Hi there, i had a c-section with Dr Shiva at medcare on the 8th of Dec last year. All went well. The only thing that was an issue was that as soon as my daughter was born they wisked her away with DH while they stitched me up. This made me very distressed as all i wanted was my husband and my baby to be with me. They kept saying they would be here soon. In recovery DH wasnt allowed in but they bought DD for her first feed while i was still a little bit out of it. But still glad they bought her too me. However they didnt tell DH how i was doing so he was left for 2hours with DD not know how i was going and if i was ok. Just something to be aware of. Best of luck with your delivery and i hope it all goes smoothly for you. Xx
OP and Reidly, have you though about having a doula by your side fot the birth? I didn't have one because I gave birth back home and the whole birth process there is supervised by midwives and much more a natural thing than here in Dubai. Here I'd have exactly the same concerns that you have. If I was to give birth here though I would make sure to have a doula by my side to give me moral and emotional support. DH will fight in your corner, but he is just as nervous and (probabply) inexperienced as you. A doula will be on your side and has more experience with hospitals and doctor here and the whole process as such.
Hi Reidly - my doctor is Dr Samah who is based out of the new Medcare clinic on Jumeira Beach Road. I have seen her from the beginning and she has been great. She has booked me to have a c section because the baby is still breech (37 weeks) but she is going to check again just before the op just in case he has turned as she knows I do want to avoid it if at all possible. She genuinely seemed disappointed for me that that's the way it's looking so I think she will respect our requests and wishes on the day.
When I was planning a natural delivery I had a birth plan and spoke to our midwife about it as I was also unsure how much weight it would carry here. She said that it is a legal document and they should do what they can to follow it - best thing is to talk it through in advance with the doc and get her to sign it off first, make sure there is a copy in your hospital file and also take a couple with you on the day.
Hope all goes well for you!:)
Hello.Kitty thank you, you are absolutely right and I am aware I need to have that chat with DH. He knows how important it is to me that the baby is with me the whole time but I also know he's nervous about seeing me in pain (or at least in labour!) and disagreeing with docs/nurses who he views as the professionals. He also thinks I am over-reacting about potential issues with post-natal care - maybe I am but I prefer to be prepared!
I appreciate the advice and will also have a chat to my doctor about my preferences.
Hi DaisyD
I am also due to give birth at Medcare in the next few weeks. May I ask who your doctor is? Mine is Dr. Nataliya at Coopers Clinic, have been really happy with her throughout and as far as I know am on course for a natural (vaginal) delivery but am aware of Dubai's high stats for c-section and anxious that I might end up having an emergency c-section, if that is the case I have the same concerns as you regarding being able to bond with the babe straight away. I also want to breastfeed and have heard that the best way to get this off to a best start is to have the baby suckle right away. It is our first baby too and although I trust DH to fight my corner I would be much happier knowing that the staff at the hospital understood my preferences from the start. I have printed a birth plan off the internet and filled in the basics... but not sure if they place much stock on them here?? For sure I will mention to my doctor that I want to bf right away if possible, stay with the baby and have her room in with us etc as haven't so far. Good luck with everything, interested to hear how you get on. :)
A birth plan is, at the best of times, a guideline. No one can plan a birth from start to finish, but you can specify your ideal scenarios for each situation. Mine, for example, in the "pain relief" section read something like "entonox if needed, epidural if really necessary, pethidine as a last resort - keen on as natural a birth as possible"
Read up on the issues and be aware and clear in your mind what constitutes necessity and what is simply habit. The medical staff may try to pass off internal policy as medical necessity and it'll be up to you (or DH) to confirm if it is or to make the call if it isn't. It is YOUR labour/ birth and YOUR child. It is not about what's convenient for them or how they are used to doing things.
Work this through especially with your DH. They are sometimes more prone to agreeing with the Drs at the time because they are genuinely scared at seeing their lovely wife seemingly in distress (which she may or may not be - whole other debate!) and feel powerless to help and sometimes just want it all to stop. Bless them.
If there is no medical complication, there is absolutely no reason why your baby can't stay with you from the moment s/he's born until the moment you leave the hospital.
Hi DaisyD
I am also due to give birth at Medcare in the next few weeks. May I ask who your doctor is? Mine is Dr. Nataliya at Coopers Clinic, have been really happy with her throughout and as far as I know am on course for a natural (vaginal) delivery but am aware of Dubai's high stats for c-section and anxious that I might end up having an emergency c-section, if that is the case I have the same concerns as you regarding being able to bond with the babe straight away. I also want to breastfeed and have heard that the best way to get this off to a best start is to have the baby suckle right away. It is our first baby too and although I trust DH to fight my corner I would be much happier knowing that the staff at the hospital understood my preferences from the start. I have printed a birth plan off the internet and filled in the basics... but not sure if they place much stock on them here?? For sure I will mention to my doctor that I want to bf right away if possible, stay with the baby and have her room in with us etc as haven't so far. Good luck with everything, interested to hear how you get on. :)
The doctor was agreement and said they would let the baby stay with us/let me hold him etc as much as possible so I am sure it should be fine. It sounds like you had a good experience at City and hopefully it will be the same for us at medcare.
Hello Kitty - like you say DH is there to fight my corner too and he will! It is our first baby so I guess I am just anxious not knowing what to expect and I feel like I will be a bit more out of control because of the c section. Good tip about the first bath too, thanks!
Daisy - what has the Doctor said when you spoke about your "request" about being with the baby straight after birth?
When i delivered via c-section at City, as soon as i was sticthed up and DD was cleaned, she was wrapped up and handed straight to me whilst we were still in the operating room! My Dr also put her straight on the breast as i was being wheeled out into the recovery room! It would be a shame if this is not the case at Medcare as those first few moments/minutes with your newborn are extremely precious and ones that you will never be able to get back.
Am hoping that you will also be able to have this experience x
I replied to you on the other thread... stand by your guns and get DH to fight your corner too.
I was due to give birth at Medcare and have several friends who did. They do seem keen on doing things their own way - every keen on the nurses giving bub's 1st bath 24h after the birth (both my friends told them to leave them alone!) and the nurses do tend to fuss. Breastfeeding your baby to calm them during the vaccinations seemed completely new to them!
I am due to have a c-section at Medcare in a few weeks and just wondered what other people's experiences were of c-sections there, what to expect, things to be aware of with the nursing staff etc? The main thing I am concerned about is not getting to have that initial bonding period with the baby straight after the birth and the nurses taking the baby away while I am in recovery. I have already, and will continue to stress to the doctor that I want to be able to hold and feed the baby as soon as possible.