat what others have said. I agree with Greenish - I'd be mortified if I saw my difficult day with my kids being spoken about on a public forum. SH <em>edited by sleepyhead on 19/03/2011</em>
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EW MASTER
Latest post on 19 March 2011 - 17:17
I hope today's episode of dragging my screaming two year-old into the elevator is not posted on EW!:)
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EW EXPERT
Latest post on 19 March 2011 - 16:43
That's what I thought - mind you, there were a number of foul looks being shot her way when he started screaming, I heard one woman (who was there with maybe a friend/sister/relative who had a maid pushing their trolley) make comments about being a bad mother and I looked at her with a maid to push her trolley and thought 'really?' really?! People actually had the audacity to call her a bad mother even under their breath because her children were behaving like kids behave the world over? heartless idiots. upthemselves sanctimonious drop kicks. ignorant fools. there, i feel better now. poor woman.
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EW EXPERT
Latest post on 19 March 2011 - 15:47
Lol...I feel her pain too. So much so that I'd be even more mortified to come in here (to my little away-from-the-munchkins sanctuary) and find my misery in the public eye (again). ;) <em>edited by Green-ish on 19/03/2011</em>
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 19 March 2011 - 15:43
Oh no the poor woman - I've been there before - with a large family it was my biggest fear when they were little. That and the tantrums at the chocolate aisle ! I hope she reads this thread and realises she is not alone.
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EW MASTER
Latest post on 19 March 2011 - 15:10
Ah,bless her! I have walked in those shoes before (and still am) and now only try to go shopping when DH can come along!
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 19 March 2011 - 14:22
Ah the poor love. That sounds like me whenever I lose my senses momentarily and venture out to the grocery store with both if my terrors.. I mean angels . We've all been there so nothing to be ashamed of ;)
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EW EXPERT
Latest post on 19 March 2011 - 14:00
hats off to everyone with more than one munchkin...I'm reduced to a quivering wreck when ever I find myself out with lil miss and one of her friends, horrible fraught stressful for me and a lark for them, wee blighters.
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EW OLDHAND
Latest post on 19 March 2011 - 13:57
I can completely sympathize ... it's the reason I thank my lucky stars everytime I get to leave my kids at home when I go to the store - or bring my housekeeper along! I've now got four, including two little baby twins, and I'm dreading trying to take them to the store when they can walk.
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EW GURU
Latest post on 19 March 2011 - 13:54
I can totally sympathise with her. My 4 year old daughter will frequently run off in a store when I'm doing a big shop and have my younger DS in the trolley. I want to go today, but the thought of taken them really feels me with dread. I may wait until tomorrow morning and just take DS with me when the other is at nursery.
 
 

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