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Old boyfriend- cut ties?

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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 03 January 2011 - 20:56

So recently an old boyfriend moved to Dubai. He's been emailing & SMS-ing me (my bad for giving contact #), wanting to get together (as families). It's all very above board, he wants to play tennis with the DH. I'm pretty certain he has no other agenda.
I have to say that this man BROKE MY HEART. Although it was almost 20 years ago, it was AWFUL, and truth be told, I dont think I want to see him.
DH says he will go with whatever I decide. Should I tell him that I dont want to be friends or just keep dodging him to be (sorta) polite and hope he gets the message.

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EW EXPLORER
Latest post on 04 January 2011 - 06:45
Faifunghi, put it this way, you can trust me more than him. Tell him you were just messing with him and had no intention of letting him into your 'family'.
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EW GURU
Latest post on 04 January 2011 - 04:10
Meh, I'd throw him to the curb. If he didn't consider your feelings 20 years ago, he probably won't now. You have nothing to gain from this association whereas he has everything as because he's new to Dubai, he's probably looking to hook up with your social group via the connection he has with you. Stick with your friends who love you and care about you. As Sparklepunk said "time doesn't change jerks" and life is too short to waste your time on people who don't treat you right. <em>edited by Buy me a Pony on 04/01/2011</em>
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EW MASTER
Latest post on 03 January 2011 - 21:55
think i'd be wanting to cut more than his ties lol *snigger*
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 03 January 2011 - 21:55
if the break up was cruel then he's got no good intentions now! Time doesn't change jerks.
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EW MASTER
Latest post on 03 January 2011 - 21:47
think i'd be wanting to cut more than his ties lol
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 03 January 2011 - 21:45
Your DH will go with whatever you decide? Blimey. What else was he to say? As for your ex - there's a reason for him being an ex and in the past he should stay. Why let him into your life? Why have the headache of him even as someone new in town who needs a nod in the right directions? DH basically doesn't care, we're pretty secure in our family life. He'd just be happy for a new tennis partner... Thanks, its what I knew but needed to hear it.
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EW MASTER
Latest post on 03 January 2011 - 21:35
Keep away. There are two men I never want to see again - I broke the first one's heart and the second one broke mine. I would never want to meet up with either of them again - though strangely, I now remember, I bumped into the first just after the second finished with me, whilst I was crying my eyes out (my normal state at that time for about 6 months). Maybe if I hadn't put on as many kilos as years I've aged, I would feel differently, I honestly don't know!
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EW GURU
Latest post on 03 January 2011 - 21:28
20 years is a long time to still harbor old feelings. With that said, I have a few ex's on my facebook. And talk to them every great once and awhile. And they know my husband.
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EW OLDHAND
Latest post on 03 January 2011 - 21:28
So recently an old boyfriend moved to Dubai. He's been emailing & SMS-ing me (my bad for giving contact #), wanting to get together (as families). It's all very above board, he wants to play tennis with the DH. I'm pretty certain he has no other agenda. I have to say that this man BROKE MY HEART. Although it was almost 20 years ago, it was AWFUL, and truth be told, I dont think I want to see him. DH says he will go with whatever I decide. Should I tell him that I dont want to be friends or just keep dodging him to be (sorta) polite and hope he gets the message. Your DH will go with whatever you decide? Blimey. What else was he to say? As for your ex - there's a reason for him being an ex and in the past he should stay. Why let him into your life? Why have the headache of him even as someone new in town who needs a nod in the right directions?
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EW EXPLORER
Latest post on 03 January 2011 - 21:10
If it was me, I wouldnt meet up, it would only bring back bad memories and feelings. Be selfish and look after yourself and your family first. For any man like that to get back in touch, my gut instinct says he either has something to show off or has another agenda!
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 03 January 2011 - 21:10
Gosh, there's absolutely no requirement on earth for you to see someone you don't want to, and to whom you have no obligations! If you'd rather not see this man - and it's clear that you would rather not now, even if you did originally give him your number - then I see no reason why you should! This person brings up bad memories to the point where you don't want to see him so I don't see any reason at all why you should be providing him with a social life via your husband and your family! Do whatever makes you feel better - either keep dodging or politely tell him you don't want to be friends. Unless of course it would make your heartbroken self from 20 years ago snigger to see he's got bald and fat...?
 
 

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