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toddler and sleep deprivation....suggestions?

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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 08 January 2013 - 15:59

Hello all,
I would really appreciate any suggestions anyone might have on how to improve my 20-month old DD's sleep. She has never really 'slept through' (waking about twice to feed during the night) but until about 3 months ago we would do the bedtime routine, I would put her in her cot with a book and little (very dim) nightlight and she would happily drift off to sleep. About 3 months ago she had some problems with teething (I think) and wanted me to be with her a bit more as she lay in her cot, patting her back, shushing etc. I didn't mind as she was obviously uncomfortable etc, and I had done the same in the past when she was sick with no long term repercussions. However since then she point blank refuses to let me leave her side until she is asleep and I have to do the classic creep out as quietly as I can. The best night (one time only!) I was out in 30 minutes. The average is at least 1 - 1 1/2 hours (partly I think because she checks that I'm still there rather than just relaxing). She does nap during the day around 12 for 1 1/2 - 2 hours. She goes to bed at 7.00 pm. Always wakes about 5 for a feed but generally goes back to sleep until about 6.30.
We are all feeling the effects of some sleep deprivation as every night feels interminable getting her to sleep, and dealing with her night wakings and early morning waking as well. Her 3 yr old brother never had such an issue, and I feel like I've read every book on baby/toddler sleep. I feel like I've tried the approach of slowly moving further and further away until you're out of the door but she insists that I'm right next to her. Any thoughts? I haven't yet tried a CIO type of approach as she seems to cry from anxiety rather than anger that I'm not there when I have had to leave the room, but haven't ruled it out as a last resort.
So any thoughts/suggestions most welcome! Thank you.

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EW MASTER
Latest post on 08 January 2013 - 16:41
Good luck kpea, I really hope it works for you. I first decided to try it when we were going on holiday and my children were going to have to share a room. Couldn't believe what a difference it made! Plus the vacated bedroom got turned in to a playroom which the children loved. My oldest will be seven this month and she only decided to move in to her own room a few months ago.
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 08 January 2013 - 16:22
Thanks a lot Daza. Definitely had not considered that as an option but might be a great idea. Would also help when traveling and sharing hotel rooms etc as they'd already be used to it... I guess I am/was concerned that her night waking for her comfort feed might wake him, but then if she's crying loud enough he wakes up anyway as his room is right next to hers. Thanks again.
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EW MASTER
Latest post on 08 January 2013 - 16:16
Hi kpea Have you considered moving your children in to a bedroom together? Mine slept much better once I moved them in together. My second child moved in with his big sister when he was 18 months or so, he was sleeping well by then but his big sister who was 3 1/2 at the time was having a lot of nightmares which stopped as soon as he moved in with her. My third child particularly hated being left on his own at night, I moved him in with his brother and sister when he was about 16 months and we went from broken hearted sobbing at bedtime to him happily lying down in his cot and going to sleep after a bit of a chat to his brother and sister. I think they just find it comforting to have someone else in the room. They are also really good at sleeping through any disturbance, if one wakes up crying for any reason the others normally happily sleep through the drama. At around 20 months I think all of mine had a wake up time of about 5 - 5.30am, it was just a phase and they now sleep later. I dealt with at time with going to bed earlier myself and living for my morning coffee!
 
 

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