Concerned about my maid...losing weight...

When I first met my maid, back in May, we discussed the food options she had - either I give her an allowance, or she eats what we eat. She wanted to eat what we eat and she even told me that she wanted to lose weight. She was nit as tiny as most of the Filiapina women I see, but she wasn't big either. Her last family was Lebanese so I assumed she was quite happy with their food and ate well? I have talk to her many times about this, and she still wants to eat what we eat. Is she just being too respectful/too shy?? Anyway, last week she was quite sick with fevers etc. Her face blew up one one side and finally admitted that she had a broken tooth and hadn't been to the dentist in 7 years. As it was a late Saturday evening I took her to the hospital, and the next day to the dentist. The swelling was so bad that she had to wait a week before they could remove her badly infected tooth. She eats very little, of course the last week was very difficult so I made some soups for her, and after her tooth was removed, a couple of days later she seemed to be OK. But today she stayed in her room the entire day (fine, it's her day off), but she didn't come out for breakfast, nor lunch. I went in to see her at 1pm because I was actually quite concerned, I don't like to intrude on her day off, but DH and I were generally worried. She told me she wasn't hungry! I went back at 2.30pm and kind of forced her to come out and eat something. She has a fridge in her room, but there is nothing in it. We had to leave shortly thereafter, and I noticed when we came home that she did eat a little. But I haven;t seen her again for the rest of the day - didn't come out again for dinner. She told me she was OK, but it's very hard to get a straight answer from her she is so shy (well with me anyway because she is very friendly at the park and makes friends very easily), but with me it's different. I have to drag information out of her. It appears that she has lost quite a bit of weight, and of course her bad tooth would have no doubt played a role in that, but I am worried. Why was she so tired and not hungry today? Should I just made rice everyday regardless of what she tells me? Is she really just being polite to eat what we eat?? She is a gem, but she won't take breaks, only at lunch time when she physically needs to sit and eat, and even then she often stands and I tell her to go and watch some TV in her room and relax. Before I know it she is out and cleaning up the kitchen. She is a really hard worker, very pro-active, I mean it is so rare that I need to ask her to do anything. House is spotless, she plays with the kids, doesn't cook so much but she is really eager to learn and always comes and helps me. So I am concerned that she may be wearing herself out, not eating, losing weight! Any suggestions how I can break down this wall? Could she be sick and won't tell me?? Is she losing weight because my cooking stinks?? Any advice on how to communicate better with her would be appreciated. We have tried very much to make her feel welcome in our home,. We laugh, we play, we pay her well, and I give her bonuses. I just hope she is not secretly not happy here??
<em>edited by SuzyDuzy on 20/08/2011</em>