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She is aggressive and he doesn't care!!! Is she going to accept him one day?

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EW GURU
Latest post on 23 October 2011 - 10:15

So this is about the cat Petro, the male I rescued 3 months ago from a petrol station. I went through a lot with him until he recovered; he was a shy very sick scared little cat who didn’t leave his box for weeks (except for food and to litter box). I’ve put him for adoption here on EW but since my fiancé would like us to keep him, I thought maybe I can try to introduce him to my female cats, who in the past, did not accept other cats at all, both males and females.

Petro was so scared at the beginning to leave his toilet, where he was staying for the past 3 months. I was locking my cats in my bedroom and let Petro discover the house, but every time I let him out, he starts shivering and wants to run back to his toilet. This continued for several days until one day, I let my Siamese female “Cookie” out to see him, and immediately they connected. He doesn’t hiss anyway but even Cookie didn’t hiss at him and they started playing together. They actually play a lot Hide and Seek, they don’t hurt each other or bite or scratch, just very soft fun play.

The problem is with my Persian “Princess”, she is friends with Cookie, they don’t sleep next to each other but they play nicely together and they don’t fight at all, though Cookie, the Siamese is the dominant, and sometimes she hits Princess if she finds her sleeping on her tree and Princess doesn’t fight back.

Princess follows Petro and hisses on his face, he stands and looks on the other side, as if she is not hissing at him. If he passes near her, she jumps on him, scratches him and bites him and poor Petro continue walking as if she didn’t do anything to him. I haven’t seen any cat in my whole life careless as much as him. He is just so happy to walk around the house, to discover things and to play with Cookie.

The look on his face says “I am so happy in the house” but the problem is with my annoying Princess who is scratching him all the time.. I am afraid I have to keep searching for a good home for him if Princess keeps acting aggressive with him because he really, deserves a better than this.

Do you think she might change her attitude with him? I am locking him in his toilet when I am outside the house, but he is really happy when he comes out.

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EW EXPERT
Latest post on 25 October 2011 - 20:09
This is normal JS - you're wearing yourself out unnecessarily and running after Princess and screaming won't improve her opinion of Petro - they have to work it out themselves. If you like, get a squirt bottle with water and spray her but it won't really change her behaviour quickly - except she will hesitate (and possibly run away) when she sees the squirt bottle in your hand. Give it time. My most recent acquisition is now terrorizing my oldest cat (who didn't really pay much attention when newbie arrived) and playing with the cat who behaved like your Princess. He is not defending himself because he knows he might be hurt - like dogs who roll over for dominant dogs - showing that they are not a threat to the aggressor - try to let things unfold naturally, which is very difficult I know. Good luck.
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EW GURU
Latest post on 25 October 2011 - 12:46
Oh it is not about the energy only.. she makes me angry with her attitude.. Everytime she is hissing at him and scratching him, I run after her and scream.. I dont know if what I am doing is wrong but I get so scared when she gets very close to him, sometimes I feel she will bite him and injur the poor thing :( I just wish she was more friendly... I had another cat before (who was bigger than her) and once he sneaked from the door, he run towards her and she freaked out and starts running and went to hide behind the curtain.. she was shivering and totally scared.. Sh The thing is if the other cat's personality is stronger than her, she wouldnt do all that but because the poor thing is not doing any action and is not defenfing himself, she is pretending that she is strong and doing all the hissing and scratching!!
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EW EXPERT
Latest post on 24 October 2011 - 08:12
Why are you losing energy? Just leave them to work it out by themselves (but only when you are home) there is no need to hover, just keep an eye that it doesn't get too violent. If he doesn't seem to care, then he's probably not being hurt very much - just warned. A few days won't cut it I'm afraid - it will take weeks if Princess is ticked off not being the diva in your home. As he gets bigger he'll be better able to avoid her/protect himself - try to keep calm, it's hard to watch the little one's getting batted around but it's part of learning to get along with other cats. Good luck
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EW GURU
Latest post on 23 October 2011 - 23:36
marycatherine, I am trying every evening when I am around but then I lock again when we go to sleep and when I am at work.. it has been only few days so I am hoping she will change her attitude, though.. I dont feel she will ever change.. but I will keep trying until I loose the energy!! She makes me really angry.. He is not annoying her and all he wants is to play around.. if he approaches her by mistake (like passing near her and not even looking her side) she will jump on him and scratch him.. and she is hissing a lot!!! spongemonkey, that's a good idea :) but I always say that Princess is so lucky to find me.. not that I am special :cool: but only a real real real cat lover can live with this cat.. she is with me for 2 years now and until now, she bites me and scratches my hand without a real reason, if I try to touch her sometimes she will suddenly bite my hand.. she is not that friendly really.. at least she allows me to touch her sometimes, my fiance is not allowed to come little close to her or any of the maids who come to clean my house.. believe me, even if I put her for adoption, I doubt that anyone will keep her.. so no.. despite everything and her very wierd personality, I am keeping her..
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EW MASTER
Latest post on 23 October 2011 - 22:06
Maybe it is Princess who needs to find a new home! :-P
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EW EXPERT
Latest post on 23 October 2011 - 18:08
This is very normal - I would leave them out together when you're home but if you're really concerned about him when you're not around you could shut him in for a few weeks more. They have to get used to each other, my older cat does not like the new guy, the second oldest cat used to stalk the new guy. Now second oldest cat is new guy's best buddy. They will sleep on the same bed but on opposite sides, they will play fight and chase each other around. It does get better, it just takes a long time (and that's not days, it's weeks and months but the stalking and hissing will reduce over time)
 
 

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