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Should I teach my child before schooling

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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 18 November 2011 - 10:17

Should a mother be teaching her child before starting her school? Or Would you just wait for what she learns in school?

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EW EXPERT
Latest post on 19 November 2011 - 01:09
I would emphasize the reading with your child over flash cards, memorization of days of week, colours, etc. My step mum is brilliant but she believed in Rousseau's philosophy of un-schooling, ie no formal education before the child enters a classroom. She would only sit with my sisters to play physical games or to help them in role play with dolls or do crafts. I had to witness my extrovert youngest sister having a terrible melt-down the evening of her first day of kindergarten. Why? Because the teacher had placed 4 books (identical) on each student's desk and every single one of her classmates bar herself, opened up the books and flipped through the pages. My sister demanded to know what was happening and the girl next to her said, "I am reading." Cue to my sister standing on top of the coffee table during dinner time and crying out, "I can't go to school tomorrow. Everyone but me knows how to READ!" My step mum looked at her, bewildered for a moment, then said, "Darling, we will go to the library tomorrow after school and we will learn to read together!" <em>edited by Apricot on 19/11/2011</em>
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EW OLDHAND
Latest post on 18 November 2011 - 21:15
I think that it is important that children are prepared for school in practical ways. Many of my friends are teachers and some are infant teachers (old fashioned term I know!) Those who have been teaching many years have noticed a drastic drop in childrens' abilities to do things for themselves such as dressing or undressing for PE etc, going to the toilet and cleaning themselves/washing hands etc and dealing with packed meals. I can't comment on reading, writing as times have changed but I would imagine that it is best to leave actual teaching to the teachers. My DD could write her name and could count up to about 20 (I think, memory has deserted me after all these years!) and I can remember her coming home after day 1 and telling me loftily that she needn't go back as she hadn't learnt anything new!!
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EW EXPERT
Latest post on 18 November 2011 - 20:43
Everything you do or say to your child is teaching her, so yes, you should be "teaching" everyday. You don't need to teach her to read or write, ABC's etc, wait until she starts those at school and be there to help her learn them, if she knows all that already she will find it boring when the teacher introduces it. There is are several quotes I have taped to my fridge door, as a reminder that we are THE first source of learning for our kids, and that it is a constant responsibility, my favourite one is this... [i'>"What can we do with thirty seconds? What can we not do with thirty seconds!... [Suppose'> your little child looks out the window and sees a collie. 'What's that?' he asks you. You have five options, which will each take about thirty seconds to make stick: 1. We can tell him, "Look, baby, Mommy has to get dinner." 2. We can tell him, "That's a bow-wow." 3. We can tell him, "That's a dog." 4. We can tell him, "That's a dog called a collie." The fifth option is to tell him that it is a dog called a collie and then go on to tell him thirty second's worth of information about that animal... How sad it is that we put information into a computer with great skill and great precision and put information into our children's brains in a hit-or-miss, slip-shod, and often untruthful way." -Glenn Doman [/i'>
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 18 November 2011 - 20:21
Should a mother be teaching her child before starting her school? Or Would you just wait for what she learns in school? It's proven that children that have parental support do far better at school than those who don't. I would never leave the education of my children to a school alone. Education is more than books, it's about everyday life. The key skills a young child will need have to be developed at home. A passion for books and reading has to come from home as can basic maths skills.
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EW EXPERT
Latest post on 18 November 2011 - 17:29
I agree with Appletiser that reading to and with your child is a BIG step up (as well as a bonding experience). I still remember my Dad doing the "tiddley pums" in Winnie the Pooh (not Disney the REAL WTP) stories - he would sit with us for hours acting out the stories and doing different voices. I believe that this (and other things we did with our parents) motivated us to seek out and find entertainment in books and other non-technological activities (but I'll admit, I grew up with 2 TV stations and neither of them came on air until about 1100hrs until I was a teenager)
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EW EXPLORER
Latest post on 18 November 2011 - 13:09
Pre-k and K, are 2 years where the children learn to behave and interact with each other (games with other children, play time, etc..), motor skill (driving a small bicycle) and fine motor skills (coloring and learn to color within the lines, start to write letters from models (lines already done and child pass a pencil over the line), some drawing and cutting. They will learn - all speaking - the day of the week and the months, the season, the colors, the numbers, and a lot about animals, and other vocabulary, etc... which will be an opportunity for a lot of art and craft and more motor skills. Perhaps they might do some "science" too - very simple experiments generally driven by the teacher which they will be able to observe. This is basically what children learn the 2 first years of school, so no, you don't need to teach your child before schooling him/her. If you are observing your child, most chances are that he/she will ask for some learning by himself/herself. Then, yes, teach her, as a game/play/fun time. No need to sit formally at the table, etc... Just be there and feed your child curiosity, he/she will just go fine :) NB : Although I am very close to teachers and I am teaching myself to my children, I am not a teacher, therefore, the list above might be incomplete.
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EW MASTER
Latest post on 18 November 2011 - 10:24
If your child displays the willingness then why not but I dont really think it gives you an advantage as they get teach the stuff at school again regardless if they know it or not. What I would encourage though is reading books to your child to learn to love books and appreciate them. My mom did that with me when we were young and it helps a lot when your a fast reader as you dont have to study days ahead for an exam. I would just start the day before the test as Im a fast reader,most of my friends would start a few days or a week in advance as their reading skills were slower than mine.
 
 

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