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home school vs shadows

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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 01 February 2011 - 11:40

My 5 year old is not faring well in the traditional classroom. We do not have an endless supply of money. Some have suggested finding a shadow but I'm not sure we can afford one and how do I go about finding a qualified one? (a nanny won't do, must be well trained). I have also considered home schooling (the fares at K12 are just as pricey as tuition) but am also not convinced I could provide what my son needs. Anyone have any thoughts or suggestions? Thanks

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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 01 February 2011 - 21:56
Mrs Laughan - How do I get in touch with Fiona? Sounds like you have a lot of information. Thanks for sharing. My son is stressed in his current school environment. And he is just turned 5. He is one of the oldest in his class but I do still think he may be delayed and will come into his own eventually. School shadows have been recommended. I wonder about his teacher ignoring him, the expense, finding a good match this late in the school year, etc. He would do much better with a smaller class size and more one on one. What schools in Dubai offer that? I don't think there are any.
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EW EXPLORER
Latest post on 01 February 2011 - 12:57
ABBM - a good person to talk to is Fiona Coutts... she was a primary teacher, has kids herself and is now an educational consultant. She can offer advice on schools, tell you what your options are, and if need be, help you find a qualified shadow....however she will probably strongly advise you against having a shadow unless your child is Autistic/aspergers...she will explain all to you. She helped us find a new school for DS and was an amazing support. She knows which schools are very good with children who require a little extra support and those who do it badly.
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 01 February 2011 - 12:23
I ditto this about BOYS. they are so so so different. Been through all of this, but the main thing is to find a school that cares. Unfortunately this may be harder here than other places. DS has been lucky to have been in the same school since FS1 and they have taken care of his 'needs' and trust me, he is a case.
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EW EXPLORER
Latest post on 01 February 2011 - 12:18
also - another book I recommend is "the way of Boys" a real insight into boys developement. really easy read, makes you realise you are not alone. You can download it on an ipad if you have one, borrow mine, or order from amazon.
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EW EXPLORER
Latest post on 01 February 2011 - 12:16
ABBM - we have been through this here - I have a problem with my arm, so I can't type a long post...but I am happy to talk to you, tell you what we have been through - the journey so to speak, what we have learnt along the way, and people who maybe able to help you. In my opinion schools here are far to quick to request a shadow.......It may just be a matter of finding a school which is a better "fit" My email in at gmail dot com if you wish to talk to me....I won't tell you what to do, but I learnt a lot along the way which I wish I knew at the beginning. <em>edited by Mrs Laughan on 24/02/2011</em>
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EW OLDHAND
Latest post on 01 February 2011 - 12:03
He's five! And a boy. You didn't tell us what the problem is, but just because everyone else is in school at 5, doesn't mean yours is ready. Boys are notoriously late maturers. There were boys in my son's school last year (age 5) who were total nightmares. This year, they are angels. If I were you, I'd consider: a) moving schools to a school with a smaller class size b) pulling him out, spending some quality time with him, not necessarily home schooling; and/or c) restarting him in the same grade next year (Malcom Gladwell writes about a study showing boys fare much better if they are the oldest kid in the class as opposed to the younger. So where is your son on the age continuum of his class?) I disagree that pulling a five year old out to spend more time at home is extreme. In many countries, kids aren't even at school at five.
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EW GURU
Latest post on 01 February 2011 - 12:02
When you say not faring well, what exactly do you mean? Is he having trouble getting along with his classmates? Is he struggling with the academic (At 5, yikes!!) side of it? Is he unhappy to be left in the morning? What do his teachers suggest? You need to have a one to one meeting with his teacher and go through the options. Perhaps they don't have a problem with how he's faring? Give us a bit more information and we might be able to be a bit more helpful.
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EW EXPLORER
Latest post on 01 February 2011 - 11:59
We are a homeschooling family. If you want to speak, feel free to contact me. tikidxb at gmail dot com
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 01 February 2011 - 11:43
Cannot comment. At 5, not faring well could mean a number of things. Perhaps he has a problem. Perhaps he has a settling issue. Maybe you need to find a school that can assist you and address your childs needs in a better way. At the age of 5 you will know if he has serious problems. If it does not seem so, then I would say to put some money into having him thoroughly assessed. Pulling a child out of his class is an extreme step to take and sends multiple messages to him.
 
 

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